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Healing Emotional Abuse From The Past

by Lisa A. Romano

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As we learn to more deeply to connect to the infinite, intelligence within us can help us heal from years of emotional abuse. If you grew up feeling disconnected from love, it becomes difficult for you to connect to the love that you are. Connect to the I AM Presence within you and heal your life!

HealingEmotional AbusePastInner ChildCodependencySelf WorthSelf TranscendenceConsciousnessForgivenessThoughtsBeliefsSelf IntegrationLoveI Am PresenceInner Child HealingCodependency RecoveryDivine ConnectionConsciousness ExpansionThought ObservationBelief TransformationDivinity

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Today we're going to be talking about the I am connection that is within us all that we many of us have been unfortunately turned away from and in denial of and That is because in my opinion that early on when you are separated from love When you are unable to secure the maternal bonds to your mother and father and to your family When these divine connections Go haywire when these beautiful bonds these magical bonds that Allow you to energetically and vibrationally Feel connected to other people in a healthy way When they are fractured Then your connection to your own I am presence becomes fractured in Order to feel truly connected to the self You have to have a connection outside of you first a Young child does not understand that they have a self and Or that the self is valid that the self is worthy That the self is relevant When children's emotions and it's important that we understand that all children's all children identify the self with what they feel When a parent treats a child's emotions with disdain or disregard and it's important that we recognize that children internalize this rejection and We feel that we are the ones being rejected and therefore we are invalid so the self that we think we are is invalid and This plagues us for lifetimes You can speak to someone who is in their 80s and they can talk about early childhood trauma and they can be triggered back in time and Begin to cry about being born to an alcoholic mother or an alcoholic father or a Narcissistic father or a mother who abandoned them to party,

You know Fathers who were more interested in chasing women than they were with what was going on at home It's incredible to me that this Abandonment trauma is so deep and it cuts through deep and it cuts to the heart of us and on Every level it is clear to me in terms of you know When I look at it from the psychological angle and I look at her from from the spiritual angle and I look at it from the neurological and bio Biological angle we were meant to bond With those who created us who brought us into this world and when those bonds are fractured then it is all but impossible to feel connected to the self and So when we speak of this I am Which is our connection to source You know,

It's we have to understand that yes,

We can go an entire lifetime You know with our backs turned to this amazing door within us You know and we can be ignorant and in denial of this amazing doorway Within us that allows us to merge with this great I am that I am Which is essentially love which is essentially holiness Which is essentially the conscious acceptance of our individual divinity We can spend an entire life being codependent Looking outside of ourselves for this sense of oneness and wholeness Literally go an entire lifetime with our backs to this amazing doorway that leads to all of our peace all of our healing and the peace of mind the contentment that we seek and That is why I am so passionate about Teaching others about the devastation that is codependency.

It's no joke It affects every area of your life When you are codependent your back is turned to your own divinity It is like beyond this door is Where all of your peace and contentment lies all of the sense of belonging that you you have sought your whole life There it is.

You begin to merge more deeply with your true self with your higher self in this space of pure in this space of pure divinity and acknowledgement and Wisdom you have the ability to integrate the lower aspects of yourself.

And yes as humans We have to transcend the ego.

We have to transcend this serpent-like reality Where we have been viewing our life with this limited perception of ourselves So many of us have been highly reactive We have been stuck,

You know running our lives with faulty ideas that people should behave a certain way They should act a certain way You know if we're Republicans we get annoyed when we have conversations with people who are you know more liberal or democratic?

If we're democratic if we get upset when people talk to us about their Republican agenda Right.

So we have this idea that people should be a certain way If we are in a tough family situation and we have a narcissistic mother-in-law We are stuck because we are in resistance to how our mother-in-law shows up in our life If our sister talks about us behind our back Then we are stuck in some cases because we don't think our sister should be doing what our sister should be doing and this is all operating through the ego Which is can be seen as a lower aspect of the self That we have come to transcend We cannot be happy if we live life through the eyes of ego Because ego is all about defense mechanisms.

It's all about protection and Survival and when you are in a state of survival,

You really aren't thriving to your fullest potential Coming out of that resistance will set you free Accepting things that you can't control Understanding forgiving and loving other people right where they are letting things go now that doesn't mean that if you Are having a conversation with your narcissistic mother-in-law?

She's berating you that you stand there and you take it It means that you look at her you acknowledge where she is at you acknowledge that she's unconscious and you lovingly say I have to go you don't parade her You don't send horrible energies out there because in life what we what we perpetuate we experience And so it's important that we recognize that no vibrational ripple that we emit goes unnoticed So what we're striving for is the ability to exist in a world that can be Adversarial that can be abrasive and yet still flow love and still flow good intentions towards other people and accepting people where they're at and learning to set boundaries and learning to not react out of ego learning to understand that other people have issues other people have problems just like the rest of us and That our agenda is to be more conscious and to connect more deeply with the I am that I am You know the I am that I am knows that People are unconscious the I am that I am is forgiving The I am that I am understands patterns The I am that I am understands unconsciousness The I am that I am understands childhood trauma The I am that I am understands that all people are asleep until they awaken The I am that I am understands that people will do what they were programmed to do Until they are awakened their consciousness is expanded and they begin to understand that they can change the course of their life If they can work at staying more conscious,

Which is the crux of my work.

I Believe that regardless of where you have come from No matter what has happened to you in your lifetime If you can awaken from the patterns If you can understand codependent thought processes,

They're not you it's not you.

It's just your programming if You can stay conscious highly conscious if you can learn to observe your thoughts Most people react to their thoughts most people don't have any distance between Them their true self and their thoughts Most people have a thought they attach themselves to their thoughts Most people have a thought they attach to the thought even if it's an intrusive ugly thought a thought They don't want to think they attach to it.

They obsess about it It grabs hold of them and they don't realize that it's just a thought that you can change a thought That you can observe a thought and you can change a thought Most people don't question the beliefs that are rolling around in their head.

They have these beliefs and these beliefs beliefs act like train tracks and The person's consciousness or limited consciousness is like a caboose on this train track and it wakes up Monday And it does whatever it did on Sunday and it wakes up on Tuesday and the same belief is there and it just keeps going the belief the belief can be completely destructive like I Will never attract love into my life or I am not good enough or I'm just too old or I'm not intelligent enough or There's something wrong with me,

Or I'm too flawed I'll never be able to attract the love that I desire or the career that I want okay That's a belief and a belief is just a thought that you've thought over and over and over and over and now you have neural pathways associated to that belief and Outside your conscious awareness you won't even know that that's a belief that you can change and so you'll continue Operating with this belief this belief will cause you to become codependent You will not feel good enough You will seek to please people because you don't think that you're good enough You will rescue people because you don't believe that you're good enough to have a healthy relationship You won't take care of yourself because you won't believe that you're worthy of being of taking care of yourself You'll take care of others instead of yourself You'll run from these feelings of unworthiness and They will haunt you the rest of your life,

And you won't even realize that you can stop You can look at this belief You can figure out why this belief is rolling around your head you can dissect it and you can change it This is you coming in contact with the I am that I am The potential that you have as a human being is The potential that you have as a human being to say wait a minute.

I am more than my thoughts The power to be able to do that has been within you all along The fact that you are conscious is incredible Your potential is found in your expansion of your consciousness The I am that I am is your divinity It is your ability to connect it is your ability to integrate the past To change how you think and you feel to understand unconsciousness to forgive yourself and to forgive others and To look at your life from the position from the position of what can I create?

With a new mindset What can happen for me as I address these false beliefs and create new beliefs?

The I am that I am is yours for the asking it's yours for the taking it has always been within you fractured relationships fractured bonds have caused you to look outside of yourself and Has kept you blind?

To the potential that Resides within you and always had You know I go back to the Wizard of Oz When the good witch says to Dorothy the power has been within with you all along and it's the same for all of us and I am driven and I am passionate about helping people awaken to this idea that it's not them it's their programming and It wasn't fair that early on that you were disconnected from love and it wasn't fair that for your entire lifetime You may have engaged in addictions to avoid this feeling of unworthiness And it wasn't fair in my opinion that we're unconscious and we repeat these patterns,

And we don't know what we're running from We're so afraid we don't understand that the brain is designed to run away from the pain.

We don't get it Who's teaching us this stuff right and so we medicate ourselves So we self-medicate we drink we become love addicts and sex addicts.

You know we become workaholics We seek to take care of people you know where we become argumentative we engage in you know ideas that keep us stuck and occupied and you know and sometimes we become crusaders of You know causes and we can get ourselves all worked up and all of these things are just distractions for those of us who have felt abandoned early on and It's not our fault that early childhood abandonment has prevented us from knowing that we are enough and operating from that place within us and Connecting to this amazing divinity and knowing that we have always been enough and that we are extensions of creator That we have come to awaken and to evolve and to co-create with the universe consciously We have a right to carve out a new paradigm That is your right and the power has been within you to do so all along I Hope that this short podcast inspires you to look within to heal the past to confront codependent thought processes To forgive yourself for what you did not know and to work diligently every single day at becoming the best version of yourself and reconnecting with the idea of With the I am that I am that has been with you all along It is time to awaken and it is time to return home Namaste day ones until next time

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Lisa A. RomanoNew York

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Tomas

September 28, 2025

I really enjoyed this guided session. It gave me a very positive view and approach to my thoughts about the matter. Thank you ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป

imani

June 24, 2024

Thank you๐Ÿงธ

Robin

January 1, 2023

This was an affirmation for my journey. Being aware of codependency is healing and life changing. Thank you so much ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ

Robert

May 1, 2022

Its like hearing about myself. For some reason, when you reminded us that we are not our thoughts, the truth of that really sunk in for me. Our awareness makes the thoughts, its so simple I am wondering why itโ€™s taken so long for that truth to finally sink in. Thank you ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ

Nicolas

April 22, 2022

This was an insightful and truly needful talk. I am so glad I finally have access to this kind of information after so many years. Thank you.

Neka

December 24, 2021

So many powerful gems dropped here. Thank you

Blake

September 17, 2021

Wow

Stefeni

January 23, 2021

Love her dedication to help others heal ๐Ÿฅฐ

Alison

November 8, 2020

Amazing podcast. Really appreciate the way you articulated this specifically. Makes so much sense ๐Ÿ‘ x

Karen

October 18, 2020

I knew about a lot of the content in this podcast before, but here it is all brought together so eloquently and powerfully that it is very inspiring. Thank you x

Ingrid

August 26, 2020

Amazing and much-needed perspective shift. Thank you for sharing your passion for helping others awaken. ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผโœจ

Wendy

February 26, 2020

The I am that I am is struggling to wake up! Thank you for your powerful podcast ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ Namastรฉ ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ

George

February 26, 2020

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Brian

January 10, 2020

That was powerful. Thank you

Gemma

December 26, 2019

Thank you for the reminder, that we are not our thoughts. When we are stuck in the middle of an emotional stirring, it can he hard to remember this. Thank you.

Shaghayegh

December 26, 2019

Thank you Dear Lisa , i came from a disfunctional family with lots of trauma , i was searching for love and connection outside of myself to fill this emptiness i have lots of codependent relationships , that cause more trauma, 2 years ago i waked up, i did lots of meditations ,read lots of book , some days i just listen to your videos and others ,on youtube all day long , some days i meditate for hours . my soul have chosen this family to grow to learn forgiveness to expand to be awake in this lifetime but i have lots of work to do , and i am passanate to overcome my ego , i love my life and my journey, i want to create a healthy relationship, true love this time i am connected to myself , thank you๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ but sometimes i felt sad , this belief that i am old , i can not, every time i feel in this way i imagine your love and that encourage me , thank you ๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒนsome times in my imagination i feel your love life. That help me alot . Dear Lisa i live in Iran and because of the situation that was not so easy but i an grater that anything.

Joyce

December 26, 2019

This is Amazing Lisa... Thank you for your wisdom๐Ÿ’œ

Jen

December 26, 2019

Thank you for another wise and compassionate discussion. You help me remember to be gentle, patient and forgiving with myself on my journey toward healing.

Chris

December 25, 2019

Wow, so far every one of your contributions have enlightened me in some manner. Thank you.

Arend

December 25, 2019

Hard to recommend meditations because they may not speak to you but this hit the nail on the head.

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