Ego Self Vs Spiritual Self

In the search for peace of mind, many can become trapped within the workings of the 'mechanical mind,' designed to operate in response to sensory faculties. Primal default settings can cause our emotions to trigger fear-based thoughts that keep us trapped below the veil of consciousness. Without an expansion of consciousness, our thoughts can become lost in the land of black-and-white thinking. Learning to differentiate the ego self from the eternal and whole spirit self allows for the unfolding of consciousness into a greater understanding of divine awareness. Rather than seek to extinguish our ego self, the light of awareness welcomes this aspect of the lower self, enveloping it through divine illumination, much like turning on a light in a dark room. Darkness is not run out. It is accepted by the light.

Lisa A. Romano is a highly sought Life Coach and Mentor for those seeking to evolve beyond the pain of the past who are ready to master their inner universe.

Transcript

So today we're going to be discussing the difference between the ego self and the spiritual self and why it is important to make that differentiation as we attempt to evolve our soul and expand our understanding of the entire self of that which we are.

When it comes to the ego self,

We're talking about an aspect of the entire self that has been born to a 3D world that is subject to the 3D mechanisms of the 3D world.

What I mean by that is that when a soul incarnates into a physical reality and a physical body,

When a soul has been thrust to planet Earth,

The soul itself is confined,

If you will,

In a physical body.

This physical body comes with presets.

For instance,

It comes with a brain,

A limbic brain,

A prefrontal lobe,

A prefrontal cortex,

And that brain is built with default settings.

The soul will stay trapped inside or asleep.

The soul is a part of this entity or this being.

However,

There must be an awakening process that allows the soul to integrate with the thinking mind,

Which until the awakening process happens,

The 3D mind or the mind that is subject to the mechanics of a brain and even the personality will have to be awakened.

The mind will have to be awakened to itself.

When a soul incarnates on planet Earth,

We have to remember that until this awakening process happens,

There is an autopilot type of experience where we remain in a dream state,

We remain the sleeper.

And in essence,

We are all sleepwalking until we have this awakening of mind.

And so a soul incarnates into this body.

It is thrust into a physical world that is dense,

That is governed by natural laws such as gravity or the law of thermodynamics.

We can't escape them.

The physical body is born into a physical system,

Members of a family that operate within certain laws.

Some of those laws are good and some of those laws are self-sabotaging.

Many of us are born to families that are still in a dream state.

Many of us are born to people with addictions or with mental health issues that go undiagnosed.

And some of us are born to well-meaning people who have not yet awakened and who like every single one of us makes mistakes.

The mistakes are made and meant to be overcome.

And the mistakes we all make are primarily when we are in the state of ego consciousness.

When we haven't yet quite awakened or merged with the spiritual self,

We are still operating,

Albeit unconsciously,

Within the parameters of the ego self,

With the parameters that govern the ego self.

And it's important to remember that that's not our fault as human beings.

We come here,

We incarnate,

We have all of this amazing potential to be our God self,

To merge with our God self,

Yet we remain asleep.

And depending on what circumstances we were born to,

Who our parents were,

Our socioeconomic conditions also matter.

Many things matter when it comes to when and if one awakens.

The key is to remember all have the potential to awaken.

And that is what we strive for,

Those of us who have a philosophical mind by nature,

Those of us who are curious,

Those of us who are interested in meditation and higher consciousness and the evolution of a soul,

And those of us who consider ourselves lightworkers and healers and wayshowers and alike.

We just have this natural desire to understand the self,

Which is very complex because we don't have one self that we have to navigate through.

We have aspects of self that we have to awaken to,

And that is the goal.

So when we consider the ego self,

We're talking about that aspect of us.

Think about a state of consciousness.

When I think about this ego self or this ego consciousness,

I'm immediately drawn back to the moment in my life when I began to awaken and I was in my therapist's office.

It was probably my fourth or fifth,

Possibly sixth therapist,

And my life was imploding.

Like many people on the spiritual path,

There came a point in my life where nothing worked.

None of what I was doing was working anymore.

My codependency didn't work anymore.

My people-pleasing didn't work anymore.

Guilting people,

Trying to get people to pay attention to my needs.

I didn't even know what my needs were.

I just took care of other people,

Thinking,

Well,

They'll naturally take care of me.

I'll make people matter,

And in return,

People will make me matter.

I now understand that's what's called a cognitive distortion and a control fallacy,

And I was locked within this unconscious perception of myself.

I was operating through laws that were governed by an ego defense mechanism I wasn't even aware I had.

These laws were instilled in me by my parents,

Who were very unaware,

They were unaware,

And represented this model of relating to me.

I was just part of this system.

I was operating as a result of what I had learned,

But I was still unaware.

In essence,

It wasn't my fault,

Because there was no choice involved.

Was there free will if below the veil of consciousness,

I was operating out of some default setting,

A setting that I did not create?

And this isn't a pity party,

Because I now see the glory and the divinity of being able to awaken and being able to master my mind and to correct my mind and organize my mind in such a way that I experience alignment with unity consciousness,

With love consciousness.

And now that I see the separation between my ego self and my spiritual self,

Now I have a choice.

It was not until I could see that I was operating from a false set of beliefs,

I was in a paradigm.

In essence,

I was in the matrix.

In essence,

I was lost in the cornfield,

Literally running around in a cornfield built for self-destruction that was so far away from my spiritual self.

The spiritual self is the aspect of us that is aware of a higher self,

That is aware that there's a hierarchy of mind.

The spiritual self recognizes that the goal is to align ourselves with this hierarchy,

Which will always ebb us in the direction of ease,

Of letting go,

Of acceptance,

Of surrender,

And of love.

I have learned that it is the path of non-resistance.

I have learned that there will always be,

Perhaps,

A lion inside of me that I must wrestle,

That I must acknowledge.

And there will always be an aspect of me,

The ego aspect of me,

That must be acknowledged from a higher state of consciousness.

And it is not from this,

An aspect of mind that curses the ego,

Because the ego is necessary.

The ego helps us identify us from others.

The ego,

The healthy ego,

Once we understand what an unhealthy ego is,

An unhealthy ego lives in fear.

An unhealthy ego wishes to dominate.

An unhealthy ego wishes to guilt other people.

An unhealthy ego makes other people responsible for what is happening to us internally.

A healthy ego is one that has been transformed in consciousness and recognizes that the I is still valuable,

That in order to operate efficiently in a 3D world with an ego construct,

We must understand who we are in relation to other people.

We must be willing to have a healthy I,

To be able to say no,

To be able to set boundaries.

However,

In this state of mind,

We are traveling and we have been able to succeed and create this new state of being or this new state of mind through simple nuances,

Through shifts in consciousness,

Through inner mind and inner contemplation when we recognize unhealthy behavior and we strive for healthy behavior.

When I notice that I am jealous and I'm envious of a friend who has achieved something I have yet to achieve,

It is in quiet contemplation that I draw my awareness back into the self and I use the power of consciousness and the power of awareness to bring that envy to the surface where awareness has the ability to dissipate it.

Just by bringing my awareness to this uncomfortable feeling that I have,

Rather than reacting to the feeling,

Rather than cursing my friend,

Rather than blaming my friend,

Rather than saying to my friend,

You are the reason I am so uncomfortable,

Which is not true.

The reason I am uncomfortable is because I have yet to ebb more efficiently in the direction of love,

Which is non-resistance,

And peace.

There is still an aspect of the ego that is wrestling with,

Noticing in the external experience something that I have yet to achieve.

That is the unhealthy ego.

That is the unhealthy ego who is feeling less than or who is protecting the inner world from feeling less than,

And the envy becomes a shield and it keeps many of us arrested.

It keeps many of us stagnant.

It prevents us from experiencing amazing relationships that are based on mutuality and respect and fairness and unconditional love.

So when I notice that I'm experiencing this for a friend and I go into this quiet contemplation and I draw my awareness to these uncomfortable feelings,

Rather than resist them or deny them or blame someone else for them and go into some ego defense mechanism,

Rationalizing this feeling,

I simply bring it into my awareness and I allow the awareness,

The light of awareness,

To dissipate this uncomfortable feeling.

And then what happens is there's a shift in consciousness and I ask myself,

How can I become more aware and more accountable for this feeling?

How can I ebb more efficiently in the direction of love?

How can I have a more spiritual experience with these emotions?

And what you will notice is just by asking the question,

Your mind begins to reorganize itself,

Forgiving the subconscious mind,

A new parameter,

A new goal,

A new bullseye.

Suddenly the bullseye is no longer to make other people responsible.

Suddenly the bullseye is,

How can I become more masterful with this emotion?

What will come up for you is this idea that it's truth.

There's nothing wrong with being an ego or a human with an ego that is struggling with noticing that a friend has what you have not yet to achieve or receive.

There's nothing wrong with that.

There's nothing bad about that experience.

There is,

However,

A better way.

There is the potential for ascending and transcending that state of being.

All of us are just operating from one particular state of mind or state of being or one state of consciousness.

The true ascension process is an evolution of consciousness.

It is an ascending of consciousness from the lower to the higher.

And energies of envy and blame are lower.

And energies of nonresistance and acceptance and surrender and unconditional love for ourselves is higher.

So that's what we're striving for.

And so we have an ego self that is having this human experience and that's okay.

And when we bring this awareness to the forefront of our minds and we shine light on it,

We're shifting into the spiritual side of self.

We're becoming more of the spiritual self.

And that is the whole purpose.

When we look at these egoic emotions,

These defense mechanisms,

Through the third eye,

Through the one eye,

And we simply ask,

How can I be more spiritual with this emotion or with this experience?

You'll hear something like,

It is not my friend's fault that I have this inner struggle.

This inner struggle is my own.

And I am not wrong and I am not bad,

Or I am not less than because there is this struggle going on within me.

I would like to transcend this struggle and I would like to be fair and honest and truthful about the state of consciousness that I have just become aware of.

Yes,

I feel this pull within me.

I feel this struggle.

And I don't blame my friend for this struggle.

I wish my friend all the luck in the world with whatever it is that she is achieving.

I am so grateful that my friend is achieving.

And in saying this,

In speaking the truth,

In holding ourselves accountable for the struggle that we have,

We are literally transforming our consciousness.

We are rising up and out of the subconscious mind.

We are rising up and out from below the veil of consciousness.

We are,

Through organizing our mind,

Through tapping into free will,

We are rising.

We are ascending our consciousness.

So we don't push away the fact that we are struggling.

We accept it.

We love it.

We embrace it.

We tell ourselves that it's okay.

Is that not what divine love is?

That is the whole point.

Our truth sets us free.

Many times we have a truth and we run from it.

We suppress it.

We repress it.

And all that does is make our bodies physically ill because our bodies do keep a score.

And psychologically,

If we keep telling ourselves that we can't look at that,

We can't feel that,

Then our subconscious mind honors that.

The recticular activating system,

Which is the gatekeeper of consciousness,

Will not allow you to process whatever it is that you suppress.

But when you begin to understand the ego self versus the spiritual self,

And you understand that we are one in the same,

So we are like these Russian dolls that nestle in one another.

There are many facets of us.

There's not just one us in the physical world.

There are many selves within our one self.

And ultimately,

We are all part of the God self.

It does help when we sit in quiet contemplation and we separate our consciousness just a bit.

We use separation as a tool for us to find the space to contemplate the ego self.

This gives us perspective.

This allows us to see,

Wait,

I'm not that.

Imagine being a potter who believes they are one with the clay in consciousness.

And imagine the ability to create whatever the potter wanted to create in the moment the potter realized he was not the clay.

He was the potter of the clay.

But yet,

The clay becomes the potter's creation.

This is the magic.

And this is the potential we all have.

When we separate ourselves in consciousness from the ego self and we say to ourselves,

Wait a minute,

That is not me.

I am not my programming.

I am not what I learned.

I am not my behaviors.

I am not my thoughts.

I am so much more.

It is in the separation of consciousness that you are tapping into the divine potential to understand your spiritual self.

So now,

Your consciousness recognizes it has a choice.

And it is through the love of compassion for the self who once lived below the veil of consciousness,

Unaware of the spiritual self,

Governed by what someone call a mechanical mind,

Unaware they were unaware.

Awakening is a gift.

However,

It is often very painful.

And awakening also usually occurs through chaos.

But that's OK,

Because what it really is is an opportunity to reorganize your mind and thus your life.

So the spiritual self is that aspect of our consciousness that allows us to choose love,

That allows us to choose compassion and acceptance and surrender.

It is my hope that as we evolve as human beings,

We better understand what makes us us.

And we learn to use our mind in such a way that organization takes place and the chaos in our life begins to make sense.

And in understanding the self,

We have compassion for ourselves,

The part of ourselves,

The aspect of mind that was operating from below the veil of consciousness,

Running from fear,

Reacting to fear,

Feeling not good enough.

Because that aspect of ourselves was subject to laws outside of our control.

But when we awaken and we step onto the spiritual path and we never give up and we set our eyes on the goal of love,

Each and every day we discover that we experience shifts,

Tiny nuances,

Or what seems like tiny nuances in our thinking.

They begin to take place.

It is this transformation of consciousness that will allow you to ascend higher and higher while in physical form.

Namaste,

Dear ones.

Until next time,

Bye for now.

Reviews

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Thank you for a transformative 20-minute lesson on ego self vs. spiritual self—your clarity and reassurance helped me finally hear and embrace what I’d always felt, and I’m grateful for your thoughtful teaching.

I deeply connect every time I listen to one of her talks. I think she’s incredible. I’ve never heard someone talk about these subjects in a way that felt so personal…as if she knew my whole story and was talking directly to me. I wish I had her in my life in a supportive/theraputic context.

Right on the money! Thank you!

AMAZING..this is what i’ve bee experiencing for the last 10 years.. I’m learning,loving listening💜🧘‍♀️🦋🎉

Another excellent talk, so many dynamics that I never realized.

A great spiritual reality check with a hopeful way forward for both the healthy ego and spiritual self

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Thanks so much for such clarification. I will listen again and again to this talk. Namaste 💚

You bring so much clarity to this journey thank you!

Thank you

Absolutely love your talks Lisa! Interesting your work crossed my path in this time when going through healing from CPTSD.
Thank you and I’ll see you in the gap! 💫

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fantastic talk with great information- thank you 🙏