I Am Only Okay If You Are Okay - Help For Codependency

If you are codependent, your mood depends upon the moods of others. You may feel like you need to manage others emotions. You may rely on others to help you feel grounded, safe, and like you have a purpose. Sadly, many codependents subconsciously believe they need to take care of others in order to feel good enough. Codependents are also great targets for predator-type personalities. Lisa A. Romano the Breakthrough Life Coach breaks it all down.

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Thank you, thank you! As an adult child of an alcoholic mother and a controlling (fearful) and codependant father I've always hated the feeling of people being controlled and never wanted to do that to anyone, yet I misunderstood that my anxiety and stress and constant feeling of adrenaline pumping through me was about needing to control other peoples feelings, thoughts, emotions, and situations because I felt I could then prevent their anger, upset, disappointment which would make my life more predictable, safe, calm, non chaotic.. unlike the split homes I experienced of my mum and dad. I didn't realise I did this, because I've always repelled the idea of control, but I wasn't looking to control anyone for my own ego, selfishness, or desires, it's because I've been conditioned to put others needs first and suck it up where my needs weren't acknowledged or met. I've tried to control people's reactions in order to meet their needs, which keeps my environment safer and less chaotic. You don't poke the bear, you feed them and you live to serve them to keep the balance and peace.. except it doesn't last for long, just in the moment. But the suffering and loss of not having your own needs met, can last a lifetime if we don't realise what's happening. This made me feel heard and empowered.

It makes a whole sense now. Thank you 🙏🏼

Great explanation. I'm going to explore this more and find out where to start moving in a healthier direction. Thank you🤗🙏

Excellent explanation of codepency.