There's this wonderful human that I've been following on social media.
Their name is Prentiss Hemp Hill.
They've shared this piece about boundaries that really resonates for me.
And what they've said is that a boundary is the distance at which I can love both you and myself at the same time.
Now for me,
This isn't defining any fixed boundary because the boundary is going to be different for each person,
In each new moment,
And each new situation.
And if you also consider that you have the capacity to expand your felt awareness beyond the limits of your physical body,
Meaning you can sense this space,
Atmosphere,
People around you,
And when you are exercising this capacity,
You are at the same time naturally expanding your energetic presence so that as you enter into any space,
Not only is your energetic presence expanded out beyond your physical body,
It's also allowing you to have a widened sense of where your own boundaries are.
So you're expanding out and you're also magnifying clarity in that expansiveness.
And so as you enter any space with other beings,
Or maybe just one other being,
You might feel and inquire as you do,
Okay,
I'm meeting this other being now,
Where's my boundary?
What to begin with them?
Am I willing to step a little closer?
Or do I need a little more space?
And space is both physical and emotional.
So you're not only feeling into how close is safe for your bodies to be,
But also how deeply might I be willing to open emotionally?
And where these boundaries are,
When you first begin,
May shift and you may find boundaries flowing to very different places as you continue to engage.
And your awareness can also be,
Where does this other being need me to be in terms of the boundary between us?
Is this being open to us having closer engagement?
Or does this being need me to allow a little more space for them?
You have energetic feelers expanding into the space around you.
If you use them,
You expand your presence and capacity to feel into what is wanted from you,
As well as what is not needed from you.
So rather than being limited to only what's wanted in this body,
Because this body is just what I'm feeling internally.
But this energetic expansiveness responds to what's wanted in this space.
What's wanted between me and my engagement with this other being or these other beings.
And so,
Engaged in this way,
Your boundary is not just a demarcator.
It is also an expander.
