To Err Is Human!

We all mess up. We are human! Self-forgiveness, though, can set us on a path of rebirth and renewal. My dear friend, Pierre Bensusan, has permitted me to use his track called ‘Sentimentales Pyromaniaques’ from the album 'Altiplanos'.

Transcript

Let's start our day out in a positive way with this brief yet impactful podcast designed to infuse a little bit of happiness into each moment of every day.

You know,

Sometimes in order to really appreciate a new beginning,

You have to kind of fall on the sword and take responsibility,

Own your negative traits and actions,

And then forgive yourself.

So I learned this like in a really big way this weekend.

Oh my gosh,

There's always a story to tell,

Right?

I'm sorry to say,

But there always is,

Right?

I screwed up,

Like big time screwed up this weekend.

I was supposed to tell someone where and when Grandma's memorial service was and I forgot.

Are you kidding me?

Oh,

Horrible,

Horrible thing to do,

Right?

I don't mean to laugh,

But oh my gosh,

You know,

So I realized as this is going on,

I'm realizing I can handle this in a few different ways,

Right?

I mean,

Let's be real.

Like I find I'm nothing if I'm not transparent about like my emotions and stuff,

Right?

So I realized I can handle this in a few different ways.

I could just let it go,

Not do anything and hope she forgets,

Deal with it later.

I could do that,

Right?

I could also,

Second option,

I could totally make up a lie and say,

Oh,

I tried to find you and then couldn't find you.

I don't have her phone number,

So it was just like a message thing.

I could do that.

Or I could tell the truth,

Fall on the sword and apologize.

The hardest thing to do.

Actually,

To be honest with you,

Now that I'm sitting here thinking that through,

It isn't necessarily the hardest thing to do.

Lying is the hardest thing to do because then you have to remember what you said and blah,

Blah,

Blah.

I have a huge thing about lying,

But anyway,

I digress.

So now let me say that nothing would ever,

That I could ever say could make up for what I forgot to do.

But I messaged her,

I took responsibility for it and I apologized profusely.

Okay,

So now I'm not trying to sound like I am perfect and I always make the right decisions and blah,

Blah,

Blah.

I am not,

I am anything but perfect,

Right?

Obviously,

That is not the case,

But there was something that I felt after I sent the message where I knew I did the right thing,

Obviously.

Well,

I shouldn't even say obviously,

But there was something that happened in my soul where I knew I did the right thing.

So again,

Not trying to sound like a martyr,

Right?

But I did my right thing for me,

Okay?

And I'm sure she's probably still mad at me and we had a back and forth a little bit and she was obviously very disappointed,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah.

I have no idea if she's forgiven me,

Whatever,

Right?

I mean,

I can't,

Anyway,

I'll get into that.

I would be very upset too.

But I think that sometimes in doing the thing,

This type of thing is exactly how we can actually forgive ourselves.

You know,

Again,

I know I screwed up,

But at some point I need to forgive myself because I felt horrible,

Right?

And this is the new beginning.

This is the new beginning,

Right?

How often do we really forgive ourselves for like all kinds of stuff?

You know,

I mean,

You go through the actual act of forgiving yourself.

How often do you do that?

How often do you use that kind of self care,

Right?

And use or use that as a new beginning,

Right?

There are so many ways to create new beginnings for ourselves.

Self-forgiveness is one of them.

You can change your circumstances physically,

Or you can change your mindset and forgive yourself.

I'm not saying it's one or the other,

But it can be all of the above,

You know,

Kind of thing,

Right?

But here's the big point.

There is always the possibility.

I love that word.

Possibility.

I so love that word.

There was always a possibility of a new beginning.

Always.

Whether it's through forgiving yourself or someone else,

There's a thing too,

Right?

A change of mindset,

Like maybe changing your eating habits,

That sort of thing.

Or even starting a new life in a different place,

Right?

And aren't we so fortunate that we get to do that?

You know,

I mean,

There are a lot of people that just go through life.

They don't think about these types of things and they don't utilize the sort of spiritual tools that are out there,

You know?

We do because we're here,

Right here,

Right now.

You're listening to this.

I screwed up.

I apologized profusely.

And now honestly,

I need to let it go.

I need to let it go.

She can do whatever she needs to do.

She can be emotionally whatever how she needs to be.

But for me,

I need to let it go.

You know,

There's a self compassion that happens right there in that moment.

When you forgive yourself.

This is the self compassion of new beginnings.

I created a new relationship with myself.

Right?

So what can you forgive yourself for?

Very interesting question.

And it's very deep.

It might be something small that you can forgive yourself for,

Like,

You know,

Forgetting to return a phone call or you know,

It could be or it could be something really big.

It could be something really big.

Forgiveness changes everything.

It creates a brand new way of being forgiveness,

Self forgiveness,

Or forgiveness of the other person.

There's a freedom that goes with that.

Oh my gosh,

You know?

Now I'm not trying to say that like my way of dealing with my screw up was the right way.

It was the right way for me.

Sometimes you never know.

Like every situation is different.

Every person is different,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah.

I get that.

Right?

For me,

That was the way I had to deal with it.

And it became like a,

You know,

It became a new beginning for me.

A new,

A fresh start.

Right?

So we are going to meditate on self forgiveness today,

Self compassion and new beginnings.

Can't we all use that?

And we just had the new moon.

So how perfect is that?

The timing of that is absolutely perfect.

Embracing your new beginning,

Embracing how you are with your new beginning.

We're so fortunate.

You know,

I just said this,

But we're so fortunate that we have these tools.

You know?

So,

All right,

So I've got a great mantra.

We're going to get ourselves comfortable.

Let's get ourselves,

Let's get ourselves comfortable.

Close your eyes.

Sit however it's good for you.

I want you to be comfortable.

You can worry if you decide that you really love meditation.

You can worry about how you're sitting and how your hands are later.

It doesn't really matter,

Right?

That's the one,

Well,

It's not the only thing I learned from David Gee,

But that is a huge thing that I learned from David Gee.

If you're comfortable,

You will come back and you will do it again.

So let's close our eyes whenever it feels right.

And we are going to meditate on self-forgiveness,

Self-compassion,

And new beginnings.

So let's take a nice deep breath in and release.

Perfect.

Right there is so,

So relaxing.

Take in that first deep breath of the day.

So let's consider three to five things that you are grateful for.

What are you grateful for today?

What is going well in your life?

What are those few things,

And you can do more,

You can do 10 if you want.

What are those few things that you are grateful for today?

It could be that cup of coffee,

But it could also be your own self-compassion.

It could be your own personal,

You could be grateful for your own personal relationship with spirit,

God,

Universe,

Whatever you want to call it,

Right?

So now our mantra for today as we sit in the stillness for just those few short minutes,

Our mantra for today is to err is human,

To forgive divine.

The great quote from Alexander Pope,

That beautiful poet of enlightenment,

But we're going to twist it up a little bit.

To err is human,

To forgive myself divine.

It can be whichever way you want it to be.

But in terms of this new beginning that we're creating for ourselves,

To err is human,

To forgive myself divine.

Perfect.

So let's relax ourselves and say this mantra to ourselves.

If you lose the mantra as we're sitting in the stillness for those few minutes,

That's absolutely fine.

Just concentrate on your breath.

And let's begin.

To err is human,

To forgive is divine.

To err is human,

To forgive myself divine.

To err is human,

To forgive divine.

To err is human,

To forgive myself divine.

To err is human.

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To air is human,

To forgive divine.

We can start bringing our awareness back to the chair we're sitting in,

The room.

Perfect.

Namaste.