Preparing For Motherhood Workshop

Join Kristine McGlinchey-Yap for a workshop about Preparing for Motherhood. Learn more about the energetics of becoming a mother, how we can connect to our Spirit Babies, and how to prepare for this beautiful chapter of your life.

Transcript

Thank you so much again for being here today,

For everyone who has been able to join live,

For everyone catching the replay.

So I think this is a topic that,

And I'm glad that it's kind of shifting in the last couple years,

But it's just so interesting because the reality is that motherhood begins before we even make the conscious decision to conceive.

And I've been doing work with spirit babies,

With women.

I've had my business for the past five years,

But I've been doing this work really deeply and intensely for the past three and a half.

And so today I'm going to share not only personal stories,

Antidotes,

But I'm also going to share this interesting correlation between us as women,

No matter where we are located in the world,

Wherever our backgrounds are from,

We do have core things that really bring us together.

I'm sorry,

I'm just muting.

Okay.

So there are core themes that are really important when we are talking about conception from a material level,

From a spiritual level,

No matter what we're talking about,

There are pillars and core things that we are looking for.

And so I'm going to cover a range of not only things,

The things that I've experienced when I was preparing to become a mom,

But also a lot of themes that I see within my clients.

So for those of you who may not know me,

I am Christine.

I worked in corporate America for over 10 years.

I,

When I became pregnant with my daughter,

I left my corporate job.

I started my own business where I was a consultant,

A marketing and PR consultant,

And then I became an author.

So my book,

Momdras,

I wrote when my daughter was nine months old,

It's available on Amazon.

It's just all about empowerment,

Encouragement,

Especially for new moms.

I'm an energy healer.

I'm a spiritual guide,

And I'm also a hypnobirthing educator.

So my path and my purpose has really shown me I'm really passionate about maternal mental health and spiritual wellness.

Those are my core values.

That's what lights me up.

Everything to do with helping women just uncover limiting beliefs.

And there's so many when it comes to motherhood,

There are so many.

And I'm going to share my story with you of when I was preparing to have my daughter.

And that was me.

I had so many limiting beliefs around motherhood.

I just had so many ancestral wounds around motherhood that really blocked me energetically.

I was never the woman who felt like being a mother was part of my purpose,

But I have clients who come to me and they're like,

I've always wanted to be a mother.

And this might be you,

The little girl who always knew that she was going to be a mom.

Yeah,

That wasn't me.

I was like,

I'm going to be a career woman.

I'm going to die in this CEO chair.

Everything was primed for survival and finances.

I am the daughter of immigrants.

I'm a first generation American.

So everything about me was primed to succeed,

To earn lots of money,

To be financially stable and secure.

And everything else was an afterthought.

And that was until I got married and motherhood became even more real for us.

We started having the conversations and I was freaking terrified.

I was scared out of my mind to become a mom.

And I had to sit with it.

What was my resistance?

I was a natural nurturer.

I am very caring.

I raised my nieces.

I love my cousins.

I love babies,

But me having my own was a huge resistance.

There was just a huge hesitancy.

I didn't feel like I was good enough to be a mom.

And that was my biggest fear.

So when we're having these conversations around motherhood,

When we're married,

I was like,

Oh my gosh,

I didn't realize how much baggage,

How much ancestral baggage I had,

How much societal baggage I had,

Where I felt like,

Oh,

Well,

I can't have a career and a child.

That's just not possible,

Right?

Because society tells us we can't be successful doing both.

So there was just a lot of ancestral,

Societal,

And also feminine wounds that kept me or limited my baby.

Hello,

Little one.

From energetically and spiritually entering motherhood,

Fulfilling my soul contract.

And we're going to talk about that.

We're going to talk about soul contracts today.

Fulfilling my soul contract as a mother and my child's soul contract as a guide to my child.

So I worked through all of these resistances.

I really dug deep and I gained a new level of awareness about my relationship to the mother archetype,

To my relationship to myself,

To my future children.

And without even trying,

Months later,

And what I realized later looking back on it,

It was very much my daughter working with me and through me as my spirit baby to push me out of the shell,

To continue to heal me and to allow me to be open to receiving her.

Conception is all about being open to receive your future child.

So we're going to go through some practices.

I'm going to give you a lot of insight.

If you have any questions at all,

Feel free to drop them in the chat.

I want this very much to be a space for you as well.

Ask any questions that you have at all.

And yeah,

I'm pretty much an open book.

So if I don't have the answer,

I have a client who has had the answer,

Who has taught me something.

So I'm happy to answer any questions that you might have as well.

I'm the mom of two.

So I do spirit baby readings.

I do soul care sessions where we dive deep into motherhood,

Into purpose,

Into anything that you want.

I have mentorship.

I have a spirit baby course called Soulful Beginnings.

And I also have this beautiful membership community where we talk a lot about spiritual growth,

Personal development,

Entrepreneurship,

Motherhood,

Anything and everything that we share on this crazy journey of life.

So just a disclaimer,

Because my lawyer always makes me have a disclaimer on everything,

But this workshop is not a substitute for professional medical advice or treatment.

Of course,

I talk a lot about energetic themes.

I am going to give you things that I've seen work,

Not only as a certified hypnobirthing educator,

But things that worked for me,

Things that I see working for my clients.

So I will share that info with you,

But please use your intuition.

Also consult any healthcare provider,

Medical professional before trying any of these things,

And really make sure that you are,

Again,

Aligning to whatever feels called for you.

Please use your judgment,

Your intuition,

And feel free to take what resonates and what doesn't.

So what is conscious conception?

A lot of the time when I have a client who might be on her second or third round of IVF,

She is really burnt out from trying to conceive.

She's really hit a wall.

We talk a lot about how motherhood can be such a masculine process,

Especially if you're going through fertility treatments,

You're constantly checking for your ovulation.

It can feel very masculine.

What we need to remind ourselves is that motherhood is not only the birth of a baby,

But it's the birth of a new woman in so many different aspects of it.

So when we could take that lens and we could introduce that perspective into our motherhood journey,

This is not only about the end result of a baby,

But this is what I'm learning,

Who I'm becoming as well in the process.

Then that can help ease our transition into it.

Because what happens is society tells us,

Okay,

Get pregnant,

Have a baby,

And the focus is all on the baby.

The focus is the baby,

The baby,

The baby.

And we as the woman and as this mother get lost in the transition to it.

So conscious conception is very much the intentional act of preparing for your transition into parenthood.

But during the conscious conception phase,

We're taking a more holistic approach than traditional fertility measures,

Like monitoring your ovulation cycles.

All of that is really important.

It's part of the process,

Right?

It's part of the human experience.

But we also want to take into account our mental,

Emotional,

Our spiritual health.

Some of the things that we often overlook because we're so focused on our physical body and exhausting our physical body,

Our mind.

We also want to take a look at the unseen aspects of motherhood.

Again,

So some of that mental baggage,

Emotional baggage,

Spiritual and energetic baggage,

All of that weighs very heavily on our ability to receive our future children.

So another reminder,

Motherhood looks different for everyone.

I have clients who come to me pissed because they're like,

I've been trying to become a mom for years and my next door neighbor didn't even want to have a baby and she's pregnant.

And it sucks.

It's hard.

And so what we need to take into account,

Not bypassing the complete human experience of it,

Is also we have soul contracts.

Also our spirit babies,

Which we're going to be talking a lot about,

Our future children are requiring certain things from us.

And that neighbor of yours might not have had,

Didn't need to produce as much as you do.

And even though it's hard to sit with,

A lot of my clients,

Once we just flip that switch and make that awareness of,

Oh my gosh,

I haven't been paying attention to this.

I've overlooked this.

Maybe there's something else I can incorporate.

Maybe I just need to speak to someone.

And I will say too,

Sometimes it's not even you.

Sometimes you are doing everything that you know to do,

And it might be your partner.

I have a lot of clients who don't have partners.

They're trying to conceive on their own.

So whether it be an egg donor,

A sperm donor,

Even in those cases,

When we're connecting to the spirit baby,

We want to approach things with an open heart,

With an open mind.

We want to make sure that we are meeting our children with the sense of surrender and trust and possibility.

So when we look at our mind,

Body,

And spirit,

Our mind really holds the limiting beliefs.

Our minds,

Like in my case,

I was scared to become a mom.

I was afraid of the responsibility.

I didn't think I was good enough to be responsible for another child.

I felt like motherhood was burdensome.

I felt like I just wouldn't be able to handle it.

And I knew in my soul and in my heart that none of that was true.

And that's the thing with limiting beliefs.

Our subconscious mind holds patterns and beliefs that we see that aren't necessarily true,

While our conscious mind is the one that's constantly making logical sense of our surroundings and everything around us.

So it's really important that we be aware of those limiting beliefs and taking into account,

Could this belief be what's blocking me or hindering me from conceiving?

Is there something that I'm missing or something that I am not addressing mentally in preparation for this baby to come through?

Ancestral wounds plays a big part,

Not only in our limiting beliefs,

But also in our predisposition of what motherhood entails,

How motherhood looks.

We form a worldview,

A certain perspective about motherhood based on the people around us,

The families that we were born into.

So do some of those ancestral wounds come into play.

And all of these things,

By the way,

End up hitting our energy at some point.

So what starts off as a limiting belief ends up being literally something that is stored in your solar plexus or in your stomach,

Or that gets stored in the womb or the sacral saying that,

Hey,

I'm not good enough.

Energy compounds.

So that's the spiritual side of it.

Even though we are having,

Oh,

They're just thoughts,

They're just beliefs,

But it actually starts weighing on our energy.

So when I'm reading someone's energy,

I can see what limiting beliefs they're holding.

I can feel and experience what energy is stuck,

What is blocked and keeping them from receiving their baby or something that they need to work on in order to clear and release it.

A lot of the time we're holding onto really old things,

Like what happened to us when we were kids or what happened to someone else.

And this creates a lot of tension and restriction in our energy.

And for conception,

We want to be expansive.

Our energy wants to be very spacious and expansive because conception is literally the act of receiving.

It takes a release,

Whether that's a partner,

Whether that's a procedure and an intentional act of receiving.

Societal expectations,

The same kind of thing.

What is society telling us about motherhood?

For me,

It was,

I can't have a successful career and a family.

That was one of my societal beliefs around motherhood and how burdensome it was.

Also the mental and emotional stress or strain of your ideas around motherhood.

A lot of the time my clients will,

And it's interesting because partners,

Again,

Remember,

In a partnership,

Sometimes it is the partner's mental and emotional baggage that is actually hindering conception.

Does your partner feel safe enough to provide?

Does your partner feel safe enough to provide financially,

Foundationally,

Emotionally to this child?

So our bodies,

We store trauma.

So again,

Beliefs become trauma within our bodies that also create physical disease over time.

So nutrition plays a huge role in conception.

What am I eating?

What are the products I'm putting in my body?

What happens with beauty products,

Lotion,

Shampoo,

Shampoo,

The types of oils that we use,

The kind of makeup that we use,

All of that crosses over into our bloodstream.

So we want to make sure that we are using clean ingredients,

That we are using pure ingredients.

Nail polish is like a really big one to,

You know,

If you're dyeing your hair,

Just being really intentional about what products you're putting on your body and how that is kind of reacting.

So we want to use things that are like paraben-free,

BPA,

The plastics,

The heavy metals,

Like those things can really hinder conception,

But also just our overall health.

So our physical health obviously is like a huge thing with conception.

Wellness,

How am I treating my body?

How do I feel about my body?

Do I feel safe in my body?

Does my body feel inviting?

Does it feel welcoming?

Is it ready to carry and hold a baby?

And of course,

Like,

You know,

Overall maintenance,

Movement,

Well-being,

Lifestyle,

Super important for conception.

And then we have the spiritual side of it,

Which often gets the most overlooked,

Right?

Like how does my intuition have anything to do with conception?

Because you intuitively know as a woman and as someone transitioning into motherhood,

What you need,

But most of the time we just ignore it.

We say,

Like,

There's like a passing thought,

Like a whisper that says,

You need to take these vitamins.

And you're just like,

Nah,

Or like,

Oh,

You should go to this doctor.

And you're like,

Nah.

So a lot of the time your intuition and your spirit baby is trying to connect and talk to you through this connection,

This intuitive channel,

But we need to slow down and listen.

We need to create daily practices to tune into the voice of our spirit baby,

Our soul.

It's a fast paced life we live.

You know,

We're constantly moving.

We're constantly on the go.

We're constantly thinking about what's next,

But sometimes what we need to do is think about what do I need right now in this present moment?

Because the present moment is what defines the future.

But a lot of the time we're like stuck and fixated on the future,

Something that hasn't even happened yet.

When our attention,

Our immediate attention needs to be on the present moment so that we can figure out what do I need to do next?

Right?

So the spiritual connection is a really important part and energy.

I had a client the other day where her energy was just like so chaotic.

And I feel like,

And that's not a good or a bad thing.

Like there's no judgment there.

I'm just saying like,

What we experienced in 2023,

We're still kind of like riding the coattails of,

Right?

So before this call for the women who like signed in early,

I was like,

Man,

This full moon,

Like I'm exhausted.

It like kicked my butt.

Like the energy was so potent from this full moon because it's clearing the whole energetic year that we've had before.

So a lot of us are moving into this year with all of this baggage,

With all of this stuff that we're trying to process and integrate and move through.

So when I'm seeing your energy at a time like that,

It's just kind of like all outside of you,

There's like debris and there's clutter.

And like,

We need to just like,

Let it go and,

And release it.

And that's what happens with conception as well.

Because if we have that energetic debris,

So to speak,

The spirit baby can't come in closer.

It can't come in.

There's no space for that baby there.

Like that is not a welcome portal.

Right.

And we're not going to be 100% clear or healed.

Like that's not going to happen.

Like we're not Buddhas.

Okay.

But the baby is just looking for that perfect opening,

That perfect time where your contract and their contract and your partner's contract,

Or,

You know,

Uh,

The third party involved,

Whether that's a clinic or something,

Imagine all of these pieces are divinely aligning for this union to happen.

And it's really sacred.

And we forget that because our OBs telling us one thing,

Our fertility specialists,

And then we get lost in the,

In the process or the procedure of conception that we forget.

Wow.

What a miracle.

All of these things are aligning in order for this to happen at the right moment.

That feels good and supportive for my soul and for this future child.

So that's why the spiritual connection is a really important aspect of it,

Because even in,

Um,

You know,

I have a lot of women,

Uh,

Who experienced miscarriage,

Who've had an abortion,

Who,

Um,

You know,

Had a stillbirth.

And we talk about all of the things that kind of like have compounded in their energy by no fault of them or anything else.

One thing we,

We need to be aware of and know about the spirit realm and spirit babies is that there's no judgment.

There's no ill intention or ill will.

It's literally love the vibration,

The frequency,

Everything is love.

They are such a higher evolved form of consciousness.

They are much smarter and wiser than us.

And they will tell us like,

Why,

What,

What hasn't been put into place.

And usually in the form of a miscarriage,

It's just getting,

Or,

You know,

Anything it's getting us more in alignment.

It's,

It's meeting us where we need to be and where they need to be and,

And sitting with what's going on,

Like what here needs to change or shift.

So that's why the spiritual aspect of it can provide us with a lot of clarity and also,

Um,

Permission to like,

Let go of some of the guilt or some of the shame or even resentment that comes with this,

You know,

Really sensitive time in a woman's life.

Like conception and motherhood is one of the most delicate,

Sensitive times.

And the more that we can be met with these conversations and a deeper understanding of what's going on,

It feels so much more supportive to know that you're not crazy.

You're not alone.

And,

And that this path is for you too.

So what can we do?

So for our mind,

Like I was talking about,

I had all of those like mental blocks.

I had all of this fear,

All of that resistance.

I literally just spoke to it.

I said,

Huh,

That's interesting.

I consider motherhood to be burdensome.

And so even like mind mapping,

How do you feel about motherhood?

What are some of the characteristics?

What are some of the traits?

Like,

What are you afraid of?

What are you excited for?

Just doing that mind map will allow you to kind of like start connecting the pieces.

And from there you'll even see,

Wow,

I actually felt like motherhood was a burden because of the way I saw my mom struggle,

Or I saw my aunt do this when she was raising,

You'll start creating those associations.

So then you'll start realizing this actually isn't my belief at all.

This is something that I experienced or I witnessed that actually has nothing to do with me and how I am going to be showing up as a mother.

So it's a really powerful way to create awareness and start the healing process toward how you are approaching motherhood.

So journaling,

Affirmations,

The power of intention and affirmation is amazing.

You want to make sure that you're speaking words over yourself that are empowering.

So anytime you are feeling down,

I am strong.

I am brave.

I am resilient.

What are those affirmations that can really ground you during the conception process?

So for body,

So detoxifying,

What does that look like for you?

Do you need to do a heavy metal cleanse?

Do you need to do like a purge of whatever?

What does that detox specifically look like for you and your body?

What testing can be done?

So a lot of women like doing fertility tests,

Dutch testing,

Doing panels,

Lab work.

Maybe you want your partner to do panels and lab work too.

Sometimes our bodies are also not compatible.

So sometimes again,

If without knowing like what are the physical aspects and attributes of this,

Is my partner's sperm quality high?

If it's not,

What can he be doing?

What supplements,

What herbs can he be taking?

So testing gives us a look at where am I currently and where are we going?

And this also involves your partner.

Any lifestyle changes?

Do you need to stop drinking alcohol?

Do you need to like stop smoking?

What are the lifestyle changes preparing you for conception?

Maybe you're changing like your movement routine instead of doing crossfit or cross training.

Like you're going to be doing yoga or Pilates.

Like what are some of these lifestyle changes?

Not working as much,

Nervous system reset,

Stress management.

Those are really important factors as well.

It's really interesting because in epigenetics,

They've actually proven studies of the mom's nervous system when she is pregnant with the child is going to determine your child's nervous system.

So essentially moms who have a high stress index,

Children are going to be born with that same disposition of fight or flight and stress cortisol.

So as you know,

It's a very important,

The prenatal bonding,

Your stress management,

The way that you're feeling.

So what lifestyle changes are needed to be made?

And then for body,

Acupuncture is always great.

Acupuncture is great for energy.

It's great for circulation.

It is great just for vital life force energy.

And it has a really great,

Um,

It always almost always comes up for all of my clients to be doing acupuncture.

And funny enough,

Without even realizing it,

I started doing acupuncture before like randomly,

I felt such a strong urge to do acupuncture months leading up to when I conceived my daughter.

Um,

So spirit,

We can be doing readings,

Energy healing.

So that looks like Reiki.

That looks like,

Um,

You know,

Listening to throat chakra,

Sacral chakra,

Sound healings,

Meditation,

And making sure that this is a consistent daily practice.

Are you sitting with yourself?

Are you connecting to your spirit baby?

What are the spiritual things that you are doing?

Is it like alter work?

What,

What,

What are you doing?

Um,

You know,

Gathering in communities to make sure that spiritually you also feel supported and that that connection is there.

I'm throwing a lot of information at you guys.

So again,

Feel free to ask any questions if you have any.

So I feel like it's really important to address new earth parenting because we aren't at a time collectively where things are so different.

And I would feel like remiss in not talking about new earth parenting because these spirit babies,

And I love spirit babies for last because they're like,

Like the,

You know,

Cherry on top that makes like all of this makes sense.

But new earth parenting,

We are doing things so much differently than our parents and the generations before us.

So first and foremost,

I want you to give yourself the most compassion,

The most validation and permission because we are really taking an innovative approach and you might feel crazy.

You might feel like even us gathering today,

Talking about all of this,

Right?

Like what moment of time would,

Would this occur?

Like we are at like a,

Such a beautiful paradigm where we can gather and have these conversations and prepare ourselves for the next version of us and the future generation of our lineages and legacy,

Literally.

So you might've heard like spiritual leaders or like some mumblings or whatever about the new earth paradigm that we're stepping into.

We are really starting to see this new earth form and some,

Well,

Not sometimes,

But in order for the breakthroughs to come,

Right?

The breakdowns happen.

And and the generations,

So I'm a millennial and the generation after millennia,

Like they always say like millennials are like disruptors.

And I don't know if you've ever heard your parents say that,

But say this,

But like my husband's parents,

Like the old,

Like the boomers,

They're always like,

You millennials are just like so lazy.

Like you don't want to work.

You don't want to do anything.

Like everything is so different from them.

And we're disruptors.

We came to shake shit up.

We're like,

No,

Like this has to change.

We disrupt the systems,

Right?

The generation after us is going to clean up some of that disruption.

So they're going to like start paving the way,

But our future children,

Our children and our future children,

They're going to be the architects and the engineers.

They're literally going to build this new earth because the way that we are doing things is not sustainable and it has not been sustainable for humanity on a collective scale,

Not only individually,

But collectively.

Right?

So new earth parents are really conscious.

We're aware,

Especially in ancestral patterns.

We have been doing the most ancestral healing the last five years as individuals.

And as a collective,

Like I would say the three and a half years I've been doing spirit baby readings,

Ancestral stuff would come up.

Like,

Yeah,

It's a big part of it.

But I,

The last year and a half,

It's like all ancestral work,

All really like digging and excavating and receiving the blessings of the ancestors.

Like it's been a lot of ancestral work because we have a lot to grow from and like to not bring forward.

Like we are being called to leave all that ancestral stuff behind so that we don't carry it into our children's lives.

One of the first things spirit babies tell me is like,

I don't have time for that.

I don't want the ancestral baggage.

Sometimes that might even look like this child,

Not even growing up around your family.

That's how far removed they want to be from the ancestral trauma that you're like,

That's weird that I actually want to move across the country even though I know no one there.

Sometimes your children don't even want to be a part of that family system.

Sometimes they do crave to be more involved with like a certain aspect of your family just for the healing that that brings in.

But I just want you to like know ancestral themes like that you've been moving through individually and seeing if any of that kind of like resonates with you.

Because new earth parents really aren't afraid to make bold choices that are more intuitively led rather than logically justified.

And just remember that everything you do and heal is preparing you for receiving and parenting your future child.

Because sometimes I feel like we don't give ourselves enough credit either.

Like why am I doing this?

Like does this even make sense?

It's literally your child's calling to you and leading you to these people.

You know for those of you who found my work like literally your spirit babies are like here's someone who has something interesting to share with you.

Maybe this like will help expand you or something.

Like I truly believe that we all are being led and guided and so even us being here today is something part of that.

Let me just take a question.

Okay for people who don't have trouble conceiving but are at a stance though about having another baby or not.

Do spirit babies provide information or clarity around that?

Absolutely Nadia for sure.

So I'm going to go over spirit babies now and I'm going to address your question in further detail as we talk about spirit babies.

Okay so who are spirit babies?

So sometimes people get a little confused about spirit babies because some people think spirit babies are babies who've like passed on and yes and like both can be true.

But really spirit babies are our future ancestors.

They are reincarnated souls.

Some are reincarnated souls.

Some are new to earth.

So what's interesting is when I'm connecting to a spirit baby I ask have you had past lives with your parents or with these people before.

Sometimes they've had past lives with mom.

Sometimes they've had past lives with both mom and dad and siblings.

Sometimes they've only had past lives with one and are new to a different one.

Sometimes they haven't had any past lives with any of you.

They're actually new to earth.

So who are these souls who are new to earth?

They are they have cosmic lineages,

Cosmic origins.

You can google starseeds and read up about starseeds but essentially the philosophy on starseeds is that there are you know other star systems,

Other planets that we reincarnate to and from and a lot of starseeds are coming to earth and being activated at this time because humanity needs the help.

And I do see people who are like earth beings through and through.

Like your soul keeps coming back to earth and you have a really deep connection to earth.

But then there's some of us who are like I don't belong here.

Like earth is not my home.

I remember being a child I would just sit at my window staring up at the sky.

Like I kid you not I was that weird kid.

I was an only child.

I would just sit at my window at night just looking at the stars and I just felt so deeply that I didn't belong here.

And then I learned about starseeds and I'm like that makes so much sense because and then I had a reading and the woman told me that my soul during reincarnations will visit other star systems like Sirius and Pallides in between lives.

And so a lot of children who are incarnating to earth now again in order to be these future builders of the new earth are actually new.

So they're going to be bringing about a lot of philosophies,

A lot of change.

Spirit babies exist in the spirit realm so we connect to them through mediumship essentially and yeah and so they're reincarnated souls.

They're kind of like not like babies at all when we're connecting to them.

They're wise souls.

They know everything.

They're all-knowing so they can tell us and I'll just skip ahead to like what do they tell us.

They will tell us anything that we need in order to fulfill our soul contracts and theirs.

So a lot of the themes around like purpose,

Career,

Relationship,

Location,

What changes are required or that you should make to be able to bring this child to earth side.

And I am telling you I've heard no I think I've heard and seen everything until I have another spirit baby reading and I'm like wow like your spirit baby's teaching me something I swear I learned something new every single reading but there are like common themes.

So for instance with with Nadia's question I will have clients who they already have children and they're torn.

Do I have more children or should I have more children?

Are there any other children?

Just because you have a spirit baby in your energy does not mean that you have to bring them earth side.

As humans we have free will so we can decide whether we want to bring them through or not and that is not good.

There's like no shame or guilt or judgment.

If it's not right for you it's not right for the baby and I tell that to every one of my clients.

If it's not right for you right now then it's not right for the baby and the baby knows that.

The baby sees it feels it and won't come through if you won't allow them to right.

So you might feel intuitively like I just have these dreams about this baby and I sense this baby around me but I don't know if I want to have them yet and so some things that you will want to sit with are what do I need?

Like how do I need to feel?

What does my life need to look like?

What is the vision for my life?

What are my core values?

What are my foundations?

Commitment is a huge part of conception and with spirit babies sometimes we feel like we're committed because we're doing all the things.

Well I'm taking my prenatal.

I'm going to my doctor.

I'm doing the testing.

We're doing everything that we logically should be doing but if we have any of that mental emotional or spiritual baggage that commitment isn't grounded because even though we're saying like yeah cool like I'll have this baby our energy is actually saying no no I'm not because I got a lot of stuff here happening you know so even though your mind is like oh okay yeah cool like your energy and your body is like this doesn't actually feel safe like I'm not on board with this plan.

It's not I'm not committing to it so it's really up to you if you want to have this child or not and if you you know and in working and connecting with them but to your point Nadia I have a spirit baby meditation.

I have a free spirit baby meditation as well on my website for anyone who wants to try it but I would like be really clear on like what is the vision for your life like does another child feel supportive right now?

Is it you know what is what is the foundation and also yeah what's coming up for you a lot is connecting with yourself and and feeling like where does this child set in.

I do couples readings yes and I've actually been doing a lot more couple readings lately which is beautiful to see because I work mostly with women the only men that I work with are usually the men that I get to referred I get referred to by the partners but I do couples readings so yeah and it's really beautiful to see both.

Okay my question is around miscarriage.

I miscarried around seven or eight weeks.

It was actually two babies.

I'm so sorry like that is like it really breaks my heart because I know how like devastating.

One formed more than the other.

The one didn't even have an embryo in the sack.

What could this mean?

Okay um yes so you don't have to tell me your name like I understand like why you you know this is a very sensitive subject.

I just want to be like sensitive to how I'm like speaking to you as well.

Right away gosh there was like something coming through like as I was reading um okay okay so what's coming through for you too so with miscarriages right and I've told spare babies this before I'm like can you figure out like a new way to like get through to us without it being so devastating because unfortunately like the spare babies are always like I just wanted her to know that I was there I'm physically possible and I'm like yeah can we figure out like something else like maybe say it in a dream because you know it's like devastating like doing that to our physical body and you know um sometimes a spare baby will have a contract that is literally just to experience what it is like in a womb or something like some spare babies like some souls actually just have like they're just meant to be miscarried because of like what they um yeah like were meant to experience and and a lot all of the time it's like this lesson to us of how did we feel because sometimes we have a miscarriage and we're like oh my gosh like I'm actually relieved you know I wasn't ready this wasn't the time other times were kind of like you know devastated like I've been trying like this is all I've wanted like why would this happen and and that too is like an indicator what is our emotional state what is our mental state what are the lessons that we've learned like in terms of our health was there something there that we didn't know about that we didn't see was there like further testing required um and that's kind of like what I'm feeling for you like there is something like testing or physical health or something that have might have been overlooked or or wants to be done um oh yeah okay good oh Diana okay thank you very much for that um um yeah so Diana for you it really does feel yeah and I love that you said you felt inspired by it because sometimes it's just like that that push that they're kind of giving us like I'm here with you it's like supposed to be like a consolation it's supposed to be kind of like this motivation for okay what do I need to do to try I had one client who kept miscarrying like she kept having miscarriages every year around March and she was trying to conceive for like two years um we did um like multiple sessions like we did a lot of energy healing we did womb healing we did ancestral healing and a lot of it too was her partner like her partner's ancestral baggage but this baby just had a fixation on the month of March like every time the she would get pregnant and then miscarry in March until that third year she got pregnant in March and and now she's having um this was last year and then is having had the baby March,

April,

May,

June,

July,

August,

September,

October,

November,

December yeah she had the baby in December so sometimes it's like that too it's like okay well you're not ready this March and then like there's just it's not everything with spare babies is black and white some are super fixated on a time a season some are really fixated on um location like you're meant to move or be somewhere else you're meant to be doing something else like you're meant to leave your career you're meant to find a new way to live you're meant to have an awakening like this huge spiritual awakening um some spare babies are fixated on your ancestral lineage like they are meant to be born with your lineage like they are through and through a part of your ancestral lineage they're the future legacy builders and some aren't concerned about that like some are um so for those who are like no matter what i'm in your lineage if you miscarry if you abort they will come back sometimes they won't come back to you maybe they'll come back to someone else in your family like if you have nieces if you have a daughter if you have a son sometimes this baby so for like Nadia if Nadia's like you know what i don't want to have another baby this baby might not even belong to you it might be like your child your daughter your son's baby and this might be your you know i had a client she was not trying to conceive she decided actually that she didn't want to be a mom at all and when i was speaking to her spare baby her spare baby just kept referring to her as her great aunt so i asked her i said do you have any nieces and she said yes my nieces are like my own daughters so the spare baby that was with her was actually working with her to fulfill her purpose until her nieces were ready to have children so there's like so many different interesting and fascinating possibilities with spirit babies um and yeah so because you have one in your energy doesn't necessarily mean that you have to bring it forth or that um they are yours in the case of the ones who like aren't as concerned about lineage but they're looking at specific criteria so they're looking at a specific socioeconomic background a specific location but it can be any parent like it was really fascinating i had this client recently who was a single woman she was looking at egg donors and sperm donors and i literally saw infinite amount of like spirit babies in her energy i'm like you have so many spirit babies in your energy and it wasn't until she told me well yeah i'm actually like looking at egg donors and sperm donors i was like wow that makes sense because there's any like there's so many spirit babies that could be hers that it was just her committing to this path because she was still like i don't know if i should do it maybe i just will like won't do it and it was just so fascinating to know wow like you have so many babies who are just willing and ready to like be your baby so that was really beautiful to see also okay so caitlyn one of my biggest lessons i've been surrendering trying to control conception but with the history of doing ivf i wonder if for my second would give me an indication on timing yeah and you know what caitlyn what's coming up for you is a lot of that is like how do you feel a lot of that is like how do you feel in your body like how is your body feeling do you feel safe in your body it seems like you know like warming up because that too is like that there's a lot of like trauma and like ptsd there like that's a lot of mental and emotional baggage to work through so it feels like working through some of that like mental emotional baggage and feeling really safe and secure in your body you know it feels like you know take it one step at a time rather than like because i know you and you're going to be like zero to a hundred like take small steps until you are feeling really mentally and emotionally strong just like you did before having mila like where you were like no i'm ready and like f the protocols and like i'm doing it my way like you need to bring that energy into this as well like that feeling of confidence and empowerment and that there's no pressure there's no sense of urgency it's just kind of like that baby calling to you like okay like let's just start preparing for this like mentally and emotionally so that you're not burning yourself out you know like start there first like that baseline that foundational like that foundation work is really um really important okay okay so someone was saying okay i anushka you direct messaged me i'm i just want to make sure um i just want to make sure like you're okay with me addressing your question in the oh okay okay i just want to make sure i have your consent so she was just saying like it's a lot on her partner on her partner's end like she wants to make lifestyle changes for for the for him but like having a hard time getting him on board with relationships and partners it can be frustrating because it's like we're doing all and like i've had a lot more women lately who it's it's been their partners because like we do the most and then our partners are just like they just think that they're here to like show up right like i'm just here to donate this baby and it's like no like it's energy too because that's the foundation what i always tell my couples or anyone who feels like it's they're having a hard time getting their partner to commit or be on board for this vision like we're very masculine women like one thing i healed i and again i still i'm not fully healed from this but one thing i i realized is especially being like a corporate from coming from corporate is i was very masculine and so that's a lot of us too like we're ambitious we're highly driven we try to control the process we're like and then our partners are like just tell me when we're like and then our partners are like just tell me when where and what right our feminine energy wants to come through to make things easier for us we get to soften in this process that's part of receiving we get to soften and we get to be supported and taken care of so what i always tell my clients especially when it comes to partners and this is what i do with my husband as well let's have a conversation like not even about because it can be very overwhelming for partners as well right because we're like ah we're doing everything and especially if they month goes by we're not pregnant month goes by it weighs a lot it's heavy on them because it's you know they're seeing the disappointment in us and they don't feel like they can do anything it's just recalibrating resetting having that conversation what are our core values like what is the vision that we have like we're not even talking about baby what is the overall vision of our life like how do we want to live and experience our lives because the spirit babies always tell me in these situations like these people are obsessed with me like they literally will not stop talking about me or thinking about me like give like stop talking about me i'm here i'm good i'm waiting focus on you like you guys need to work your stuff out like focus on you and so instead of like focusing on the baby and remember conscious conception is a lot more about taking care of ourselves than the actual baby because i guarantee like that baby's in the spirit realm they're living better than we are right now like we're the humans suffering here right so how can we make it feel less painful and uncomfortable let's have those conversations what is the vision we're creating for our lives and you know we're still at the beginning of the year like what are our foundations as a family when we have a family what are our foundations what are our core pillars what are the things that we are wanting to do with our children having that conversation from a state of like visioning and planning and then saying like okay if this is the vision for our life what are some of the the things that we can do take the simple steps you know maybe it's like okay let's introduce a supplement like start off slow maybe it's every week we're committing to taking a walk together maybe it's once a month we have like a game night like what are the things that align with this vision that will help you get there because sometimes when we're like coming at it from a feminine perspective of like okay like i just want to support you i want to support us and so what does this look like because men can get very easily overwhelmed in in the process and and not have the resources or like the communication tools in order to be able to share that with us so um anushka for you it's like let's go to the beach let's do something fun let's like tap into that joy because our spirit babies want to make sure that we're taking care of that now we're taking care of each other that's very important for them i'm just checking on time i just want to make sure oh and just to address really quickly like when spirit babies appear so spirit babies can appear in your energy usually i'll see so if i'm speaking with a client and they have more than one spirit baby in their energy one will always be closer than the other so the other will be like further along in their energy and what i've noticed is that usually we'll start to feel them like two years or so from conception they'll be like really close in our energy that will start feeling them more um but they can they can be with us for years before we are even ready before we even talk about it before we even know that they're there um and we can connect with them through visualization meditation signs dreams is a really big one so even setting an intention before you go to sleep tonight that you want that you're calling in your spirit baby you want them to visit you in a dream synchronicities do you keep hearing the same name all the time do people keep asking you about babies like much like our guides and our angels spirit babies will connect with us through repetition or like synchronicity um dream-like state is the easiest because that's when we're not thinking as much or putting too much emphasis on our thoughts or projections kim i recently had a polyp removal and dealing with the health care system in hawaii is tough i wonder if i need to get my partner and i tested further or if i'm in the clear after this removal is it necessary to keep going to fertility doctors i really hope i can do everything else from home um yeah kim that one's a tough one because since that is like physical like i don't want to steer you in the wrong direction and i would say like really tune into your body because with polyps usually with like cysts fibroids polyps pcos even endometriosis we can find natural ways to um cure that or to remedy that through supplements through acupuncture through energy work like it's amazing like um womb steaming womb healing for you kim it feels like ritual like ritual support how are you nurturing and and like how are you nurturing and taking care of your body does your body feel safe and ready um and yeah like taking in your medical history like taking your like taking in your medical history and what advice was given to you from the health care professionals mixed with your intuition and what what does your body need supplementation herbs um you know is it going to someone else someone new with a fresh perspective like a midwife or something um but it really just feels like checking in with your body seeing what it needs from you and and developing kind of like a plan around there okay we would like to plan our second baby but not sure when the right time wonder if my spirit baby would give an indication of around they would like to be born um the need for you like i'm getting like a year like off the bat there was like within the next like year it just feels like things are settling down like there's foundational elements building blocks being put into place in order for that baby to be like established so about a year like a year's time uh marcia i often try to talk to my spirit baby just like they are here and include my son on it oh will this help to bring baby earth can they hear or feel it oh my gosh absolutely marcia like um little children are so intuitive and so receptive so you might hear them say like oh when my baby brother is born or like when our we brought our son home we brought our son home from the birth center and our daughter we were actually worried about our daughter being like jealous or we didn't know how we weren't sure how she would react and immediately when she saw the baby she went to my husband and hugged him and she said thank you dad thank you like she just kept thanking my husband and it was like instant remembering they're like she's four and he's two but she's just takes such good care of him and and it was like this instant like connection she was like oh he's here you know it was like an instant like yeah he made it through or something it was like really interesting but sometimes our children will like see or feel the baby before we do uh wonder if my partner has any energy blocks or can uh benefit from ancestral healing or themselves yeah what does that look like oh my gosh carmen for sure and if you if you're intuitively feeling like i am doing everything on my part like where is your partner or like again if you don't have a partner if you're doing it at a fertility clinic like what where where do your needs need to be met like what do you need to feel supported i want everyone to think about and we're gonna have some reflection prompts too that you can take with you um today but being really aware of what your needs are are they being met and vice versa are your partner's needs being met because this is a big message i get from spirit babies also remember we're too obsessed with the baby but we're not obsessed enough with ourselves or our partners so being really in tune with what do we need and and what feels supportive soul connection okay soul connection soul connection with a specific baby means versus other kind of oh like a soul contract uh maribel i think you're talking about yeah a soul connection with a specific baby means oh am i interpreting right like an ancestral connection because there's an ancestral connection that we can have so some spare babies have an ancestral connection where they're meant to be born in your specific lineage but other spare babies don't have an ancestral connection to a particular lineage they're just looking at particular criteria for their needs to be met um which means that you know some people are more interested in taking on ancestral wounds or baggage as the generational break break cycle breaker so for instance my soul was like no i'm going to be born into the specific lineage so i could break all of these cycles some people aren't as um interested in ancestral healing because they're like i don't really belong to this lineage like this lineage is not my trauma or my baggage so there's some like contracts that look like that oh that you have a deep soul connection oh okay soul connection well yeah like a soul contract like you've probably experienced many lives together like there's a sense of familiarity there um because we also have like karmic attachments which karmic attachments can feel a little little heavier like we owe each other something but a deep soul connection and that you know that can be with anyone like you meet someone and it's instant soul connection you've experienced other lives there's just a sense of familiarity with them do you see talk feel to spirit babies yeah all of it like you can connect with a spirit baby you could see them in somebody's energy you could see them in your energy if you visualize it um you could feel spirit babies around you like their presence they're like sometimes when i connect with people's spirit babies like i feel like this really like powerful warmth or like this light or they're because they're so they're higher vibrational so you sometimes i even experience like tingling because i'm like wow this is like a really powerful like spirit baby like they're here to do so much so it's really interesting like you can and like i would love to say that i'm special but all of you can do this and i teach you how to do it in my course soulful beginnings it's literally just like once you start learning how to work with your intuition you open your heart do womb healing and all of that like i'm not going to guarantee that you're going to be doing it like a pro because it does take a lot of practice but this is something very much that you guys can be doing as well or learn to do so i'll take questions for like five more minutes and then because i want to get to the reflection too i want to make sure we have some time for that but if you have any like feel free to email me if you have any questions after today i saw my spirit baby in my dreams last time i had this with the spirit baby soon after i got pregnant unfortunately got a miscarriage do you think my new spirit baby is trying to tell me she's getting close oh okay um absolutely i feel like they have something to tell you i feel like they're they're also like trying to show you um so laura too i would sit with like what is what do i need right now like what what support what feels supportive to me like what what are my needs is there something that you know my mind body or spirit needs right now to like receive or to welcome in a baby um often when spirit babies come to us in a dream it is so i actually have a spirit baby like my i have a son and he comes to me all the time and i kid you not i'm like after i had my son i was like nope sorry spirit baby like you may never be born because these kids keep us active and busy all day but the more that he comes to me i just feel like the sense of like and i'll see his name like he's already told me his whole entire name and it's not a name that i would ever name i would have ever chose myself and i just see it in so many weird ways like it's so crazy like the signs and synchronicities he sends me and yeah i'm like resistant to it now because i feel like how the hell am i gonna have another kid like my hands are full but he just comes to me and it's like this instant knowing that like okay like the things that i'm doing right now are gonna prepare me like mentally emotionally like to to have him one day right if that was a possibility so it's always like the feeling like what what are you feeling and and fitting with those feelings and like really acknowledging them and talking to them caitlyn yes i do readings for mama and baby 100 yeah absolutely like my soul care sessions we talk all about purpose motherhood um what you are meant to teach your baby vice versa like anything like we could look at anything for for you and baby whenever i'm at the park and doing art and very relaxed i feel the connection coming up oh yeah that's a beautiful way to connect like that's a beautiful way to connect like you know because some of us have a hard time meditating like some of us have a hard time finding that stillness so doing something creative like painting some people find like uh running is when they get their intuitive hits so just kind of like listen to your body whatever feels supportive for you it doesn't have to look one way either like your spiritual practice doesn't have to look like you sitting on a cushion meditating right like it could be anything any form of of therapy of yoga of movement any kind of practice that you deem to be like supportive for you okay so here are some reflection prompts because it's really important that with all this knowledge and wisdom that we're um receiving that we can take away some aspects of awareness right so is there anything that needs my immediate attention mind body or spirit how does my partner feel about having a baby or having a family sorry where can i make small shifts in my daily habits and routines and what do i need more of or less of when my daughter was guiding and and working with me she was like look you can't be doing this anymore like you're not going to be in corporate because i was working 16 hours a day non-stop like i was traveling like a mad person it just wasn't sustainable to the type of mom that i came here to be right for my soul and it wasn't capable it wasn't for her so for her it was a lot about career changing my career changing my lifestyle for my son even even though i had my business already when my son started coming into the picture and i felt like this deep strong urge i was like i i just felt it like i was like i'm ready to have another child like i stopped breastfeeding my daughter when she was two and a half years old and even then i was like i need to stop breastfeeding because i felt him so close to me and i stopped breastfeeding her and then like two months later i got pregnant with him and even then like he changed so much for us like he changed me in such a like deepening my work with spirit with spirit babies and with women ancestral like he really shifted my focus of a lot of things like my daughter just completely changed my life and he just redirected it so you know knowing and understanding that we can have this like new sense of empowerment and like and clues into what direction like what area of your life feels a little like shaky or not stable right now because that's going to be a really big indication of of what you get to work with and work through in order for the spirit baby to um to come earthside earthside so thank you again thank you all very very much for just being open to all of this information for providing just your beautiful feedback your questions it really really helps when you ask questions for other people um who might have the same question or you know it just really helps us all to to learn and to grow and i'm just so grateful that i get to be in this community i get to um you know do this work but thank you thank you thank you thank you have an amazing weekend