The Power Of "I Choose To Feel This"

The power of free will when it comes to processing uncomfortable emotions is a game changer. Why is it important to affirm it to yourself? How do you better understand emotions, and how do you use this tool in your self-love kit? These are some of the things that I am explaining in this audio.

Thank you for being here, and thank you for finding the time to take care of yourself!

Transcript

Choosing to feel your feelings.

As cliché as this may sound,

This is really important and this is really powerful because we seek comfort,

We seek safety,

Even when it doesn't make sense.

So our first reaction to many circumstances,

In many interactions,

We move towards safety.

Now,

Sometimes this may be a distorted concept of safety,

But as beings,

Our bodies and our brains seek to keep us safe.

So whatever we perceive as safe,

We move towards that,

Without logically thinking much.

So,

When we are dealing with uncomfortable feelings,

Even though we may understand the concept of,

It is important to feel our feelings so we can receive the messages that they are bringing to us and then let them go and move forward.

Even though we can understand this as a concept,

Even though we can understand this as a concept,

What happens is that there are so many uncomfortable feelings,

There are so many triggers that may lead us to experiencing,

Re-experiencing our traumatic memories that we avoid or suppress or neglect without understanding that we are doing it,

Without even thinking,

Without even seeing that we are doing it,

Because,

Especially as children,

If we grew up and a lot of our emotions were not accepted by our parents,

Were not mimicked back,

We were not allowed to feel those feelings,

For example,

To cry,

To be angry,

If we were punished to feel those uncomfortable feelings because our parents didn't know how to handle them in themselves or and in us,

What happens is that this model,

This inner model of the caregiver,

Not seeing,

Not accepting,

Not letting your feelings be,

Not letting you feel your feelings,

This concept,

This model is within us and now,

As our caregiver,

We do not let ourselves to feel those feelings,

We do not let ourselves to experience those uncomfortable emotions,

So what happens is that we do not feel them and therefore we do not experience their messages and at the same time we keep them stagnated,

We keep them stored in our bodies,

So you may meditate and notice the peace that meditation brings and yet have this feeling of unease and not really understanding why you're feeling that way.

Meditation helps a lot in this work because especially somatic meditation,

Mindfulness,

Because you observe your body,

You observe your reactions,

You observe your thought,

And you understand that you are the observer and not the thought,

You understand that all these feelings are coming and are going,

You are not your feelings,

You are the person seeing them,

You are the person experiencing them,

But you are not them,

You are not your feelings,

You are not your thoughts,

Meditation helps a lot in this and this is a part that i want to add to this understanding,

I choose to feel this,

I choose to feel the grief that i am noticing that is coming up,

I choose to feel all the anger that i'm noticing in my body that is starting to come up and i choose to not express that in ways that damage myself or others,

I choose to feel this,

I choose to somatically experience it,

I choose to feel it in my body,

I choose to let myself feel it,

I choose to feel this,

I have the power to feel this,

I am so powerful,

I can feel this and i can overcome that,

I choose to feel this,

Give it a try to practice it whenever you notice uncomfortable emotions coming up,

I choose to feel this,

Sending you so much love and we'll hear again at the next recording,

Thank you for being here and thank you for working on yourself.