Hello and welcome!
This is Clare,
And I'm so glad that you're here.
In this recording,
We are talking about emotional flashbacks,
What they are,
Why are they important,
And tools that can help in navigating them.
I personally believe that we all have our share of pain,
And suffering,
And lessons to learn during this journey called life.
But I want to stop at our share of pain.
We all have our traumatic experiences,
Especially growing up,
Or not only growing up,
But what we are going to focus on in this recording are the traumatic experiences,
Or very stressful experiences that we have gone through as children.
What happens is that this intense feeling of suffering,
Or pain,
Emotional pain,
Neglect,
Abandonment,
Or any kind of negative feelings that you have experienced during that early age,
Are deposited in your nervous system.
And even though you may not recall exactly the visual aspect of the memory,
Your body remembers.
So what happens is that as you go through your day,
As you go through your life,
As an adult,
There can be triggers,
There can be specific events,
Or very random details that bring you back to that state of being.
And this is very confusing,
Because you may not recall it visually,
So you don't know exactly why you are experiencing this feeling.
And in many cases,
It may be confusing on what you are feeling as well.
So there can be a trigger from today life,
It can be a random detail that brings you back in an emotional state of being that you experienced when you were a child,
And your body now is in that fight-or-flight state.
It is confusing because it is just emotional,
And in many cases,
As adults,
What we do is we run to the next thing,
We have the next thing to do,
Or the next thing to go.
So since there is no visual memory,
This can be hard to understand what is happening,
Why am I feeling this way.
What is important in this point to understand is that for many adults,
That when they were children,
This state of being was constant.
Even as adults now,
You may have a constant state of being that may be fear,
For example,
Or abandonment,
Or a stressful state of being that is rooted in an emotion in childhood,
And since that has been constant,
Now you cannot even understand why you are feeling this way,
Or you cannot even understand that you are feeling this way,
That you have this sense of abandonment,
Because it is under the conscious mind,
It is unconscious,
Just your body experiencing it.
And this is why I think this is such an important concept,
Because you have to know it is not conscious for you to even pay attention and try to notice that there is a feeling that you are not understanding underneath.
What really helps in this,
The first thing is awareness,
The second thing is coming back in this moment and understanding that you are no longer a child that is dependent on their caregivers,
But now you are an adult and you have way more power than you had as a child.
So,
You have friends,
You have tools that can help you now,
You have people that you can rely on,
Or if things go wrong,
You can go to for help that are going to help you.
And this is especially important when,
As a child,
You were around abusive caregivers,
Or very neglectful caregivers,
Or over-criticizing caregivers.
And now,
As an adult,
You can understand this and you can help your inner child heal and feel safe.
Another thing that is very helpful is understanding.
Now,
The first thing is understanding the concept.
The other thing is understanding when you're experiencing this.
And what I find really helpful in understanding when you're experiencing this is pay attention when you feel small,
When you feel small,
When you feel helpless.
The other thing is somatic meditation.
Put a timer and just sit with your feelings.
Notice your feelings,
Notice the somatic aspect of your feelings,
While at the same time bringing your awareness and your attention to the here and now.
You can connect with your heart and with the compassion and love of your heart and give love to your inner child and safety.
And at the same time,
Or but at the same time,
You need to be present.
You need to feel those feelings that you have neglected for so long.
Those feelings that you didn't even know that were there during all this time.
This can be very helpful practice,
Because when you are not aware of it,
You may be stuck in this state of being,
In this very stressed state of being,
In this very stressful and emotionally painful state of being for so long,
And not even realize that.
But once you realize,
There are things you can do to change that.
And personally,
I do see this as a great act of self-love.
Thank you so much for being here,
And thank you for taking the time to work on yourself,
To work towards your peace and calmness,
Sending you so much love,
And I will hear again at the next recording.
Bye for now.
