My treasures.
This book that was written,
I must always say,
Through me,
It's lovely to be able to hold a thought or a concept and expand on it.
Explain it a little bit better sometimes there's a little bit of history inside of it so that it feels more useful to you if you can interpret it in terms of your life.
That really is the whole point of it,
Isn't it?
When we go to a movie and we sit there,
We're enchanted and fascinated,
And there's one person who's playing a role,
And we just feel,
Oh,
This is me.
I identify with them.
And we walk out of the theater,
And we're singing Mamma Mia and all these beautiful things,
And we just feel like that has become us.
When we read a book and when we write a book.
It's a little bit like that.
It's a sharing of a life experience or lives of our families and friends,
Whatever that is.
But in that,
There is something for us to gain some insight or something that we can relate to or thought or feeling that perhaps we haven't brought in yet.
So whenever you do read or connect to something,
Don't just read it for data and information.
Honestly,
We've got enough information of all the stuff around us.
Read what you get now,
Watch what you get,
And interpret it in terms of who am I now?
How does this resonate?
What is the significance of this book or this movie or this song coming into my life now?
Try and see if you can do that because then you deepen your connection to it.
That's the point of us sharing is that we connect and we help those connections to be known that we don't feel so alone in the world,
In our craziness and all our distortions of life.
We are pretty much the same,
Just we have different setups,
Different scenarios,
Different settings.
But really the process,
The stuff,
The drama inside of it is pretty much the same story.
What we're going to talk about today in that is.
This beautiful energy.
That we all have this feeling of obligation or burden or holding someone,
Supporting,
Uplifting.
We have it very much as a burden of obligation,
Don't we?
So often we take on a role with somebody or we show up for them or with them.
And then we feel like this is lovely and we make an effort to be in it.
And then,
My lovelies,
Things go into that next space and we think,
Well,
Why is that happening?
There's a disappointment or an irritation of something that comes in.
It's just what happens.
And I would love to talk about that because I do believe from all the people that I see and work with,
That is a little bit of a tone that comes in.
When it does,
We feel very disappointed with ourselves,
Don't we?
And we should be a nicer person.
We should be a bigger person.
We should be more gracious.
Hmm.
I don't know about that.
Let's play in that field today.
Ask for guys to come in and hold this energy together.
If you can,
Let's take a deep breath in and settle down.
Lungs slow at breath.
Drop,
Drop into this moment.
Feel as if right now.
You can allow yourself to be right here where you are.
No matter what the world is looking like,
What you're feeling.
Whatever you're considering,
Just be here now.
Drop your shoulders.
Smooth the skin on your beautiful face.
Relax your jaw.
Balance your body on the left and the right.
And feel connected to where you are right now.
Connect to the earth.
And imagine that there is a long light energy that goes all the way down through you from the top above your crown through you down,
Down,
Down through the soles of your feet into the earth way down.
When we can hold ourself in this way.
Then we truly are making a deep,
Energetic commitment to being here.
Plugging ourself to being in this reality.
There is a reason we were asked to be here.
And when we come into that agreement.
We agree with the contract that we created.
A whole being settles down.
And when it settles down.
The parts of us that were encoded with all the gifts so that we could do this particular journey they awaken in us.
Please know that.
That there is a way for us to help and love and support,
Honor each other.
But that your journey is a unique journey.
And we do it very well when we are connected and in agreement with ourself being here.
No matter what it looks like,
No matter what your mind,
Body or being or your situation is saying to you.
You are in that situation,
Not by some mistake.
You are there so that something can unfold through you.
So please let that come into your awareness now,
My treasures.
Here we are in this time,
Space,
This reality.
In your particular beautiful way.
Even though we would love to uplift and hold and carry every dear soul and make it easier for them in this life journey.
We really do want that.
It's not always in.
This divine and sacred agreement.
We just don't know whether our helping is helping.
Or whether it's meddling or muddling or denying them the fulfillment of their karmic contract.
We really don't want to get our fingers too involved inside of everybody's lives because we've got to honor that their life is their life and their journey is their journey.
And if we could stand back every now and again,
Just take a breath and ask our being,
Who am I in this?
What is it that I am getting out of this?
Be as brutally honest as you possibly can with yourself.
How are you being in someone else's life feeding you?
We know that we do it with a heart open,
With great intention of kindness,
But it doesn't always work.
Mostly.
Because of the way we are designed that are always seeking for approval to be accepted.
We are doing it for those reasons.
We want this to unfold.
We want to participate or be included.
We want something so that we can feel more safe,
Loved,
Held,
Honored,
Seen,
Recognized,
Noticed.
And sadly,
That longing for recognition so often does not come back from the ones who are close to us.
To whom we are giving so much of our energy.
It so often is off balance and not reciprocal.
So let's play with all these ideas,
These thoughts,
And let's see how we are in this.
We can never change anybody outside of us.
We can't change their minds,
Their thoughts,
Their beliefs,
Their systems,
Their setups.
We cannot change the contract because we have no idea what that demand contract is.
We've got nothing to do with that except to be here alongside each and every soul and to hold them with our hearts.
Not hold them in a way that is a burden upon us.
Please hear that,
I know it's a bit difficult,
But hear it as much as you possibly can.
So just take a breath into that now.
We ask our guides just to please step in and help us in whatever situation we find ourselves.
It feels a little sticky or icky or feels a little bit too demanding.
I'll share with you a little bit about the story that I wrote in this.
About how I came to that realization in such a powerful way.
It really was very helpful to me,
But not at the time.
When we came back from living in the United States.
It was a wonderful time to be present with.
My family,
To be with my mum through the end of her life journey.
And to really see ourselves in another way.
My life when we went to Colorado had taken a pathway and I thought that was the pathway.
And I absolutely believe that everything I was doing,
All the studying,
All the working was part of that design,
That plan.
Hmm,
Well,
Not really.
So almost six years later,
We were back in South Africa.
And when I got back,
There was this void,
This devastation,
Life's pathway that I thought was so beautiful and planned and open,
And my heart's desire just collapsed like that.
As fast as it had opened,
It collapsed.
And in doing that,
There was immense grieving.
And bitterness,
Anger,
Ooh,
There was a lot.
To lots of beach walking,
Renting,
Screaming and raging.
It was fabulous.
Eventually I got to the point where I could settle down and just be in that space and hold it in a different way,
Make a difference by being different.
It was really so far from what I thought I would be doing.
It was unbelievable.
And yet there was stuff that I needed to know and understand in that situation that I could never have gleaned anywhere else.
There was a beautiful friend of mine and I did say her name in the book because she agreed that it would be okay.
So I'm going to say Irene and that's her proper name.
When I met this lovely lady,
She was very,
Very ill,
Very,
Very ill.
Her body was very broken.
She had to have two people holding her to just try and walk.
And her body was so sensitive that even walking on the little cracks between the bricks on the paving would hurt her body,
Hurt her feet.
That's how much sensory overload and exposure her entire nervous system had come to.
When I worked with her,
It was beautiful.
We went through a long time of working while I was there.
And her upliftment,
Her improvement was quite phenomenal,
Just working with energy.
And it gave me such an insight to how divine just pours into the space,
Even though I could not know what to do in that moment,
Just to be there and be present and hold that.
This idea of holding.
When you're holding gracious space,
This is the way to do it.
To be alongside and with others and to hold gracious space.
The idea of holding another.
Carrying another is not the right space my lovelies.
When we carry someone else,
What we're actually saying is that they are weak,
We are strong,
They are inferior,
And we are superior.
And we are the only ones who can help them and save them.
If we get to a point where things are looking good,
As they were in this picture,
Things were looking really good and the improvement was phenomenal.
Quite miraculous.
Just looking at it and going,
Oh,
Isn't that great?
Now,
My little mind body assumed that I was very important in this relationship and that the carrying of this dear soul was part of my journey that I had to do,
I had to commit to.
Not true.
My journey is my journey.
Her journey is her journey.
Everyone in our family,
All our friends,
Their journey is their journey.
And we can walk alongside.
We can hold the space graciously for them to be their magnificent being,
But we cannot,
Must not,
Should never say to another,
I'm carrying you.
I'm carrying you and I'm sharing this burden with you.
This is not okay.
Because energetically you sign a contract that locks you together.
And when you've locked,
It's very difficult to become unlocked and become sovereign and unique in your own space again.
I truly hope you are hearing this.
Not as a spiteful or a mean thing,
But that you are hearing this,
That you,
My lovely,
Have your own divine design,
Your journey.
And it is so that you can maintain your unique coding,
The blueprints that you hold that no one else holds.
And you cannot fulfill that.
And the whole world will be bereft because you were not there present as your full most divine person.
Linking your contract to somebody else is not a good idea.
I even see this with twins,
And we'll talk about that sometime,
But it's very interesting what happens inside of the twinning.
People talk about twin flames and all those things as well.
And that's not a whole piece.
But in this story,
This energy of that was off balance as much as I always yearn to hold the most authentic,
Sincere place.
From my perspective,
It was.
Otto was very kind,
Very wonderful.
Don't worry,
I'll carry your pain.
Mm-mm,
No.
And in doing that agreement,
My body started to feel her pain.
Highly empathic people do,
They feel the pain of others.
When we feel that pain,
It's not ours and it hurts like crazy.
It will render us immobile if we don't pay attention.
Just stop for a moment and consider whose story are you carrying?
And what does the pain look like inside your body?
Do you think that pain inside your body is necessary for you in your higher development,
Highest awareness?
To help you to get to that point of expansion possibility.
Do you think the role of assuming someone else's story will develop you?
Just think about that.
Will this take you to the place where you can be your fullest,
Most aligned,
Most delightful expression of this particular human that is you in this life journey?
Or has it been infiltrated?
Or imposed upon or linked to something else that is not for you.
When I understood this,
My body had got to a point where I was in so much pain that I was in worse pain than she was,
That I would even wake up and know when her pain was so bad.
I did this before when I was much younger.
When I was looking after my gran,
She was going through the end of her life journey.
My energy had got so connected to my gran's energy that I actually thought I was this ancient woman.
I remember it now wasn't,
I was only about 20,
What was that,
About 26 or 24,
26.
I remember sitting and going to the bathroom in the middle of the night,
Just knowing that I needed to go to the bathroom,
But my gran needed to go to the bathroom and I was helping her and waking up to take her to the bathroom.
I remember sitting on the loo.
What a big mirror.
And as I sat down,
I was like.
.
.
Like an old woman.
It was ridiculous.
I suddenly looked at myself in the moonlight coming through the big window of this reflection of this person thinking in my head,
I was going to see my grand image and I saw mine nearly jumped out my skin.
I thought,
Oh my gosh,
Joy,
You're young,
You're young.
This is not you,
You're not old.
But I had connected my energy so powerfully to my grands and I did the same again in this time.
No one had told me how to do this,
How to manage it and what to do in this.
It was a very,
Very difficult learning experience.
The only way that this disconnect helped is that we actually,
When my mummy passed,
We actually moved to where we are now,
Which was two hours away from where we were before.
That disconnect,
That space and distance helped me to create a space and distance and come back to who I was.
But I can honestly tell you it took me a year to pull myself back to me.
That's a lot of time not doing the sacred divine work that is part of my contract.
It took a long time to recover and to come back fully into my energy being.
But now that I am fully inside my energy being.
In agreement with my life and the contract that I've created.
Now that I'm holding that is the most sovereign gift for me in this life.
This body,
Mind and being is doing well,
Doing so much better than it did all those years of growing up.
And gosh,
It took me so many years.
Oh,
So many decades to get this message.
Please don't take all that time.
Don't waste time.
Living the story of carrying someone else.
Be part of yours.
Live your sovereign life,
My lovelies.
Find your strength and be in it.
Remember what your purpose is.
Being here is your purpose,
Not muddling and meddling into anything else.
Be in the space with all your heart and all your soul.
Graciousness,
Kindness.
So much kindness,
So much compassion.
All of that is beautiful,
But don't connect your energy to the story of the other.
You are denying them their full karmic journey.
You are interrupting the karmic game.
This is not a good thing.
I think it was Ram Dass who wrote that book,
How Can I Help?
Or What Is Help?
I think it's called What Is Help?
It's a very wonderful book to read.
Because help is not help.
Help is not help.
Kindness is always kindness,
But help is not help.
Please listen to that and find your way in your own sovereign light energy being.
You are more helpful holding the space of your energy intact as a glowing light to put light on in the dark places for those who are a little bit lost.
You are more worthy there than you are muddling and meddling and sticking your fingers in.
Get those sticky fingers out.
And hold yourself.
Let's take a breath into that.
Long,
Slow out-breath,
Just come back fully,
Completely into you in this life.
I agree.
That I'm in the perfect space,
Perfect time,
Mind,
Body,
Being.
That I hold the integrity of this being.
Consciously.
Carefully and kindly.
I consider who I am as this divine human.
And this divine light being.
However I can maneuver through this life journey.
May it be with ease,
Grace,
And flow.
Holding and uplifting others with my heart,
With my love,
With graciousness and kindness,
With recognition.
And seeing the others for where they are,
Not as broken,
But as full and complete and competent.
When we see that in the other,
We awaken that code in them so that they can start showing up in a very confident,
Competent way.
Please remember that.
So much love here for Batman Treasures.
So much love.
Thank you for you.
