Release Trauma Signals - Unsupported

The trauma signal of feeling unsupported can deeply affect our sense of stability and connection. This signal often arises from past experiences where our needs were overlooked, dismissed, or unmet, leaving us with an enduring sense of isolation or vulnerability. It can manifest in relationships, workplaces, or even within ourselves, creating a cycle of mistrust, self-doubt, and a fear of depending on others.

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As we unwrap these stories of trauma, These trauma signals, We really want to start understanding why they're awakening in us and gain a sense of awareness that it's not us being ridiculous. We'd love to just say, Oh, Well, It's just me being ridiculous, But actually it's not because they sneak in as underlying stories and we find ourselves saying things that our parents said and we said, Oh, I'll never say that, But we find ourselves saying the same things and creating the same patterns and getting stuck in the same way. That's because these signals are signals and they've been encoded into our system for one amazing reason, That's to help us just to survive. So whenever we feel any of these trauma signals and particularly this one today, Feel unsupported, Oh my gosh, You can imagine how that opens up this immense vulnerability and terror sometimes, Panic, Anxiety inside of our energy systems because it's really, Really scary to feel like you're the only one or you're isolated or you don't fit in or you're not part of it or people are not seeing you or honoring you. There's rejection energy in there. There's so many little threads of these energy trauma signals that are part of this story. So however you are perceiving it, My lovely, Please know that you're not ridiculous and you're not broken. It's that you have a certain wiring that's been passed on by your family line as cautionary codes. So it's like, Oh, When this code comes in, Then be terrified. Start screaming or running away or performing in some way or find yourself hiding away and isolating and staying away from everybody because it's just too jolly overwhelming. Know that that is a reaction to that story that we need to survive and we've got to defend and protect ourselves in some way. The way we do it, Three unimaginative, Surely by now we could have come up with a few more but three responses, Direct default responses and that is to fight back with all our might or lie down and play dead or disconnect from everybody or run away from it. So it's just ridiculous. So we can't do that stuff anymore. It's just exhausting and it doesn't achieve anything. Nothing gets accomplished and we find ourselves just feeling more and more miserable about ourselves. The moment we become trapped in that cycle of not feeling good about ourselves, Oh, Then our energy plummets and when our energy drops my treasures, In that moment, It's very difficult for us to be showing up with a significant energy to enrich our lives and those around us. I used to do a lot of little wood paintings and wood crafts and things, But there was this one that I just loved. It said, When mama ain't happy, Ain't nobody happy. Isn't that the truth? When we're not in a good place, Really everything around us is not going so well. If you're in a family or workplace, You will know that your story is rippling into the story that's around you and everyone might start feeling snappy or tired or upset or something. It really is very contagious, Isn't it? We have to try and overcompensate that it's your responsibility to make sure everybody's happy. Hard work, Throw that one away. If you can, Now, Let's settle down. Let's put our feet on the ground or connect to whatever part of you is feeling connected to the earth. We're gonna take a deep breath into this beautiful body and we're gonna come into this moment so that we can really connect our energy, This beautiful collective energy in to help bring healing in a wonderful way. Just you being here is a wonderful gift. Thank you for you. All right, Sweethearts, Big breath. Let's do that. Long, Slow out breath. If you can, Smooth the skin on your beautiful face as you close your eyes. Drop your shoulders, Soften your tummy. That is the number one little clue to do. If your tummy is tight, You're running a program. Soften your tummy. Just for a little while, Be present in the moment that is holding you. Become aware of your body. Be aware that you're being held in this moment, My treasure. You're here, You're being held, You're being breathed, Your heart is beating, Your systems are functioning. So we can just be here knowing that everything is being taken care of. That is the most important stuff for us to be here. Feel taken care of in this very moment. And for those of us who know this chord, This code, Or the signal of pain that goes around feeling unsupported, This is your finest connection to help you to come back, To feel the support, The arms of gravity. Divine has got you. You're being held, Being breathed. At the very, Very least, Know that you are being supported right now so that this delightful human you can be here. I promise you, My treasure, You would not be here if you were not very, Very necessary. There is not one of us that's the same as anybody else. We are our own peculiar, Delightful, Sovereign, Unique being. Every single one of us is different from the other. Even if we're twins, We are different. In the way that we do and sound and walk, The way we feel or think, There's always going to be something different. That is the greatest gift for us being here, Is to be different. Our greatest longing is that we belong and we're the same and we're welcomed into spaces, That we are seen, Valued, Honored, And understood. But all the time while we are wishing that to come from that which is outside of us, Our family and friends and workplaces, We're not even bothering to give that exact thing that we're calling in and asking for. We're not giving it to ourself. So let's do that now. Let's repair that great chasm of pain that you are holding in you right now. As you sit here and you hold the space, The space is holding you. We think about that hollow feeling inside of us, I'm just not enough, Or there's just not enough support coming my way. Whatever it registers as and whatever incident brings it to an awareness point, The feeling inside of it is what we want to connect to. When we feel that feeling, How do you listen to your own body when you get that feeling inside of you? How do you respond to your being when you have that deep hollowness inside? When you feel like you're all alone and no one sees and recognizes you? No one's here to help you. Feel that feeling right now. And then send a comforting, Loving message from your human self, Your higher awareness that I'm holding myself in the space quietly, Sitting very still. I am holding me. I am giving me time to sit here, Be quiet, To reconnect. I am caring for me. While you are feeling this feeling of you caring for you, Feel again how gravity is holding you. The breath of life that is all around you is just flowing into you and moving itself through you in the way it needs to. Without a doubt, You are still here and you are supported in this life. Let that register in that part of the brain that has coded the story in a traumatic way so that we could have this fight, Flight, Faint reaction. That sweet being that says, Oh, Things are uncertain, I'm not gonna manage. I don't know what to do. It's just stop, Stop. Your beautiful being came fully encoded, Loaded with everything you need to be able to be here. Just like one of our fabulous smartphones, It has the capacity to reach so much more many of us don't even use the full capacity of our mobile devices, But there are apps and there are all these different things that we can pop into it to make it function in a unique and wonderful way, Something that delights and pleases us. But we have also been loaded, Fully loaded, Fully encoded so that we can do this life journey. So when you feel that sense of lack and inadequacy, Then you start supporting you. When you trust you to do the thing that your being is asking you, And you're not expecting it to come from those around you, You don't seek fulfillment from that which is around you so that you can feel comfortable, So that you can feel heard and honored. We take away that little loop that is such a devastating loop, Where we are reliant, Dependent, And needy on something outside of us so that this being can be comfortable with its being. We are giving all our energy away to something that may or may not happen. Our expectation within that is so high that someone else fulfills our need. But we can never expect someone to fill a gap in our own being because they are their own being and we are our own being. How crazy it is that we give this burden of responsibility to someone else to make us feel full, Heard, And seen, And valued. Surely, We could just bring our awareness all the way back to this beautiful being that's here. This darling self can start giving to itself this awareness of feeling safe, Held, Loved. And we play it all the way back, Just go back, Go back, Go back. The first moment of that signal as it comes in, With that doubt, That insecurity, That trepidation, The moment that comes in, My lovelies, Don't be disregarding and just say, Oh, I must get on with something and be busy and pushing it away. Don't be doing that. In future, Whatever comes in as a signal, Honor that signal immediately and say to yourself, I wonder what that feeling is about. I wonder what that thought is about. Acknowledge the link to that immediately. This is your best trick that you will learn to manage your human system. The moment an awareness comes in, Acknowledge it. Understand it in whatever way you can in that moment, But at the very least, Acknowledge it. And when you say, I wonder what that's about, That signal that was a little bit like a whisper out here can be heard and recognized. And because you're wondering what it is, You're leaving this incredible being that is wired for immense divergent thinking, Multiple levels of being able to process and understand. You're leaving that wonderful capacity of you available to sorting it out while your human self gets on with all the stuff. Suddenly an insight drops in or something comes into your awareness out of the blue and you think, Oh, I wonder where that came from. Well, Your being, Your brain, This being that can process in all these wonderful ways has been processing it because you said, I wonder. You recognized it, You acknowledged it and the thought kept being rummaged around in. The part of you that wants to seek the answers for your life and give you the very, Very best life is finding the answer and then it drops it in. We go, Oh, That's wonderful, There's the answer or there is the insight or there is the awareness. When we start to partner with our being in this way, Those subtle whispers, Those nuances, Those feelings that we so easily disregard and tell ourselves we're ridiculous, Those little whispers become heard by this being. My treasures, You are doing the most wonderful thing right now. The moment you stretch it out into that, You are fine-tuning your instrument to pick up subtle nuances, Fine-tuning your heightened perceptions, Your intuition, Your insight, Your instinct so that you can start to think in a way that is beyond the clairvoyance, Clairaudience, Clairsentience, Claircognizance, All those beautiful clairs, All the awakening of this pioneer chakra. All of that is what we need to take the next step in this life. All we have to do is feel the stuff that is happening here to us now. Not attach, Not identify with it. Don't dramatize it and catastrophize it. Just acknowledge it and say, I wonder what that's about. Call upon your most divine self, Your excellent self, Your higher self to find the answer for you and let it go. While it's rummaging around, Trying to find all those wonderful answers for you, You just carry on being here and you breathe, Feel held and supported by this life. As sure as gravity is holding you, Pull that sure feeling into you, That deep assurance into your body. Pull it in. I'm being held. It's the most important thing that I haven't dropped through. I'm here. My heart is beating and this body is breathing. So important, These things. Oh my goodness, You would not be here if those were not operating. You've got nothing to do with them, Nothing at all. Assure your being that you are divinely and uniquely encoded for whatever it is that is coming your way. The magnificence of you is still to be understood by this dear human who has been playing with its blinkers on in a game of survival with a very limited awareness and perception. We are being rattled and shaken up in the most horrendous way. People are saying to me all the time, I'm overwhelmed, I'm exhausted. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't wanna be with people. I'm just tired. It's fed up and everything else, Just like shut down and shut down, Shut it down. And truly that is what we must do. Just stop. Doesn't have to be forever. Can be two minutes. Just stop. As you stop, You recalibrate, You reconnect, And you organize this human structure so that it can start to behave in this world in a different way, Not activated in the story of despair and survival, Hardship, And suffering. Very, Very, Very low frequencies. I love it that you are starting to recognize these signals. There are so many of them. We're going to unwrap them. It's gonna take us a whole year if we do one a week. It's gonna take us a year. I'm posting them all on Insight Time as they come through. Please listen to them. Go in and listen to them and clear them one by one with us. We're gonna have a whole big, Wonderful community who are no longer triggered in these very hard suffering, Survival, Energy chords and codes. We can start to operate our system in a very mindful, Conscious way, An elevated perception that is going to help us to take that next step in our human story. It is time. It is beyond the time. We've got no more time for the drama and the karma and the perpetual, Ongoing story that we've been playing. If you're in a story, Get your little sticky fingers out of the story. Come back to you. You honor you. You support you. You love you. You give you time. You consider you. You listen to your higher thinking, Your higher thoughts. You listen to the nuances and the little whispers that are coming in. You acknowledge. You accept. The moment you do that, You and your beautiful human vehicle, Your highest self and the delightful human self start to work as a team. So my treasures, Let's do this. Let's remember what it's all about. Let's remember how we're going to be here now, How we're going to hold the space now. Start to listen to the subtle awareness, The whispers out there so that you don't have to get smashed on the head with the story. No more allowing yourself to be brutalized by the story, The hardship and the pain. Let's just stop doing that. Let's start loving, Caring for this beautiful being, Honoring it in every possible wonderful way that we can. If we can do that, My treasures, We're going to find ourselves operating the system in a different way. Remember that if we're making a difference, We're acting and behaving and functioning in a different way, Then being different, Operating in a different way will make a difference. And that's what we want. We want to do things differently. We're not happy about the way the human story is going. It's time we've changed it and we're the ones. We're the ones in the driver's seat and we will do it, Won't we? And we've got each other. Just never forget that. There are so many of us, Many, Many, Many light workers and we've got each other. Take care of each other and take care especially of you. Everything starts to ripple from that beautiful space. Can we do that? I'm sending you so much love, My treasures. Thank you for you and the beautiful energy that you are and for being here time and time again. Makes me so happy when I can play here with you.

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Insightful and healing. Gentle and joyful. Thank you.

Dear Joy, you create such a lovely and nurturing place, it is a pleasure to listen to you share. Sending hugs, Jovana

As with all the other offerings- this touches me a soul level. I am blessed to have your guidance in this deep unfolding and healing. You are a treasure and so loved dear Joy! 🤍

This is so helpful & exactly what I needed. Thank you, Joy.

Thank you, dear Joy, another wonderful talk, it’s so beautiful to be supported by each other. Recognized, scene, heard. I appreciate you and your help with life. Sending big love and warm hugs, Namaste💜🤍☮️