Embracing The Lower & Slower – Unraveling Shaltazar

This episode unravels Embracing the Spectrum of Emotions. As humans, we are predisposed to seek pleasure and avoid pain. As such, we attempt to avoid unpleasant feelings associated with dark, heavy emotions and instead chase after those which are lighter and better feeling. But by disconnecting from the unpleasant feelings, we are denying our truth and the lessons those feelings are trying to teach. To grow, we must let go of the fear of the darkness and learn to love that which we don’t like.

Transcript

Hello spiritual seekers! Welcome to another episode of the Unraveling Shaltazar podcast featuring me, Mark Lane, Spiritual seeker, Writer and Shaltazar enthusiast, Along with the mouthpiece of Shaltazar, Jeffrey Eisen, My good friend and collaborator. For those of you who may be unfamiliar, Jeffrey is a Toronto based spiritual life coach, Teacher and channeler of a spiritual entity who goes by the name Shaltazar. With the help and support of Shaltazar's cosmic wisdom, It is Jeffrey's mission to assist in shifting the consciousness of our planet. It is my pleasure to assist Jeffrey in making this marvelous wisdom available to the largest possible audience and to unravel it in an understandable and comprehensible way. Hello Jeffrey. Hello Mark. How are you today? Well, I don't know how I am. We were just talking about it. Yeah, Loaded question wasn't it? Loaded question. Yeah, Yeah. It's funny when I ask it, The first, When someone asks you that question, Your first inclination is, Oh I'm great, Everything's good, But you know, I'm kind of feeling, I'm feeling the low and slow and actually physical fatigue today. So I haven't been kind of pushing, Burning the candle at both ends in the middle and I'm tired and there's been a lot going on, A lot of emotional things going on, Which kind of ties into the message we're going to talk about today coincidentally. Right, Right. Yeah, And I would have to say, You know, Although I don't have as much going on in my life, I concur. I'm having trouble getting out of bed in the morning. I am, You know, Tired in the middle of the day. We just came off a long weekend here in Canada, Our May long weekend, And weather was great and it was like, Wow, How come I don't have more energy? So, And of course there is a tomorrow, There is a lunar eclipse, A full moon, And you know my belief in the moon energy. So, And it was kind of nice to hear that you're kind of feeling what I'm feeling. I encourage people, Ask other people how they're feeling and often you'll get some feedback to make you feel more at ease the fact that what you're going through you're not alone. And I hear you, When someone asks me how I am, I try to distinguish between okay means I'm not doing very well and yeah everything is great. So I try not to always do the great and I say either fine or okay and if you happen to be one of the people that asked me the question and I come back with fine or okay then know that Jeffrey must be going through something. So the message you picked today was just perfect for me and I'm glad you did. Yeah, Yeah. I was telling you based on a bunch of things going on in my life, A lot of emotions surfacing the past few days and I really just kind of stumbled across this one. It's called embracing the spectrum of emotions. I believe you said it was one of the older ones, But very relevant, Very timely as they all are and you know really helpful when it comes to kind of trying to understand what you know I think you know what your emotions are telling you or trying to tell you. Right, Yeah and it's interesting I was sharing with you before we got on how this message has really become a cornerstone of my belief system around emotions and what I teach to other people. It's really a foundational piece because growing up I was taught that there are good and bad emotions and you're supposed to eliminate the bad emotions and and always strive for the good emotions and and so that caused me a lot of consternation that caused me a lot of a lot of stress because if I was feeling anxious if I was feeling angry that was a bad thing and you had to get rid of it and and this teaching from Sholtazar has really changed my life because I have come to accept those emotions and and even the line in there that and Sholtazar repeats it often that that emotions are truth or feelings are truth. I do have difficulty accepting that every once in a while when when we're feeling when we're feeling down and and a bit uncomfortable you sort of say how can that be truth. Right, Right yeah you know last episode we talked about I think was last episode we talked about two sides of the same coin I believe. Couple episodes ago yeah. Okay well and so to me this kind of echoes some of those same ideas because you know they're saying that like you know we've all been sort of programmed by society I guess to only look for or only appreciate the good feeling emotions right the positive emotions if we want to label them as such and we want to feel that way all the time you know we don't want to you know we don't necessarily want to experience the you know the the darker side or the downside or the you know the negative emotions and so we find all these ways of trying to you know to get around them or avoid them and you know it says that you know we we've we practice so diligently to avoid these feelings that we've mastered the art of disconnection and then it goes on to say you can't stop feeling but you can disconnect from what you feel and in doing so you're disconnecting from your truth and that sounds like a like a like a psychology textbook right well yeah and and it's interesting you say that because I you know over the years I've had clients especially men because as men we tend to have shut down but really disconnected from our feelings and our emotions and these guys would say to me well how do I feel and you know I I would in a smartass kind of way say we'll stop thinking because because you know shelters are has taught me that the feelings are there it's just the mind and in this message it does talk about how we use the mind to get us out of or disconnect from those uncomfortable feelings and and I think again this message you know if anybody ever coached with me they would say oh this is where he got all this from so it was just it was really really packed with a lot of the philosophies and beliefs I have about emotions and so the idea that we always feel we're just disconnected from them is a little bit different than we're taught because often we're taught that we don't have feelings right that we're we you know we we don't have these feelings right but shelters are saying you always do it is that disconnection and they're saying because at a young age we don't know how to handle the unpleasant lower slower uncomfortable feelings we make an unconscious deal with our mind to protect ourselves from that uncomfortable feeling and so whenever something uncomfortable comes up you and I were talking before about an incident where maybe guilt was coming up and you realize that it just keeps repeating itself and you keep beating yourself up for something that you think you should have done instead of you know allowing that guilt to come up and and and finding the truth in it one of the things that that I've come to realize is that those lower and slower those uncomfortable feelings are very much the equivalent of what I would say is a fever for the body the fever is very unpleasant very uncomfortable but the fever is telling you that there is the body is fighting an infection and so those lower and slower feelings are really the equivalent of of the fever with the with the physical body they're just telling you that your your emotional body is out of whack that then healing healing needs to occur mm-hmm yeah yeah yeah that's that's a really good analogy it's it's even in terms of the fever raising your temperature right because the same thing you get that same sort of a feeling when you know you've got this unpleasant feeling rising up and you it kind of your face turns red or whatever you know you kind of feel it physically as well as as well as emotionally right you get the flushes you get the shivers right think about think about all of the things that you get when your body is out of homeostasis when you're being warned that something's not functioning the way it should well what if those lower and slower motions were exactly that okay if you disconnect from them you're missing out on that right it would be it would be like you're not aware of your body you're not aware of the shivers you're not aware of the sweats you're not aware of a headache right so if you're not aware of those things then your your body is trying to talk to you and you're not listening well what if it was the same with emotions what if those lower and slower motions is your emotional body trying to talk to you to tell you something's out of whack here something's out of alignment there's an inner conflict and you miss it which by the way is what the majority of people on the planet do again we talked about that conditioning certainly as a man I was taught that you know we're we're supposed to think the person with the most thoughts wins you're supposed to be intelligent you're not supposed to be this feeling person and so therefore you're missing out on your emotional body telling you something's out of whack right yeah it says it right here it says these feelings serve a purpose a very important purpose by cutting yourself off from them by denying them you miss you miss out on an important part of life the answer is to stay and face up to life all of life and to do so you must learn to accept the lower and slower uncomfortable feelings so yeah right it's but it just doesn't it's counterintuitive right because you know what Abraham is always saying there's nothing more important than to feel good right so if I'm not feeling good then I'm doing something wrong right you know right right but Abraham also yes I hear you but Abraham also has their scale of emotions and they always say try to reach for the best feeling emotion well in order to do that they're recognizing they're they're teaching us to recognize that we're in the basement we're we're in the basement of that hierarchy we're in depression we're in despondency we're in hopelessness right mm-hmm and I think when they say and I can't I can't speak for for Esther Hicks but I think when Abraham is saying reach for a higher feeling emotion they're saying find out the cause of that misalignment that is causing the anger the frustration the anxiety the despondency and work towards resolving it so that you can move to a higher vibrating emotion and and shelters are just goes I think a little bit farther what they're saying is you're not going to work that out by disconnecting from those feelings because your feelings are your are your thermometer you're there your barometer they're the ones that measure so if you've disconnected from them how are you really gonna know when you're in the lower and slower and when you're slowly climbing out I had a bout of lower and slower this weekend and I will tell you which is really I think miraculous thank you for choosing this message embracing the full spectrum of your emotions just listening to it allowed me to shift and I and I tried to figure out well how come I was feeling better after I listened to this 11 minute message than before and what popped into my mind was Shaltazar gave me permission to be okay with what I was feeling and the minute I was okay with it it seemed to disappear mm-hmm the minute I gave myself permission I'm repeating myself because because it's a it's an important insight for me the minute I gave myself permission to be okay and when I was finished I simply said I'm okay with feeling and then I filled in the blank right I'm okay I give myself permission to feel this and then it was gone yeah yeah which is kind of interesting so it's almost like a capacitor discharging you know discharging a flashbulb or something you know it's like it builds up this it builds up this charge and if you don't follow that process to diffuse it or to let it to let the energy you know dissipate then you hold it inside yourself and then it eats you right yeah another example is water a valve right that you get a build up in the garden hose right right and and if you've got that garden hose on full blast you will notice right depending on on the thickness of that hose you'll not it was a bulge right right the hose starts to bulge and then if you take your you know whatever is blocking the flow if you open it up it goes and then you're back in normal flow and and this is reminding me of the work that the late Debbie Ford did and and also I think Deepak Chopra in shadow work it's often referred to as shadow work and people learn to love the shadow the the book I'm referring to Debbie Ford's was I believe it was called the light side of dark chasers and she talked about the fact that people that didn't deal with these these unpleasant lower slower emotions they would build up and explode like a volcano so the person that has an angry outburst is someone that has most likely been stifling that anger for years and years and then all of a sudden it it blows up and so the book was really a great book and it also helped me understand this shadow work and I truly believe especially in this important time in human history with all of the fear that's coming out and all of the anger and everybody being mad at everybody else and criticizing in the infighting if we don't do something about our shadow emotions if we don't do something about those lower and slower emotions we don't connect to them diffuse them let them be expressed in a healthy and appropriate way I think the consequences that planet Earth is going to have to deal with I you know I hate to say it are going to be mmm more severe than the pandemic was yeah yeah that's a terrifying thought right and it's it seems so simple to at the same time right it's it's not it kind of comes down to patience I think you know patience for yourself and how you're feeling and patience for realizing that other people are feeling the same way or feeling their feelings and you know what not judging it as good or bad or right or wrong it just it is what it is that makes sense it makes a hundred percent sense but I want to go back because I think you're on to something you you you made the comment the point it seems so simple well it does and so what is it what is it that is preventing the bulk of humanity from not doing that which seems so simple I mean here it is we're having this conversation anybody that's listening I would would think that they would agree with us this makes sense right but yet it's not something we do so what is it what's that issue that's blocking us yeah well you mentioned the word attachment earlier and I was I shared this with you I was listening to a Anthony de Mello recording about attachment and it seems like attachment kind of is the is the source of all suffering in fact not a couple weeks after I listen to that Anthony de Mello recording I read a quote from somebody that's Buddha said that actually that attachment is the root of all suffering and it seems like the only explanation is that that we become so attached to either our you become attached to our what they call our disconnection from our emotions we become attached to that way of reacting or living or or or you know dealing with our emotions and when we become attached to our you know our world view in that respect perhaps you know that we can't if we can't let those things go then we can't move beyond it and and we become we're kind of say defending ourselves from everybody everybody else's world view and everybody else who's willing to be surreptitiously rendered to it and detach from it I don't know it makes sense makes total sense Tony Robbins I remember a quote from him that we are attracted to pleasure and we are deterred from pain well if we stop and think about it at a young age okay so I think that there are two major reasons that we do not see the simplicity in this the first one is that we have made lower and slower feelings pain so from a young age you cry your parents tell you don't cry don't be a baby you know all of those things don't be angry don't be this don't be that right suck it up and and be strong and all of those it would be you know I'm sure if people sort of went back to as far back as you can remember you would realize you were inundated with conditioned beliefs that told you that those lower and slower feelings are pain and they're to be avoided at all costs so based on what you're talking about attachment we are being taught run for the hills if that unpleasant feeling comes up you don't want to be attached to it right I coach many many people when we try to drain the stroke and the swamp and we get into into those unexpressed emotions I remember when I started to do it that the shaman that I went to said that my my gut area was like a was like a tarfield and it's easy to think of when you start going into those suppressed unexpressed emotions that you're gonna be a you know you're gonna be a massive you're gonna be you're gonna be sad you're gonna cry every day well that's not true but so therefore all of these beliefs say stay away from the quote unquote bad emotions do not get attached whatever you do to bad emotions so I think that's that's the one part of it the other part is well what are we attached to we're attached to gratification everything in life whether whether no matter what it is just think about it okay think about you know we were we were talking about sports before and and why are we attracted to sports because we want our team to win and if our team wins we feel euphoric we feel happy we buy things to make ourselves feel good we dress a certain way to make our feel ourselves feel good most of what we're doing in life is we are trying to attach ourselves to things that we think will make us feel good and we are trying to stay away from or be detached from anything that makes us feel unpleasant well therefore what we've done is we've taken the simplicity of what we're saying out because we've all conditioned that we need to find there's an entitlement to find the feel-good feelings and there's a there's a feeling of fear that that you know if you go into the lower and slower so I think the answer to seeing it as being simple is to let go of our attachment to the feel-good things and let go of our fear of the not feel-good things and realize and that's what shelters are is trying to say that if we're going to accept the wholeness of life you have to accept the unpleasant as well as the pleasant they talk about love that which you do not like and to love doesn't necessarily mean to like so they're saying you know you're never going to like those unpleasant emotions but learn to accept them and that's what this message did for me today it allowed me to accept how I was feeling so I could move on mm-hmm exactly yeah we're about out of time but I'll kind of end with this quote from the art of from the from the message learn to accept it learn to love it even if you don't like it know that it is you a part of you and don't run away from it just yes which is accept your shadow love the parts of you you do not like mm-hmm there we go thank you for choosing this one mark and thank you for the healing because by you choosing it it allowed me to heal a little bit to get out of my lower and slower and and I think it did for you as well I hope it does for the listeners same same thanks everybody thank you love and light to everyone

Reviews

Thank you for this good talk, there is anotger aspect to the picture that I feel today that there is so much pain in the world, from environmental neglection to awful conflicts and wars so if I come and complain over my small pains in my personal life, I’m really not very “enlightened” / nor have I done my spiritual practice correct. For me, as you pointed out, allowing is a big part, allowing the darkness to come up, not attach to it, just let it flow, like the light sides. And try to raise my vibration even when I feel some resistance to do so. Namaste 🙏

2nd time listening to this, so helpful, thank you!

What a good reminder. I appreciated hearing that message today. It's right on. Thank you!