Take a nice deep breath,
Try to let go of.
Whatever tension you might be aware of in any part of your body.
And that way you will.
Be more likely to receive the impressions.
As opposed to have a sort of spontaneous resistance to them that tension by its nature creates.
Think we're going to get going.
Katie,
Let's bring up the title of the material for today.
It is entitled,
The Shocking Reason Why Your Fight with Life Never Seems to End.
Now,
I don't want to spend a lot of time here.
Have you noticed that no matter how many particular battles you win,
And we do win some.
And it may even be that some are required.
Much as Krishna tried to explain to Arjuna in the Bhagavad Gita,
Some of these fights are obligatory.
But what wasn't explained and hasn't been and needs to be is this idea.
That what we are asked to do,
We are given what is needed to do that.
And you will see what I'm speaking about once you have the bigger picture here.
Let's bring up the first key lesson,
Please.
It reads as follows,
Our enemy is not who or what we blame for the pain we suffer.
Ignorance.
Of the actual nature of pain is and has always been our one true adversary.
Ignorance of the nature of pain is and always has been our one true adversary.
There was a passage,
One line,
I guess in Hamlet.
Now we.
Maybe Horatio is speaking,
He says something along,
He says,
There are more things in heaven and earth,
Horatio,
Than are dreamt of in your philosophy.
There are more things in heaven and earth,
Horatio,
Than are dreamt of in your philosophy.
What was the implication there?
Basically that we can have all the knowledge in the world,
We can know what every philosopher,
Teacher,
Guru,
Shmuru ever said.
And no matter how refined that knowledge may be,
It is not the same as understanding that we live in a world much broader,
Much deeper,
Wider than our thoughts,
Than our philosophies will ever contain.
So with this in mind.
What we're going to do differently today is I'm going to play the three parts.
The three roles of a story that I have written and Revised.
To help you see something that can maybe best be seen through this sort of passive relationship that we have when we're engaged with listening to or watching something unfold in front of us.
So if you'll signal to me that you're ready,
That you have put down whatever extraneous devices you may be monkeying with,
Then we can get into this story.
I'm going to go line for line.
Here we go.
So I don't know,
Maybe you've had that feeling like this is the last resort.
The hero,
The heroine of our story,
Her name is Leslie.
She's come to the end of the rope and finally she's heard about a specific teacher of a sort.
Her name is Tess.
That may or may not be able to help her get past a certain hurdle in her life right now,
Which is that she's in a constant growing disagreement between herself and her partner that as it keeps escalating is destroying their relationship together.
And in essence,
Leslie tells Tess that she's having what feels like to her the same old argument.
And even when it seems for the moment that it's been resolved,
It's not long afterwards that yet another fight begins.
This continuation of this pain that she blames squarely on her partner.
And wants to know how is she going to get past this moment and get this person to see where it is that they are blind.
So with that stage set between the teacher and the student,
As you were between Tess,
The teacher,
And Leslie,
The student,
The one seeking help,
Seeking the healing.
I want to establish this idea of a relationship.
So Tess says to Leslie,
Have you ever?
Heard the expression,
Leslie,
That it takes two to tango.
Leslie somewhat reluctantly says,
Yeah,
I suppose.
But if this thing,
This relationship I have with my husband is a dance,
I want off the floor.
Tess says yes,
Exactly.
And you can be pretty sure,
Leslie,
That your partner feels the same way.
I mean,
Have you ever thought that in the midst of your conflict that he maybe suffering the same pain that you are?
I'll stop there for a moment.
When was the last time when you.
.
.
We're in a fight with another person that it occurred to you.
And not because I'm asking in this moment,
In real time.
That this person that you're having this conflict with.
May be in as much pain as you are in that moment.
Please ask yourself that question and answer it honestly,
Because I know the answer.
The answer is that never occurs to us.
And it never occurs to me,
Because honestly,
I don't care what you're feeling,
Because my feeling is that you have brought up this pain in me,
And I don't want it,
And you're responsible for it.
Does that hit the nail on the head,
Yes or no?
Do you see that?
So after asking Leslie this question,
Wondering whether or not she's ever thought that her husband may be suffering the same kind of pain that she is,
Leslie goes on and kind of sits back there and glares at Tess a little bit.
And looks her straight in the eye.
And asks,
As if there's no other possible answer to her question,
Leslie says,
Well,
Why should I care about what he's going through when he's the one that keeps dragging us into that same stupid fight?
So Tess.
.
.
Well ahead of what's going on takes a nice.
Slow deep breath,
Why don't you take one too,
Come back into your body as she did.
Hoping that if Leslie sees her relax in this way,
That maybe the anger that Leslie is feeling will be allowed to pass so that they can have a semblance of an intelligent conversation.
So Tess waits a minute.
And then says,
Leslie,
Would you?
Mind if I asked.
.
.
You a question of my own?
Leslie is slightly defensive again.
What's that?
She says.
And Tess says.
Could this pain.
.
.
Doing the talking for you right now.
And by that I mean you saying that you don't care that your partner is suffering like you are?
I mean,
Do you really feel that way?
Because if you really feel like you don't care,
That your husband,
You fill in the blanks people,
Your child,
Your dog,
Your wife,
Your brother.
That person at work,
The person serving you behind the counter.
Because if you really feel like you don't care what they're going through,
Then Tess goes on to tell Leslie,
I can't be of any help to you.
And neither will this talk be of any help to any of you.
Who haven't at least thought for a moment after you've said that troubling thing.
Passive cruel comment.
I wish I hadn't Because Tess says to Leslie,
If you're asking me to take your side in this matter,
I can't.
And there's no point in our conversation.
But,
Tess says,
On the other hand,
And only if you wish it.
Together.
We can look at the real reason for what's going on between the two of you.
Which is it to be?
Your certainty?
Grrr.
An exploration of the cause and the reason behind this certainty.
That blinds you to the conflict that everyone is in whenever you're engaged in a fight with them.
Everybody following the story?
I'm trying to keep this simple.
So Tess could tell in that moment by Leslie's reaction that the message intended got through.
And so when Leslie's face maybe for the first time relaxed during their conversation,
It seemed to Tess that that was a sign that Leslie was ready to listen.
And so Tess continued with her point.
Tested first.
If we wish to love our partner unconditionally.
Whoever or whatever that partner may be in that moment.
Pause for a second.
If it is our wish.
To love our partner,
Love the moment.
Love the news,
Whatever it might be,
To love it unconditionally.
No matter what it seems to be manifesting in front of us,
Even if it seems to be uncaring,
We must never return unkindness.
With unkindness.
Try to see this with me.
He makes that comment.
Reaction,
It's a challenge.
He doesn't care.
She's always had it in for me.
Instantaneous assessment that this person is filled with unkindness.
And you listen for a moment.
Maybe they are,
But we're going to understand the real nature of every unkind act before we're done with this material.
Even so,
We must never return unkindness with unkindness.
Can you see that nothing positive,
Helpful,
Healing in any stretch of the imagination can come out of a negative reaction?
That when we are in the grip of it,
Turns us into someone or something as unkind as unpleasant.
As may be the person or the condition that we're looking at,
Regardless of how justified we may feel in that moment.
This is important because honest to God,
And I'm not being dismissive.
If you don't understand that,
I have nothing to share with you.
There's nothing you will gain from sitting here and listening to this.
And so as I hope is true with you,
Leslie.
Listening to hers kind of gets it.
No one wants to be unkind and yet out comes this unkindness.
Leslie says,
Yeah,
I get it.
But I mean,
You know,
It's not as and so Leslie starts to do the old tap dancing,
Tess interrupts her.
Says,
Look,
That's why even if we are unable yet.
To enact this kind of love.
There must be no doubt in our mind that when we really love someone,
Whether it's our partner,
A family member,
A close friend,
Or anyone in the world that we meet that we know we mustn't be unkind to,
The last thing we want to do is hurt them.
The last thing we want to do is add any more pain to their life than they already have to bear.
That should be the last thing any human being ever wants to do.
That's why Christ said,
Love thy neighbor as thyself.
Tess says,
Will you agree with me on this point?
That the last thing you want to do is hurt another human being regardless what it is that they've done to you.
And I know this is a rough,
What's that,
Row to hoe.
So farmers do.
Because that's all I feel.
You said something,
You hurt me,
You,
In quotes,
Deliberately.
Did what you did.
An eye for an eye,
A tooth for a tooth,
Says this consciousness.
This vengeful consciousness.
That doesn't know that it does to itself before it does to another any action that it embraces.
Can you see this much with me?
Will you agree with me on this point?
I may not be able to do other than this,
But the fact is I know that I should never add pain to another person's life.
If you can feel that,
If you can remember that,
You have a chance.
Even if you can't act on it yet.
Back to the story.
So it seems clear at this point to Tess that Leslie is struggling to see what can be done.
Tessa's asking her to see.
Which is what?
Love and resentment,
Kindness and cruelty can never occupy the same space at the same time.
Love and resentment,
Kindness and cruelty can never occupy the same space at the same time.
And it was equally clear.
To test.
That Leslie's mind was kind of working overtime to resolve this contradiction that Leslie was feeling because on one hand Leslie agrees that I shouldn't hurt another human being?
But on the other hand,
That's pretty much the first thing that I do.
Is I want someone to feel the pain that they have put on me.
Because in quotes,
How else will they know they're wrong?
As if it's your responsibility.
So Leslie's taking all this and she looks back at Tess and having a certain shift in eyes take place,
Meaning a certain,
For a minute she was all on board,
The next minute something else comes along and she says in a kind of challenging tone to Tess that,
By the way,
Tess must have heard a thousand times before having this particular discussion with Leslie,
Because this is where every human being goes,
Tess representing wisdom.
Leslie says,
I know,
I know,
I know what you're saying is right.
But how else do you expect me to feel when he is so wrong?
Do you know that thought?
I'm asking you.
Leslie goes on,
There's only one thing I know for sure.
She looks Tess straight in the eye.
I'm not the one who picks the fight.
I'm not the one who starts that pain train rolling down the track.
To your point,
If he's in the same kind of pain that I am,
As you say he is,
I sure don't see it.
Still with me,
Everybody,
Because we're getting to a very important point in this story.
If he's in the same kind of pain I am,
Says Leslie,
You assert that he is,
I sure don't see it.
And Tess says,
Leslie.
That's the point.
You can't see his pain.
Because you are already a part of it.
You can't see his pain because you are already a part of it.
And Leslie immediately defends it.
What do you mean by that?
Test says,
I'll tell you what.
And one day you and your conversations with others will be able to make this kind of discernment.
Test could see there was that at that moment so much resistance had come up.
That Leslie was now in a certain kind of eye and there was no chance that anything is going to get through it.
She understands that she needs to continue with her intention.
And yet she's going to have to find another way to get around that particular identity that's come up,
That's filled with this anger and this frustration.
Because I'm not part of the problem.
I'm not involved in this pain.
You started it.
I'm the one who ends it.
So Tess says,
Look,
Let's forget about your husband for a moment.
We can best see what we need to.
If you're still willing to do that,
By looking at ourselves in any moment when a disagreement first gets started.
She goes on,
Have you ever wondered,
Leslie?
How your level,
And call it what you will,
Of impatience,
Frustration,
Just plain anger?
Can go from zero to 60 miles an hour in less than a split second?
How do you explain that,
Leslie?
Let's stop there for a moment.
I'm asking you now.
Have you ever wondered how impatience,
Frustration,
Or just plain anger can go from zero to 60 miles an hour in less than a split second?
Have you ever wondered how that's fun?
Here I am,
I'm enjoying my movie and my pizza in my chair,
And in comes a text message saying,
You've got to do this,
Or you didn't do that,
Or what?
And the next thing I know,
I stand up to go do something.
I forgot the pizza was in my lap.
It goes on the floor.
And then there's an eruption,
Isn't there?
So from peace to.
.
.
Planetary war in a heartbeat.
Do you know that experience?
How do you explain that,
Tess asked Leslie.
And Leslie says,
You know,
Honestly,
I guess I've never really thought about it.
Tess says exactly.
All such negative states.
Are powered by one kind or another of an unseen and therefore unresolved pain that lives in all of us.
Experience proves it true.
And just because the storm.
Of some past conflict has rolled by.
You know,
The two of you reach some mutual consent,
Just so that you could drop the flames that were starting to erupt around you.
Just because you arrived at a mutual consent doesn't mean that the cause of that conflict has gone away,
As recognized by the fact that in a heartbeat it comes back.
But this is what we think.
First,
I'm fully identified with the pain.
My mind tells me the source to blame.
The conflict mounts,
There's some kind of war.
And when the war seems impassable or I'm not going to win or for the sake of our children or whatever it is,
We'll just agree to disagree.
Meaning that the resentment lives on inside of me,
But for now I'm just going to put it away.
So at the end of that confrontation between Leslie and her husband,
Between any two people.
I'm asking you to see this.
Can you see there's always a residue?
Always a residue.
This is why you keep accounts.
You think it is you that keeps in mind these people that have hurt you.
It is not you that keeps this account,
But you are complicit in making that account longer and deeper and stronger every time you find some reason to blame that person for the pain you're in when their mind,
When their name or their appearance passes through your consciousness.
Yes,
Instantaneous negativity strat.
So at the end of any confrontation.
.
.
I'm asking you to see,
Even though you don't know it's there,
Is there a residue?
Is there some kind of grudge that goes underground just waiting for the right circumstances to come charging back out so that you can fight another day?
You see this with me?
Because if you can,
You're ahead of Leslie.
Leslie says,
I don't,
You know,
I'm not sure I understand.
Test says look.
Look at it this way.
Any unresolved difference between you and your partner.
I'm bringing you in.
Any unresolved difference between you and the moment that you're in.
Is like a grain of sand that slips inside of the oyster's shell and settles into the folds of its flesh.
And once that bit of sand is lodged there,
It becomes an irritant.
And the only defense the oyster has is to cover it up.
With a secretion which Tess goes on to say,
But offhand,
It's off topic,
But that's how pearls are formed.
So that that creature covers up the irritation.
Because it doesn't know what else to do with it.
And of course,
The oyster doesn't know what else to do with it.
It can't get rid of it.
But neither are we presently able,
In quotes,
To get rid of what we're always trying to free ourselves from.
Because we don't understand the nature of that pain and how it is being reproduced and reproduced and growing into something greater than it ever should have grown into to begin with.
So Leslie doing a little bit of a double take says,
Yeah,
I get it.
Look,
That's interesting,
The pearl stuff.
But what has that to do with my situation,
Let alone with me personally?
Test says.
Can you see Leslie again?
And let's take a nice deep breath,
Leslie,
You and I.
And just let go of any tension that might be forming in our body for this conversation.
Can you see,
Leslie?
How an unresolved issue between us and the one that we are involved with or the moment that has come.
To our front door.
Can you see how that unresolved issue is a kind of irritant?
It may have come and lodged itself and it may be covered up momentarily by all the thoughts that explain or otherwise justify our first reaction,
But eventually that thing remains and we get used to living with it.
God help us.
I'm mad.
We get used to living with irritation.
We get used to making peace with pain.
Because it promises if we just go here or we just do that,
If we just find this new health regime,
If we just find some new food,
If we just go somewhere and get something,
If we just earn something,
If we've just become something else.
So that we're always without knowing it,
Finding some way to live with that which should not be lived with,
But rather should be used to bring us back into the real life that understands everything that's taking place in us.
Now back to Tess.
Can you see what she's saying?
That this irritant remains.
And Tess goes on,
So when both partners.
Carry the seeds of this kind of pain.
A seed born of whatever unsettled objection that they had with one another to begin with,
Which in turn was produced by an irritant and only furthered the irritation as we've all seen,
Then the smallest spark between the two of you turns into a towering inferno,
Doesn't it,
Leslie?
What a different world this could be.
And should be.
If you understand any of what I'm discussing right here,
It's your responsibility to see that the world within you becomes a new world so that the world outside of you at least has a chance to see itself through a set of eyes that it would ordinarily never do.
So Leslie goes on.
Yeah,
I guess you're right.
But who knew?
She said.
Trying to analyze everything that's being told.
Who knew there was so much going on behind the scenes?
I mean,
If what you're saying is true.
And that's happening to both of us.
That's unbelievable.
And Leslie's kind of shaking her head,
Trying to grasp the bigger picture here.
And Tess says,
Yes,
Yes,
Yes,
That's good.
That's good.
You're beginning to glimpse the main point that I hoped you might see.
Please go on,
Says Leslie.
Tess says,
Even before a fight,
Let alone afterwards.
Even before a fight.
With him,
Her,
This,
That.
With your own nature,
With yourself,
Even before a fight,
Let alone afterwards,
You and your partner are living with a kind of pain that neither of you knows is bearing as well.
He's bearing that pain.
And you're bearing a pain.
And that pain was being.
Carried!
LODGED!
That irritant sitting there in the folds of this psychological skin.
Being covered up and covered up with every condition that brings it out,
That then we go,
Oh no,
I don't want that.
And the very resistance to the revelation of this irritant simply amplifies that which then is secreted in the subconsciousness,
Covering it up so that it can come back again only more.
So do you see what that means?
At least can you see what it might mean?
That you're sitting there having your coffee.
And your child walks in or the dog barks.
Or your husband asked,
Where's the toast?
A call comes to remind you of something that you had forgotten needs to be done.
And in a moment,
What is a molehill becomes a mountain.
Because it is an invisible pain buried inside of that unconscious nature.
That just needs something to trigger it,
Not you,
Trigger it,
So that then it can produce something to be against.
And fight with.
So as to prove to that same nature that it is not me that has this pain,
It's you that brings it.
You following me still,
Everybody?
Because Leslie's struggling.
I want to understand.
I really want to understand.
I don't want an enemy.
I want to understand what Christ said,
Love thine enemies.
Impossible to me.
And yet I know there's something in that if I could understand it would change me.
Tess says look.
Relax.
As simple as I can put it,
Regardless how it may appear in the moment.
And I know it appears otherwise.
But strictly speaking.
It's not your husband that starts the fight,
And neither are you the one that initiates the conflict between you.
It's not my husband that starts the fight?
And I'm not the one?
Who goes looking for him when I want to get something off of my chest.
Because of the conflict I'm in?
Lester says if it's not one of us.
Then what's going on?
What is it that does?
Create this conflict,
This war.
And Tess responds with our.
Key lesson number two.
Please,
Kate.
Here's what Tess says to Leslie.
I messed up,
Kate.
Tess says it's pain that picks the fight.
It's pain that picks the fight.
Disregard for now what Kate put up,
Please.
It's pain that picks the fight.
Leslie goes,
It's pain that picks the fight.
I see from what you've told me that.
.
.
That I come into that moment.
Irritated without knowing the irritation lodged there,
That pain.
But it never dawned on me that it might be that this tension,
This anxiety,
This pain that I'm in,
It never dawned on me that it's sitting there.
Requiring very little as like an ember of a fire requires just a little kindling and it ignites.
I think I'm seeing what you're showing me,
But what do I do?
Tess says,
Well,
If you understand what we've explored and discovered as being true here,
Then the answer to your question is right in front of us,
Right here,
Right now.
And now we can look at the key lesson that Kate put up.
Read along with me,
Please,
Everybody.
If pain picks the fight.
Then what we need is a new relationship with that level of suffering.
If pain picks the fight,
Then what we need is a new relationship with that level of suffering,
A relationship that begins with seeing No moment itself creates the pain we're in,
Let alone whatever we may be fighting with or over.
The pain is a creation of a conflicted level of consciousness that looks for a reason to live.
And unattended will always find something or someone to fight with.
That's the answer.
Says Tess.
To Leslie.
If pain is there,
As we can see it is,
When triggered,
It always finds someone to blame and therefore keeps itself hidden from the consciousness in which it is lodged.
Then we need a new relationship with the whole of that moment,
With the level of suffering that produces what we are discussing here.
Everybody following me this much so far?
Leslie is sitting there.
I don't even know what to make out of this.
I mean,
If I understood what you've just said,
Tess,
Which honestly I don't,
I sense it.
But let's just say I do.
How do I create this new relationship with pain?
Because I can see if I don't.
Then pain is going to determine my relationship with others.
If I don't create a new relationship with this tension,
With this fear,
With this anxiety.
Then this tension,
This fear,
This anxiety is going to create my relationship with everybody.
Gosh,
I hope you're getting this.
Tess says,
Yeah,
That's the point.
That's the point.
You see,
The task isn't that you create.
This new relationship with pain.
You can't!
Create that relationship.
But you can enter into it.
You can enter into the relationship that you already have with pain that you don't know you have with it because pain shows you what to blame for the relationship that you don't want to experience in that moment.
Key idea.
Unless they,
Perhaps like yourself,
Say,
I can sense it,
But how?
How do I do what you're describing?
How do I create a new relationship with this pain?
And here's what Tess answers.
Kate,
If you'll bring up the key lesson and the summary.
So far,
Please.
Read along with me,
Everybody.
Physician,
Heal thyself,
Said Christ.
But how,
Asks the would-be healer.
What am I to do with all of the pain that others inflict on me?
Christ answered.
See thine own pain before you blame another for it.
The healing you seek begins and ends there.
See thine own pain before you blame another for it.
The healing you seek begins and ends there.
So we're near the end of this material.
But I have an exercise.
A special exercise.
That encapsulates Everything.
Read what I just read.
That's not in scripture.
Christ said,
Physician,
Heal thyself.
That is in Scripture.
All I've done is taken the idea that Christ was alluding to and brought it into the context of this story.
So that a person could begin to understand what Christ was talking about.
Well,
Heal myself.
Everybody thinks they're healing themselves when they get rid of the idiots in their life.
When they find the next thing to go do and get and become so they can heal their fear.
I would like to go into a.
.
.
I can feel inside of Guy this wish to.
.
.
China.
Make it as evident as possible.
You can't heal a fear.
All you can do as that irritant appears.
Is hide it.
And you hide it through all of the things you do and try and go to get and become.
So that you constantly secrete around that fear,
That which allows it to remain palatable as part of yourself.
Because in that fear is always the promise.
If you do what it says to do,
That fear will go away and you have never come to the end of your fear.
Or the fight that it brings you into when life doesn't confirm what you thought you would get,
That new contentment or that peace of mind that always runs away as soon as you put it in your head.
Heal thyself,
Said Christ.
See thine own pain.
See thine own fear.
Before you blame another or the world or whatever it might be.
So here's the exercise.
Read along with me.
I had Kate post it so it'll stay up as all of these key lessons will.
Here's the exercise.
Nice deep breath.
Ideally.
We should always be attentive to whatever tension is present within us,
Mentally,
Physically,
Or emotionally speaking.
We should always be attentive to whatever tension is present within us,
Mentally,
Physically,
Or emotionally.
Your mind can be tense and your body relaxed.
Your body can have all kinds of tension in it,
But you might be identified with some emotion promising you that if you go someplace,
You'll be able to relax.
So you're not aware of the tension.
You're identified with the promise of finding an end to the pain in a time to come.
Whatever tension is present in us mentally,
Physically,
Emotionally.
My face is almost always tense.
Ask Leslie of Tess why.
Tess said,
Because you're always thinking about what to do to get rid of that pain.
Continuing the exercise.
Aware as possible of its pressure.
And attending to that suffering before it finds the fight it's looking for.
Aware as possible of its pressure.
And attending to that suffering before it finds the fight it's looking for.
Failing that intention,
Which most of us will and do.
Until we understand how important it is that our life be predicated on a completely different purpose than the one we have now,
Which,
By the way,
Is to mitigate the pain.
Failing that intention,
Then agreeing.
To suffer its nature,
The pain.
Agreeing to suffer the nature of that pain in the midst of whatever war it has deceived us to wage in its name.
When we work in this manner,
Then pain can't deceive us into taking its side against who or whatever it blames for its suffering.
When we work in this manner,
Then pain can't deceive us into taking its side.
Against who or whatever it blames for its suffering.
Pain picks the fight.
And when I take the side of pain,
It's the same as finding that which I blame so that in the promise of blame is escaping the pain because when I fix who I blame,
I won't be suffering anymore.
So without knowing it,
Pain deceives us into taking its side.
And we believe that its side is on our side because it's going to protect us from what?
From the pain that we're in when we identify with it.
When we work in this manner.
Which is what as aware of possible.
Attending to that.
Pain,
That suffering before it finds.
That means I'm getting ready to go to the supermarket.
And I know while I'm in that supermarket,
Something is going to bring up a surge of resistance.
There's no question about it.
You can't go anywhere without that happening,
Because that's what this machine does.
It's what this machine requires.
But if I can't have that intention,
Then at least when I find myself at odds with that person who's blocking the aisle while in their sleep,
They're searching through the yogurt,
Can't seeing how important it is that I get to my butter.
When we work in this manner,
Then pain can't deceive us into taking sides,
Into hating,
Into having enemies,
Into building lists.
It can't do it.
So that if we remain on the side of the seer,
Then we can be set free.
Have we communicated?
Have we found something in us?
That at whatever level it can understands.
That it's pain that picks the fight.
That it's pain that finds someone to blame.
So that it can have the continuity.
Of keeping that irritant,
That conflict in place,
Because so much depends upon that one day getting resolved.
It will never,
Pain is never resolved tomorrow.
Pain is never resolved tomorrow.
Pain is dismissed.
Or more accurately,
Pain is brought as a force in which we can enlist to help us understand that there is that world that philosophy cannot dream of,
But that we,
By the grace of God,
Can enter into.
And begin to understand not only what it means to lay ourselves down for the sake of our brother,
But to find a new kind of way to work with people that create problems for us.
So that we don't add to the pain they're already in because ultimately that's what they bring to our doorstep.
They have nothing else of their own except the hope that one day they'll be free of it if they can just get you,
Me,
Or they to do what they imagine is producing that pain.
We have about five minutes left.
And.
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We can use those five minutes if you want to,
If you have any questions or comments that you would like to.
Bring in,
Add,
Whatever the case may be now.
Now would be the time to do it.
Do,
If you can,
Join me tomorrow.
It's kind of.
A way in which these themes continue.
Yes,
Tony,
Pain is,
Pain is,
Or more accurately,
Resistance.
Keeps the pain in place that we don't see because resistance can't exist without what I insist upon that is being challenged by what it seems to insist upon.
It's just one nature working against itself.
And Anne,
You could say process the pain.
But see,
I'm not describing a mental exercise here.
I know I spoke in philosophical,
Psychological terms,
But nothing of what I said is in fact a psychological or philosophical exercise.
It is important that we understand that we acquire and embrace this knowledge that may have been latent in us,
That the speaker simply wakes up for a moment and we remember.
But there's no thought required in the remembrance of what is true,
Because what is true will always do for us what we've been unable to do up to that point.
When I'm disturbed,
Look within for the source.
Do it now.
Don't wait.
That's the whole point.
So much of the reason that we're always rushing,
Running,
Planning,
Doing,
Going.
Almost.
Except for a handful of conscious human beings.
Who may deliberately find something else to do to distract them so they can use another center.
Most of us,
What we call our distractions,
The pleasure of our distractions is really a way in which we're running from some kind of pain we're not aware of.
Which is quite different.
Easy to say.
Look within when one feels hurt and dismissed and mocked.
Yeah,
Easy to say.
Isn't that the truth?
Oh,
What a miracle the first time.
That you swallow the appearance of that pain instead of giving it someone else served up on a platter.
A new possibility.
A new possibility,
Oh my god!
And the first time you discover a new possibility,
You'll realize that there has always been a window,
A door.
All you had to do is walk into it and through it,
Through your willingness to explore what you were given to explore in that moment by the divine itself.