Relationship Magic

Relationship Magic is a course that offers a profound set of reliable, heart-healing principles that once put into practice will heal the hurts and misunderstandings that lie at the root of most relationship problems. Finley shares personal examples, helpful teaching stories, and new insights along with key lessons, thought-provoking Q&As, and practical exercises that can elevate any relationship from mundane to miraculous.

It’s not something most of us would admit to, at least not openly...but, nevertheless, it’s true: when it comes to many of our relationships—with family, friends, or lovers—or even a simple encounter with a stranger on the street—there often come times when a little “push” turns into a “shove.” And before we know it, we’ve either hurt someone we didn’t mean to, or...we’ve been hurt and beat a retreat.

Who hasn’t wondered about that age-old wisdom as concerns love and life...that “opposites attract”? Mostly we want to know, how does this law apply to me? Does it mean that whatever, or whomever, I feel drawn to is my opposite? And does this same law—that “opposites attract”—also apply to whatever, or whomever, I attract into my life?

There can only be one reason why we become emotionally negative with our partner, let alone consent to identify with its dark and debilitating embrace: we’ve forgotten that in every moment we have a choice as to what we love, and whose company we keep, accordingly.

It’s not more power that we need; what we really need is to stop agreeing to make ourselves powerless. If we hope to see any real transformation take place in our relationships—whether with family, friends, or our partner for life—then it is we who must become illuminated.

Before we can learn how to step outside the pattern set into motion by some habitual negative reaction toward our partner, we need a better understanding of the underlying forces that create it. In other words, we must find a way to look at these same moments through a “new set of eyes.

Stop Any Argument By Using These Five Simple Words: "This one is on me." I willingly agree to pay, not only for what these unconscious parts of myself have done in the past to cause you pain, but for any time to come ... should I forget what I have now seen is true.

Whenever we find ourselves in a fight of some kind, pretty much all we can see is who’s to blame for the pain we feel. This pain-induced blindness does more than just pit us against one another. In any disputed moment with a loved one, we’re not the only one suffering through it; our partner is in pain ... too.

Most of us have probably come across, or at least heard mentioned in some way, the iconic idea that “perfect love casts out fear.” There is in each of us a corresponding part to whatever is timelessly true, but casting out fear and its despair is only one of love’s powers.

Before any order of a new or higher love can enter into our heart, we must make room for it by “selling” – deliberately giving up—something that we once held as being of value to us. In exchange, we are awakened to a whole new level of relationship waiting for us to welcome it into our life.

There are a few basic principles we need to know if our wish is to learn how to nourish a loving relationship between our partner and ourself. We can call these basic tenets the ABCs of relationship magic.

When it comes to loving one another, waking up together, not only are we all still learning its innumerable possibilities but this kind of higher love has no end to the lessons it has to teach us. In other words: when it comes to love we are all, and always will be ... in training!