Who Is On Your Tree Of Life?

In this Podcast, I talk about our People "Tree of Life". Who are your root relationships? Who are your branches, and who are your leaves? How can you determine who fits where, and how to get the most out of your relationships?

Transcript

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Hi friends,

Welcome back.

Today we're going to be talking about who is on your tree of life.

So the beginning of March I had talked about my trip to Sedona,

Arizona with the Gloria Gemma Breast Cancer and Resource Foundation and the theme this year was the tree of life.

And I didn't really know how I was going to incorporate that theme in a spiritual way to the group to impact them in a way that would be helpful.

So I got to thinking and I realized that relationships,

And this is a concept I talk about often with clients,

Relationships are imperative to our soul and our connection and our growth and that connection and oneness with each other helps us shine.

So I talked about in the last episode about self-care and self-love and being with yourself.

And so today I really want to dive into how to be with others in a way that will uplift and inspire you.

So I like to categorize people in my life in three different sections,

Kind of like the tree of life.

So you have your leaf people,

You have your limb people and you have your root people.

And this is one of the classes that I taught in Sedona with the group.

It was called spiritual wisdom on relationships and the archangels working with relationships is Archangel Raphael and Archangel Raguel.

They're really great with relationship harmony.

They're really great,

Even more great with relationship conflict and they can really help us understand how the relationships in our lives are teaching us.

Now I'm a firm believer that everybody in your life is a teacher.

The difficult people are your shadow teachers and the ones that you love and have these soul connections,

They're like your light teachers and neither is good or bad,

Positive or negative.

It just is,

And this is the contrast.

So what was happening was for a long time I kind of found myself continuously being disappointed by the people in my life and I felt lonely and I felt sad and I felt depressed and I couldn't understand why I didn't have these fulfilling relationships in my lives.

And so I was reading something,

I came across something that talked about relationships in your tree of life.

And now I have just taken that concept and I've just explored it and I've applied it in such a spiritual way and I want to share that with you today.

So if you do struggle in relationships and you're surrounded by negative and toxic people or you are being disappointed by friends that you're helping that aren't helping you in return,

Are you giving to people that you're expecting to receive back and you're not receiving it?

I like to categorize people in my life in healthy,

Healthy ways.

So I have to say I have leaf people in my life,

Limb people and root people and so do you.

And this is the breakdown.

So leaf people,

Leaf people in your life are people that seem to come and go like the leaves of trees,

They change with the seasons.

And I have to say there are some beautiful leaf people in my life.

And I have to say a lot of the women on that Sedona trip are beautiful leaf people and some of them are even limb people for me.

And what that means is they're positive,

Happy people that I gather together to have a good time and enjoy,

But they're not necessarily people that I'm going to be reaching out to and texting,

Pouring my heart out to.

We come together to laugh and play and sing and dance.

I have another group of friends that we go out and we go to concerts together.

We have Christmas pajama parties together.

We have scary movie nights together.

And I consider them really great leaf people in my life.

So we gather together.

We have a really good time.

But when we leave each other,

I have to say we're not we're not texting each other every day.

We're not calling each other all the time.

We may check in with each other.

But you know,

When we do gather together,

It's like no time has been lost.

So leaf people kind of come and go.

But again,

There are people that you want to laugh and play and sing and dance with.

So then we move down the tree and you have your limb people.

So limb people are a little stronger than leaf people.

So when the wind blows,

They're not coming and going.

They're a little more sturdy and strong.

But limb people is is again,

There's there's they're more sturdy and strong and they're people you want to lean on.

But step out on limbs and remember limbs break.

So limbs are a little more solid.

So for example,

My mother is a limb person for me right now.

She used to be a root person.

She's going through a lot of changes and she's become a limb person for me.

And there's no judgment to that people on your tree.

You know,

The root people are no better than the limb people.

The limb people are no better than the leaf people.

They're all part of the same collection of energy.

It's just where when I'm struggling with something or something that I need,

I'm going to go with.

So my mother,

For example,

Is a limb person.

So when I was planning and preparing for my 10th business anniversary party that I had in October of last year,

I had kind of taken on too much,

Which is kind of what I do and I'm learning from.

And I needed to put these favors together.

Now I know my mom is really good at keeping things nice and neat.

So I knew if I asked her to do this job that the favors would come out beautiful.

They'd be nice and neat.

They'd be packaged nice.

And so in that moment I was able to really lean on my mom because I was overwhelmed with all the tasks that I had to do.

And so she sat down and she put together these mint packages.

I had junior mints and I had peppermint patties and I had these delicious mints and they were going to be gifts to everybody who came to my party.

And she made them so perfect and it felt so good to have somebody to lean on when I was struggling and overwhelmed with all the tasks.

So I wasn't going to call a leaf person.

And in that moment I realized,

Okay,

I need my limb person.

And again,

I went to my mom and she helped me and it was perfect and wonderful and everybody loved the favors.

Now your root people.

Your root people are people that when you are at your worst,

When you are struggling,

Your root people are the ones that will show up in your life.

Your root people do not necessarily have to be ones that are in your life all the time.

Right now,

My root people are my therapist,

Life coach and mentor.

And my bookkeeper is a root person for me.

And those are two areas that I struggle with my emotions and my financial security because I have,

I know me,

I am really great at gathering people together.

I'm really good at communicating,

Helping people feel good,

You know,

Bringing that inspiration.

I am not good at bookkeeping.

I am not good at finances.

And this is why I have a beautiful root person in my life who helps me every step of the way.

It's part of my team.

And so these are the root people in my life right now,

But they're not necessarily people that I'm going to be texting and saying,

Hey,

Let's go out and do this.

They're not necessarily people that I'm going to be having fun with that I talk to all the time.

And I have to say what I've noticed about root people,

Root people tend to be balanced in their own life.

They tend to have their,

You know what together,

They tend to be ones that are grounded and really have had,

Um,

Life experience themselves to be able to help you when you're really struggling.

So when I am going through something,

A challenge,

A problem,

A difficulty,

I asked myself,

Like,

What do I need right now?

Do I need a leaf person to go out and have some fun and laugh and play?

Do I need a limb person that I can talk to and lean on and ask for support?

Do I really need my root people?

So when I had that emotional breakdown in January,

I really leaned on my root people.

And I have to say,

I did,

Um,

I did experience some of my limb people too,

Who kind of came out of the woodworks to help and offer me kindness.

And this is that part of reaching out and asking and receiving from these people.

So there are people in your life that,

You know,

Maybe you want to be your root person,

And that's just not who they are.

For me,

When I can accept people and the relationships in my life as they are,

Um,

I find I'm less disappointed by people.

You know,

So many times I was going to,

Um,

You know,

Struggling and I was going to my mom and she just,

And that moment just didn't have the,

Um,

Capability to help me in the way I needed.

And I didn't have the answers and I was constantly disappointed and it's not her fault.

You know,

It's,

It's who she is and it's what she's going through.

And I love my mother very much,

You know,

But you're going to find that,

You know,

Your sisters and brothers and your moms and dads and maybe friends that you've been with for 20 years aren't necessarily your root people anymore.

They may not even be your limb people.

They may leave,

Believe people.

And when you can see that,

I believe that it helps so much more for you when you're going through whatever you're going through in your life.

And so I shared this with the group and I'm in Sedona and,

Um,

I think there was some confusion like leaf people aren't necessarily,

Um,

Like leaf people are not the toxic,

Difficult people in your life.

Um,

Leaf people are people that come and go in your life that you go and have adventure,

Play,

Laughter,

Fun,

You can be free with same thing with limb people.

You're doing those things with limb people.

And like I said,

Your root people are people that are more solid and sturdy and we're talking about pine tree roots.

So pine tree roots route like deep into the ground and these are the type of root people that you want.

Now I have to say my boyfriend right now is a limb person and he's becoming a root person.

So throughout your life as you're moving and growing,

These people in your life are going to move in up and down your tree.

They're going to go from root to limb to leave,

To root,

To leaf,

To limb.

Um,

And,

And again,

When you can be mindful of that,

It will help you so much with,

With relationships and connection and,

And,

And,

And,

And being one with other people.

So I also want to talk about when I was in Sedona,

We,

We talked about,

Um,

A lot about like negative and toxic people.

And I came up with the idea of them being your termites in your tree.

So there are negative toxic people,

Um,

All over the place.

And I have to say they are some of your and my greatest teachers,

But you do not want termites in your tree.

You do not want termites in your home or your tree of life.

And Oprah says it,

Tony Robbins says it,

Joel Osteen says it,

Steve Harvey says it.

All these people have become successful and joyous,

Connecting with God,

Connecting with family and friends.

And they are very mindful of removing the termites out of their tree.

So if you have people that are negative and toxic,

And I have to say people go through stuff,

They don't get the help that they need.

Um,

They want to latch on and they want you to fix them and save them and change them and make them better.

They could be your husbands,

They could be your children,

They could be your wives,

They could be your sisters and brothers and best friends.

And what happens is they're going through something in their life.

There's something that happened that are making them mean and hurtful.

And I have to say,

We saw that on,

On this trip,

Um,

In Sedona,

You know,

We saw,

Um,

The paradigm of these termites in,

In their tree of life and how toxic it was because we were surrounded by so many beautiful people.

So it doesn't mean that you have to call up these people and say,

Your energy no longer serves me anymore.

You can't be in my life or in my tree of life.

But what it does mean is start spending time and doing the things that you love with the people that you enjoy being with.

Um,

Fill your time with things,

Um,

Like self care and self love.

Call on the Archangel Raguelle call on the Archangel Raphael to,

Um,

Invite people in your life that will be a beautiful part of your tree or a tree of life.

And I have to say,

I feel in this moment in my life,

Very balanced.

I feel very grounded.

I feel very connected with God.

I feel very empowered and it's through these concepts that have helped me feel the way I have.

Now I know,

I don't know if you've listened to pad past podcast where I share my story.

I am somebody who grew up being picked on in junior high,

Having a very negative self image of myself struggling with eaters eating disorders.

Um,

There was a suicide attempt when I was 19,

Um,

In really bad toxic relationships with,

Um,

With significant others and friends in my life.

And I have to say it's,

It's because of them that I've learned so much about myself.

So I truly appreciate them in my life.

But this point that I'm in right now in my life,

They no longer need to be in my life.

And what happens,

I know maybe some of you are struggling with difficult toxic people in your life now and aren't really sure.

You know,

When you let terminates go,

What happens?

They eat away,

Eat away,

Eat away.

And the more it grows,

The harder it is to,

Um,

Eliminate.

So you have to remember that it may be difficult to get that out of your,

Out of your life now,

But you are worthy and deserving of receiving so much more when you clear that energy and those people places,

Things and ideas out of your life of that negative and that toxic energy,

You are making room for so much more in your life.

And I have to say there's so many people that I know that are clearing out the termites out of their tree and they're in the space of feeling a little lost and feeling a little empty.

And,

Um,

And I have to say that's a transitional space.

I firmly believe that God doesn't take anything away unless he's going to replace it with something even better.

So you have to trust in all those moments that I felt lonely and I felt sad and all my past issues came up.

It gave me an opportunity to sit with it,

To talk to my root people about it,

To really heal and allow myself to,

To clear that energy from the inside out.

And I have to say,

I attract,

You know,

Really great people now.

And I have to say,

I can see the termites coming a mile away and well,

Not always.

Sometimes they get in and I'm like,

Hey now,

Wait a minute.

I didn't see that coming,

But I'm empowered and strong and uplifted enough to be able to set really good boundaries.

I don't have to be mean to people.

I don't have to shun people.

I can use my voice.

And I have to say,

When I have to have a difficult conversation with somebody,

I always call on the Archangel Gabriel and ask Gabriel to help me speak from the heart with clear communication.

Now you don't have to go and label all your friends and saying,

Hey,

Leaf person,

Hey,

Limb person.

Um,

But inside you need to know who these people are on your tree.

And like I said,

It will help you tremendously.

And again,

It's,

It's accepting,

Accepting that these are the people in your life right now.

This is where they are on your tree of life and growing from there.

And so I hope this,

This talk today inspires you.

I hope it helps you with,

Um,

Relationships in your life.

And remember your soul needs the connections.

Relationships aren't always easy.

They're always an opportunity to grow.

And remember it's,

It's all about you.

You know,

It's got nothing to do with them and everything to do with how you're learning from it.

Good,

Bad or indifferent.

Um,

It's how you're learning.

So if you can give yourself a moment to stop and pause and ask yourself,

How are these T people teaching me?

What am I learning from them?

How am I feeling?

And I have to say when I'm with people.

So when I was with that group in Sedona and we were gathered together and they are the most beautiful heart centered people that I've ever met.

They're so caring and so giving and so loving and I felt so safe in that environment.

I just asked God to bring me more of that.

When I felt good in those moments,

I said,

God,

Bring me more of these people in my life.

Bring me more of these experiences in my life or something even better.

I asked the armies of angels to go out and reach those people and,

And bring those people into my life because I am worthy and deserving of receiving that and I really believe you are too.

So I thank you for listening and I am going to finish this podcast with an affirmation from my collection and the word I chose today is whole.

My mind and body are connected by the tenderness of my heart.

I am whole.

So friends,

I thank you for listening and as always,

I send you love with heavenly hugs.

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Reviews

Beautiful! No termites lol

What a brilliant way to look at the people in my life... Love it! Thank you Gladys for sharing your beautiful light💜 x