People reject because they can't be intimate,
Cannot hold eye contact,
Because we are mirrors to each other and all the pent-up energy would come out.
When you are rejected,
When others look away or close off their feel to you,
They are rejecting themselves first,
Because their true self,
Their inner child,
Their soul wants that connection as much as you do.
Every time someone speaks or emits emotion or communicates in any way to you,
Observe as if it's not to you,
Rather just a radiating essence coming from inside of that person,
From their life.
That way,
When you get a disgusted gaze,
It's not you who is actually disgusting,
It is them who are feeling disgusting in their life for some reason.
When you are rejected,
It is not you who is rejected,
It is that person which is closed off and rejecting some part of themselves.
Transparency is hard,
Because you yourself also have to look at the thing you are presenting to the other person,
Vulnerable,
Open,
Which requires accepting it all first to be able to face it.
We have forgotten what true friendship feels like,
What true integrity and honesty and transparency feels like,
What a safe space to share feels like.
Maybe we never had any space like this,
Or any of the things above from our parents to even know what it feels like in the first place.
We are overfed and constipated on all levels of density,
And none of it is life-nourishing.
Everything is outsourced,
Yet we are the source all along.
We are each other's resources,
If we are sources in the first place.
Otherwise,
We drain each other instead of connecting.
So when setting boundaries,
You have to make the choice to leave.
You make the choice to move on.
You are the one to either connect or disconnect.
It's not about pushing somebody away,
It's about you distancing yourself from something that is unhealthy for you.
We are the ones who have to leave the other in their reality,
Not push them out of it in order to set our boundary.
We can't guarantee the other will move if we push,
Or they will stubbornly stay and even enjoy the drama fight stimulation,
And then nothing changes.
If you leave,
You are sure that you are holding your space.
Be honest with yourself.
Am I still feeding my attention into this person,
This situation,
And this memory?
We can look away,
Yet our aura and attention can still be on it.
You cannot lie to yourself about what you are attached to and focused on.
This is not about appearing that you don't care to the external world.
It is about the truth genuinely inside of you.
Am I still focused or not?
There is no reason to prove that we can endure and endure.
We are not strong if we choose unhealthy over and over again until it becomes healthy,
Because it will not.
Allow yourself to be weak in whoever's eyes by saying,
I don't want this anymore.
It's too much for me on any level.
Your intuition knows this.
It is your mind that is having a hard time accepting.
Trust yourself.
It is what is best for you at this time.
