Friendship Can Only Be Understood By An Unchildish Mind

**Note: Truth does not always sound pleasant. If the mind is not really peaceful now, it might not be a perfect moment to listen to this podcast, one has to be aware of the emotions or reactions that can block one from listenING ATTENTIVELY and with HUMILITY.

Listening to this talk is meditation. What one needs to do is listen attentively, without being stuck in words, examine the mind in silence, no agree or disagree, just look at the mind as it is. Doing so is already part of true meditation.

Transcript

To really understand what is friendship is to stop being childish.

To stop being childish is to have care.

Children need taking care of.

Being childish means craving being taken care of.

Being mature is to give care.

The egocentric mind is childish.

It is selfish only craves being taken care of.

In that reason,

It only enhances this oscillation.

So to understand what is friendship,

One has to understand what is care.

Have you ever really cared about somebody?

Or your consciousness is only about you all the time?

Care only exists in one's action.

Like when a mother's child is in danger,

The mother will do something immediately to protect the child,

Not ask the child,

Do you need some help?

So funny,

Isn't it?

Look at our life,

It is so verbal.

It is full of all kinds of funny things.

To care is to do,

Not to see something present.

I will do this for you,

Then nothing happens.

Care only exists in action,

In the very acting,

Else there's no care.

Verbal things are nothing.

But look at life,

The verbal things become so important,

Then nothing happens.

To the speaker,

Making friends is very cautious.

Because a friend is somebody you give care to,

Not to use as a trash can to tolerate the childish behaviors.

But look around this world.

The mind is so craving for all kinds of socializing,

To alleviate this isolation.

And we don't take people seriously.

The mind is very cunning to make most of the people,

Not really take care of them.

And this creates such a challenge of living.

Promising that should be serious has been made so unserious.

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very insightful