How To Know It's The Right Time

Have you ever told yourself or someone else that you’re just waiting for the “right” time? I definitely have. Many times.

Of course, there are better times than others to make certain decisions. But the truth is — whether we want to admit it or not — there NEVER really is a “right” time.

In essence, it comes down to how much we really WANT something, and what challenges we’re WILLING to take on during the process of getting it. Basically, the “right” time is the time you decide to make it right.

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Transcript

Hello,

My name is Katia Vaz.

I'm a life coach and a non-violent communication facilitator.

I'm here to share simple and powerful ways to help you simplify your life by simplifying your mind.

Today let's talk about when is the perfect time to do something.

When is that right time?

I wonder.

Have you ever told yourself or someone else that you're just waiting for the right time?

I definitely have many times and of course there are better times than others to make certain decisions in our lives.

If you are maybe eight months pregnant or you just say had your knee operation for example,

It probably wouldn't be the right time to start training for a marathon.

But the thing is whether we want to admit it or not there never really is a right time.

In essence I think it comes down to how much we really want something and what challenges we're willing to take on during the process of manifesting it or creating it.

So basically the right time is the time you decide to make it right.

So what does it mean?

It means that we're ready whenever we decide for ourselves that the time is right.

So not when outside circumstances like your say financial situation or the relationship you're in or maybe the political climate of your country determine when the time is supposedly right.

Those are actually basically excuses that we use to delay change,

To delay the change we want to create deep inside.

I'd say that 90% of people just wait and wait and wait until things are kind of ready for them to change,

Like for the right time to start something.

But because they never read that there never really is a right time it kind of becomes a vicious cycle of waiting and sadly many of these people never really start what they dream of doing.

But on the flip side there's a small percentage of people who stop waiting and start doing,

Regardless of their experience,

Of you know what expertise they have or feeling fearful,

Maybe regardless of what other people are going to think about them.

So once these people start doing they realize a powerful,

Very powerful thing which is good things may come to those who wait but great things come to those who do.

Something I hear quite often actually related to the nature of my life or how I've been living my life in the last few years because I don't have a permanent base at the moment.

I've been in different countries,

I move around quite a lot because of my work and also because of you know the choice I've made in the last few years.

It's like oh that's something I've always wanted to do,

Oh it's my dream to take a sabbatical year or maybe they say to live in a different country or have no fixed base.

And I'm not saying you know what I'm doing is good or not good or amazing,

That's not the point.

It's actually the energy behind it so it's more than the words they're saying,

It's that spark in their eyes that gives it all away.

I think it's just like it's like magic really you know the way that our spirit shines through when we talk about a dream we have,

Don't you think so?

Or something we truly love.

Now imagine how you would feel if you were actually pursuing it you know whatever is the thing that you want to do,

You want to change,

You want to create,

Rather than just talking about it.

Wouldn't that be something special to experience at least once in your lifetime?

So let me ask you this,

What lights you up?

What have you hidden away but still nags at you from time to time asking to bring it to the light?

What is it that you want to build for yourself but you're too afraid to try?

So let's go deeper a little bit more and for that I'm going to offer you three points to reflect on if you're still waiting for the perfect time or for the right time to start doing what you really want to be doing with your life.

So point number one is there will never be a perfect time because you will never be totally ready.

Think about having children even if you haven't had children.

I'm sure you've heard and you've seen maybe but for me when I wanted to have my first baby I got kind of prepared and I thought I was getting ready.

So I read things,

I went to the doctor,

I did yoga,

I bought things for the baby.

I mean there were so many different things but there is no way and none of us that we're actually ready for when the baby comes.

We learn with experience,

We learn as we go along.

So I'm not saying oh don't get ready,

You know,

Don't prepare to do what you want to do but don't wait.

It's not about waiting for that perfect totally ready.

The totally ready does not exist.

It's like it's not about being totally ready but there will be a time that you will feel ready even if you don't have those things ready or prepared or whatever.

Like as we know some people just don't have that chance or that choice or whatever those circumstances to in the example of having a baby getting ready much anyway.

So your only job is to align your thoughts today so they can gradually move you towards that feeling of I am ready and that's what makes it the right time.

It's not the outside circumstance,

It's you deciding and feeling I'm ready.

So why do I say gradually?

Because readiness isn't something that appears all at once.

Well maybe in some movies it does and but that's,

You know,

Let's talk about human level here,

Normal human like us.

Readiness is something that you earn a little bit at a time at your own pace and very often it's actually from learning how to kind of dance with that negative talk that you know creates anxiety or self-doubt,

Fear,

But instead embracing these negative thoughts or the thoughts that don't serve you with an open mind and an open heart.

So once you're aware of them you can then start playing with these beliefs and thoughts and then you can start choosing new ones that will serve you rather than keep you stuck.

So let's go now to point number two.

Your goal is to make it simple.

Our brains love complicating things.

It's just the way it is by default.

So our job is to help it uncomplicate or discomplicate or simplify.

So it works for us rather than against us.

So there's a really good story that I love telling to illustrate this point which is there were two young fishermen who dreamt of kind of venturing themselves and exploring the open seas.

So the first one decided to focus on the bare minimum and the bare necessities.

So he asked himself what is the simplest and easiest way for me to sail out of here.

So he collected some driftwood and then he shaped them into a raft,

Put it out into the river and off he went into his new adventure.

The second fisherman opted for something a little bit more extravagant.

He didn't want to just sail in a raft.

He wanted to build himself a big boat made from nice thick trunks of oak.

So he spent the next year building the boat.

But as soon as the boat's foundation was ready he decided he wanted to add two leather seats.

So another year passed by and then the seats were ready to be installed and he figured out that actually since he was going to be sailing around the world he might as well expand the boat now rather than later to make it more spacious and more comfortable.

So you can imagine one year turned into two and then two into three and then almost a thousand sunsets later the first fisherman returned home to find his friend still exactly where he had left him on the shore still building his perfect boat.

So what's the moral of the story?

Don't complicate your life or waste your precious time by building a boat on the sidelines.

Simplify the process.

Focus on what's necessary.

Start small and then build yourself a raft.

Slide it into the river and off you go.

Because as you actively row and flow in the direction that you want you're gonna grow your raft into a boat.

That's the beauty of it.

Start the motion.

Start the momentum with small steps.

Let's go now to point number three.

Your growth zone will always begin at the edge of your comfort zone.

So here's our brain playing out again trying to keep us safe because by default that's what it does.

Our you know primitive part of our brain and it's okay but we of course we know better.

We know we don't need to stay in the cave.

We know with our evolved part of our brain that there are no dinosaurs out there and if we don't engage in new experiences we don't actually gain new perspectives.

We don't grow basically.

So I think that's the true nature of the human experience.

We're here on earth to evolve.

That's why it's called human evolution.

So where does that growth happen?

It begins at the edge of your comfort zone.

You know I like thinking about the comfort zone as being under that nice warm blanket really cozy in a kind of cold rainy afternoon and there is a movie you want to watch.

It's on in the cinemas just today and you really want to see it but it's just so cozy and you can't be bothered going out and getting out of that nice cozy place.

You will miss out because it's a movie you really want to watch and you might you know end up meeting someone having a really good conversation whatever but it's like tempting and it's kind of easier as well just to stay there.

So if we stay there we don't actually open ourselves to something different and new that could happen and that's the reason you stay stagnant where you are.

So how do you get out of that comfort zone and walk past its edges?

It's by paying attention to that nagging to that little voice saying come on let's go out there let's try how about this new thing.

It's the time you know that voice is saying it's time to make a change and it doesn't need to be a big huge change it could be something small it could be a new little adventure.

It's all inviting for expansion.

So we tend to think that discomfort is a bad thing it's our enemy and you know if you think about the example of getting out of the under the blankets and going out into the cinema in a cold wet day yeah there's a bit of discomfort because it's nice it's cozy you're dry so there is that zone of discomfort of getting out changing getting out in the cold getting the car whatever it is getting to the cinema it's part of getting out of your comfort zone.

So that's what we need to kind of reflect on and think that maybe if we change the way we're looking at discomfort and begin to see it as what I think what actually is it's our friend it's inviting us for more.

I actually believe it's our inner guidance telling us that we're meant for more because we are capable of more so let's go it's saying let's go come on.

So there you are the three points and I'm gonna close with I'm gonna ask you this again what have you hidden away but still nags at you from time to time asking to bring it to the light what is it that you want to build for yourself but you're too afraid to try and most importantly what are you waiting for and I'm actually going to close with this beautiful quote by young Pueblo a meditative vegetation teacher it says serious transformations begin with two commitments the courage to try new things and act in new ways and the honesty needed to no longer hide from or lie to ourselves I'm gonna read it one more time take in your heart serious transformations begin with two commitments the courage to try new things and act in new ways and the honesty needed to no longer hide from or lie to ourselves by young Pueblo.

Thank you for listening and I hope to speak to you soon again.

I'd love to know how you get on with your reflection and with your next steps.

Bye for now.