Repetition Is The Mother Of Skill (1 Of 7)

The reason for this series is the desire to walk the talk, take my own medicine, put myself in the "uncomfortzone." And by doing so, creating the conditions for growth. We can not repeat things and not learn from them, not grow. And it takes no talent to repeat things, just action - and of course learning how to deal with the fear of failing. The series is a mix of words, theories, models, and meditation.

Transcript

So these are the 36,

35,

34 seconds before I start my third live event on Inside Timer.

And in a minute or in 20 seconds you're going to be listening to my third live event talking about repetition as the mother of skill.

So let's go ahead.

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And we are live.

We are live.

We are live.

Just going to adjust the camera a bit.

Warm my head.

Good morning everybody.

First off,

Are you still sleeping?

Sleeping is still sleeping.

Hi sleeping.

First off I want to check if my lips are syncing with the sound.

Could you help me out with that?

Let me know.

Good morning from Belgium.

How do you say good morning in Belgium?

Okay,

Carla says yes.

Yes.

Okay,

Great.

Sound is perfect.

Awesome.

Alright,

Because let me start out by telling you this was actually the reason for me wanting to do these seven days of repetition as being the mother of skill.

This is my third live event.

I've done loads of things throughout my life.

But the moment that we get out of our comfort zone into new things,

We start getting,

I at least start getting nervous,

Right?

So the first event went really well.

I thought it went well because there were a lot of meditators and the content was good.

There was good flow,

But my lips were not syncing.

And I hate that myself.

On the second one,

I was more tired.

I was not really in my zone.

And I got a bit,

What do you call that,

Derailed because of the lips not syncing.

And then I decided or I reminded myself that if we want to,

You know,

Change something or become better at something,

We just need to repeat it,

Repeat it,

Repeat it,

Repeat it.

So this is the reason for me sitting here for the next seven days in the morning doing this stuff.

So let me just check where you guys from.

There was Belgium and who else is out there?

Canada.

Awesome.

I actually have I work as a psychotherapist.

That's my my daily job.

And I actually have a client from Canada that I got to know here in Denmark.

I'm in Denmark right now in the southern part of Denmark.

UK is in the house,

Beirut,

Ontario,

Canada as well.

Germany,

Gudemorgen.

My father actually lives in Bielefeld in Germany.

I'm originally from Chile.

I'm a political refugee.

I've been living here in Denmark for.

Yeah,

The past 44 years.

Vancouver.

I'd love to go to Canada.

All right.

But listen,

You guys,

Thanks a lot for being here.

I'm actually using you to become better at what I want to become better at.

But in the process,

I'm hoping to be able to give you a lot of different inspiration,

A lot of different theories and models.

So if you don't have a pen and paper ready and if you want to take notes,

Now is the time to grab some.

I'll just be talking a bit.

So just go ahead and grab some paper.

I have loads of paper here with my notes.

I have my growth diary.

I have my notes from my first notes from this morning.

And I have well,

Different things here.

I have my banana in case I needed some water.

So so please do grab a paper.

Russia.

Welcome.

California as well.

Los Angeles.

I love this about inside time of being able to do stuff like this this early in the morning,

At least here in Denmark and connect with you guys.

So let me start off by telling you a story.

I actually have lots of different stories,

But this one was the one that popped up this morning.

I have my clinic in Copenhagen and I trained to become a psychotherapist.

And I was really and I am really you know,

This is my love in regards to profession.

I'm really in love with this growing and developing and understanding myself,

Understanding other people and helping.

That's that's why I'm here.

So I was looking to find my own clinic and I went into this vacant one.

I didn't I couldn't afford the place that was on the right side.

So I had to look at the one on the left side.

But the moment that I opened the door into the one on the right side,

That was too expensive.

I just felt this.

Crazy emotion of arriving,

Of coming home.

And I ended up 30 minutes after leaving the building with a signed contract.

I didn't know how to you know,

How was I going to make this happen?

But the thing the reason for me sharing this with you is that when we make decisions based on what we believe is there because it's there,

Then things tend to work out.

Things I mean,

Depending on whether you believe in the universe,

The higher consciousness in God or wherever,

When we believe,

Then things in my experience start manifesting,

They start changing and and things start appearing.

So me doing this for the next seven days,

I am confident that it's happening because I'm meant to do this because it's a part of my journey.

So we're going to the way that I'm going to do this is it's 30 minutes that we're spending this morning and I might go a bit more.

I have I'm guiding a meditation at eight o'clock,

So we have some time.

But the way that I do this is that I talk some.

We meditate.

I talk,

We meditate.

I might draw something and share it with you.

My my the reason why I'm here is to make a significant change in people's lives.

And because I've met so many people who have done that for me,

Help me with that.

So whatever I can contribute with or whatever questions you you might write down here,

I'll do my very best to to answer and to share.

So let's start out by just getting comfortable.

So this is just our check in meditation just before we go ahead and start or continue talking and continue sharing.

So you might be sitting on a chair or on a pillow cross legged.

You might be laying down.

Meditation is what we make of it.

That's my approach to it.

You might have open eyes or closed eyes.

And just start noticing your breathing.

One thing to be specifically aware of are your eyes,

Relaxing your eyes,

The muscles in your eyes,

Relaxing your eyelids.

Relaxing your jaw and it can actually help to open up your mouth and not close it entirely,

But have it just a little bit open,

A little bit of air between between the teeth and relaxing your tongue inside your mouth.

So just relaxing that body,

Relaxing that mind.

And just be open to learning,

To experiencing.

So let's do three deep breaths.

And if you have a difficulty breathing down to the lower part of your lungs,

It can help to bend back your torso.

That way you will access more of the lower part of your lungs.

If you don't have any problem,

Do that.

You can just sit upright as you usually do.

But just take two more deep breaths.

And on the last one here,

Just create a small smile on your lips,

Just a small one.

Just enough so you can notice it in your eyes as well.

Okay,

So let's open our eyes and get ready for some more words,

Some more associations,

Maybe some notes on your behalf.

When I did my first talk at Big Heart Huxel,

That's the name in Danish,

The Big Heart House,

Which is my clinic,

My first talk,

I was really nervous,

Just as I was on the first live event two weeks ago.

And it was such a great experience,

But I remember what my therapist at that point had taught me and that I really take it to heart is that when we feel expansion and really happy,

Successful,

And we are something,

We can something,

Then to remember that I will also feel contraction.

I will also feel terrible as a failure,

Not knowing anything or not being anything and all of that.

So that when we do contract,

We will remember to remember that we will expand again.

So for me doing these live events,

I want to accept that I will contract and I will expand.

First one,

Great.

Second one,

Not so great.

This one feeling better already.

Why?

Because I've written down a lot of things here.

It's a lot of I am's.

It's a lot of I am willing to fail.

I am willing to feel everything.

I am willing to be 100% honest.

So you can you can ask me anything and I will answer honestly.

I'm willing not to give up.

I'm willing to have fun.

I'm willing to show my light.

I'm willing to ask for honest feedback.

I'm willing to feel my heart pound hard because it means that I'm doing something that I love and I'm willing to accept all this crazy energy inside of my body.

And then there's a lot of blank I'm willing to because when I finish this session,

I'm going to sit down.

I'm going to fill this out together with my my growth diary.

So everything that we've learned in life,

We've done by repetition.

Hence,

Repetition is the mother of skill.

All of us have learned how to walk,

Right?

No,

No,

No.

One of us gave up.

We've all learned to speak our language and nobody gave up.

We've all learned to write at a certain level.

Math.

I'm not that good at that at a certain level.

But when it comes to the inner parts,

You know,

The inner understanding emotions,

Understanding my mind,

Understanding my breathing.

We haven't had any you know,

How many of you have had classes in school about your breathing,

About your mind?

Nobody.

I mean,

There's certain schools,

Steiner schools that do this stuff,

But the majority of public schools don't do that stuff.

So this is up to us here and it's a timer through books,

Through whatever we can find to develop these skills,

Develop the emotional age,

Develop the spiritual consciousness,

Develop all of these things.

So repetition is the mother of skill.

And before we move on,

I want to draw this one thing for you.

It's a model which is quite simple,

But it's also very important.

So if you do have a paper at hand,

You can draw a staircase.

So the staircase is the way that we develop.

The first step,

The first staircase here is us being unconsciously competent,

Incompetent.

So what does that mean?

It means that I'm not aware yet that I'm not that good at doing live events on the inside timer.

I wasn't aware of that before I then did it.

And then this is the hard one.

I became consciously incompetent.

So we start out by being.

Unconsciously incompetent and then we become consciously incompetent.

So this was what happened for me the last time I realized that,

Man,

I suck at this and I didn't feel good and all these different emotions that I didn't want to feel.

But then I know that by wanting to feel everything and accepting it,

I need to move into a more creative role,

A creation role and then choose to do the things again and again and again.

Therefore,

The seven days of doing this is going to be a lot of repetition,

But I'm going to do it again and again and again because then I will feel more and more safe.

All right.

Does this make sense?

Just let me know in the comments if it makes sense or if you have any questions,

Let me know.

All right.

The first yes is there.

Great.

Awesome.

And also,

Please do write no.

And if you have a question or anything like that,

We're here to learn all of us.

Right.

Students of life.

All right.

So.

All right.

Thanks a lot.

Thanks a lot.

So let's go ahead and and meditate.

And what we're going to be meditating on like is the content of these talks.

So we're going to,

You know,

Talk,

Meditate,

Talk,

Meditate.

And now we're going to be meditating on what emotions,

What emotions are you not that keen on feeling?

What is it that you don't really want to accept in your body,

In your nervous system as something that you feel like?

And it's a bit strange to meditate on that,

But it's more to review,

To reveal.

There's a different word.

It's more to reveal what's standing in the way of you achieving what you actually want to achieve.

If it does become uncomfortable,

Just just back out of it.

We're going to be training different stuff,

But it's important to know what's actually in the way of me developing in the way that I want to develop.

All right.

So again,

Let's get comfortable.

And I'll do to challenge myself a bit and open eye meditation this time.

So get comfortable.

And if you do meditate with open eyes,

Just notice that there's a simultaneous attention on what's going on outside and what's going on inside,

But be primarily occupied with what's going on inside.

So being aware of your breathing.

Noticing that soft air coming in through your nostrils,

Noticing your belly rise and your chest rise and your belly going in again and your chest going in again.

If it feels natural,

Just create a small smile on your lips,

Relaxing your face,

Relaxing your eyes.

You might be able to feel or hear your heartbeat.

And really tune into that beautiful sound,

That beautiful feeling of that heart beating.

Just feel really feeling relaxed.

You're safe.

You don't need to do anything right now.

And if your mind does remind you of plans and things to do or things you've forgotten,

Just notice it and just let it go.

So having this calm and easy breathing.

When we take the next step in the meditation,

Just notice whether your breathing changes,

Whether your heart rhythm changes.

Because what I'm asking you to do now is to create images or memories or association to feelings that you're not that happy about feeling,

Something that you're not really willing to feel.

Just continue the easy breathing,

Calm breathing,

Listening to your heart at the same time as you're noticing or reminding yourself of the feelings that you're not that happy about feeling.

And it can be anything.

It can be anger,

It can be loneliness,

It can be not feeling inadequate.

Continue the easy,

Slow,

Heartwarming breathing.

Small smile if it makes sense,

If it's natural for you.

And just notice how you can actually breathe calmly and be at ease at the same time as you are thinking about or even feeling emotions that you are not that willing to feel.

Okay,

Now move away from that feeling that you're not that willing to feel and move into something that you're happy about feeling.

And it just takes an image of maybe kids or friends or something from your past to create that biochemistry inside of you and start feeling differently.

So let's just take a couple of deep breaths and just remember ourselves that everything is okay,

Everything is safe.

We're just practicing.

We're just noticing what happens when we do certain stuff inside of us,

Getting to know ourselves a bit better.

Okay,

So let's start moving the body,

Maybe stretching,

Maybe yawning a bit.

Okay.

Oh,

Thanks a lot.

That's from Jennifer.

Thanks a lot for the donation.

It makes the platform continue to do what it does.

Last regret,

Laziness,

Jealousy.

Which other words are you guys,

Which other feelings are you not really that willing to feel?

Let me see what's in the comments.

Anybody else?

And it's quite fine if you don't want to write anything,

But repetition is the mother of skill.

So the more we share this stuff and it's quite anonymous right here,

Right?

So the more we share this stuff,

We're actually accepting it inside of us,

Not being good enough,

Anger,

Being replaced,

Being not good enough,

Incompetent,

Loneliness,

Anxiety,

Underserving,

Shame,

Don't want to feel forgiveness.

So much stuff,

Right?

And it's all creating contraction,

All creating contraction.

And what it also does,

And this is quite normal because our brain has one function,

Which is to keep us alive.

The body is to reproduce,

Panic judgment.

So our brain has to learn from our past experiences.

So all of these things that you're writing,

All of these things that you're writing,

And be honest right now,

Is that based on experiences from today?

So all of these words,

Is that based on experiences from today?

Just write yes or no.

Shame of being alone.

Okay.

All right.

No,

No,

No.

Yes.

Carla,

Yes.

Great that you've been honest.

Kind of.

Okay.

So the thing is,

And my point with this is that much of what we're feeling,

We are reproducing.

Feelings are not something that is our feelings from the past because past,

Future is a construction.

It's something that we can do as human beings.

We're the only living creatures that can actually do this.

So this is a mental capacity,

A mental construction.

So what we do is that we,

Frustration,

Yes.

What we do is that we create the same biochemistry inside of us by creating a story.

So what story could I create in order for me not to do this again?

On the basis of the last live event,

I could have chosen to feel not good enough,

Feel incompetent,

Feel like I was not able to do anything good out of this.

And I know that it's super difficult,

But trust me,

I've had hundreds,

Maybe thousands of therapy sessions.

I've had so many teachers.

I've done so much stuff to try and let go of all this stuff.

Some stuff still remains,

But the growth mindset is about yes.

It's about you when you finish this session,

Taking up a piece of paper and writing yes at the top and writing,

Am I willing to.

.

.

And just fill it out with as many as possible.

Growth mindset is about accepting the past and accepting all of these things.

All of these things that you're writing,

Accepting that as something that has created the circumstances,

The circumstances have created your personality,

Your body,

The way it remembers and is a part of you.

But let's do what we can to not let that stand in the way of our future.

Because by recreating all the time,

We will recreate that as something which will come as well.

I hope that this makes sense.

And trust me again,

I'm saying this out of love and out of understanding because I'm still struggling with this.

That's why I'm doing this stuff seven days in a row.

And also,

A lot of other things that I've decided to do with time.

I'll share that with you afterwards.

So let me just see here.

Serena,

You're writing,

What if there's not from the past,

But only the fear that it may happen in the future?

OK,

So that are worrying thoughts,

Right?

It's worrying about stuff that might happen,

That hasn't happened yet.

Do you spend a lot of time worrying about this,

Serena?

Is it something every day?

OK,

So Serena writes,

Lately,

Yes.

So the thing is that,

Again,

Worrying is good.

Fear is good if it's in a balanced place,

Right?

If we can attach rational thinking to it,

Then fear becomes consciously.

We become aware of it and then we can make strategies on how to deal with it if it happens.

So the thing is that out of 100% of thoughts that are about worrying,

Only 2% become real.

Only 2% and you can check this,

Right?

Because Serena,

You're probably worried about this stuff forever.

Has it ever happened?

That's what you're writing,

Right?

It hasn't happened yet.

So we're worrying about what might happen.

So we're trying to create some kind of feeling safe about something that might happen.

But again,

We can challenge this by trying to see,

Is there a future or is it only in our mind?

And is it preventing me from doing what I want to do?

So I could easily imagine that there were no people in here today.

I could easily imagine that everything will go wrong with the technical stuff.

I could easily imagine that and then not do it.

But I'm not here to do that.

I'm here to make a significant change in the lives of all the people that I meet,

Including you guys out there.

Just as so many people have helped me.

I want to give back,

Right?

Yeah,

Exactly.

Only the 2%.

And the thing is that when the 2% become real,

All the worrying is of no use.

Because when we worry,

We become emotionally insecure.

And when it does become real,

We have to combine and practice it by creating some kind of cognitive,

Some kind of way of dealing with it in a practical way.

So,

So,

Serena,

Thank you so much for sharing.

We're all getting inspired by this and I'm learning again and again.

Because by repeating,

We learn again.

So you helping me right now to become even better at what I want to become better at,

Right?

So what you can do,

Serena,

Is to write down specifically what you are worried about happening and then writing six different strategies.

Six different things that you can do if it happens.

Reach out for a friend,

Contact the hospital.

I don't know what the content is and you don't need to share,

But you can do that.

So we need to look at what's blocking the way of what we want to achieve.

So I was so amazed the first session that I had because there were 181 and how many are we now?

67.

It's amazing!

So I was really,

Wow,

And I want to make this difference in the world because I've been given so much.

I want to give back,

Right?

So is my fear going to block that?

It is going to rise because I've had a terrible childhood just like most of you probably have.

But let's not let that stand in the way of what we want to achieve.

All right.

So let me just give this one a question.

Exactly.

Yeah,

Right,

Jennifer.

We have to cope with it.

And the thing is that we are going to get through it,

Right?

We might be miserable and create even more bad thoughts about ourselves,

But we are going to get through it.

Let's move into another set of meditation.

So let's get comfortable again.

So I'll practice my open eyes into the camera because that was one of the things that I wanted to challenge myself on.

Repeating again and again,

Looking only into the camera.

So I'm going to repeat that,

Even though to begin with it's a bit uncomfortable for me because it's a camera,

But I'm feeling you behind the camera.

So that's great.

So get comfortable.

Eyes open,

Eyes closed.

Up to you.

Laying down,

Cross legged on a chair.

It's up to you.

Just take a couple of deep breaths.

Small smile.

Just enough so you can feel it up in your eyes smiling as well.

Noticing the sound from your heart,

The sound from my voice.

Noticing the sound from your breathing.

So I'm going to share a sentence with you now and the sentence that I'm sharing you are very welcome to change it into something that might arise inside of you,

Which makes more sense.

And the sentence is,

I am the main awareness,

Inspired by Ramdas.

I am the main awareness.

And you can just repeat the sentence inside of you when you breathe in.

You can also repeat it under out breath.

It's up to you.

I am the main awareness.

I am the main awareness.

I am the main awareness.

Just noticing your breathing,

Noticing the sound of your heart,

My voice.

Feeling the body.

And hearing the sentence inside of you.

I am the main awareness.

I am the main awareness.

And you can say it out loud as well if you're comfortable doing that.

I am the main awareness.

And now you can just stop repeating the sentence and just sit in with what is.

Sit with the breathing.

The experience of your body,

The sounds.

The smile.

And finishing off here,

This set of meditation,

Just take a lot of love,

A lot of gratitude and really turn it towards yourself.

You've decided to sit here with me and practice,

Right?

You decided to try and get inspired and try and learn,

Try and repeat stuff.

For you to understand better and feel better and being able to share more.

Okay,

So let's finish this meditation.

Let's stretch the body.

I'm just going to check how much time.

Oh,

We have lots of time.

Or I have,

As I mentioned,

I have this guided meditation at eight,

So I'm just going to stretch it.

So just stay here if you want to.

If it makes sense,

If it creates value.

Awesome.

So I am the main awareness.

If you haven't watched the document to document with Ramdas,

R A M D A S S on Netflix,

Please do so.

I call him my guru.

I have a lot of people in my inner universe,

Resource people that we're also going to work with on one of the following sessions.

So Ramdas is there.

Dalai Lama is there.

My mother,

My father's there.

My brother's here.

My wife,

My kids.

I have all of these,

This bunch of people inside of me being resourceful,

Being somebody that I can turn to in my inner experience.

So I can meditate with Ramdas in the morning with Gandhi in the midday and my family in the evening inside of me.

So why is this important?

When we have a past which might have been very difficult,

We recreate that past again and again in my experience in order to try to heal it.

But we're not very skilled at it because we haven't been taught how to.

We haven't learned how to.

So we keep repeating the same stuff.

Usually it's below what I call the line where we go into victim or villain or hero so we can be harsh on ourselves.

All these words that you shared before we can turn that on ourselves and we can say you're not good enough.

You should be better.

You're such an unintelligent person.

And we're being a villain towards ourselves.

So we also become a victim,

Victim of circumstances in this example of the inner circumstances.

Then we go into the hero where we might eat.

We might surf on the web.

We might binge watch a lot of series.

We might overwork.

We might do a lot of stuff that makes us de-stress for a little while.

But you know that when you've done that,

Eaten something,

It takes a little bit.

Then you go into the villain again and you say,

My challenge is my addiction is food and sugar.

Then I go into the villain and I say,

Why did you do that?

You know,

You're going to feel so bad.

You know,

Good.

And then I go into the victim and what happens?

I go up to the hero again and hero myself by doing stuff like this.

So this is on an inner level.

So repetition is the mother skill also when it comes to bad habits.

So what we can do with this is to turn these acceptance of addiction,

Acceptance of inner circumstances and start looking at my growth mindset.

How can I grow?

How can I accept this?

And how can I start doing other stuff?

We don't even need to specifically change this,

But we can start developing other skills that we are more attracted to.

And this will mean that it's not going to be only diving into this,

Which can make things more difficult,

But focusing on this and then also dealing with the what we might call a trauma or conditions from our past.

So working on both sides is very doable.

Coaching primarily focuses on this,

On creating resources.

It might have been a bit of a messy description.

I hope that it makes sense.

So guys,

Could you just in the comment field let me know,

Are you with me?

Can you follow?

Does it make sense?

And if you do have any questions,

Just please go ahead.

Thanks a lot,

Serena.

So there's a yes.

And also please do if it doesn't make sense.

Just let me know if you have any questions or anything like that.

OK,

Totally with me.

Great.

OK,

So you can comment if you want.

It's just fine not to.

I tend to share all the things that arise right here and now.

Thanks for sharing.

Thanks not Indy.

Moi as well.

It does.

So what can we do?

The growth mindset is about accepting what is trying to accept what is and then finding out what can I practice today?

That compares to how I was yesterday.

We tend to compare with other people.

This is Jordan Peterson that talks about about this.

We tend to compare with the images we see on Instagram,

On Facebook.

Everybody's so happy.

And then we can feel even more miserable about ourselves.

Right.

So compared to you from yesterday.

And decide what can you repeat today again and again?

So that tomorrow you will compare yourself to today,

Where you actually made a difference.

You worked on your growth mindset.

You made a long list of what you wanted to become willing to feel.

And that way you will have one day after the other changing,

Not something that has to do with other people,

But something that has to do with you and the love that you feel for you.

It might sound a bit odd,

But let's fall in love with ourselves.

So that we can heal the wounds from the past and become the best friends to ourselves.

Let me see if there's any questions here.

Yeah,

Great.

Great,

Igor.

So Igor says some things are very new for me,

But I'm willing to learn them from you.

It's very enjoyable.

Thank you.

Thank you so much,

Igor.

So create a growth mindset to get out of feeling.

Exactly.

Exactly.

I'll share a little bit more with you about this.

Yeah,

Exactly.

I'm my yeah.

You are your own reference.

Exactly.

But we tend to,

You know,

Compare ourselves with other people all the time.

Right.

So let's let's try and stop doing that and focus more on,

You know,

Comparing us with ourselves.

So Igor,

One thing which is important for me is that I.

We tend to dream people up.

We want to have idols.

We want to have people that we can look up to.

They are humans just like us.

So so my path is not any different than any one of yours.

And you might also be a place where I'm not even yet.

So let's work and let's share and let's inspire each other.

And that way develop right.

My primarily focus on my kids,

Because I see what's been passed on to me from my parents and their parents and their parents.

So my focus on my kids and seven generations out here.

So I'm hoping to with all this stuff.

I run a skateboard school as well.

I've been skating since I was 13 years old.

And there are around 500 kids here.

And they learn about this competence ladder.

They learn about the line and all this stuff and they they they get it.

And that's awesome.

So the other thing that I wanted to share is what you wrote,

Marjolien.

So you have below the line victim,

Villain,

Hero.

It's all about drama.

It's all about being right,

Blaming or feeling fear,

Holding on to the past or below the line is the past above the line.

You move into consciousness,

You move into energy and flow and the victim becomes a creator.

So the last session I had life session,

I was in victim and I was knocking myself from the villain.

And I went out and and had some chocolate.

But then I know that this is we can't avoid being below the line.

It's just a way of looking at it and finding out,

OK,

What are my complexes?

What what can I learn?

How can I grow with this?

So I decided,

You know,

What,

What can I create?

And I have a good friend,

Hesh,

Which is probably also out there who gives me feedback.

And he and I and I said,

Well,

I should do this every day because I know that repetition is the mother of skill.

Right.

So by doing stuff every day,

We become more and more skillful at it.

So that's the creator.

And then there's the challenger.

So the villain becomes above the line,

A challenger.

And the hero becomes a support,

Becomes a coach.

So that way,

Below the line is contraction.

What I don't want to feel above the line is expansion.

What I do want to feel.

It is work in progress.

This can take years.

Let's just be realistic about it.

There's no fixing it.

There's no here now cure.

But comparing ourselves to yesterday.

These small steps,

Right?

The kids at the skateboard school,

They love when I when I explain it like the way that we eat an elephant for the new kids at the skate school.

They don't know what it was.

The answer.

The way that we eat the elephant is in small bites.

One bite at the day,

Putting down the bar as far as possible in order to achieve what we want to achieve and not be not late.

Letting the the fear of failure getting in the way.

So my bar that I said is that I decided that if there's zero attendance today,

I will go on and I will and I will do the stuff and I will practice looking into the camera.

I will practice being me.

I will practice being honest.

So it's sometimes we just put the bar up way too high.

And if we're here and we put the bar up here,

We're going to suffer for sure.

So we need to lower the bar and set the goals for each day that are 100 percent achievable.

Let me just see if there's some questions here.

Yeah,

So so fixed mindset,

Jennifer,

There might be some more comments up here,

But I can just see this one.

So so,

Yeah,

Fixed mindset below the line.

We're contracted growth mindset above the line expanded.

We are willing,

As you wrote,

Igor,

We're willing to learn.

We're willing to feel.

We're willing to let that fear of of not being good enough,

All of that,

Letting it arise and then smiling and letting it go and then creating something in the presence.

I am the main awareness letting that sink in because that's the part of us that will create new experiences.

I am the main awareness that I that is talking is the eye of love.

It's the it's the true self in my perspective.

It's you might use the word soul.

It's it's what we're here to do.

That is the consciousness of I am here.

I am the main awareness.

OK,

This and you guys we have I have 15 minutes before I need to do a guided meditation.

We have this group that started January 1st,

2020,

Because I decided to guide meditations for 366 days in 2020.

So we've continued that group.

We did the daily meditation.

I guide eight o'clock in the morning and six o'clock in the weekends and six o'clock in the weekdays.

So why?

Because repetition is the mother of skill.

Have I become a lot better at guiding meditations voice?

Definitely.

Am I good at guiding meditations?

Looking into a camera.

I'm consciously incompetent.

So I need to practice that again and again.

So listen,

Before we finish off,

I know that there might be a lot of different questions,

Things that I haven't followed up on,

But I'm going to do this this session.

I'm going to do that for the next six days also.

And I'll probably prolong it because.

Reposition is the mother of skill.

So.

Thanks a lot for the donation back.

Thanks for that comment about the calming voice.

It actually also calms me,

So that's good.

But listen,

Let's let's get comfortable.

Let's close eyes.

I'm going to close my eyes for this setting and.

Have this as our final meditation and thank you,

Meditation for for this session today.

So just noticing again,

Your body,

Your breathing,

Notice the energy inside of you.

Small smile on your lips if it feels natural to do so.

Just noticing the soft soothing air flowing into your lungs,

Providing energy and resources for the body.

And just noticing the soft and soothing out breath.

Relaxing the shoulders,

Relaxing the mind,

Emotions,

The body.

Listening to your heartbeat.

Feeling your heart beat.

Just being with what is.

Whatever might be.

Just being with that.

Not changing anything,

Not thinking bad or good,

Just being with it.

And just remind yourself that.

It doesn't take any skill set,

Any talent at all to repeat things.

And the only thing we need to grow is to repeat things.

It doesn't take any talent to repeat things.

Everybody can repeat things.

And the only thing we need to grow is repetition.

So finalizing this meditation,

If it does feel right for you,

You can place your left hand on your heart,

On your chest and the right hand on top of your left hand.

No words,

No intention apart from just experiencing what this does to you.

Let's open our eyes,

Stretch our bodies.

So thank you so so much for being here with me.

Thanks a lot for the sharing,

For the honesty.

Thanks a lot for the willingness to learn,

To inspire as well.

Thanks a lot for the donations.

Thanks a lot for the hearts.

It's heartwarming.

And I definitely look so much forward to continuing this journey with you on Inside Timer.

I love this platform.

It's done a lot for me.

And I actually do so much that I can to inspire a lot of other Danish meditators to get out there and share an Inside Timer.

So thank you so much.

I'll be here the next six days.

You can look at the tomorrow,

Sunday,

It's going to be 7 DK Danish time as well.

And the rest of the week,

Weekdays are going to be 7 o'clock in the morning.

As far as I recall,

But you can see it on the event side,

Right?

So thank you so much,

Guys,

All of you.

I hope that you have a great day and I hope to see some of you tomorrow.

One important thing is that,

Oh,

I don't know if it's important,

But it's an information.

I have sound recorded today's session because at this point the live events cannot be,

You know,

Replayed for you guys.

So I've sound recorded because what I want to do is also inspire newcomers on live events on what an approach could be to setting up this repetitionist mother of skill event so that they actually can become very comfortable at doing stuff like this.

So have a great day.

Thank you very much.

And I'll see you tomorrow if you're there.

Thanks a lot.

Thank you to all of you.

So I've clicked the end live and it's always such an amazing feeling and there's so many reflections to have right now for me.

So I'm going to go ahead now and do the guided meditation for the group that I have.

And afterwards I'll sit down with my growth diary,

With my notes,

Find out which things didn't I get to share that I wanted to,

Reminding myself that I have these next six days.

And if I choose to,

I can actually do the whole year 2021 with these sessions.

Will that enable me as an even greater,

More informative and more giving live event teacher?

Definitely.

So thanks a lot for being here and practicing and let's all of us continue sharing and continue growing.

Thank you so much.

Bye bye.