No More Sacrificing! (How To Build Better Relationships)

In this episode, I break down why I don't believe in sacrifice or compromise in relationships—with others and also with yourself—and I share some personal experiences with giving my power away in this way. I talk about the consequences that sacrifice and compromise have on our well-being and the impact it has on our relationships.

Please note: This track may include some explicit language.

Reviews

I would like to concur with everything TJ said. It was perfect. I found you and this talk at a very timely time as if the universe led me to you. It is my day's goal now to listen to many more of your insights.

Such an important message. This is why my current relationship is ending and I really appreciate your talking about how you feel about this. It has helped me as it confirms why I feel the relationship has ended and where I made mistakes. Thank you.

This was very helpful and supportive. Thank you so much.

Wow. Thank you for articulating how I feel right now. I want to break free of compromise and sacrifice but I'm meeting alot of resistance which is shaking my confidence. These thoughts are very helpful for me right now. I am deeply grateful. Thank you 😊

This episode is so full of wisdom! Our needs, boundaries, and our integrity are interwoven as our identity, aren’t they? It’s so common and easy for us to “compromise” on one or more for the sake of “having a relationship,” or so-called relationship, and it can look and feel like what society projects to us is a relationship in whatever stage of life we are in. So we choose to “go through the motions” enjoying the pleasurable brain chemistry hits, ignoring red flags and how it actually feels. Compromising our boundaries and sacrificing our integrity to get some of our needs met can work for a while, but will catch up to us and be soul-damaging sooner or later and we personally own the consequences, no matter how much we want to blame anyone or anything besides ourselves. But there can be real love and real relationships for us to find out there that are good for our souls, can’t there? That will be an amazing podcast too when you do it. ☮️🤍🙏