'Everything Happens For a Reason' even when things are hard

In this episode I get ultra personal and talk about my struggle with believing that everything happens for a reason when things get tough. I share some examples of things that I am doing to move through this time and more about my journey with self-help and personal growth. Please note that this talk does contain explicit language and is not suitable for children.

Reviews

I appreciate your honesty and openness. Thank you for reminding me that everything happens for a reason. I am trying to keep my faith alive, too. All the best.

Thank you for your authenticity, Candice. I wish you well on your journey. Living in Italy has a way of breaking one down to their raw foundation so they can rebuild only with their bare, brilliant and necessary elements. In bocca al lupo!

Thank you🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻After 24 years, I will be moving back to Europe. Just came back from a visit for 2 weeks, and it gave me a realty check, which is a very good thing. What comes up when I am hearing your story: scratch the word "try" out of your vocabulary, and see where that leads you...🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Thank you for being so open and vulnerable with your share. I am feeling very similarly in my life now. I believe strongly in Everything Happens For A Reason too. I also am really working to notice my baby steps and being okay with small increments of change. Even sometimes having moments that seemingly look like set backs.
I moved in with my boyfriend a year ago. I've gained wait in that year and have become more sedentary partly because I have flat feet and they hurt more when my leg muscles are softer and I have extra weight. I know that yoga, bike riding, and eating mostly fresh fruits and veggies is what I need. Yet I'm really struggling to give myself those things regularly.
Last night, I was having a talk with my boyfriend. I started it with listening to This American Life - episode 88 Numbers, 4th Act -The Salesman. It's about a salesman whose homework is to sell his product (Himself) to someone. He chose his wife. He learned what she needed from the product (him) to be a satisfied customer (his wife). They broke down that doing certain things for her, helped her to feel more like a team, more loved.
My boyfriend wasn't getting the same thing from the story as I was. I felt frustrated. I had tried something like this before with a similar response.
So I took some minutes to get to a specific thing I needed. I realized that I wanted him to touch me more, but that my extra weight helped me to feel unlovable. I told him this. He said that I was beautiful as I was. I asked for details. He said my face, my legs, my breasts. We hugged, and I said that it was Not his job to make me feel more lovable. It's my job. At the same time, this is an old wound I have. I told him It would be very helpful to me if he touched me more in this body. It felt good to say it out loud to him. This extra weight is here to help me learn to love myself unconditionally.
I almost stopped writing this many times as I saw how long it was getting, but I pushed on because I keep hearing about the loneliness epidemic. I feel like we need to keep on being vulnerable with eachother as much as possible. That will greatly help break down the walls.
Namaste:)

Loving oneself more Is always the answer....love that!