So you want it all.
To be a visionary and leader in your thriving career.
To run a seamless household like a sanctuary.
To have a smoking hot body and smooth skin.
To explore and express your spiritual journey.
To have the capacity to be an earth mother or warrior or vixen or goddess at will.
To maintain a community of friends.
To have a meaningful relationship and a juicy sex life with all those inherent benefits and responsibilities.
To remain forever young and radiant.
To maintain your ever-growing list of hobbies and well,
To avoid an endless list,
I'll just sum it up with perfection.
You want perfection and have changed yourself over and over again,
Striving for an ever-evolving target of perfect,
To try and feel good enough for love,
Success,
And acceptance.
If you are listening to this,
You have probably rarely felt good enough.
Even though logically,
You know you are.
You are an independent,
Capable woman who anyone would be lucky to love and cherish.
I know that.
You know that.
But somehow it never feels like it is enough.
So we dive yet again into another self-help book or course or workshop or yoga class and hope that we will finally achieve being good enough to be loved.
You are not crazy if you are wanting so much more out of life.
You are not selfish or greedy either.
You have been awakened.
This is not a course to help you learn yet another set of habits to incorporate into your day or a collection of tricks to give you momentary moments of peace and pleasure.
Welcome to the anecdote to self-help.
By the end of this journey,
You can still choose to learn new skills and develop yourself,
But you will never have to do it from a place of lack.
You will do it from a place of profound self-expression of all that you truly are.
Love.
Let's jump in and start with something uncontroversial,
Which will inherently sound cliche.
To achieve your heart's deepest longing,
All you need is one thing,
Self-love.
If you had a penny for every time you heard that,
You could purchase an island and start utopia,
But bear with me.
So self-love is the elixir to all of our problems,
But it is a destination,
Not a roadmap,
No matter how many times it is given as a prescription for the hole inside of us.
Let's say you take this prescription seriously and dive deeper into any self-love content to find a roadmap.
You probably found something like,
Self-love is unshakeable self-confidence,
Self-love is unwavering self-worth,
Self-love is self-care,
Self-love is self-expression,
Self-love is self-acceptance,
Self-love is,
Well,
You get the picture.
What started as a promising elixir to all of your problems became slippery and elusive.
Here is why.
Self-love encompasses the two most elusive concepts in all of human history.
The subject of love is the obvious enigma.
What is love?
Why do we love?
How can I love or be loved?
The answers to these questions have been sought by the most renowned philosophers,
Psychologists,
Poets,
Artists,
And biologists of every generation.
Wars have been fought over it,
While relationships have been initiated and have ended because of this idea.
And yet,
It isn't even the most obtuse part of the equation.
Think back to the list of everything self-love is thought to be.
Self-care,
Self-compassion,
Self-expression,
Self-acceptance,
Self-confidence,
Self-worth,
Self-acceptance.
Do you see a pattern here?
The common denominator is self,
The greatest mystery of all.
So whilst in the name of self-love I take a bubble bath or post a nude for the first time,
Without the self to point that love towards,
I am just mimicking what I think love looks like.
When I mimic the result,
I minimize life.
When I minimize life,
There is no place for love to live.
So I ask you this,
If you can't find yourself to love,
How can anyone else?
Where are you going to point all that care,
Compassion,
Acceptance,
Expression,
Confidence,
And worth if you cannot find you?
The question that I get the most from women I work with is,
How do I love myself?
The real question is,
How do I find myself to love?
Do you know who you are?
Is there a heavy silence in your mind,
Or are responses racing through your head like a slot machine,
Searching for the right one?
Or maybe you know who you are,
But have no idea how to express it.
If you are here because you think I can change you,
Or are looking for a wise word,
A sacred text,
The right thought,
A spiritual map,
A touch of your soul that leads to boom,
You are now magically in alignment with who you are.
You are about to be pleasantly surprised.
You have signed up for something even more profound than that,
And in the end,
You will give this gift to yourself,
Not me.
You are giving yourself the gift of embodiment,
Letting go of any notion about the body other than it is sacred.
The gift of knowing love as a limitless source inside of you.
The gift of self-worth,
Knowing that love is your birthright.
The audacity and authority to show your power.
The freedom of being at ease in your own skin.
The gift of being able to turn inward and trust the actual rock of who you are.
There is a famous BBC interview with Carl Jung in which he is asked,
Do you believe in God?
After a pause,
He said,
I know,
I don't need to believe,
I know.
That is the gift I want to give you,
To not just believe in yourself,
But rather to know yourself so deeply and unshakably that your wisdom,
Your power,
Your beauty is not something you have to believe in.
That it becomes something you know with an unshakable conviction through experience.
Whether you are walking through nature,
Sitting in front of an altar,
Or hustling in an office,
You will feel and know what is true for you.
You will hear and know the limitless love of wisdom and truth inside of you.
You will know and trust the voice of your intuition so much that you let it guide you.
That is what I offer you here.
This is a how-to manual of a different kind.
There is obviously no cookie cutter course to teach you who you are and how to best love that self.
Instead,
This is a path of unfolding and discovery.
A guide to take you from who you thought you were to your true self.
It is food for thought for your own exploration,
And a practical,
Tactical guide with exercises for immediate results.
The funniest thing about it all is,
At the end of this self-discovery,
You will realize you are love.
To discover yourself is to discover love,
And love is beyond comprehension.
The reason we all need a roadmap is that you cannot experience what you do not know,
And you cannot know what you have not experienced.
Enlightenment asks you to know something you have not experienced and thus experience it.
Knowledge will open the door to that experience.
This is a real journey,
Not a destination experience.
I know I said that a little cavalier,
So let me be very clear.
The process is the purpose.
When you catch yourself mimicking the results,
Remember,
This will only result in minimizing life and numbness.
It is not possible to increase aliveness or love in numbness.
The process is the purpose.
Here is what that process will look like.
We will start in Module 1,
Own Your Mind.
In it,
We will spend all of our time in your mind.
All you have to do is show up,
Listen,
And contemplate.
You will come to see the power the mind has over your experiences and of who you think you are.
This module will really be rooted in unlearning what does not serve you and propel you towards taking the driver's seat of your life.
Module 2 is all about awakening the body.
The body is your source of truth and wisdom.
It is in this module where we will introduce movement and exercises to go beyond cognitive understanding and into knowing through experience.
This module will be the key to falling in love with your magnificent body.
In the final module,
We will unite with your soul.
To discover the self,
We have to explore two distinct parts of what makes us human,
The body and the soul.
We are concurrently out of nature and hopelessly in it,
Literally split in two.
The most common depiction of this dichotomy is deemed body and soul.
The duality of being human is not a unique view of humanity.
You can see representations of this in a lot of places where it has been described across history and cultures as mind,
Heart,
Nature,
Celestial,
Chaos,
Cosmos,
Cavewoman,
Queen,
Animal,
Spirit,
Unconscious,
Conscious.
Your mind and physical body operate out of instinct.
This is an innate,
Fixed pattern of behavior passed down through ancient biological traits from woman to woman for survival.
Your heart-pumping,
Breath-gasping body keeps you alive and aware of your mortality.
Your soul represents your divinity,
The non-physical part of you which is the seat of your emotions and character.
Your stargazing,
Co-creating soul is the awareness of your splendid uniqueness and towering majesty.
You will find peace and freedom in understanding what part of you is showing up in any given moment.
Is it the animalistic instinct or your inner goddess?
Don't fall into the trap of thinking one is better or worse than the other.
We are not going to learn to have your soul overcome your body.
Your body is life itself.
Each molecule inside of you has been alive since the beginning of time and holds within it ancient wisdom.
Your body is a potent source of power.
Instead of spending energy trying to change it,
Suppress it,
Discipline it,
And punish it,
We will use our bodies to capture our instincts and transform them into intuition.
Do not renounce your instincts.
What you resist persists.
You are your body and you are your soul.
And there the course will conclude.
Each word will have invited you to become the woman you were meant to be.
Each powerful lesson will have given you all the secrets to yourself and all the parts that make up you,
Mind,
Body,
And soul.
If I could give you a visual of this process,
Each module would be within the other like a Russian doll.
The process is not hierarchical.
One is not more important than the other.
Even though I will try to present them in a cohesive order,
They are not linear or sequential in nature.
In your own mind,
Think of them more like spokes on a wheel rather than steps on a ladder.
Though I am the mama that birthed this course,
It is wisdom that has been passed down through our ancient grandmothers and their grandmothers,
Recreated and reinvented by modern grandmothers and mothers for all women.
I honor these women who have gathered in tribes and villages around the world and united in circles to share,
To teach,
To listen,
And to learn.
The pulse of these women still beats within us.
Their wisdom flows through time.
I am not a scientist,
Therapist,
Psychologist,
Theologist,
Priestess,
Coach,
Or guru.
I am a woman,
Just like you,
Learning,
Growing,
Laughing,
And crying.
I make mistakes.
I step on people's toes.
I get caught in fear and self-doubt.
I still take things personally.
Sometimes I feel invincible.
Sometimes I feel fragile.
I honor and cherish all these parts of myself.
I hope that by the end of this journey,
You will also laugh at your fears,
Love yourself completely,
And have faith in yourself.
There is no blueprint,
No mold to fit into,
No loving guru,
No white knight to save you,
No powerful shaman who will be able to awaken you to who you really are.
This is one journey you will make alone.
While I will certainly be a guide,
It is up to you to walk your own evolutionary path.
But,
Surrounded by supportive sisters,
A circle of hands will open to receive you.
Eyes will light up as you enter the room.
Voices will celebrate with you as you shed domination,
Oppression,
Competition,
And rise like the sun into your power.
This is a revolution,
And as you embark on this journey,
You do it for all women.
Together,
We will change a paradigm.
May you open this door to yourself with the delight of a child unwrapping the gift they have wanted most.
The love,
Faith,
And integrity you have been waiting for awaits you.
Let's take a moment and connect to all the women around the world and our female ancestors.
Breathe in and draw in the strength and wisdom of goddesses throughout the ages.
Breathing out,
Release old ways of being and make space for your intuition,
Insight,
And loving awareness.
And now,
Make a commitment to be fully,
100% you.
You are whole.
You are powerful.
You are divine.
As you listen to me,
Do you hear the truth of these words ringing in your bones?
Or do you feel the weight of self-judgment and doubt?
If you do not love yourself with every fiber of your being,
Then it is time for an inner revolution.
It is time to claim your self.
You are whole.
You are valued.
You are loved.
I see your wholeness.
I know your value.
I love you.
Welcome.
