
Our Body Stores Trauma And Abuse For A Long Time To Come
by Boom Shikha
When I read the book, "The Body Keeps The Score," I had already been practicing Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercise (TRE) for a few months then. But even so, I learned a lot about how the body stores trauma in the body from childhood abuse or trauma, or from military service, or from domestic violence episodes. It's a fascinating read, and one I absolutely recommend for everyone.
Transcript
Hey guys!
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In this video I want to speak to you guys about a book that I've been reading recently that I really love.
I love this book so much and I really wish I.
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Just like I wish everyone on this planet meditated,
I wish that everyone got a chance to read this book at least once in their lifetime.
Especially I would say the INFJ community because I think it really really applies to all of us.
All of us empaths,
All of us highly sensitive people,
All of us beings who are trying to create a better world in a general way.
And the book's name is The Body Keeps the Score.
It's a brilliant book and you can google it and find it on Amazon or anywhere else.
Like I really do recommend that if you have a few moments,
It's a long book,
Long-ish book,
But if you do have a day or two or a week or two to devote to reading this book,
I would highly highly recommend it to you guys.
The main thing that I really got from the book was how much my experience in childhood with you know all the madness that went on mirrors a lot of the experiences of PTSD or trauma patients.
And so this a lot of the stuff that you shared,
You know numbing myself or dissociating myself from the experience or pretending like it didn't exist or pretending like my emotions didn't exist or shutting myself down from the people around me or hiding from the people around me because of all the stuff going on or acting as a mediator and then not being able to understand what was going on with my own body,
My own emotional state.
So much so of it,
So much of it was so related to and mirrored it as I said the PTSD symptoms are and PTSD is a post-traumatic stress disorder.
So in the book he studies a lot of veterans from the World War II and Holocaust survivors and obviously domestic violence survivors and rape survivors and things like that and so he studies all of this and he you know delineates some of the things that happens physically in the mind,
In the neuronal connections in the body with the vagus nerve and the physiological reactions and obviously the spirit and the way a lot of these individuals become dejected depressed and collapse within themselves and I noticed that for myself as well like I used to in my childhood be literally hunched over like this like I literally spent all my time like this because of yoga and because of the fact that I did a lot of work on myself I was able to really relax my shoulder and pull them back and be strong and confident in facing the world but I had collapsed within myself my chest I had to protect my heart and so I did that physically by hunching over around my heart and protecting it that way and so I really just read this book and you know I obviously heard the audiobook because I just walk around while I'm in my apartment or I'm sitting around you know playing Candy Crush while I listen to these audiobooks or walking to get food things like that I'll just sit I'll just listen to these audiobooks and this audiobook was 14 hours long 14 15 hours long and it literally passed by in a matter of days it was so fascinating to me noticing all these parallels between the way I dealt with the fact that my my family situation was a little bit off and the way these PTSD patients or trauma patients or domestic violence survivors dealt with their own situations it was so fascinating to me how epigenetically your body changes itself its genes in order to deal with trauma in order to deal with all of this this stuff that happens to individuals on a daily basis and how often and how common it is among individuals I think one of the reasons why and I've done videos on this in the past one of the reasons why INFJs turn out to be INFJs is because partly because of their home situation because of their childhood now I am not blaming my parents for anything it was the way it was they were doing the best they can they did the best they could they were young and they as I said they they did what they can with their limited knowledge about child rearing right like how to raise kids no one really teaches you any of that stuff right so they did the best they could so this is not a blame game that I'm playing here but I really want you guys to understand that everything that happens in our childhood of course from the age of zero to seven specifically is basically delineating everything that you're doing in your adult life right and you guys know this you probably heard of it before that everything that happens especially in the first two years of your life but also the first seven years of your life your childhood is how you deal with the world in general so if you were able to trust your caregivers and they trusted you and they took care of you and there was love then you will deal with the world in a very loving trusting manner if not then you won't right and so all of this all of this information has been just culled together and put together into this far into this book the body keeps a score and the individual the person who wrote the book have bought in research from so many different avenues from so many different places so many different kinds of trauma so many different kinds of survivors you know there's so many different things that people are dealing with all of it which creates trauma in your body and all of it all of which we have to deal with otherwise it sits there and and creates a separate personality or creates a separate separation between that part of us and ourselves and so I do highly recommend if you do have the time as I said please do read the book and get it from your library or get it on Amazon just read the book as I said it's a little bit long but it literally is it'll you'll just be sitting there reading the book if you have not already read it and think to yourself wow I I can't believe this I literally was sitting there the whole time thinking I cannot first of all believe how people hurt each other how people who are supposed to be taking care of you caregivers you know incest and molestation and abuse sexual abuse rape and all that stuff I mean how people who are supposed to be taking care of you who are supposed to be your caregivers who you're supposed to be the the person of authority are like even priests and a pedophile things like that people who are supposed to be in positions of authority are just taking advantage of all these pure innocent children and just ruining their lives in general I think that's one of the main reasons why I'm so afraid to have children is because I'm so afraid that I would do something foolish you know I might have a bad day and say something to them and for the rest of eternity they're traumatized for life and that would just literally kill me on the inside if I was the reason why my children were going to therapy I would just die so that's of course one of the reasons why I am a little bit wary of bringing a child onto this planet because I'm so afraid that I'll do a terrible job as a mother there's so many things to take care of I'll try as much as possible to give them as much love as I can but is that not really enough who knows right but just listen to this book as I said like it just really opened up my eyes to how the body changes the mind changes the neural connections neural connections the neuropeptides in your brain you know endorphin levels and and serotonin and oxytocin levels and so many changes epigenetically genetically all of the environmental changes that happen in your life affect you so profoundly that you can sit there think oh yeah no I'm fine I'm totally fine yeah that happened in the past but I'm totally fine it's fine it's good but physically your body is saying something different and I realized one of the things that really surprised me was that the heart rates of abuse victims or children who've been in those situations or PTSD victims or veterans things like that their heart rates are higher their physiological levels are basically in a state of constant hyper vigilance hyper awareness because they're afraid that if they you know let go for a few seconds they're gonna go back into that state of being abused or being traumatized and they need to be in a constant state of alert does that remind you of someone INFJs are always in a constant state of hyper vigilance and so that really love a lot of things I was reading the book listening to the book and a lot of things that happen in the book I'm like oh my god that's that's INFJs that's what we do that's how we live our life or that's empaths you know or a high sense of people so I really wanted to share this with you and I hope that you will take me up on this you know I have shared a tre with you guys in the past which is a trauma and tension and trauma trauma releasing exercise that's another thing that I recommend to everyone in addition to meditation and this book I do recommend that if you haven't read it please please go get it right now and read it skip through the most of it if you want like I mean if you don't if you're not interested in research as much as I am I love research studies and the scientific basis of all of this stuff but if you don't like skim through the most through most of it but part five kind of teaches you a lot about how to get over trauma how to release it from your body things like that but I do recommend that you read the whole book because it is fascinating how there's so many as I said parallels between PTSD and trauma patients and stuff that I dealt with or the way I dealt with with my own childhood and my stuff that happened in my life my trauma and my assault and things like that and so I as I said read it and please if you have read it let me know what you guys think about it and if you do read it let me know what you think about it I think that it's this book is should be a must read for every individual on this planet if you guys have any questions for me obviously please comment below and of course if you're interested in supporting me further monetarily you can do that by going to my ko-fi link the link is in the description below as well again thank you for listening I shall see you guys the next time around bye for now
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Recent Reviews
Tanya
November 29, 2021
I’m almost done with this book and agree 💯 everyone should read it, it’s so insightful!
Amar
May 3, 2020
Hello Boom Shikha, Thank you. I really appreciate and surely will read the book. Namaste. Best Regards Amar
Kylie
January 5, 2020
Namaste🙏 Thank you💕
