Beautiful beings,
Wishing you a warm welcome to this powerful couples practice.
This practice is intended to invite you into a loving and open conversation about different
aspects of your relationship.
And this practice is meant to be done with your romantic partner.
And make sure you have this conversation at a time where you both feel relaxed,
Generally
content and have plenty of time before and after the conversation.
Find yourself a comfortable place in your home where you know you will be undisturbed.
Make yourself really comfortable.
Make sure you're facing each other.
There's no need to worry.
There's no need to be scared.
All you need for this practice is this openness to really receive whatever it is that your
partner wants to share from within.
It's so important that we allow these spaces for open and honest sharing in a relationship,
No matter if we've been together only a few months or been together many,
Many years,
Even decades.
Studies show again and again that the communication and the level of open and honest communication
is one of the key aspects to a long lasting,
Happy and fulfilled relationship.
So this conversation is meant to do exactly this,
Bring you both together into this open
and honest sharing.
You will be asking each other a series of questions around the topics,
Loves,
Fears
and desires.
And we'll start with the topic around loves.
And one of you will be asking a question while the other person is answering.
The person that is receiving this information and the sharing from their partner is just
present.
Yeah,
You don't need to react to whatever your partner is sharing.
You don't even need to ask questions unless it's really absolutely necessary for your
understanding.
Just receive and encourage this open sharing from your partner.
Whenever your partner stops sharing,
You are invited to ask the question again,
And you
are invited to share around the specific question for the amount of time that is suggested
in this audio.
Choose now which one of you will ask the question first and which one of you will respond first.
And you can play rock,
Paper,
Scissors if you can't decide.
Now let's begin with the first question about love.
The person who is asking the question,
You will ask your partner the following question.
Darling,
What do you love about me?
You can use the word darling or replace darling with your partner's name or nickname.
The person responding is simply invited to respond and share anything that they can think
of.
If they stop sharing throughout the practice,
Ask again,
Darling,
What do you love about
me?
And then keep having this sharing until the time is up.
You will have a few minutes to share.
Begin now.
Wonderful.
The person who was sharing can now stop sharing.
And the person that asked the question will simply say a heartfelt,
Sincere thank you.
You can also show any sign of appreciation,
Any sign of gratitude that you would like
to share at this point.
Now we will switch roles.
The person that was just responding will now ask their partner,
Darling,
What do you
love about me?
Again,
The person has a few minutes to share.
If they run out of things to share,
They should be asked again and again until the time is
up.
You might be surprised how much you have to share once you start reflecting.
Begin now.
Wonderful you both.
Congratulations.
Again,
The person that was asking can receive everything that was shared with a big heartfelt
thank you.
Doesn't matter if you agree with everything your partner shares.
This is simply to encourage this open dialogue and to speak about things that you might have
not spoken about in this way for a long time.
Also,
You might find yourself a little bit flattered and showered with love right now.
Enjoy that.
Now let's continue with the next question.
The question will be around fears.
And this one might be a little bit more tricky.
It might also be a new topic you're speaking about,
But let's try this together.
You want this level of openness with each other to really ensure each of you feel safe
to share anything what's on your mind.
Yeah,
You are in the safe space and this space provides you this open,
Honest sharing.
And both of you really see this space as a safe container,
As respectful container where
everything is held and allowed.
Here's the question.
Make sure that the person who shared first last time is now asking the question first.
Darling,
Or again replaced with your partner's name,
What are you afraid of?
Darling,
What are you afraid of?
This can be in general,
But should also really be putting the focus on the relationship.
So things that you are afraid of in terms of the relationship.
Try to be really honest and vulnerable.
And we often don't share about these things because we're not being asked.
So really honest communication is so important.
Also when we look at our fears and worries.
So again,
The question,
Darling,
What are you afraid of?
Just remember that the person that is sharing is just sharing.
The person that is receiving is just receiving.
You are welcome to stop the sharing now.
And again,
The person that was listening and that asked the question,
Again,
You are invited
to a really heartfelt,
Sincere thank you,
Showing your gratitude and your affection
for this openness in any way you like.
And now again,
It's time to switch roles.
Person that was just responding will now ask their partner,
Darling,
What are you afraid
of?
Ask this question again and again until the time is up.
Really allow and create space for this open and honest sharing.
Begin now.
Amazing.
You two are doing really,
Really good.
Hopefully,
This is an encouraging and open and honest conversation between you two.
And I really believe and trust in your joint capacity to make this conversation into this
powerful tool to create this openness,
To create this open and authentic sharing.
Now let's move on to the last question.
Decide now,
Again,
Who will answer first.
Here's the last question.
Darling,
What do you desire?
And here you can speak about what you desire in general,
But also specifically looking
at the relationship.
Don't hold back here.
This is your space and time to share.
Darling,
What do you desire?
Ask the question and begin the sharing now.
Wonderful.
Again,
Thank your partner for this honest and open sharing with a heartfelt thank you.
And one final time,
Switch roles.
Ask your partner who was just asking you,
Darling,
What do you desire?
And ask this question again and again until the time is up.
And really,
Really invite your partner to share everything that they've been wanting
to share with you for a very long time.
Wonderful.
You two are amazing.
It's so brave,
So courageous to have these kinds of conversations.
Please give your partner and show your partner a heartfelt thank you one more time.
And in general,
Any kind of gratitude,
Act of thankfulness,
Anything that you want to
share with your partner at this point in terms of a warm embrace,
A smile,
A hug,
And a kiss
is very,
Very welcome.
Now,
Please don't go into any conversation about anything that was just shared.
Yeah,
You were invited to just remain in the echoes of this sharing for a few more minutes.
Yeah,
You can close your eyes for this and just let everything that you just heard and
experienced about the loves,
The fears,
And the desires of your partner,
Let all of that
sink in.
Let it rest.
Closing your eyes for just a moment,
Opening your chest,
Bringing your awareness into this
space of the heart,
And just allowing all of the things you just heard and learned to
simply settle.
If there's any activity of the mind,
Wondering,
Wanting to ask questions,
We simply observe
this,
Let this be.
We connect with this sense of openness,
Connection,
Sense of gratitude,
Gratitude for feeling
safe to share,
Gratitude to have these kinds of conversations.
And when you feel ready,
Very gently,
We can end the practice and the conversation,
One
more time opening your eyes,
Giving your partner any sign of affection or anything you would
like to do or say at this moment.
You're very much invited to just let this conversation be,
Simply allow what you learned
to sink in,
Allow anything to process,
And you're invited to not continue speaking about
the things that you just learned until at least one whole day passes.
Yeah,
Just allow everything to sink in.
And you can do this practice over and over again.
You might have learned a lot of things this time.
Take a moment now to hold hands,
Deeply look into each other's eyes,
See if anything arises.
Look into each other's eyes deeply.
See if you can lose yourself in each other's eyes and just remember that love,
What brought
you together.
Remember that connection,
That love that is always there.
Conclude the practice with any sign of affection that you would like to make at this moment.
It's also perfectly okay if you feel like you need a little bit of space and if anything
from this practice is really having you wondering,
Wait at least 24 hours to see what's still
pressing after that time frame.
End the practice now slowly and gently,
Closing the eyes,
Reconnecting with yourself,
Sense
of intimacy and connection with yourself.
Thanking you both so much for your trust.
Very good job to both of you and I will speak to you in the next practice.
Namaste.
