Part 1: Harmonizing The Inner Masculine And Feminine

Part 1 of a live talk from our Tuesday night sessions at Stangley Street Gallery Sydney, given as a response to a question regarding the importance of creating inner harmony between the masculine and feminine in order to live a soulful life characterized by inner harmony as opposed to inner discord. It suggests that meditation is a means of creating the right condition for their harmony. Please Note: This track was recorded live and may contain background noises.

Transcript

So,

It's always an intuitive response to a question that one of us brings.

I thought tonight,

However,

We can talk about a subject which seems to be very interesting for a lot of people,

And that is how to balance the masculine and the feminine.

Because I mentioned this idea in one of the talks that we did last week or the week before,

And there was a lot of interest in it by some people who commented that they would like to know more about it.

So how does everyone feel about talking about that for a little bit?

The idea of reconciling the differences or balancing the differences between the masculine and the feminine.

Why is there a difference between masculine and feminine?

Yes.

Why?

Well,

That's a good question.

Yeah,

But there is definitely a difference.

A very marked difference,

An important difference too,

A necessary essential difference.

So we can approach it in this way.

When we talk about the feminine and the masculine,

We are not necessarily talking about the expression that the feminine force and the masculine force takes.

In other words,

In the expression of being a male or a female.

Although it's true that there is a male and a female in all facets of life,

All facets of existence,

There is a demarcation of the masculine and there's a demarcation of the feminine.

So perhaps we can take a look at this idea of balancing the masculine and feminine in respect to the internal life.

So I'm not talking about balancing the masculine and feminine here as in you,

A woman with a man.

I'm talking about the masculine and the feminine internal forces.

Because everything that we do here is about the inner life.

It's about inner development or inner peace or inner harmony.

So we're not really talking about or we're not really concerning necessarily ourselves with masculine and the feminine as they express in a man and a woman outside of self.

We are wanting to look at them as they apply in the inner life.

And also what happens if there is an internal harmony between the masculine force and the feminine force.

So to approach this topic,

Obviously,

First of all,

We have to recognize that there is a masculine force and that there is a feminine force that is active in us.

And then we can also start by asking,

Well,

What do these forces do?

Is there any difference between those two forces as you asked?

And what would,

First we'll just pose these questions,

What would conflict between the masculine and feminine forces inside look like?

What would a conflict look like?

And how would it express itself in my life,

In the details of my living?

Also then,

What would harmony between the masculine and the feminine forces,

The masculine and the feminine archetypes,

What would it look like?

What would the harmony between them look like?

And how would it express itself in my living?

So perhaps I am an artist.

What would conflict between the masculine and the feminine in me look like in my art?

Or in my cooking?

Or in my living?

What would it look like in my relationships?

And what would a harmony contrastly,

What would internal harmony between the masculine and feminine archetypes,

How would it express in my life as an artist?

What qualitative effect will it have on my sculptures,

On my paintings,

On my loving,

On my cooking?

See these are things that very few of us get a chance,

An opportunity in our living,

In our life to stop and consider.

And why is that?

We see how interesting they are when we start to look at the question.

When we give ourselves a time that we are going to consider the question,

We suddenly realize my God,

This could be very interesting.

I never thought about these things.

Because the way we live our lives,

We don't value giving time to these questions because they look so abstract in the beginning.

They look like a luxury.

I don't have time for this.

I'm too busy to,

I'm too busy attending to other things more important,

Survival,

Security,

Passion,

Purpose,

All these things seem to be much more important than this apparently abstract indulgence.

I am indulging in some question which does not really have a practical dimension in my life.

Not at all.

It is something that has absolutely practical dimension and practical application in my life.

It is where I can go to to make all the difference in my living.

If I want to make a difference in the way I am an artist,

I'm saying artist because you are sitting next to me and you are an artist.

How can,

What sort of a practical application is it going to have in my life as a sculptor or as a writer or as a business woman or whatever.

That's where you make the difference.

What is the area where we make the difference in the outer expression?

So first of all we have to recognize that yes there is a practical application and also we have to also recognize and acknowledge that there are these two forces,

These two archetypes,

Primary archetypes,

Masculine and feminine exist and that they can either be discordant in conflict.

Internally I'm not talking about man and woman.

Internally in my inner life I'm not concerned with externally.

Externally the outside is the outer expression of my internal dimension,

My internal reality.

I'm not concerned with results.

Why should I be concerned with results?

I go to causes.

Where is the cause?

Where is the cause of my life?

Is it outside?

No.

My inner reality determines my outer experience.

So we are talking about the inner life.

I just want to really highlight this for if some of us who may have not gathered for our talks.

So first of all then yes this masculine feminine archetypes,

What are they?

Well the reason there is such a difference between them,

Andrea,

As you asked,

Not only outside but inside,

Why should there be a difference and a very profound and beautiful difference,

Is that they really express themselves as the forces of duality or the forces of polarity,

Opposites,

Without which there cannot be a physical experience.

So there is a certain school of thought that tells us that physicality is a product of three forces,

An active force,

Which we can attribute to the masculine archetype,

And then there is a passive force,

Which we can relate to the feminine archetype.

I'm not talking about men and women by the way.

I'm not concerned with men and women.

This is not really,

You know,

It's this is not a no no not has nothing to do with any of that.

This is about absolute primal essential forces.

Yin and yang is what the Chinese beautifully call them.

So that's what we're talking about these archetypal intelligences,

Archetypal powers.

So the masculine and the feminine express as a duality and then the certain school of thought tells us that all physicality is a product made up of manifestation of three forces,

One active masculine,

One feminine,

Feminine negative,

Passive,

Yielding yin.

There is a third force.

What might that third force be?

Now before you answer that,

I'm going to say something which can help.

Nature provides two forces,

Masculine and the feminine.

So you do not have to provide those two forces.

They are given.

They are the gift of nature.

But the third force is not.

The third force must be provided.

Nature does not give this third force.

Nature says if you want this third force,

At least to the human,

To the human kingdom,

It does not say the same thing to the animal kingdom or the vegetable kingdom or the mineral kingdom or the elemental kingdom,

Only to the human kingdom.

It says look,

I'm going to take you to this level,

But I will not take you further.

If you want to go further than the human kingdom,

Then you must be able to manufacture this third force yourself because then you become a creator.

The question is what is this third force and how can it be created?

Before I open this up to discussion,

I want to say this.

This is what meditation is about.

Although it is hardly ever delivered in this way,

That meditation is about the production of this third force.

Now the two forces we recognize,

Right?

Masculine and feminine.

There you go.

Masculine and feminine,

Masculine and feminine and so on,

Physically expressing outwardly.

Inwardly,

We recognize,

Yes,

There must be masculine and feminine archetypes inside the human.

Physicality is a product,

Masculine,

Feminine pushing against each other and a third force that allows them to do what?

The masculine and the feminine pushing and shoving.

And then a third force that allows them to do what?

Harmonize?

Yes,

Beautiful,

To harmonize,

To kiss and make up.

And guess what happens when you kiss and make up?

We know it can happen.

You make babies or stuff.

So externally,

We can see the result.

Masculine,

Feminine,

Man,

Woman come together and they make babies.

What is it that brings them together?

Love.

The third force in this case.

But how does it work internally?

If I make a baby outside,

What do I make inside?

What happens if the masculine and feminine forces inside me are brought to harmonize?

In some way,

We still have not talked about the third force,

Although we are making a mention of it.

What happens?

Outside,

I give a baby.

I may,

Well,

You make a baby,

Women make a baby.

Well,

We both do.

But what happens inside?

Is there an inner baby?

Yes.

That's what meditation is about.

It's about birthing the divine.

So what is that third force?

Externally,

It is a love.

It's something that holds the presence,

The attention of two people together momentarily,

Where suddenly there is this attraction that is coming together.

What is it inside that can make the masculine and the feminine harmonize,

To come together?

And what is the result?

So for a moment,

I'm going to stop so that we can open up this seemingly abstract discussion.

But I assure you,

It's a very important one.

Because if we can learn to harmonize the inner masculine and the inner feminine,

If we can learn to produce the third force and allow the masculine and the feminine to harmonize,

Then something tremendous happens.

So I'm going to stop talking for now to open up the discussion,

To see what are our thoughts about this before we share what this third force is,

What is that third force that can cause the masculine and the feminine to harmonize inside the self.

So what are your thoughts?

What are you hearing when we talk about this in this way?

I'm hearing the divine.

Divine as a third force?

The third force.

Well,

The harmony allows you to be outside your ego and self.

You become one with the universe,

And you are neither masculine nor feminine,

And you enter into unity.

Yes.

And we can also then ask simply,

What is it that is available to me right now that I can do or I can be that at once brings the masculine and feminine together in me?

We have been practicing it for years.

As a practice,

Yes.

But what does that do?

If harmony for me is lack of resistance,

Taking the resistance out means looking at the situation from the outside point of view,

How the harmony becomes a place.

But what is it for you right now in this very moment,

In this very instant?

What is available to you right now that brings the masculine and feminine to unity?

Presence.

Yes.

Nothing else.

Presence.

Please ask.

Unconditional love.

Unconditional love.

Unconditional.

Yes.

Unconditional love is what is born when there is presence.

Yes.

Unconditional love is beautiful addition to this topic because it is the nectar.

It is the smell.

It is the taste.

It's the fruit of presence.

Presence is that third force.

Presence is the neutralizing force.

So in electricity,

For example,

We have masculine.

We got the positive charge.

We got the negative charge.

And then we have the third one,

Which is hardly ever recognized.

The neutralizing charge,

The thing that makes the two come together and the result is what?

Light.

How can we create our own internal light by being present?

Presence is that which allows the masculine and the feminine to lose the polarity,

To bring their polarities into a harmony that allows them to become greater than their differences.

But the difference is absolutely there and beautifully so.

Beautifully so.

Reality always is polarized.

Masculine,

Feminine.

Up,

Down,

Left,

Right.

Everything has its polarity.

Every stick,

There's a wonderful teacher called Gurdjieff.

He always used to say,

Every stick has two ends.

Have you ever seen a stick with one end?

Not possible.

Every stick has two ends.

But he was a bit of a trickster.

And he used to say,

And I prefer that you end up with a bad end of the stick.

I end up with a good end of the stick.

So all right.

So so far what we've said is that there are two forces,

Two dynamic forces.

Masculine and feminine,

Yin and yang.

These are archetype intelligences.

The principle forces from the singularity,

The first principle is split into two.

To duality.

From zero everything is born into the one.

Everything sound comes out of silence.

Movement comes out of stillness.

The number one comes out of the zero.

One eye.

First expression.

Then the one splits into two.

One becomes two.

The right force and the left force.

We see that right?

And that is this duality,

This duality that allows physicality to manifest in space and time as a dimension.

The dimension of space and time.

Now what all this boils down to is that we have a direct dynamic powerful principle way of effecting substantial exquisite change in our life or effecting powerful expression in our life by harmonizing the masculine and the feminine forces inside one.

Now generally when this question,

The interest in this question is put forth,

People wanting to know how do I balance the masculine and the feminine?

How do I harmonize the masculine and the feminine?

They're usually wanting to know because it applies to relationships and that's valid.

That is important.

Why not?

So what can be said about that is that what is found that when a human,

When an individual works to harmonize the inner forces of masculine and feminine,

The natural byproduct of this harmony is outer harmony.

The relationship between men and women are harmonized or the relationships between oneself and others is naturally harmonized.

That is the place of first control is in me.

Do we see that?

The place of maximum control that I have is in me.

It's not in you.

I can't control you.

I can't control the world.

That's a really weird strange way of working.

That's what we do.

That's how most of us operate is that we put all our efforts on results,

Not on the cause.

We think that the results themselves are causes,

But they're not.

I am the cause of my life.

My internal state is the cause.

Now when I say my internal state,

Now it's easy to see what I'm talking about.

I'm talking about the internal state,

The internal relationship between the masculine and the feminine,

The yin and yang,

The primary forces that I use to live.

There's not a single one of us here who uses anything else.

None of us use any other force than the masculine and the feminine.

There is not a third force,

So to speak,

That we use in order to get things done.

You either actively engage your life or passively are engaged in your life.

There is not a third force yet.

The third force becomes relevant when a man,

When a woman wants to become more than a man,

More than a woman.

In other words,

Has arrived at the point of wanting to be conscious because presence is not necessary for unconsciousness,

For automatic living.

Presence however is essential for consciousness.

There is no elevation in consciousness without an anchoring of presence.

You're never going to get light without connecting the two,

Masculine and feminine together,

Getting them to.

.

.

So when a person becomes interested in becoming more,

Not more physically,

But when a human being becomes interested in experiencing an inner awakening,

Then presence is essential.

Presence is the framework.

Presence is the condition for the landing of divine unconditional love.

Without presence,

There cannot be unconditional love.

There is only agenda love.

Outcome based.

Outcome based,

That's right.

So presence is the third force.

Presence is that which allows the third force to come,

To harmonize the negative and the positive.

Presence is what allows them,

Their differences to come together.

Presence is what allows the tension.

It holds the tension between them in a straight line.

And so it's for this reason that in Islam,

You may have heard the saying attributed to the prophet of Islam,

Muhammad,

Who said,

If Muhammad will not go to the mountain,

Then the mountain will come to Muhammad.

It's okay.

I mean,

When I heard that first time,

I thought,

What on earth is this guy talking about?

If Muhammad will not go to the mountain,

Then the mountain will come to Muhammad.

But now,

Practically,

Mechanistically,

It's possible to understand what that means.

Because there's no greater power than the reconciliation that occurs,

That happens in a human who has worked to allow an internal harmony between the masculine and the feminine to happen.

And then what is the expression of this in the life of such a person?

What does it look like?

I have a very simple description for this.

I say,

A soul,

My definition of a soul,

Is the outer expression of inner harmony between the masculine and the feminine.

A soul is born,

That which is lit up,

That which is recognizing,

Seeing itself.

The ego,

Conversely,

Is the outer expression of inner discord,

Inner conflict between the yin and yang,

Between the masculine and the feminine.

So when we see somebody who is conflicted outwardly,

It's very simple to understand what is happening.

His or her inner masculine,

Inner feminine are in conflict.

Now the question is,

Well,

What creates a conflict?

Why are they in conflict?

If they are forces,

Why are they in conflict?

The answer to that is,

It's true that there is an element of hereditary karmic reality.

But also we have to understand that we imprint our masculine archetype and our feminine archetype in early childhood in the way we see our father and our mother.

Not as they really are,

But as we interpret the father masculine and the mother feminine.

So your internal masculine and feminine archetypal forces right now are the imprint of the way you experienced your father and your mother.

If they were conflicted,

You're still,

They may have kissed in makeup,

Made up a long time ago,

But they have not most likely kissed in makeup in you yet.

Unless you have begun some inner work,

Which serves to get the masculine father,

As you saw,

Feminine mother,

As you saw to kiss and makeup.

In other words,

You have healed the differences between your father and your mother in you and her now have been brought to a place of inner harmony and therefore your living begins to express that inner harmony.

And some of us,

We can see that in some areas in our lives.

For example,

Some people are harmonious in their painting.

Some people are harmonious when they are working.

Some people are harmonious in different areas,

But not necessarily other areas.

You can recognize that,

Right?

So we're not always conflicted in every area,

But generally yes.

But when a person heals the differences between the father and the mother within oneself and an inner harmony begins to translate outside and there's a softness,

There's a beauty,

There's a power,

There is this wonderful and what do we call it?

That person's got soul,

You know,

Look how they're dead.

That's got,

We recognize it in dance.

Don't we?

We talked about that last week.

That person's got soul or that person's got a magnetic presence.

There's something about that person.

No,

There's not something about that person.

The inner masculine,

Inner feminine are harmonized and what you're experiencing is the love vibration of that inner unity.

What's the issue?

That's available to all of us and if we want to affect maximum change in our living,

If we truly are interested in the joy pulsation,

Then that's what we must do.

That's the first place.

That's the first place we must work.

I want to add one other thing to this interesting topic.

Astrology.

Where do we find this?

Can we find this in our astrological chart?

The harmony between the masculine and the feminine or the discord,

The conflict?

Is there somewhere we can find it?

Yes.

And I'm only saying that because I just spotted Diego over there.

He's an astrologer and I thought,

Oh yeah,

Thanks for reminding me.

The sun and the moon.

The placement of the sun and the moon in the chart can tell us about the relationship between the father and the mother in our early childhood.

But how?

Nobody knew that.

No,

No.

However,

What we are talking about is how the individual interpreted the father masculine and the mother feminine.

And that is revealed in the chart by the relationship between the sun and the moon.

If the relationship between the sun and the moon is conflicted,

Then we have,

We interpreted our father and our mother in such a way as to express that conflict.

How do I know that,

For example?

But wait,

That's weird.

No,

I have nine brothers and sisters and not one of us sees our father and our mother the same.

The relationship between the father and the mother,

If we were to define it,

Each one of us,

We would,

It would seem that we are talking about different people.

Why?

Well,

The reason is because each one of us was destined to interpret the masculine in this way,

To imprint the masculine in this way,

And then to personalize,

Then to interpret the feminine in this way,

Then to personalize.

And then the relationship between these two and then to personalize this relationship,

To personalize it.

So just to add that astrological dimension to a fascinating subject.

Now let's see if we can start to bring it to a practical sense.

How do we,

How do we work towards harmonizing the masculine and the feminine?

Using the father and the mother in me to kiss and make up.

Do I have to go and get my father and my mother to kiss and make up?

I can't,

They're passed away.

No,

I can.

I can.

What are you,

A weirdo?

No,

No,

No,

It's in me.

Everything is in me.

I can go there.

So now in the next part of this talk,

We're going to stop for a moment,

Take a little breather and then we're going to talk about practical tools available to us.

And I don't mean a drill or a hammer or any of the,

I mean inner tools that are available to us that can serve towards creating,

Beginning this internal harmony between the masculine and the feminine.

Reviews

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Fantastic talk! I liked the astrology bit, as well as basing our masculinity and femininity on our parents.
Thank you!

wow! such a lovely and supportive discussion. Thank you!

Deepest gratitude sweet soul sibling!
Namaste
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Thank you very much 🙏

Thanks you so much i'm thinking about this topic a lot and yes it is very important that everyone have this balance I'm trying myself 🙏💚