This is a really common thing that happens when one person gains sobriety and the other people are benefiting from their toxicity and they're not ready to change.
They just go looking for someone else to have that dysfunction play out with and the sober person has to find new friends.
When you get healthy,
It's like opening up a paradigm and suddenly all the healthy people reveal themselves to you.
People you might never have even considered being in connections with are suddenly available and you can't see them until you remove the unhealthy people from your life.
So that's also one of the things that happens.
When you have two willing people,
What's really extraordinary is that you both get to go through this portal together where the relationship up levels because both people are surrendered to the form and what will ultimately create the safety in the relationship is the honesty of not needing it to look any particular way,
For example,
And being committed to it just the same.
So there's still a devotional measure to it.
There's still a commitment in there.
You're committed to the connection no matter what that's required in order for this to happen.
But when you both reach humility,
It's like pouring magic potion on a relationship.
That's really the only way I can describe the experience of a relationship up leveling because both people no longer needed to look any particular way and they just let go and it creates it on a much stronger territory and that can happen in perpetuity.
This will occur over and over and over again until the day you die and you can still be two people who are sovereign together.
And that is interdependence instead of codependence because it's not like you don't need one another.
It's not like you don't feel one another.
It's not like you don't rely on one another.
It's not like you're not committed and interdependence understands that you are influenced by one another's energies.
So when you both at the same time decide to totally let go and just be honest with one another and not take action or be conclusive about the honesty,
For example,
Whatever remnants of the conditioning that has formed your current form of your relationship,
Including church,
Your parents,
Society,
It dies.
And then you too will have the privilege of being able to build the relationship that you want.
And it's an active research and development,
Trial and error from there.
And you'll have this experience over and over again.
And then every day will feel like a new day,
But you have to be,
Both of you,
More devoted to your liberation than you are to your comfort.
That is an essential ingredient for this to happen.
Both of you have to be.
And then you're a team and you're going to do this together.
And that's the agreement.
Whatever comes up,
We're in this together.
And it will change you from the inside out.
