The goal of this exercise is simply to notice how different states feel in your body when you're making decisions related to food allergies,
Celiac,
Or other health needs.
Not to judge yourself,
Not to evaluate whether you handle things perfectly,
Just to notice.
Awareness is often the first step toward feeling safer and more confident in the future.
You are always in choice during this practice,
So if at any point something feels uncomfortable or too intense,
Open your eyes,
Shift your position,
Or bring your attention back to the room around you.
Nothing here should be forced.
When you're ready,
Allow yourself to settle into a more comfortable position.
You might sit upright with your feet on the floor,
Or lie down somewhere supportive,
And let your body find a posture that feels steady.
Gently arrive in the present moment.
Notice where your body is making contact with the surface beneath you.
Your feet on the floor,
Your back against a chair,
Or the weight of your body resting on a bed or a couch.
Allow yourself to feel the support that's already here.
Now,
Take a slow breath in through your nose.
Pay attention to your breath as it moves in.
We're not forcing or pushing,
We're just noticing.
In and out.
There's nothing that you need to solve right now.
No labels to read,
No decisions to make.
Just this moment.
Let your breath move at a natural pace for you,
With curiosity about whether it shifts once you start paying attention to it.
Now I'll invite you to bring to mind a time when you made a food allergy or celiac decision from a place of anxiety or urgency or fear.
It doesn't need to be the most intense one,
Usually the first thing that comes to mind is the best thing to work with.
It can be any moment when you remember feeling very activated or unsure.
It might have to do with reading a label over and over again,
Seeking repeated reassurance,
Avoiding a situation or an experience completely,
Or feeling rushed to make a decision quickly.
Let the memory come into view lightly,
As if you're observing it from a distance.
You're not stepping back into the moment to experience it,
You're noticing it from here.
Watch the scene play as if you're watching a movie.
And bring attention to your body.
What sensations do you notice?
Is your chest tight?
Is your breathing shallow or fast?
Do you feel tension in your jaw,
Your shoulders,
Your stomach,
Your fists,
Your hips and your pelvis?
You might notice general sensations like a buzzing or a pressure,
Tightness,
Restlessness,
Or a sense of urgency.
You might even feel like you can't sit here and do this right now.
And if that's the case,
It's okay to open your eyes and pause.
There's no right or wrong experience here,
Just observe.
And if it feels helpful,
If a word comes to mind,
You can name what you feel.
Alert,
Tight,
Fluttery.
This is what anxiety often feels like in the body,
A nervous system preparing for danger.
When we're in this state,
It's very natural for us to want to reduce the discomfort.
So let the scene play again and notice what you did to try to reduce the discomfort or ease.
When we make that choice,
We might feel a small temporary drop in the anxiety.
That relief teaches the brain something powerful.
That behavior helped me feel safer.
So the brain encourages us to repeat it the next time.
This is how anxiety can become self-reinforcing.
Checking once becomes checking three times,
Then five.
Certainly not because it's making us any safer than when we checked once or a second time,
Just to be sure.
It's because the nervous system is trying to soothe itself.
If you see that pattern in the memory,
Observe it with compassion.
There's nothing to fix.
Just notice how the anxiety lives in the body.
If the sensations feel intense,
You can remind yourself,
This is just a memory.
I'm safe right now.
Bring your attention back to your breath.
Maybe your pattern looks different.
Sometimes the nervous system reduces anxiety by avoiding things.
We might limit or restrict an experience or avoid it completely.
Over time,
The brain learns that not going temporarily felt like relief.
And if avoiding it feels like relief,
That sends the nervous system the message that going would have been dangerous.
In this case,
If the avoidance is what creates the sense of safety,
Then the safe circle will eventually get smaller and smaller.
Whatever it is that you're seeing in this memory,
Checking,
Reassurance,
Avoidance,
These are all ways that the nervous system tries to reduce our uncertainty.
For a moment,
They work.
Over time,
They've taught our brains that danger is everywhere and that our own judgment can't be trusted.
Now imagine gently placing that memory on a shelf.
Sometimes it can help to give a concrete visual of doing that.
Picking up the remote and going back to the home screen on your streaming platform or removing a DVD from the player,
Placing it back in the case and putting it on the shelf.
We're not denying it or erasing it.
We're setting it down for now.
Bring your awareness back to the present moment.
Feel the support beneath you.
Notice the temperature of the air.
Breathe in and out.
Allow your body to settle.
We're going to recall one more moment together.
This time,
One where you made an allergy or celiac-related decision that felt calm,
Clear,
Or confident.
Maybe it's a label that you read and you felt great about your choice.
Maybe it's an outing or an experience that you had that you took the necessary steps to prepare for.
Let that moment come into view and notice your body again.
How does your breathing feel now?
What's happening in your shoulders?
Your chest?
Your face?
You might notice steadiness,
A sense of openness,
Warmth,
A sense of space.
Let yourself really feel what it's like to experience this moment.
This is your nervous system when awareness and thinking are working together and caution and clarity can coexist.
Find where that feeling is centered in your body and then as you breathe,
Imagine that it expands.
Notice how different calm feels from urgency,
How confidence feels different from fear,
And recognize this state is not carelessness.
It is regulated and it's available to you.
You can access it more easily if you reflect on and try to remember the difference between these two states,
Not judging yourself for them,
Just noticing which one gave you more access to your wisdom.
Your body knows the difference and when you find yourself making a decision in the future,
You can check in and try to recognize it.
If you find yourself facing a decision from a state that you don't want to be in,
It's a clue to step away and give yourself a moment to get regulated before you consider what to do next.
Take one more slow breath in and breathe out.
If it feels comfortable,
Place a hand on your chest or your forehead or abdomen or both and feel the movement of your breath beneath your hands.
As you remind yourself,
I can be careful without being fearful.
When you're ready,
Begin to notice the room again,
The light and the sounds.
Gently wiggle your fingers or toes to bring your awareness back to the present moment.
And when you feel ready,
Open your eyes.
Thank you for making time to take care of yourself today.