Take a moment to arrive here.
There's nothing you need to fix,
Achieve,
Or understand right now.
If it feels comfortable,
Allow your eyes to close or soften your gaze.
Notice the surface beneath you.
Notice where your body is being supported.
Before we begin,
Let's name something important.
Your nervous system is always learning,
Every day,
Through your experiences,
Your reactions,
And your choices.
Self-care isn't about becoming better or calmer or more disciplined.
It's about re-teaching safety to a nervous system that has learned to stay on alert.
When you live with food allergies,
Celiac disease,
Or many other kinds of chronic illness or chronic pain,
Your nervous system is asked to do something very specific every single day.
Stay alert to real risks.
Read labels.
Scan rooms.
Evaluate other people's understanding and compassion.
Anticipate emergencies.
Carry medication.
Make judgment calls without complete information.
This is not imagined danger.
It is not anxiety for no reason.
This is your body's adaptation to living with ongoing threat.
This doesn't mean that you are failing or that your nervous system is broken.
It actually is an indication that your nervous system is doing exactly what it was designed to do in the face of repeated,
Real risk.
In this context,
Self-care is not about pleasure or optimization.
It's about regulation.
This meditation is an invitation to let your nervous system experience safety,
Even briefly,
Without needing to be on guard.
As we bring attention to our breath,
There's no need to try to change it right away.
Just notice where the breath is most present for you right now.
If it feels okay,
Allow the inhale to soften and the exhale to lengthen slightly longer,
As if your body is being given permission to pause.
You're not turning off awareness.
You are creating the safety that allows you to stand down for a moment.
Again,
Inhale.
And a longer,
Softer exhale.
Imagine your exhale signaling to your body,
We're allowed to slow down.
Every act of self-care teaches your nervous system something.
Let's focus on those lessons together as we continue to breathe gently.
When you're compassionate with yourself after a mistake,
When you speak to yourself gently instead of critically,
Your nervous system learns,
I'm safe even when I'm not perfect.
Let your body feel what that might be like.
No tightening,
No bracing.
Just enough softness to keep breathing.
When you set a boundary,
When you say no or pause or choose differently,
Your nervous system learns,
I don't have to people please to belong.
Notice if any part of you feels relief hearing that.
Notice if another part feels nervous.
Both are welcome.
When you hold a boundary,
Even if it's uncomfortable for you or if someone else is disappointed,
Your nervous system learns,
I can stay safe in conflict.
It's natural to dislike conflict.
And your body is able to learn that disappointment doesn't equal danger.
When you rest,
When you stop striving,
Producing,
Proving,
Doing,
Your nervous system learns,
I don't have to earn safety through productivity.
Let your shoulders drop.
Let your jaw soften.
Rest is not a failure of discipline.
It's a signal of safety.
When you ask for help,
When you allow yourself to be seen or supported,
Your nervous system learns,
I'm safe even when I'm vulnerable.
Notice if that lands somewhere in your chest or belly or another place in your body.
You don't have to do everything alone.
When you take a break with unfinished tasks,
When you pause even though things aren't complete,
Your nervous system learns,
Nothing terrible happens when I stop.
The world doesn't collapse.
You're still okay.
See if you can find the okayness now in your body.
And if you do,
Focus on it as you breathe.
Allow that okayness in that part of your body to spread.
Every time you stop and breathe and remind yourself,
You're reteaching your body and your nervous system that in this moment you're okay.
None of these lessons happen all at once.
They are learned slowly through repetition.
So care isn't about fixing your nervous system.
It's about giving it new evidence.
Evidence that you are safe.
Evidence that you are allowed to be human.
Evidence that care is safe.
Care,
Not pressure,
Is what helps you heal.
Take one more gentle breath here.
Inhale.
And exhale.
And when you're ready,
Begin to bring your awareness back to the room.
Wiggle your fingers or toes.
Open your eyes if they were closed.
And carry this forward with you.
Every small act of self-care is a quiet lesson in safety,
And your body is always listening.
