Positive Vibes Live (Edited) - Growth Mindset

Recorded live on Insight Timer on 16th July 2024. During this upbeat and lively session Sarah introduces and discusses how adopting a growth mindset can change your life. Sarah shares some of her own story to demonstrate how she has transformed her life over the last couple of decades using this approach; one of curiosity, inquiry, questioning, and so much more.

A range of topics are covered including manifestation in relation to life and careers.

Live feedback included: "Wonderful ", "This was great. Much to reflect on as I put my vision board together and listen to your career course again!", "Thank you so much, Sarah, really appreciate your wisdom and love your energy."

NB - Sarah apologizes for some odd knocking during the audio. Despite trying her hardest she was unable to edit it out / as it was a live recording it naturally couldn't be re-recorded.

Transcript

I'm Sarah Naylor.

I'm obviously an Insight.

I'm a teacher.

I'm also an author,

A coach,

And businesswoman,

And various other things.

I like writing and creating content on social media,

Et cetera,

And creating lives.

Today,

Obviously,

This is all about positive vibes.

I thought you might like to know a little bit more about,

Well,

Talking about solution-focused outcome thinking,

But also a growth mindset.

I'm in the midst of creating a PowerPoint and delivering a talk at Norwich City Football Club.

I've been invited to go along and talk at a free sales event.

One of the things I'm talking about,

Which I thought I'd share with you today,

Was a growth mindset.

Anyway,

Let me throw it out to you all.

Who knows anything about growth mindsets?

Anybody know anything,

And they'd like to share,

Please do pop things in the chat.

In fact,

I invite you,

Use this platform,

Ask me anything that you want to ask me,

Pop it into the chat.

I love responding to your comments,

Input,

Et cetera,

Because I'm here for you,

Basically.

I can deliver topics that will evolve around what you want to know from an energetic perspective,

A positive perspective.

Yeah,

Anything you want to ask,

Pop it into the chat.

Let me know if you know anything about growth mindsets,

Solution-focused outcome thinking,

But I will kick on and talk about growth mindsets.

Really,

What that is,

What that means is rather than having a fixed mindset where you just believe one set of results,

You know,

Or you don't believe,

Thank you,

Brenda.

Yeah,

So a fixed mindset is where you just,

That's it,

That's what you believe.

You don't think outside of the box.

But when you have a growth mindset,

You become curious,

You want to learn,

You are interested,

You are listening,

You are observing,

You are taking on board what other people say.

You see solutions,

You see opportunities in the learning,

You see where you can grow,

You know,

How you can grow and you can rise above and you can see things from a different perspective.

You can shift your mindset,

You don't go single track,

You know,

You go off at different tangents,

You pick up information.

Because here's the thing,

You know,

Everybody comes into our life at different times,

You know,

Sometimes people will come and it might just be that they've got a message to pass on to you.

And it might be that if you're not tuned in,

You might miss it.

But if you're tuned in,

If you know what it is that you want to achieve,

Where you're going in life,

What it is that you want to bring into your life,

How you want your life to evolve,

How you want your life to look,

You will recognise those opportunities as they present themselves.

Because you've got,

Your ear is open,

You're being curious,

You're wanting to learn.

So that's where that growth mindset comes in.

You are curious about what somebody's got to say.

You're not going to go into a conversation with somebody and just start talking at them.

Funnily enough,

I've just been having a conversation with a lovely,

Lovely coach friend of mine.

She was talking about a meeting that she'd been having with a guy who's got really good sales results.

And she said,

You know,

She'd met up with him two or three times and not once inquire anything about her or what she did or her life.

And this isn't her,

She's not egotistical,

But she listened to him talk on all the time about how wonderful he was and what all this stuff that he was doing.

But at no time did he inquire into what she did or what she could share with him.

Because I can tell you right now,

All of you have got something to share.

All of you have got stuff that you can pass on to other people.

So when you start to talk your truth,

When you start to be yourself,

When you have that inquiry mind,

When you open your mind,

When you share it with other people,

There is information that you can pass on to somebody else that helps them evolve and helps them grow as they've got that growth mindset.

And it's all about,

It's asking,

Not telling.

I mean,

Which is a key attribute in coaching,

To be quite honest.

You ask questions.

So what have you done to expand your mind in the last,

Whether it be the last week,

The last month,

The last year?

What have you done in terms of expansion?

Clearly you're on Insight Time and there's a raft of teachers on here that you can learn so much from depending on what it is that you,

What you want to learn,

You know.

Funnily enough,

I was talking about,

In fact,

I've just edited a podcast episode that I had recorded about two or three years ago and it's about breathwork.

Now I'm chatting on this podcast going,

It's breathworker.

I meant a facilitator.

I didn't know when I was recording this episode,

I couldn't think what it was that I actually was trying to say.

But for example,

On Insight Timer,

I imagine,

I bet there are rafts of teachers on there that can teach you about breathwork.

Because funnily enough,

It's something that we do all the time,

Isn't it?

We are always breathing and yet so many people have got problems with breathing from asthma issues and one thing or another.

But when you start to have that growth mindset,

You start to be curious,

You start to ask questions,

You can enquire,

You can find out there are different techniques available to breathe.

It's about getting that air into our lungs and breathing in and breathing out and getting the sort of the airflow going and it's the different techniques you can learn from yoga and there's so much.

Who does breathwork?

Anybody listening that does breathwork?

I'd be fascinated to know and hear from you if you could put some information into the chat.

That would be lovely.

Your mind's like a sponge.

Brenda,

Do you know what?

That's really interesting that you use that analogy.

When I got divorced 19 years ago from my ex-husband,

That is exactly how I felt.

I felt like a sponge.

I couldn't absorb enough information fast enough and it was like,

Give me,

Give me,

Give me,

Give,

Give,

Give,

Give,

Bring it in,

Bring it in.

And I was just like,

Learn,

Learn,

Learn.

And in fact,

Let me know because I'd be really interested and fascinated to know.

Yes.

When you say you're like a sponge,

When you're hearing stuff,

Is it like it's triggering stuff that you realise that you already know internally?

Because that's what I found.

It was like,

Oh,

Right.

This is called that.

That's called that.

This is,

There's a name for it.

There was so much going on and I just,

I was doing almost like years and years and years worth of learning in such a short space of time just to catch up.

I spent 20 years with my ex-husband and I felt like I'd been sort of enclosed in some sort of setaway.

I'd been manoeuvred away from all my friends.

And I think we got onto narcissism last week and I've only last year discovered my ex-husband was a narcissist.

However,

I'd been manoeuvred away from my friends and people that I did see socially were his friends,

But I didn't have a social life.

Certainly after my son was born,

My only social life was effectively going to work.

And so therefore,

Oh,

Brenda says lots of information and liking it.

Yeah.

Brilliant.

Love it.

Bring it on Brenda.

But when I left,

I felt like I'd be,

I was really naive.

I cannot even start to go with where naive was.

And the growth mindset was absolutely paramount to this expansion for me to sort of grow into the person I am at the moment and that I'm still growing into.

Amy said,

Yes,

Absolutely.

Finding it so much so.

I'm learning.

Feels like it's already been unlocked from deep inside.

Spot on Amy.

That's exactly it.

Because you just go,

Yes,

I get it.

Absolutely.

Yeah.

I sense it.

I know it.

I feel it.

And when you are unlocking that,

It's magical,

Isn't it?

You're breathing air into who you are.

And that's how I felt,

I'd say 19 years ago.

And I still feel it now.

I still get excited about learning and doing new stuff.

I did so much somatic healing last year to release the trapped,

Damaged energy caused by narcissism.

And that allowed me to flow.

And here's the thing on a completely different subject really,

That when I was at school,

I was doing English and I didn't find I fitted into that English.

And what,

10 years later,

I did English literature A-level at night school.

And it's only sort of been in the intervening years that I've allowed myself to let go and follow my flow because I've embraced this growth mindset approach as I've absorbed stuff like Amy and Brenda and I'm sure everybody else on here listening.

You know,

As you get on to that journey,

As you step into that area and step into that zone of learning and opening up yourself,

There's so much more.

And as you open up one layer,

Another one will appear and you want to go and do this and you want to go and do that.

And you pick up what is important because we can't do,

Well,

I keep on trying to do everything all of the time,

But can't do everything all of the time,

Obviously.

But,

You know,

It's that excitement about trying stuff that's new,

Taking a different direction.

I mean,

For example,

When I got divorced,

I ended up back at home with my parents sharing my old bedroom with my son.

And my mum said to me,

Say yes to everything.

And that's what I was doing.

I was saying yes to everything.

And that included going to the golf club with my parents and their 70-year-old friends when I was 39.

But we take our yeses where we can and it evolves.

You know,

Things grow,

Things develop.

You seize those opportunities,

You seize those moments and you don't know where it's going to go.

If we stick with a closed mindset and you sort of say,

Well,

No,

That's what I know.

That's what I know.

You won't ever sort of experience anything any different.

If you don't change anything,

Nothing will change at all.

And I rather like to think that change is the only constant in this world because things are always evolving,

Always changing.

And it's just nice to have a bit of peace.

I'll be honest with you.

It's quite nice at the moment.

Things have sort of settled down a little bit for us.

Oh,

Brenda says,

I'm such a planner and now so spontaneous.

Oh,

Brilliant,

Brenda.

That's brilliant.

What happened?

I'm curious.

And this is something else that's lovely about having a growth mindset,

Being curious,

Asking questions.

What happened?

What made this change?

What brought that about?

Because quite often we can get to a point of,

Whether it be overwhelmed or sort of just not knowing what can happen.

And if we haven't made that decision,

We can get pushed into the position of actually having to kind of let go,

To surrender.

That happened to me last year.

I had to learn the hard way to literally let go and surrender.

My recruitment business ended up going into administration.

And funnily enough,

I've just had a phone call with the partner of the insolvency firm.

By the year anniversary,

Hopefully it will get all finalised and wound up.

And it's dragging on.

It's been 18 months effectively in the process and you're having to sort of work through that.

And it's been really hard.

It's been really tough.

But,

You know,

As long as you keep focused on the positives,

On the things that are happening,

And as I say,

Everything happened to me last year,

Change wise,

It was like an internal combustion.

For those of you that haven't heard me talk before,

2023 saw my recruitment business go into administration.

It saw me sell my car to pay my mortgage because all the interest rates had gone up here.

All my outgoings had gone up.

My incoming had gone down and my relationship with my son broke down.

And it sort of really impacted my spiritual beliefs of everything working out wonderfully.

Everything really crashed and burned at the same time.

Shifting my perspective around it made me look at it latterly from a different perspective that I,

This all had to happen for me to move.

Because in December,

Seven months ago,

We relocated to a place called Norfolk in the UK,

Which is an absolutely gorgeous place to live.

We're able to do so without me taking all of this stuff,

All of this baggage effectively with me.

Because let's face it,

You know,

When we're moving on,

What's gone in the past has gone in the past.

We can't,

And we mustn't,

And we ought not to take it forward with us because we don't know what's going to happen.

We don't know what's going to happen in the next five minutes.

You have a good idea.

Once I finish talking on here,

I've got a good idea that I might go make myself a cup of tea.

But you know,

It might be that I don't.

It might be the doorbell goes.

It might be something else happens.

You just don't know because you're constantly,

Things are changing all around you.

Brenda's put,

Changing my religion and doing lots of meditation.

I've been thinking about change and now doing it.

It feels wonderful.

That's awesome,

Brenda.

That is absolutely amazing.

Congratulations and enjoy the journey.

I tell you what,

The journeys in life,

The ones which are a bit rocky,

They can be a bit traumatic at times,

But you learn so much from them.

And that's where the growth comes.

That's where the expansion comes.

And that's where you get out there and you do things.

Because there's a few phrases that I like to bandy about.

What's the worst that can happen?

You know,

It's a no anyway if you don't give it a try,

Or answer the door,

Or do whatever,

Make the call.

Do it now.

That's one of my courses,

Actually.

If you've not checked out my courses,

Do it now.

Amy's put,

So happy for you.

You're able to shift your perspective,

All of that.

It's how disasters become opportunities to learn and grow.

Absolutely.

Brenda,

Yes,

Absolutely so true.

Thank you.

Thank you,

Amy.

Thank you,

Brenda.

Thank you for interacting.

It really helps me tremendously when people interact because I can't see you,

But I can kind of hear you,

If you know what I mean.

But it is about shifting perspective.

Please do take a look at my profile and the courses that I've got on Insight Time and the talks as well.

So I've got a course on Do It Now,

Positive Vibes course,

And my Ape Mindset Methodology,

Which is about acceptance,

Perspective and energy.

So it's like accepting what you can and you can't change,

Shifting your perspective and channeling your energy accordingly,

Which again,

This all wraps up into this growth mindset focus as well.

And also,

If anybody's changing jobs,

I've got a Manifest Your Dream Job course on there.

And if you are coming out of a relationship or anything like that,

I've got a course on how to reset your life as well.

Even,

Ellen,

Even without manifesting,

We tend to manifest from the familiar and not towards growth perspective and potential.

Yeah,

Because it's about what it is and thinking differently to manifest what it is that you want in to your life.

And then believing that that is going to materialise,

But also accepting if what you wanted to manifest,

To manifest,

Doesn't manifest,

It's accepting that it perhaps wasn't meant to manifest,

But if you believe that it will and it's meant to,

It will manifest.

It's a tricky one to get your head around.

Brenda,

My mantra is,

I can and I will.

Wonderful.

I love that.

That is brilliant.

I can and I am doing.

I am making it happen.

That is awesome.

I love that.

So,

It is about what you want.

Interestingly enough,

As I've said,

We relocated to Norfolk,

Which is two and a half miles from the sea in the UK.

And a couple of years ago,

I had a photo shoot,

A branding photo shoot,

And it was down in Brighton.

And so,

I've got all these photographs of me by the seaside,

But at the time,

I was living in a landlocked Nottinghamshire before.

But interesting,

That's kind of manifested that seaside and all my vision boards.

Who's done vision boards?

Anybody done a vision board?

Because that's great for manifesting as well.

And that again,

It comes into that growth mindset.

Yeah,

They're great,

Aren't they?

So,

When I did one of mine,

I had India and yoga and all of this stuff on it.

And it wasn't until I'd looked at it,

I don't know,

Probably about 18 months later,

I went,

Oh my gosh,

I've tick,

Tick,

Tick,

Tick.

I've done all the things on my vision board.

Then I created another one and it's very much the life that we are now living now.

It's by the sea,

It's light,

It's spacious.

I'm in a loving relationship,

Which is amazing.

Having had rather challenging relationships in the past and after the end of my last one back in 2015,

I said,

Do you know what?

I'd rather be single than been in another challenging relationship and single I was for five years.

You've just started one yesterday.

Oh,

Wicked Amy,

That's awesome.

What have you got going on it?

Please do share.

Has anybody else got a vision board going on?

Please do share what you're putting on it.

Put it out there.

Let us know what you want to manifest because it's only when you put things out there and you speak about it,

That is when the magic starts to happen.

Because if you just keep it all in here,

Not spreading the message out there,

Because it's energetically,

There's more in the unseen than there is in the seen.

We are more energy than we are physical matter.

It's fascinating.

We don't think about how,

How is this happening?

This technology right now,

We just accept it,

Don't we?

That I can talk to all of you globally through this microphone and through this laptop that I'm looking at and you can access me through your mobile devices and your computers.

We accept it,

But it's all happening on sort of energetically through radio waves in my.

.

.

I don't know the technical stuff,

But that is happening with us all of the time.

You know,

My partner got a bit of an act of thinking I want a cup of tea and then he goes,

You want a cup of tea?

I go,

Yes,

Please.

So we're very tuned in to each other.

Amy's got a little cottage with wildflowers,

Trees and a stream or lake nearby.

That sounds idyllic,

Amy.

That sounds wonderful.

Whereabouts in the world do you want that?

That sounds fantastic.

We've got a road that takes us from where we live up to the next sort of small town and they've got all these beautiful wildflowers on the verge of obviously being planted and it's so pretty,

So pretty.

Let us know where you want to have this cottage because that sounds lovely.

In fact,

There's some love cottages near where I live that have got wildflowers,

Trees and a stream.

In fact,

I'm very,

Very lucky.

If I go down to the bottom of the road,

We can walk through a field and there's usually horses either side.

We cross over a main road,

Then we go through woodland,

Through a nature reserve and then we're at the beach.

Brenda,

I'm ready now for a relationship.

I haven't been one in for a long time.

Right,

Get manifesting,

Brenda.

Get thinking about what that person,

The attributes that individual has and bring that person into your life.

And here's the thing,

Talking about growth mindset,

I'd like to encourage you all to kind of get out of your own way like I've had to do on a few occasions and I've had to learn this a lot.

When I first met my partner,

We met online dating four years ago and we met and I thought,

No,

Not sure,

Not sure.

And I said,

You go off and off you went dating some more people.

But we carried on chatting and then something came up and he said something to me.

I'm like,

Oh,

Maybe I'm interested after all.

Then we started to see each other again.

Then it was up and down a little bit.

And in the end,

I had to kind of get out of my own way because I'd got this preconceived idea because I think unfortunately,

A lot of the dating sites,

They make you so selective,

Don't they?

And they put you into a position of going,

Oh yes,

I want to have he or she,

Or they have got to have blonde hair,

Blue eyes,

Or they've got to have,

They've got to be short,

They've got to be tall,

They've got to be wide,

They've got to be thin,

They've got to be this,

They've got to be that.

And they've got to have this hobby and that.

It's like,

What?

It's just absolutely ridiculous.

But the key is,

You know,

It's finding yourself and being happy with yourself and understanding who you are.

But equally so,

Even though I had all of that,

I still had to get out of my own way because I'd been educated to have this idea of where I was in life,

I ought to have this sort of person into my life.

It's like rubbish.

It's absolute rubbish.

It's about connecting with yourself and connecting with a person that connects with you,

You know,

At a soulless,

Energetic level where each of you want what's best for the other person and you are supporting that person.

If you are in a relationship with somebody that's pulling you down all the time and telling you you're rubbish or you ought to do this,

You ought to do that,

That's not healthy.

Trust me,

I've been in those relationships.

You know,

I did 20 years with my ex-husband and five and a half years with another guy that I don't think I ever had a compliment,

You know.

But when you're with somebody that you are appreciative and you want what's best for each other,

We constantly say,

Even just for a cup of tea,

It's like,

Thank you,

Thank you.

But I had to get out of my own way to have the relationship and to allow it to breathe.

And then when I did,

That's when the magic started to happen.

I'd had those five years of being single,

Dipped in and out of sort of dating.

And each time I sort of went on a date,

I thought,

Oh,

That went,

Then it didn't materialise.

Then when I sort of say,

Took a step back and go,

Oh no,

It's not for me.

It's going with that flow.

It's going with that energy.

It's going with what feels right for you.

But as I said,

When you get to the dating agency sites,

I think that they push you down that being so specific,

Which is good in one respect,

But equally so,

You can cancel somebody out just because they are short by an inch in height,

Perhaps.

They're half a mile further away than when you really want them to be living.

I'm excited for you,

Brenda.

That is awesome.

Open or specific about location.

I've written a book ages ago,

Shining a Light on You,

How to Manifest Your Dream Job.

And the elements within that,

I liken to life as well.

So yeah,

I mean,

I think it's about being really specific,

But equally so being flexible and open at the same time.

Does that make sense?

So being specific,

It gives you some sort of focus.

Let's put it this way.

When we moved,

I wanted a house with a sea view.

We found a house.

It had a sea view.

We put an offer in,

It was accepted,

And then they retracted their acceptance of our offer a week later.

And we ended up in the,

Oh,

In fact,

It wasn't even a house.

It was a bungalow because I'd lived in a bungalow for 19 years and I wanted a house.

I wanted to go upstairs to bed.

Anyway,

The house we offered on had got the sea view.

They pulled out a week later.

Oh,

That's very kind,

Brenda.

Thank you very,

Very much for donating.

I really appreciate that.

I didn't mention that to everybody actually at the beginning.

I should have said,

You know,

All donations are welcome to all teachers across all of Insight Timer.

That's always a grateful,

Thank you.

Thank you so much.

I wanted a house with a sea view.

Didn't get the house,

Got a bungalow with a sea view.

They pulled out a week later and then we ended up having to go and find another property and we found another bungalow.

So although we found the location,

It wasn't the house that I was hoping for with the sea view,

But it's a much better location,

Brilliant neighbours.

We've been really,

Really lucky.

But coming down to being specific,

When partner and I started to look the locations,

We were looking at South Wales and all of the area of Norfolk.

So that's like looking obviously at two regions in the States.

And it was crazy.

We were looking so broadly.

It was just getting exhausting.

So I said,

Right,

We need to narrow it down now because you can either chunk up or you can chunk down to get sort of specific.

Because if you can't get that bigger picture,

It's chunking it up.

But if you've got too much of a bigger picture,

It's about bringing it back down to get more specific.

So you could be really specific,

Amy,

With what it is that you want to,

You know,

What regions,

But then start to look at certain regions and then you narrow it down because there are certain places that you might think you want to live.

I mean,

We looked,

Ultimately,

We crossed off Wales off the list,

Looked at North Norfolk.

Even within that,

We then realised that some of the locations we were looking at were too far away.

Even then,

When we brought it in closer,

We realised that we needed to get even more specific,

Which is how we ended up in the area that we are in now.

So I think it's malleable.

It's like energy.

Everything's malleable.

Just because you are specific initially doesn't mean to say that you can't then be flexible.

So get specific.

But then if it's too specific and you're finding it too constricting,

Then open it out.

Or if it's too open,

Bring it down and then get more specific again.

But it's like when I'm talking about,

You know,

Sort of the dating agency site,

You know,

If all you can do,

You've got masses and masses and masses of people to choose from,

You need to whittle it down and get more specific.

But if you're only getting like one or two people in the selection process,

You need to widen out the search.

Here we go.

I'm going to dip into and share with you my recruitment background.

36 years spent in recruitment.

So when you are a recruiter and you are using the recruitment job boards and databases and things like that,

You kind of put in these searches to try and find candidates for jobs.

And you can do it really wide and you go,

Oh my gosh,

I don't really want to be ploughing through 2000 CVs.

But then you sort of chunk it down.

And then if you only end up with five,

You need to widen it up again.

So you could be doing it on region,

On skills bases or anything like that.

And you can apply that methodology to all of life effectively.

You know,

You really can.

So yeah,

Whatever it is,

Build it up.

And if you've got certain areas you fancy,

Because it gives you the opportunity to explore,

Amy,

Where would you like to be?

Where would you want to be?

You know,

All of you,

This is going out to all of you,

What is it that you want to achieve?

Let's set some targets,

Let's set some intentions while we're having a growth mindset moment.

What is it?

Pop it into the chat.

Let's make it a reality.

What do you want to achieve within the next six to 12 months?

I'm not going to do five years.

I don't even know what I'm going to,

Where I'm going to be in five years.

It's not about setting it in stone and saying it's got to happen because it's setting that intention.

Because when you leave a house in the morning,

You have an idea of where you're going,

Don't you?

And that's the same thing with life.

You need a direction to go in.

But that's not to say that you can take a path to the left,

A path to the right.

It's not to say that you can't go backwards to the shop that was there before you.

It's about knowing the direction you're going in,

What it is you ultimately would like to achieve.

So you recognise the opportunities along the way,

You get curious,

You explore.

Fish,

A new job in new career,

Definitely looking at more broad ops first.

Fish,

Take a look at my Manifest Your Dream job course.

I think that will really help you,

Obviously on Insight Time.

And I've also got a guided visualisation meditation as well.

Ellen,

I think you went through the course,

Didn't you?

Thank you so much.

Ellen's just put,

Yeah,

It's such a good course because it will make you think,

It takes you through your passions,

Your purpose,

Your potential,

And it will take you on a journey of all of that.

So yeah,

Please go and have a look at it and let me know what you think because I think it will help tremendously.

So Amy's looking at Pacific,

Northwest,

US,

Colorado,

New Orleans,

Or even Costa Rica or Spain.

Wow.

Wow,

That sounds amazing,

Amy.

Get a picture of your visualisation of your picture and then look at where that could pop up and do some Google searches and see where you could go.

How exciting.

Went to Spain in May and visited a friend who lives out there now,

Stopped in her apartment in her villa.

Ellen said,

Yes,

I did.

Interesting what comes up.

Ellen's referring,

Fish,

To the guided visualisation meditation that I've recorded and put onto Insight Timer because each time you do it,

You will get a different result,

As is the case whenever you meditate.

But it's a guided meditation to make you think so that you've got stuff coming in and you can sort of visualise yourself into the workplace,

Who you're with,

Where you are and what you're doing.

And Amy,

You could do that work with your house where you want to be.

Oh,

Thank you,

Ellen.

Go and do it again.

Fantastic.

Yeah,

Fish,

It's about that visualisation.

It's understanding and feeling it and sensing it and going,

Okay,

What is it?

I know this.

When I wrote the book and I did the visualisation,

It's all based on my own life.

It's an integration of the practical stuff,

The spiritual stuff and recruitment.

It's careers.

Because I've got all of that,

I intertwine the whole lot.

It is very much about,

And drawing upon my own experience as well,

Because I've manifested all of my opportunities over the years from being tuned in and going into,

Right at the beginning of my career in 1987,

Walking into a recruitment agency,

Overhearing them recruiting for another recruitment firm,

Going,

Oh,

Put me forward,

Put me forward.

No,

There's too many people.

We've already got interviews lined up.

I said,

Well,

If anybody crashes out,

Let me know.

Somebody did.

They put me forward.

I got the job.

Sadly got redundant three months later,

But then I got the,

What we called the yellow pages in the UK,

The directory out,

Rang loads of companies,

Got myself another three or four interviews,

Got a job.

I was then headhunted from one to another,

Which took me to Kelly Services.

Then four years in there,

There was only one other company I wanted to work for.

And I just knew where I wanted to work.

No other agency in the region I wanted to work for,

Just the one.

I walked in there one day and I was really fed up and came out with a job.

When I'd had 13 years with them,

I was at this stage of going,

I was divorced by then.

And I'd reached this point because I'd done all of this sponge-like,

This absorbing stuff.

Oh,

You remember Kelly Girls?

Yeah,

I was a Kelly Girl.

Used to be a Kelly Girl temp,

Actually,

Before.

In fact,

I'd just changed to Kelly Services,

Brenda,

Before I joined,

But I was a Kelly Girl as a temp.

But yeah,

So when I had spent 13 years with my last employer,

It was 2009.

And I just knew I didn't fit anywhere because I'd never managed.

I'd never led a team.

And I knew more than a lot of people in other businesses where they were just taking on raw graduates.

And it's like,

Well,

Where do I fit in?

And ultimately,

I got specific.

I thought,

I just need to work for a small business,

Supporting that owner of the business,

Build their business up.

And out of the blue,

I was offered,

And I do mean this,

Out of the blue,

Completely out of the blue.

I hadn't spoken to these people before.

Within a week of each other,

I got offered two opportunities to work on a self-employed basis for independent recruiters in their small business,

Of which I took one,

Worked for her for 18 months,

Two years before she sold to another business.

And in that time,

I think I'd qualified as a coach.

That was 2012.

And then I set up my own recruitment business in 2014.

So yeah,

Things just materialise and you seize them because you've got this idea of where you want to go.

You see,

I get sort of animated about it.

So yeah,

It's getting clear and working it out.

I had to whittle away.

Imagine throwing loads of clay on a wheel and you're going to sort of shape it into a vase or whatever it is.

Then you're going to put the detail on it and glaze it and what have you.

And that's what you can do.

You know you've got skills.

You know you want a job.

You know you need to work in a certain area.

Pile it all on,

Pile it all on.

Then start to shape it and work it and go,

What is it I want to do?

And as with a job,

As is with life,

As is with relationships,

It's creating it and understanding it,

But working with yourself,

Understanding yourself,

Shaping yourself,

Moving forwards.

Oh,

Happenstance is actually a good concept in career psychology,

Being aware and grabbing them when they appear.

Absolutely,

Fish.

Yeah,

Brilliant.

All too often people,

And this is my experience,

I mean bearing in mind I've helped thousands of people in their career over the last 36,

37 years and recruiters and employers alike,

You know,

But it's like,

If you like it,

If you see it and it feels right,

Grab it and go for it.

But sometimes people feel like they need to have a selection of offers on the table before they'll make a decision.

And it's like,

This is where you've got to trust your gut instinct.

In fact,

That's another course I've done.

There's the Do It Now course.

Please do check that one out.

And also Flow into Happiness,

Which I titled wrong.

It's all about going with,

It's surrendering and trusting your gut and going with the flow.

But it's trusting that instinctively,

It's sitting with it and listening to that voice within that goes,

Wants what's best for you,

As opposed to letting the monkey chatter mind go,

Need a few more jumps to choose from before you make a decision.

And then you've lost that opportunity that might've been absolutely spot on.

But do you know what?

When you seize an opportunity and if it doesn't work out,

There's going to be some learning from it.

But this is where the growth mindset comes back in as well,

Because when you accept everything and you take the learning from something that's presented,

Even if you go with your gut and it doesn't quite work out,

There'll be a reason why you went with your gut to have that experience,

To learn something that then you can move forward with.

Because without the learning,

We never move forward.

Without the learning,

You'd sit on the drive,

Wouldn't you?

You'd just sit on the drive and go,

Well,

Nothing's happening.

The car's not going anywhere.

No,

That's because you need to turn the ignition,

Then put it into gear,

Take the handbrake off.

It's recognising those opportunities,

It's seizing them,

It's going with them and trusting your instinct,

Going with the flow,

Letting go,

Surrendering,

Which is what I've had to do a lot of last year.

Because I've got a career spanning 36 years in recruitment.

Although I'd qualified as a coach and I've been working as a coach and I've written a book,

I've got a podcast that's out there and been downloaded over 42,

000 times globally and done lots of stuff.

The core of my activities had always been about recruitment and it was hard.

Even though I wanted to let it go,

It ultimately coughed me out like an old furball.

But to reprogram yourself after 36 years,

Which is the same when you end up leaving a relationship.

I was in a relationship for 20 years,

19 to 39.

That was a lot of my adult life.

And I've had to rework it,

But I've been able to rework it and reprogram it in a way of my choosing,

Of my liking.

And it continues to keep evolving because as you keep that growth mindset,

As you keep on being open-minded to opportunities,

More things present themselves to you and then more learning comes along the way as well.

Thank you so much all for joining me today.

I hope you've enjoyed it.

I know Sheila has,

So thank you very much.

I hope you've all got something out of it.

Please do pop over to my profile,

Follow me,

Check out the courses and the tracks.

The courses are growing,

Some constantly sort of building up content on there.

And my plan is every week I'll do a live.

I'm going to record it and then pop that up as a free track as well.

Thank you again for the donation.

Oh,

Thank you,

Ellen.

That's really,

Really kind of you.

Thank you.

Thank you,

Brenda.

Thank you,

As I say,

For everybody for taking part,

For listening.

Please do comment and chat in the classroom.

Ask me any questions on the course.

I'm here and I love answering and integrating and integrating,

Answering.

Thank you,

Amy.

Oh,

That's really,

Really kind of you.

Thank you.

I'm loving you.

I'm leaving you.

Love you all.

Thank you for joining me and bye everybody.

Look out for this.

Take care.

Take care.

Goodbye.