EFT Tapping For setting Boundaries

A guided EFT Tapping session to work through guilt and feelings associated with setting boundaries. It can be hard to set boundaries, so let's work through the blocks preventing us from saying no when we need to, and showing up for ourselves.

Transcript

Hi everybody,

For today's episode I want to tap on releasing the guilt of setting boundaries.

Thinking about when you have somebody who is asking you to do something and you know deep down in your gut you're like,

I really don't want to,

I can't,

This doesn't flow with me,

It's not benefiting me.

And I'm not saying that everything you do has to benefit you.

Sometimes you have to do things for other people and sometimes you want to do things for other people.

Sometimes you know it's just something you really do not vibe with and you feel guilty about saying no,

You don't want to upset people.

I know I don't like conflict,

I hate conflict,

I hate upsetting people and I hate saying no,

But when we go into that event,

Into whatever we are doing for that person or how we are allowing these people to come into our lives,

Are we really showing up in the way that is mutually beneficial,

Especially for ourselves?

If we are allowing people that really do not vibe with us,

That cause us tension,

Cause us pain,

Cause us trauma and we're still allowing them in,

We're not setting those boundaries,

Are we really benefiting ourselves?

I know it's easy to feel guilty and say oh but I don't want them to feel bad.

How are they making you feel?

Think about that.

Think about how,

They may not even know it.

They may be doing it intentionally,

They may be doing it unintentionally.

Either way,

How is that benefiting you?

How is that making your life any better?

When you are working with,

Being around,

Interacting with these people that are causing toxic relationships or toxic events,

They don't even have to be toxic,

Just things that wear you out,

Wear you down,

People that are emotionally draining to you,

Events that are emotionally draining to you.

Thinking about how you feel after that event is over.

You wish you never did it.

Fair.

So thinking about how you feel before that event comes up or when that person text messages you or calls you or emails you and asks,

Hey can you do me a favor?

You feel guilty,

You feel it in your body and you want to say no but you don't.

Why don't you?

Why don't you say no?

Do you feel that guilt?

It happens.

And I'm not here to really have you beat yourself up or feel bad about yourself,

But I want you to recognize the situations that you could possibly be going into where you're feeling guilty about saying no and then it just spirals into a whole I wish I didn't do that,

I wish I didn't say yes,

I wish I didn't commit to this.

Thinking about why you are committing and if you are feeling guilty,

Let's get tapping on it.

So we'll start with the side of the hand and you can think about a situation or a person that you're going through right now or just in general,

Just releasing that guilt of when these situations come up,

Letting go of that guilt and showing up for yourself and being able to say no,

This does not benefit me or this does not suit me or I just can't.

I can't show up for you the way that I want to.

So we'll start with tapping on the side of the hand and you can repeat after me out loud or in your mind.

Even though I feel guilty about setting boundaries,

I accept the way that I feel right now.

Even though I feel nervous about setting boundaries,

I am open to working through these feelings.

Even though sometimes I feel bad about setting boundaries,

I am open to releasing this feeling now.

Tapping on the eyebrow point,

I feel bad about setting boundaries.

Side of the eye,

I don't like upsetting people.

Under the eye,

I feel guilty about saying no.

Under the nose,

I don't like conflict.

Under the lip,

I hate conflict.

Collarbone,

I hate when people are mad at me.

Under the arm,

I hate when people are mad at me.

Top of the head,

I hate when people are mad at me for saying no.

Eyebrow point,

I feel this guilt in my body.

Side of the eye,

I feel this guilt in my gut.

Under the eye,

I feel like I might be letting other people down.

Under the nose,

But how do I feel when I let myself down?

Under the lip,

How does it feel when I overextend myself?

Collarbone,

To allow myself to show up for other people but not for me.

Under the arm,

Can I shift my mindset?

Top of the head,

Can I start showing up for me?

Eyebrow point,

Can I let go of some of this guilt?

Side of the eye,

Can I understand that everyone is allowed their own emotions?

Under the eye,

I accept that I cannot control other people.

Under the lip,

I accept that I cannot control how other people feel about me.

Collarbone,

I accept that I cannot control how people feel when I say no.

Under the arm,

I am ultimately not responsible for how other people feel.

Top of the head,

I am responsible for myself.

Eyebrow point,

I am open to putting more effort into taking care of me.

Side of the eye,

I am open to saying no.

Under the eye,

I am open to doing what's best for me.

Under the nose,

And in doing this I mean no harm to others.

Under the lip,

But in taking care of me I fill up my cup.

Collarbone,

So that I can show up for others.

Under the arm,

In the most meaningful ways.

Top of the head,

I am open to being okay with saying no more often.

Eyebrow point,

I am open to being okay with the fact that I might disappoint people.

Side of the eye,

I am open to the fact that they may not even care either way.

Under the eye,

Feeling any remaining guilt in my body now.

Under the nose,

Allowing that guilt to melt away with ease and grace.

Under the lip,

I honor that guilt that shows up.

Collarbone,

I accept it.

Under the arm,

I feel it.

Top of the head,

And I allow it to leave.

Eyebrow point,

It is okay to say no.

Side of the eye,

It is okay to set boundaries.

Under the eye,

Other people are setting boundaries.

Under the nose,

And I might not even know it.

Under the lip,

And I might not even care.

Collarbone,

And that's okay.

Under the arm,

They are doing what's best for them.

Top of the head,

And most of the time it's not even hurting me.

Eyebrow point,

This is my life.

Side of the eye,

This is my truth.

Under the eye,

And I am open to stepping into my truth.

Under the nose,

I honor myself for showing up and taking the steps.

Under the lip,

They may be small steps or they may be big steps.

Collarbone,

They are the steps that are the perfect size for me.

Under the arm,

I am open to setting boundaries.

Top of the head,

I am open to starting small.

Eyebrow point,

Saying no when I truly feel it would not benefit me.

Side of the eye,

I am not here to please everybody else.

Under the eye,

I am here to make my life the best and most fulfilling for myself.

Under the nose,

And in doing so,

I do no harm to others.

Under the lip,

I release the guilt of the possibility of hurting their feelings.

Collarbone,

I understand that that may happen,

But it also may just be a possibility.

Under the arm,

I may not even hurt their feelings.

Top of the head,

They may just move on.

Eyebrow point,

And not think anything of it.

Side of the eye,

And I will be okay.

Under the eye,

Even if their feelings get hurt.

Under the nose,

I will be okay.

Under the lip,

I will be more than okay.

Collarbone,

I will thrive.

Under the arm,

Letting go of this guilt.

Top of the head,

Letting go of this shame.

Eyebrow point,

Being open to setting boundaries.

Side of the eye,

Being open to releasing any guilt.

Under the eye,

Being open to it feeling awkward at first.

Under the nose,

But I am proud of myself.

Under the lip,

For taking time to show up for me.

Collarbone,

Because by showing up for me,

I set an example for others.

Under the arm,

And being an example of how I can show up for myself.

Top of the head,

I honor all the work that I've done today.

You can stop tapping,

Take a deep breath,

Make sure you drink some water today,

And see how you feel.

It's gonna feel weird when you first say no or set a boundary.

It's gonna be scary and it's gonna be hard and you're gonna feel a lot of things.

So allow yourself to feel those feelings and allow yourself to know that you honored what's best for you.

You're not doing this to hurt other people or tear them down or cause conflict.

You are put here to live your best life,

So why not do it?

Why not move forward through your life knowing that you're making the best decisions you can with what you have.

Be grateful for what you have,

Give to others when you can,

And knowing that you can fill up your cup and overflow to others when they need it.

You're giving to others with a full heart.

You're doing it from a beautiful place.

Thanks for tapping.

Reviews

Just what I needed. Thank you so much. I will return to listen to this, tapping wih you, again and again. Well done! (As you continue in your presence on insight timer your recordings will benefit from professional recording equipment and subtle quiet music in the background, but your heart and soul work is precious already. Wise and beautiful. Meaningful. I think your work could be one of the big names on insight timer. Thank you for your mental, emotional, spiritual and physical investment in this work.)

I needed this! Wonderful reminders and tapping session. I feel lighter and more confident around setting boundaries!