
How Trauma Impacts Us — Limiting Beliefs Are Like Tattoos
Oliver Gohari explains how traumatic experiences can impact us, and then describes one of the mindset shifts which can gently move us towards healing. Most individuals unfortunately experience hardship or suffering in life, in varying degrees. These events leave a narrative mark on our psyche or ego, which Oliver describes as being like "tattoos". Oliver explains how our relationship with these stories is fundamental for beginning to take steps towards compassionate healing.
Transcript
You've obviously gone through something an event or events.
And by the way,
Many of us have.
If not all of us have.
One thing that happens a lot is that We're mistreated.
Unfortunately but it's part of the deal it's part of the the soul entering the human carnation We experience suffering at the hands of another.
And sometimes it's really bad stuff,
Like.
.
.
I truly know because I've experienced it firsthand and it's not There's no justice.
But that event or those events what have they tattooed into your mind i'm going to give you some examples and you can only use You can only use short sentences here because the ego is primitive.
The ego is a child ultimately.
And it thinks in very simple sentences.
These traumas that we go through What do they tell us to believe?
I'm unsafe.
The world is.
.
.
Despicable.
I'm unlovable.
Other people want to take from me.
I'm unwanted.
I can't have a nice life.
Everyone else has it better than me.
Those are seven examples of basic thought streams that can be etched into one's mind as the result of horrible traumas.
Traumas are not to be They're to be forgiven.
We have to let them go.
They're not to be passed off.
Awful stuff happens.
But if we just.
.
.
Stop at the trauma and just say oh but this happened to me then you don't go anywhere,
You don't have any.
.
.
You don't have any You don't have any healing.
We need to go to the past,
Find the trauma,
Find the signature which it created in you.
The signatures,
The thought streams,
And then we need to try to live life not as those thought streams.
Because they're just words.
They're just words that you have decided to embody and believe.
You don't have to live believing that thought.
For example let's just take one for example unsafe.
This is a very common one.
I think many people here can relate to the thought I'm not safe.
This is one that I had deeply in me.
But everything changes when you identify why it's there,
You go to the past,
Why do you feel not safe?
Okay,
This happened to me,
Or these things happened to me.
And then,
Look at your life.
Look throughout your life How many times have external events proven to you seemingly that you're unsafe.
Many times,
Right?
It happens.
The problem is that the ego.
.
.
Our egoic sense of self which is just a self-concept it looks to validate its identity.
So if you believe that you're unsafe,
When stuff happens in the world your ego which is intimately tied into your sense of self,
Sometimes it's impossible to actually step away from it.
Your ego is looking for evidence.
To prove to you that you are unsafe.
When the reality is the actual absolute nature of you is that You're not unsafe.
But there's a story,
There's a string.
That you've decided to hold on to.
And that string of thought will stay with you because it's deeply etched in now especially if one is older if we've got age if we've got age on the clock if we're a few years older a few decades into life these these etchings are much deeper and they're a lot more tattooed as you put it But a tattoo is just ink.
Going to go with your analogy a tattoo is just ink that stays in the skin It remains in the skin,
But it's not the skin,
Is it?
It's not you.
It's just a picture.
It's just a fiction.
This tattoo here is just a bunch of synthetic inks,
Dyes that remain in my skin embedded.
They're not me are they they're not an absolutism unless i want them to be unless i say this is me this is absolutely me and it always will be me
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