Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself

Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself is a transformative episode that challenges you to break free from old patterns and create lasting change in your life. This podcast explores the science of rewiring your brain, shifting your mindset, and stepping into a new version of yourself. This episode dives deep into the habits, beliefs, and emotions that hold you back, offering practical tools, insightful stories, and expert advice to help you overcome limiting behaviors and manifest a future that aligns with your true potential. Whether you want to change your mindset, break free from old habits, or create a new reality, this podcast will guide you on your journey to becoming the best version of yourself.

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Have you ever felt like,

No matter how hard you try to change your life,

You keep running into the same obstacles?

Like you're stuck in a loop,

Repeating the same patterns,

Thinking the same thoughts,

And somehow ending up with the same frustrating results?

Let's be real.

It feels exhausting.

You want more.

Maybe it's more success,

More confidence,

Better relationships,

Or even just peace of mind.

But let me hit you with something that could actually change the game for you.

The reason you're stuck isn't because you're not working hard enough,

Or because life is unfair.

It's because you're trying to create a new life with the same mindset and habits that built the old one.

Here's the thing.

If you want to create a new reality,

You've got to create a new you.

And let me tell you,

This isn't just some motivational fluff.

We're going to break this down in a way that makes it crystal clear why this works,

And more importantly,

How you can use it to design a life that's actually aligned with what you want.

Most people spend their lives unknowingly trapped in habits of thought and emotion that aren't even serving them anymore.

Those habits are like invisible walls keeping you from reaching what's possible.

But what's exciting,

And trust me,

This is exciting,

Is that you have the power to break out of that cycle.

I'll explain it like this.

Your thoughts and your emotions are the foundation of everything you experience.

Literally everything.

And here's the crazy part.

Most people don't even realise this connection.

Today we're going to dive into what that means,

How this works,

And how you can start making changes that actually stick.

I want you to imagine this.

What if your thoughts were like invisible blueprints?

Everything you think,

Day in and day out,

Is shaping the life you're building,

Even when you're not aware of it.

Now that might sound a bit out there,

But stick with me.

Because if you get this one idea,

It'll totally change how you see your life.

Let's talk about this guy,

Nikola Tesla.

You've probably heard of him,

Right?

The genius who gave us the foundation for modern electricity.

But Tesla wasn't just an inventor.

He was a master of visualisation.

He didn't sketch prototypes or make rough models the way most inventors did.

Nope.

Tesla could mentally imagine his machines running perfectly in his mind before he even built anything.

He could see them,

Hear them hum,

And even troubleshoot them.

All in his head.

And here's what's fascinating.

For Tesla,

Imagination wasn't just mental pictures.

It was about creating,

Refining,

And owning those ideas internally until they became something tangible.

He turned his thoughts into reality.

And,

Well,

The rest is history.

Now why bring up Tesla?

Because what he did on a grand scale,

You're doing every single day with your own life.

Everything you experience right now,

Your relationships,

Your career,

How you feel about yourself,

Was first a thought.

Consciously or not,

Your thoughts shaped what you live today.

So here's the big takeaway.

Thoughts aren't just harmless things that float through your head.

They're like instructions for your brain.

And the more you think a certain way,

The more your brain adapts and reinforces those thought patterns.

Let me put it another way.

Imagine there's a dirt road you walk every day.

With each step,

The dirt starts wearing down into grooves.

Over time,

The grooves get deeper,

And it becomes harder to step outside of that path,

No matter where you want to go.

Your thoughts?

Those are the footsteps.

If you constantly think,

I can't do this,

Or I'm not good with money,

Or nothing ever works out for me,

Guess what?

You're carving out those grooves in your mind,

Making it harder and harder to think differently.

Now here's the good news.

Those grooves aren't permanent.

Modern neuroscience tells us something life-changing.

Your brain has this incredible ability called neuroplasticity.

What that means is you're not stuck.

You can actually rewire those pathways and create new ones,

No matter how deep the old grooves feel.

But here's the part that most of us miss.

It's not just about thinking differently.

Your thoughts are only one side of the equation.

The other side?

Your emotions.

Think about this.

If thoughts are the language of your brain,

Emotions are the language of your body.

Together they form this feedback loop that pretty much runs your life.

And unless you understand how this loop works,

It keeps you stuck.

Let's break this down with a question.

Have you ever found yourself feeling stuck in an emotion,

Like anger or fear,

Or maybe even just that nagging feeling of insecurity?

And no matter how much you try to snap out of it,

It just won't let go?

Here's why that happens.

Your body memorises emotions.

Let me explain.

Take Serena Williams,

For example.

We all know her as one of the greatest athletes of all time,

But early in her career she wasn't just battling tough matches,

She was battling self-doubt.

Losses would rattle her,

And at times those doubts started creeping into her mindset.

Instead of letting those emotions control her,

Serena flipped the script.

She began practising a form of mental conditioning,

Repeating to herself,

I'm a champion.

Over and over she focused on that belief,

Even when those old feelings of self-doubt tried to creep back in.

She trained herself,

Not just physically but emotionally and mentally,

To feel,

Think and act like a champion before the results ever showed up.

That shift wasn't magic,

It was deliberate.

Serena rewired her emotional cycle and,

In doing so,

Transformed her confidence.

So how does this tie into your life?

Emotions are powerful,

But when they're tied to painful past experiences they can also be incredibly limiting.

For most of us those old emotions,

Fear,

Shame,

Frustration,

Keep us trapped in stories about who we've been instead of who we could be.

Here's what happens.

When we experience an emotion like fear,

For example,

That fear triggers our brain to release chemicals associated with it.

Those chemicals reinforce the feeling,

Which then leads to more fearful thoughts,

And just like that you're caught in a loop.

You might start thinking,

But this is just who I am.

But it's not.

It's just years of repeating the same thought-emotion cycle until it feels like it's who you are.

Here's the real wake-up call.

Every time you say something like,

I'm insecure,

I'm unlucky,

Or I'm not good enough,

Your brain and body take that as a direct command to reinforce those feelings.

In a way,

You're teaching yourself to stay stuck.

But it doesn't have to be that way.

You can break the loop,

Just like Serena did.

When you interrupt those old thought-emotion habits and start consciously creating new ones,

Everything begins to shift.

So let me ask you this.

What would happen if you stopped reacting to the emotions tied to your past and instead started aligning your thoughts and feelings with the future you want to experience?

Hang on to that thought for a second,

Because this is where it all starts to come together.

If you can learn how to think and feel in alignment with your vision before your circumstances change,

Then you're no longer living as a reflection of your old self.

You're stepping into the version of you that's aligned with the life you want to build.

This isn't just about positive thinking.

It's about understanding how to shift your mental and emotional energy in a way that starts producing real results.

But how exactly do you do that?

You see,

Most of us were taught to live life based on what I like to call the old model.

And the old model works like this.

You wait for something external to change before you allow yourself to feel happy or loved or successful.

Think about it.

You wait for the raise before you feel secure.

You wait for the relationship before you feel worthy of love.

You wait for the big milestone,

Whether it's weight loss,

Financial success or something else,

Before you feel like you're finally enough.

Now let me ask you this.

How's that been working for you?

Because here's the truth.

That whole cause and effect thing.

It's outdated.

It's backwards.

And it very rarely leads to real lasting change.

So what if we flip the script?

What if you stopped waiting for the external stuff to shift and instead learned how to shift your internal state first?

Let me explain.

There's a new model.

One that's backed by neuroscience,

By quantum physics and even ancient philosophy.

And it's called causing and effect.

Instead of waiting for life to make you feel different,

You start by teaching your body and mind how to feel that way now.

Let's put this into an example.

Let's say you want to feel abundant.

Instead of waiting for a big paycheck or that elusive financial freedom,

You practice embodying the emotions of abundance today.

That means gratitude,

Excitement,

Ease.

Everything you'd naturally feel if money wasn't even a concern.

Now at first glance this might sound like wishful thinking,

But there's something much deeper going on here.

Your brain doesn't know the difference between a real experience and one that's vividly imagined.

So when you mentally rehearse a future you desire and emotionally feel it as if it's already here,

Your brain starts to rewire itself to match that new experience.

Let me give you a real world example to make this tangible.

Think of Jim Carrey.

Before he became the wildly successful actor we all know today,

Jim used a technique that sounds almost too simple to be true.

He wrote himself a cheque for 10 million dollars,

Writing for acting services rendered on the memo line,

And he carried it with him everywhere.

He wasn't cashing the cheque obviously,

But it was a reminder,

An anchor,

For the future he wanted to create.

But here's the key.

Jim didn't just carry the cheque around like a lucky charm.

He emotionally lived in the reality of having that success.

He thought the thoughts and felt the feelings of already being that successful actor,

Even when the world around him didn't reflect it yet.

Fast forward a few years and Jim not only became one of the most successful comedians in Hollywood,

But he landed a 10 million dollar paycheck for his role in Dumb and Dumber,

Exactly what he'd written into his future.

Now was it magic?

Not quite.

Jim activated a mental and emotional alignment with the future he wanted and over time that alignment became reality.

And guess what?

You can do the exact same thing,

Because the principles are the same for all of us.

When you align your thoughts and emotions with your vision,

You start operating differently.

Instead of living reactively,

Constantly responding to the same fears,

The same doubts,

The same insecurities,

You become proactive.

You're setting the tone for your life rather than letting life set the tone for you.

Here's another way to think about it.

Imagine you're a radio.

Right now your thoughts and emotions are tuned to a specific frequency.

Maybe it's fear,

Maybe it's self-doubt,

Maybe it's frustration.

Whatever it is,

You're broadcasting that frequency out into the world and,

Like a magnet,

Attracting experiences that match it.

But as you begin to tune your thoughts and feelings to a different frequency,

Whether it's joy,

Abundance,

Confidence,

You start pulling in experiences that align with that new station.

And the key to doing this?

Mental rehearsal.

This is what top performers,

Athletes and even visionaries like Tesla and Jim Carrey have done for decades.

So how do you put this into practice?

It's actually very simple but it requires consistency.

Step one.

Get clear on the life you want.

What does it look like?

What does it feel like?

Don't just visualize the external details like the fancy car,

The dream house or the dream job.

Go deeper.

How does the you in that reality think?

What emotions do they feel every day?

Step two.

Spend time every single day mentally rehearsing that version of yourself.

Picture it in vivid detail.

Feel it with your whole body.

The more you do this,

The more your brain starts building the neural pathways needed to turn that imagination into a roadmap.

Step three.

Pair that vision with action.

This is important.

Because while visualization is powerful,

It works best when it's combined with steps in the physical world.

Think of it like planting seeds.

You have to water and nurture them for growth.

Okay,

So you might be wondering,

What if I still feel resistance or self-doubt?

What if I can't shake those old thoughts and emotions?

The answer is,

It's totally normal.

Those old patterns took years to build,

So changing them won't always feel instantaneous.

But here's what helps.

Practice gratitude,

Even for small wins.

Every time you catch yourself breaking an old thought pattern,

Even if it's something as simple as reframing,

I'm not good enough to,

I'm learning and growing every day,

Celebrate that.

And don't forget to relax.

One of the biggest misconceptions people have is thinking they need to hustle or grind non-stop to make change happen.

But true transformation happens when you're in a relaxed,

Non-resistant state.

Take a moment to think about this.

When are you most creative?

When do your best ideas flow?

It's not when you're stressed or overthinking.

It's when you're calm,

Open and aligned.

Remember,

Life isn't working against you.

The universe,

Or whatever you believe in,

Is built on cooperation.

It's designed to align with your desires when you allow it to.

One more thing before we wrap up.

Don't expect perfection.

You don't need every single thought to be perfectly aligned.

Progress happens in the small,

Consistent steps you take every day.

So as you go forward,

Keep this in mind.

You are capable of rewiring those old patterns,

Breaking out of the thought-emotion cycle and stepping into the version of yourself that's aligned with your future.

Because the life you want is already waiting for you.

The thoughts,

Opportunities and ideas to create it,

They're already in the field,

Waiting for you to tune into them.

All you have to do is start aligning one thought,

One feeling,

One action at a time.

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Thank you for being with me today.

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