5 Steps To Change Your Life

Ready to transform your life but don’t know where to start? In this episode, we break down the five powerful steps that can set you on the path to lasting change. From shifting your mindset and breaking old habits to setting clear goals and taking consistent action, these steps are designed to help you create the life you truly want.

Whether you’re looking to boost your career, improve your relationships, or take control of your personal growth, this episode is packed with practical tips to make big changes without feeling overwhelmed. Tune in and get ready to take the first step toward a new, empowered version of yourself!

Transcript

Let me ask you a question.

Have you ever felt stuck?

Like you know what you want in life but no matter what you do,

You just can't seem to get there.

Maybe you're busy all day doing a million things but,

At the end of the day,

You don't feel any closer to the future you want.

Or maybe you've got goals,

Big goals,

But they still feel more like dreams than something you can actually reach.

If any of that sounds familiar,

And honestly,

It probably does for most of us,

Then stick around.

Today we're diving into a process that has completely transformed lives,

Including my own.

This isn't about grinding harder,

Or working longer hours,

Or forcing anything to happen.

It's the opposite really.

It's about learning how to unlock the insane potential that's already within you.

You could call it a reset.

A way to reprogram your mind so that instead of feeling like you're constantly pushing against your circumstances,

You're flowing with them.

Imagine waking up in the morning and feeling fully in control of your life and your destiny.

Because you've created it,

And you're living it.

That's where we're headed today.

The first step,

The absolute foundation for all of this,

Is disconnecting from external distractions.

And I know,

I know,

This is nothing new.

It sounds like such a simple,

Obvious thing,

Right?

But let me ask you something.

When was the last time you truly sat in silence,

With no phone,

No notifications,

No music,

No TV humming in the background?

Just you.

Alone,

Present,

Fully still.

It doesn't really happen often,

Does it?

We're always plugged in,

Scrolling,

Responding to messages,

Watching shows,

Consuming content.

But here's the thing.

All of that noise?

It's draining your energy,

Even if you don't realise it.

And this isn't just theory.

It's backed by science.

Bill Gates,

For example,

Takes what he calls Think Weeks.

Once a year,

He disappears to a cabin in the forest,

Completely disconnects from the outside world and spends that time solely with his thoughts.

No emails,

No meetings,

No distractions.

Just deep reflection.

And do you know what happens?

Some of his best ideas are born during those weeks.

Innovations that went on to change industries,

Even change the world.

So start there.

Create a sacred time,

Even if it's just a few minutes a day,

Where you can truly sit in silence.

Turn off your phone.

Step away from the noise.

And trust me,

It's going to feel weird at first,

Uncomfortable even.

But in that stillness,

You're going to discover something incredible.

Clarity.

Clarity about what matters,

What doesn't,

And most importantly,

Where your energy should go.

Now once you've taken that step and disconnected from the chaos,

Here's the next piece.

Centering yourself in the present moment.

Seems simple,

Right?

But it's one of the hardest things for us to actually do.

Have you ever noticed how your mind is almost always somewhere else?

Either rehearsing all the things that could go wrong in the future,

Or rehashing that thing you said,

Or didn't say.

Yesterday,

Last week,

Or even three years ago.

Our brains are trapped in this endless loop of past and future.

But do you know where all your power is?

It's right here.

Right now.

The present moment.

Take a lesson from LeBron James,

One of the greatest basketball players of all time.

He's not just known for his physical skills,

He's also famous for his mental game.

LeBron practices mindfulness every single day,

Training his mind to stay in the moment.

Think about it.

When he's standing on that free throw line and the whole world is watching,

What matters?

Not the last shot he missed.

Not the championship ring he's chasing.

Only this moment.

Only the task that's right in front of him.

And when you learn to stay in the present moment,

Something amazing happens.

You stop wasting energy on things you can't control or change,

And you redirect that energy into building something new.

So take a deep breath,

Seriously,

Right now.

Inhale deeply.

Exhale slowly.

That breath,

That's your anchor.

Any time you feel overwhelmed or scattered,

Come back to it.

Reconnect to the present.

Because here's the truth,

You can't create anything meaningful while your mind is living somewhere else.

Creativity,

Focus and true power all live in the now.

Once you've anchored yourself in the moment,

It's time to ask yourself a big question.

Can you define yourself by a vision of your future instead of the memories of your past?

A lot of us are walking around carrying this invisible weight,

Stories and beliefs about who we think we are,

Based entirely on our past.

But what if all those things – your mistakes,

Your struggles,

Your disappointments – don't have to define you anymore?

What if you could start fresh,

With nothing but a vision of who you want to become?

Oprah Winfrey is such a powerful example of this.

She grew up in unbelievably tough conditions – poverty,

Abuse,

Trauma – and by all logic,

She should have stayed stuck in that cycle.

But she didn't.

She refused to let her past dictate her future.

Instead,

She built a vision of what she wanted her life to look like.

And step by step,

She became that person.

Not by accident,

But by design.

And you can do the same.

Take a moment to ask yourself,

Who do you want to become?

Not just what goals you want to achieve,

But who you want to be.

Do you want to be confident?

Creative?

Bold?

Calm?

Kind?

Write it down.

Literally write it on a piece of paper.

I want to be someone who insert the person you want to become.

And here's the best part – just asking and answering that question starts to shift something in your brain.

Literally,

The wiring of your brain begins to change when you think about possibilities instead of patterns.

Scientists have discovered that every time you imagine a new version of yourself,

Your brain starts creating new connections.

New neural pathways that support that vision.

So when you ask yourself,

Who do I want to become?

You're not just dreaming,

You're rewiring your mind.

Doesn't that give you chills?

It's like your future self is already waiting for you,

Pulling you forward.

Okay,

So at this point,

You've disconnected from distractions,

You've centred yourself in the now,

And you've begun to paint a vision for your future self.

What comes next is something a lot of people overlook – emotion.

Most of us think change happens when we force ourselves to take action,

Right?

You know the thought,

I'll start working out if I just have enough discipline.

Or I'll be successful if I work harder than everyone else around me.

But here's the thing.

Action isn't the starting point.

Emotion is,

Let me give you an example.

Michael Phelps,

Who,

By the way,

Is the most decorated Olympian of all time,

Did something fascinating in his training.

He didn't just physically rehearse his races,

He mentally rehearsed them,

Down to the tiniest detail.

But he didn't stop there.

He also rehearsed how he wanted to feel.

The thrill of diving into the water,

The fire of competition,

The joy of touching the wall first.

He lived those emotions over and over and over again in his mind.

So when the moment came,

His body and brain already knew exactly what to do.

This is where most people miss the mark.

They set goals and they might even take action.

But they never teach themselves how that future feels.

But here's the truth.

Your brain and body need to experience the emotions of your future before that future even exists.

So think about it.

What's the one thing you want most right now?

To feel freedom,

Joy,

Confidence,

Love?

Whatever it is,

Take the time to feel that emotion in your body now.

Like,

Close your eyes,

Imagine what your life looks like when you already have the thing you're working toward and then let that feeling rush through you.

I know it might sound strange if you've never done this before but it's exactly how you prime your mind and body for change.

Emotion is energy in motion and the more you embody the feelings tied to your goals,

The more you align yourself with the future you want to create.

Now let's talk about what's up next.

Because here's where it really starts to come together.

Translating that future vision into action.

But not just any action.

Intentional action.

And there's one really powerful way to do this.

A way that most people overlook.

It's what I like to call rehearsing your future self.

And no,

I'm not just talking about daydreaming or fantasy.

I'm talking about real,

Practical,

Mental rehearsal that sets you up for success.

Let me explain.

Picture this.

Before a performance,

An actor goes over their lines,

Their cues,

Their movements.

Why?

Because repetition helps the performance become second nature.

And guess what?

You can apply that same idea to your own life.

Before you step into the real world,

Before you make decisions or take action,

Rehearse in your mind who you're going to be.

Visualise the steps you need to take.

See the version of you that's already living that future.

And the science backs this up.

It's not just woo-woo stuff.

Studies have shown that when you mentally rehearse something,

Your brain actually fires as if you're physically doing it.

That's right.

Your neurons are already laying the groundwork for behaviours and habits that haven't happened yet.

Amazing,

Isn't it?

Let me share a great example of this in action.

Jim Carrey,

Before he became,

Well,

Jim Carrey,

The global megastar.

He was just a struggling actor trying to make it in Hollywood.

And here's what he did.

Every day,

He drove to the top of Mulholland Drive,

Parked his car and visualised his success.

He saw himself acting in blockbuster movies.

He even wrote himself a $10 million check for acting services rendered and carried it in his wallet.

And guess what?

A few years later,

He landed a gig for exactly $10 million.

Coincidence?

I don't think so.

So how do you start rehearsing your own future?

It's simple.

Close your eyes and imagine in vivid detail your ideal day,

What you're doing,

How you're feeling,

Who you're becoming.

And don't just think about it,

Feel it.

Allow yourself to experience the emotions of success,

Gratitude and confidence.

Repeat this process every single day and you'll start to notice something incredible.

Your actions and decisions begin aligning with the version of yourself you've been rehearsing.

And now we're getting to one of the most important steps.

Because this,

This is the part so many people struggle with.

It's letting go,

Specifically,

Letting go of the thoughts,

Behaviours and emotions that are holding you back.

Here's the truth.

You can't step into your future while you're dragging the weight of your past.

Let's call it what it is.

Stuff like self-doubt,

Fear,

Procrastination,

Making excuses or blaming others.

These habits might feel like second nature.

But they're not you,

They're just patterns you've picked up along the way and the good news is you can change them.

Think of Nelson Mandela.

Imagine spending 27 years in prison,

Unjustly,

And walking out with every reason to feel bitter,

Angry or vengeful.

But instead of dragging those emotions into his future,

He left them behind.

He chose forgiveness,

He chose growth.

And because of that,

He didn't just free himself physically,

He freed himself emotionally.

He went on to become a global icon of peace and unity.

Now,

If Mandela can let go of something that heavy,

What are we holding on to that's stopping us from moving forward?

Take some time to reflect on this for yourself.

What thoughts no longer serve the vision of your future?

Write them down.

Seriously,

Grab a notebook.

Are you constantly telling yourself it's too hard,

Or I'm not good enough,

Or I'll start tomorrow?

Those thoughts don't belong in the future you're building.

Cross them out.

Decide what no longer gets to stay.

And here's the challenge.

It's not just about your thoughts.

Your actions matter too.

Start noticing the behaviours that keep you stuck.

Are you always complaining?

Do you rush to cast blame when things go wrong?

Are you making excuses?

Imagine shining a light on all the ways these habits show up in your daily life.

Because once you're aware of them,

You can change them.

But perhaps the most powerful piece of this process is addressing emotions.

They stick around even longer than we think,

Don't they?

But here's the thing.

If you want to be wealthy,

You can't carry around scarcity.

If you want to be healthy,

You can't carry fear.

If you want to be happy,

You have to let go of anger.

A new future demands new emotions,

And it's your job to teach your body to condition it,

To live in those new emotions,

Day in and day out.

And this isn't about perfection.

Don't beat yourself up if you catch yourself slipping into old patterns.

It's about awareness and choice.

With every moment,

Every decision,

You're either stepping closer to your future,

Or holding on to your past.

So what happens when you actually start doing all of this?

When you've disconnected from distractions,

Centred yourself in the present,

Defined your future vision,

Rehearsed it,

And let go of what's holding you back,

Here's what happens.

Change.

Real change.

And it's measurable.

You start to see shifts in how you think,

How you act,

And how you feel.

And here's the best part.

These small changes compound over time to create something extraordinary.

Let me say this again because it's really important.

How you think,

How you act,

And how you feel,

Create your personality.

And your personality creates your personal reality.

So if you want a new reality,

Just focus on changing one of those elements.

Change how you think,

Change how you act,

Change how you feel.

If you shift one,

The rest will follow.

It's all connected.

And let's circle back to that earlier point.

Your future self,

The person you want to become,

They're not some far-off dream in the distance.

They're already here,

Waiting for you.

You just have to show up as them now,

And make choices that align with their reality.

Every decision you make is a vote for the person you're becoming.

So choose wisely,

Choose boldly.

Now I want to leave you with this final takeaway.

You have everything you need to create the life you want.

It's not about adding more to your plate or forcing yourself to be someone you're not.

It's about uncovering what's already inside of you.

You are the architect of your future.

And when you focus on the process,

This process we've talked about today,

You can build something truly incredible.

Imagine waking up one morning and finally realizing,

Wow,

I made this happen.

This is my life.

I'm living it.

That's not a fantasy.

That's fully within your reach.

And it starts with the choices you make today.

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Our goal here at Healing Waves is to help you on your transformation journey by combining ancient wisdom with modern science.

Thank you for being with me today.

I appreciate you,

And I hope to see you again soon.

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