Heart Connection: Healing Any Difficult Relationship

A gentle meditation for creating heart-to-heart connection with someone important in your life. This practice helps you see beyond surface conflicts to the deeper bond that exists beneath. Drawing from family constellation principles, you'll experience how healing can begin even when only one person shifts their perspective.

Transcript

So welcome everyone.

So I invite you today to join me in this gentle meditation focused on healing and strengthening a specific relationship in your life.

In my work as a family constellations facilitator,

I've observed that relationships often carry energy between people,

Invisible connections that can often become entangled,

Disconnected or strained over time.

But beneath any difficulty,

Any challenge always lies a natural longing for connection.

Now the beauty of this work is that it can begin with just one person.

When we open our hearts and shift our perspective,

We create a space for healing to unfold.

And this is not done by forcing change in the other person,

But rather transforming something within ourselves.

So our intention today will focus on creating a heart-to-heart connection with someone important in your life.

Any relationship,

Maybe a parent,

A child,

A sibling,

A partner or a friend where you feel some distance,

Where you feel some difficulty or where you feel some challenge.

So let's begin.

Find a comfortable position,

Either sitting up or lying down and just allowing your body now to feel fully supported wherever you may be.

Slowly,

Gently,

If your body allows.

You're very,

Very,

Very welcome to close your eyes.

And now slowly,

Gently,

Let's start to focus on our breath.

Taking a deep breath in through your nose and slowly releasing it through your mouth.

And we'll continue this,

Taking a deep breath in and exhale completely.

Completely.

Now with each breath in,

Feel yourself becoming more present and more relaxed.

And with each breath in,

Feel that you're welcoming support into your body.

As I breathe out now,

My body begins to relax and I start to feel heavier.

I will continue this just for a few seconds,

Breathing in through your nose,

Gently breathing out and falling deeper and deeper and deeper into this relaxation.

Let my words guide you.

Now,

As your body relaxes,

Bring your awareness now to your heart center or the center of your chest.

Now as you're breathing into your heart,

Imagine a color of light,

Any color that comes to you in the center of your chest.

Now as I'm breathing in now,

As I'm breathing into my heart,

This light begins to grow stronger,

Warmer and more radiant.

This light becomes stronger,

Warmer and more radiant and I start to feel more and more and more relaxed.

Now at this stage,

You can bring your left or right palm on your heart center and continue just for a few seconds to breathe into your heart.

This light continues to grow stronger and stronger and stronger.

Now this light is also your heart's wisdom and this wisdom understands far more than what words can express.

Now from this state,

As I have this wisdom that I can see in my heart as this glowing light,

I have dropped a little bit more into my body and into my heart.

I am going to now gently bring to mind a specific relationship that I'd like to focus on today.

Now this might be a relationship that feels a bit strained or distant or entangled,

A relationship that deeply matters to you and in a relationship where communication has been difficult.

Simply allow either this person or their face or anything that represents them to appear now in your mind's eye.

Without any judgment,

Without any analysis,

Just hold this person now in your awareness and remember you are still connected to your heart,

You are connected to your heart's wisdom and you have now just brought up this relationship,

This person in your vision,

In your mind's eye.

Now notice any sensations that arise in your body as you think about this person.

Any tension,

Any heaviness or any constriction.

Maybe it's just a warmth,

Maybe it's an openness or maybe it's just a feeling I cannot describe.

I will just hold this person in my awareness and I would simply notice any sensations that arise in my body.

Whatever I notice,

I'm simply going to acknowledge it with kindness.

Now if your mind allows,

If your body allows,

We can now imagine this person either sitting or standing a comfortable distance in front of you.

So I'm now seeing them in front of me and I let my awareness decide on what is a comfortable distance between me and them today.

At this stage,

I will try to see them as clearly as I can.

Their presence,

Their energy,

Their face and anything else that's being presented to me right now.

Now the space between you,

The space that you have chosen today between the two of you,

This space holds your shared history together.

The good times,

The bad times,

The joy,

The difficulty,

The excitement,

The pain,

Everything between the two of you on a soul level is held between this space.

The soul contract,

The karma,

The entanglement,

Everything that ties the two of us together is in the space that's between us now.

Now in family constellation work,

We understand that beneath every conflict and every misunderstanding lies a very,

Very deep connection and often unexpressed love.

When we start to see beyond the stories,

Healing becomes possible.

So we'll try and explore this today with this relationship that you've brought up.

Now I may still have my palm on my heart center at this stage.

I am going to imagine now that this warm light in my heart now begins to expand and starts to extend outwards from my body.

From my heart,

I now see this light extending towards their heart.

The person,

Place,

Or thing that I have in front of me right now,

The relationship that I brought up today to be healed,

I am now seeing a light,

A warm light going out from my heart and entering their heart.

And as we breathe,

This connection will start to become stronger.

And there is no need to force this connection.

This is simply you offering healing,

Like extending an open hand.

And let's wait just for a few seconds.

Now at this stage,

Notice if you sense any response from them,

From this energy,

From this relationship that's in front of you.

Now if this connection,

This exercise feels difficult for you,

That's completely fine and that's completely natural.

And here,

Just simply notice any resistance that comes up without judgment and continue to offer your light with patience.

And we are now just letting this heart connection establish itself,

Only and only so I can see this person more fully.

Now I'm not here to forgive anybody.

I'm not here to heal any relationship.

I'm not here to heal any other person.

My intention today is simply to drop into my heart so I can see this person or this relationship from an expanded state.

I am doing this just for myself and for my peace.

Now as this heart connection now establishes itself and I have a deeper understanding now,

I'm going to allow myself now to see this person more fully.

Now,

In my work with family systems,

I've found in my experience that when we see beyond the roles and stories,

We often discover something surprising,

That the other person,

Just like us,

Is doing the best with what they know and with their own burdens,

With their own stories.

So if in this space where I'm connected to my heart's wisdom,

I am open to this possibility that this challenge,

This difficulty,

This strain,

This entanglement in this particular relationship may just be the two of us coming together,

Playing out this entanglement,

Playing out a story,

Playing out a karmic entanglement.

And even if we wanted,

It could not have gone any other way.

I have my own burdens,

They have theirs.

And in this life,

We had to come together exactly the way we did.

We had to experience what we experience together.

None of us had a choice.

None of this was personal.

We just take a few seconds so you can receive these words.

None of this was personal.

None of this was personal.

It could not have been otherwise.

Now with your hand on your heart,

As you're connected to your heart's wisdom,

With the light shining from your heart going into this relationship,

We are going to now say a few words.

You can either receive my words,

You can repeat them out loud,

Or you can repeat them in your mind.

I see you beyond your story.

I acknowledge your journey,

Which I may not fully understand.

There is more to both of us than the difficulties between us.

I see you beyond your story.

I acknowledge your journey,

Which I may not fully understand.

There is more to both of us than the difficulties between us.

And just feel the space that this acknowledgement creates.

This is not about forgiveness.

This is not about right or wrong.

This is just acknowledging and seeing this from a different space through the lens of my heart's wisdom.

Now as I acknowledge this,

And as I've created a bit of space,

Still maintaining that heart connection,

I can now acknowledge that me and this person,

We may be different.

We have different experiences,

We have different needs,

And we have different perspectives.

We each are carrying the burden of our own soul,

Of our own entanglements,

Of our own karma.

So now we silently say,

I honor the differences between us.

We don't need to see everything the same way.

And there is room for both of us to be who we are.

Now just feel how this acknowledgement of differences creates a little bit of freedom in this connection.

Now that we have created a little bit of space and we have created a little bit of freedom,

I am connected to my heart's wisdom.

There is a ray of light from my heart which is still connected to this person.

There may be space between us which is all the stories,

The entanglements,

The pain,

The good times,

The bad times.

And I have now just created some space by acknowledging them,

By acknowledging their story,

And by acknowledging that it is okay for us to be different.

Now,

With this heart bridge still connecting the two of you,

Imagine what you might express to this person from this deep place.

Beyond blame,

Beyond expectation,

Perhaps there is something you need them to know.

Whatever arises for you now,

You can either say these words out loud to yourself,

You can say them in your mind,

Just allow these words to flow across the heart bridge from you to them.

It can simply be,

I see you,

Or something else that's coming to you now.

And notice how you feel in your body now as you're saying these words,

As you're speaking from your heart,

As you're speaking from your heart's wisdom.

What do I notice in my heart right now?

And with the same openness,

Space and freedom that you have now,

Imagine what they might express to you if they are speaking from their heart's wisdom.

If this person,

This relationship that I'm imagining,

That I'm seeing,

If they are also connected to their heart's wisdom right now,

What would they speak to me if they were speaking from their heart?

Just let this exchange happen between the two of you now on a soul level.

Now small shifts in perspective can often create unexpected healing in any relationship.

Healing often comes in ways which my conscious mind does not understand.

Sometimes healing means I am more peaceful within the same relationship.

Sometimes healing means I am now peaceful consciously even if they are not present in my life.

So as this exchange happens from your heart to theirs,

We are now also opening room for resolution.

So whatever life wants for me,

Whatever serves my highest good,

Whatever the highest possible outcome is for both of us in this dynamic,

We are now asking for that to come in.

Now this new possibility which can be anything is emerging right now.

It's a deeper understanding.

It's a knowing that you will receive over the next few hours,

Days,

Weeks.

Life will show you what you have received today and guidance will come to you in a way that you will clearly not miss it.

Now if there is any residual tension or difficulty that I face,

That I see,

That I sense with this person right now,

I am now just going to let that begin to soften as well and dissolve with the warmth of this heart connection.

So I dropped into my heart today.

I connected with my heart's wisdom.

I brought up this relationship that I was struggling with,

That I felt could use some healing.

I then connected to this relationship,

To this person,

And then I connected to their heart's wisdom.

I could see them for who they are.

I could honor our differences.

I could honor our journey together.

And then I asked the highest possible outcome,

The highest good for me,

The highest good for them.

And noticing any shifts in your body right now that may be happening,

Any release,

Any warmth,

Tingling,

Cold sensations,

Just let all that happen.

Now with the next few breaths,

This person,

This relationship that you brought up today,

They are going to begin to fade away.

So whatever showed up for me today,

This person is now fading away.

And it's just me.

It's just me.

It's just me and my heart's wisdom.

As we prepare to close this meditation,

Just know that the connection that you have established today,

It will continue.

And this heart bridge remains available to you even when difficulties arise on the surface.

Take a moment to express gratitude for yourself,

For your willingness to be open,

And also to this person's soul for being part of your journey.

And then slowly,

Gently,

You can bring some gentle movement into your fingers,

Into your toes.

You can feel the surface beneath you.

And when you're ready,

Slowly you can open your eyes.

Now what you experienced today was a simple but profound practice from the heart.

Seeing people beyond their stories and seeing the deeper connection that exists between souls.

Now a simple shift in perspective can transform even the most challenging relationships.

Now this healing may not happen overnight,

But a new seed has been planted.

Remember,

You can return to this heart connection anytime you need to and reconnect with this bridge of understanding when you're called to do so.

So thank you everyone,

And Namaste.