The Soul Of Who You Are

Who are you? What are your values? Why are you here? What’s your purpose? How do you give back to society? Building your foundation all about who you are but who are and what you do on this planet has nothing to do with you. In fact, it has more to do with you serving humanity.

Transcript

Spirit Connection Module 2,

The Soul of Who You Are.

We're going to talk all about you today.

Like I want to know who you are,

What are your values,

Why are you here,

What's your purpose,

How are you going to give back to society.

It is so important that you take the time to really go deep and figure this out.

By building your foundation of who you are and what you do on this planet,

That's the very foundation that all the actions that you'll take will come from,

Will spring from.

And when we talk about building your foundation,

Here's the thing,

It really has nothing to do with you.

I know it may seem like it because we're talking all about you,

But the real reason,

The real work behind this is that once you know who you truly are,

What your values are,

Why you're here and what's your purpose,

You can then give back to humanity.

The ultimate goal of knowing who you are is at first to be happy,

To be content,

To be free from society's rules and regulations.

That's definitely a byproduct,

But the ultimate goal is so you can give back to other people.

So let's talk about it.

Who are you?

Who are you really?

Well,

Some would say that you're your past,

You're your childhood,

You're your thoughts,

You're your beliefs,

Your feelings,

The situations that you've been through,

The circumstances that you're in,

What people tell you,

You are based on what your religion tells you to believe.

So you are whatever you want to believe.

That's what it ultimately boils down to.

If you want to believe that you're bad,

Then you're bad.

If you want to believe that you're a powerful,

Capable human being,

Then that's what you are.

And this goes back to choice that at any given moment you get to choose what you want to say,

Who you want to be,

And what you want to do.

Ultimately this boils down to a story.

Who you are right here,

Right now is tied into the story that you have,

The story or the belief that you have about who you really are.

So there's lots of stories to notice and you know that you're in a story if you feel stuck and you don't feel good and you're judging yourself or someone else and there's no forward moving action.

A story will keep you stuck.

The story can sound something like,

I don't have what it takes or people are out to get me or I can't trust anyone or I'm not good enough.

You know that you're in a story when it doesn't feel good and it's not actually propelling you forward.

You know,

I used to have a story that I was invisible and I'm not important and I didn't matter.

So every relationship I ever got into,

Whether with friends or in a romantic relationship,

It ultimately ended because I believed that I didn't matter.

Now when I look back on it,

Was it that I didn't matter or was that I believed the story so much that I almost recreated that in every relationship that I was in?

Well it's,

It's,

It's,

It's a humbling place to be in.

But I definitely realized that I created the situations that I was in based on the story that I had.

And I know maybe you're probably thinking,

Where do I even begin?

There's so much to even start.

I mean I'm,

I'm 30,

40,

50 years old.

Where do I even know where to begin?

Well I have this quote that I have posted on the back of my door.

As soon as I leave our apartment,

It says,

The only journey is the journey within.

So let's start with him.

So it's an opportunity for you to look into yourself and ask yourself,

Are you coming from love or fear?

This is about outing yourself.

I think the greatest liberation and the greatest gift that you can give yourself is to just keep it real with yourself and ask yourself,

Am I coming from fear?

Am I coming from love?

Do I have a story running my life?

One of the things that we're going to have you do this week is to do the ownership exercise with five people in your life.

And we're going to talk about that later on.

But start noticing where you have a story,

Where you have a disempowering belief,

Where you have a limiting belief that stops you from moving forward,

That stops you from being in relationships with other people,

That stops you from loving yourself and just keep it real.

That's what outing yourself is all about.

We're not talking about blame.

We're not talking about shame or making yourself wrong.

This is about just keeping it real with yourself.

And remember that you are not your mind.

You have thoughts,

You have beliefs,

You have what people have told you,

You have your past,

But you are not those things.

You are not the thoughts that you think.

You are not the beliefs that you believe.

You're not what people have called you or told you or judged you about.

You're not your past.

And just remember that anytime you find yourself suffering or in pain or anxious or worried or just not happy,

Which as we have spoken about happiness and joy and love and peace is your true essence.

It's how you were created.

That when you are suffering and worried that it's because you're choosing to believe your thoughts.

So,

For example,

If you're in a relationship with someone and you believe that he or she does not pay attention to you,

He or she does not care about you,

He or she does not love you,

Of course you're going to suffer from that if you choose to believe that thought.

And your thoughts are going to tell you that is the absolute real thought that this is the truth.

When we talk about choice,

You get to choose whether you want to believe those thoughts.

So when we talk about the soul of who you are,

It is not your thoughts,

It is not your beliefs,

It is not what people have told you.

You know who you are aside from all of those things.

And so be aware of that this week.

If you start to get closer to who you are,

Oh I am love,

I am joy,

I am possibility in my life and if you hear a voice that says to you,

No you're not,

You're not good enough,

You're not that,

Who do you think you are?

That's your story.

Anything that does not have you fully loving yourself is a story.

Any thought,

Any belief is a story.

If it's not having you love yourself and completely adore and have respect for yourself,

That's a story.

That's all a story is.

And take responsibility for your suffering.

If you don't feel good about yourself,

If you're suffering,

If you're in pain,

If you're anxious,

Take responsibility for that in that moment.

It helps you take your power back when you realize,

Oh wow,

I am choosing to believe these thoughts.

And in that same given moment,

You can choose to think another thought.

So let's take action.

There's a lot to do.

I want you to start by asking yourself every morning,

Who would I be without my story today?

Right?

You know what that story is.

Oh my God,

I'm not going to make it through the day.

Oh my God,

I'm a failure.

I don't have what it takes.

I'm confused.

All these things that keep you stuck.

Just ask yourself.

Start by being willing.

By asking yourself,

Who would I be without this story today?

Just start with that.

Notice that you are not your mind and notice when you are identifying yourself with your mind.

It's just a daily practice.

So when you use things like meditation,

Journaling,

Visualizing,

Reading and writing to record your thoughts,

When you get them out of your head onto paper,

You'll start to see it's just a thought.

It's not real.

It's a story that you've carried with you for years after years after years.

I want you to take a look at the eight areas of your life,

Your relationships with others,

Your relationship with yourself,

Spirituality,

Finances,

Career,

Joy,

Health,

Wellness and your emotional wellbeing.

What are the conversations or the stories that you have about each of them?

Let me give you an example.

In your finances,

What does it sound like?

I don't have enough of it.

Money is hard to make.

I'm not worthy of being successful and wealthy.

In your area of your career,

Ask yourself,

Do I fully feel alive or I don't have what it takes to be successful in my career.

When it comes to your relationship with yourself,

This is huge.

Is it I'm not capable?

I'm not good enough.

What's the conversation that you're having when it comes to these eight areas of life?

You're also going to be getting a story words sheet and these are the words that drive you.

They may or may not drive you,

But we use them without even realizing the impact that it has.

So you can pull that up and some of the words just on the story word sheet is,

You know,

I hope,

I wish,

I can't,

Not possible.

These are words,

Your story words will keep you from moving forward.

For example,

I hope one day I will lose 30 pounds.

There's no power in that.

When you say I hope,

It's just a wish.

It's just a dream.

You got to be able to back that up with action and a strategy and a plan to get you moving forward.

So start eliminating one of those words from your vocabulary each week.

A huge word for me to eliminate from my vocabulary was I can't.

I truly believe that I couldn't.

So I eliminated I can't from my vocabulary just for one week and it made a huge difference.

It allowed me to take my power back.

And so the name of the game this week is to separate yourself from your story.

It's to be able to see,

Oh,

I have this story running my life.

I can't.

I'm not possible.

I don't deserve it.

It doesn't matter.

I don't have what it takes.

And separate yourself like you are you,

The soul of who you are,

And then you have this story about who you are.

Two separate things.

So this is really going to train you in being an observer of who you are,

Being an observer of your thoughts and your feelings and not collapsing the two.

The soul of who you are is not your story.

The soul of who you are is perfect,

Whole,

And complete.

And that's the name of the game.

To be able to separate you,

The soul of who you are,

Your essence,

From your story.

One of the best ways to learn more about who you are is to ask someone you trust and respect.

So this is the ownership exercise that we were talking about.

You're going to call up a friend or a family member.

Now here's the criteria.

It's someone that you know has your best interest at heart,

Someone who you know wants you to be successful,

Someone that you trust,

Someone that you love,

Someone that you know loves you back and trusts you and only has your best interest at heart.

That's the only criteria.

And you're going to call them up or you can meet with them in person and you're going to ask them these following questions.

What is my greatest strength?

When I walk into a room,

What qualities show up?

What do I need to let go of to move forward?

When am I totally at my best?

What habits,

Patterns,

Belief systems do you wish I had less of for your own good?

When have you seen me be truly alive and brightly shining?

And what do you think I could acknowledge myself for?

And all you are going to do is record their answers down.

You're not going to question it.

You're not going to push aside the kind words that they say when they give you some feedback.

You're not going to take it personally.

Remember this is not about,

This is not a judging or a blaming game.

This is about really understanding what do other people see when they see you.

Oftentimes it's hard for us to see the soul of ourselves because we're so caught up in our story.

So you're going to do this with at least three to four people.

Keep doing it.

I would recommend that you do it with as many people,

But just make sure that the people that you're asking,

You know,

Has your back totally.

And I'm going to recommend a book,

The Dark Side of the Light Chasers,

One of my favorite by Debbie Ford.

It is all about looking at that story,

Reclaiming your power,

Your brilliance,

Being able to shift your mindset around the dark side,

Around the fear,

Around the story that you've been carrying from chapter to chapter of your life.

I highly recommend this book.

It's on Kindle.

You can get the paperback version.

I highly recommend this book.

So let's get to work.

We got work to do this week.

It's all about finding out the soul of who you are,

Having that conversation with other people,

Using other people as your mirror,

Noticing your story,

Separating yourself from your story.

And remember,

You deserve this.

You've invested in yourself.

You deserve to know and to learn and to love the soul of who you are.

Reviews

Powerful. I'm keen to get more information from you regarding worksheets.

Love it…A definite aspect of self for me to work on…🙏🏻♥️

Good listen!

Love this, thank you!

Chills, I love the idea of stores we tell ourselves.

Thank you

Thank you! I loved the practical tips and how true it is that we fall into a false narrative of ourselves.

That was phenomenal. Not what I expected but very impactful

I remember doing this very powerful exercise when I worked with you. I will do it again.
Thank you, bless you Vasavi 💗🙏🏻💗

Really liking/freaking out/honing in on what you're saying...Thanks I'm gonna listen to the rest of them to this is just the kick in the butt that I needed

Very insightful and helpful. Thank you 💙x

Wow!!! Thank you

Living and inspiring talk. Thank you. ❤️