Harness The Power Of Preemptive Accountability: Do The Thing

I get it.

Accountability is terrifying. It means facing failure, being wrong, seeking forgiveness — and the scariest thing of all — truly seeing yourself in the mirror.

Sadly, accountability is becoming a lost art. Instead, we bury it under layers of yelling, silence, deception, and avoidance, creating even deeper and more alarming consequences.

But what if we chose accountability? What could really go wrong? What if you showed up, did your absolute best, and still lost?

What if you communicated with the deepest emotional intelligence you had, only to be met with an unexpected response? What if you were an athlete who trained relentlessly for years, only to fall short in the final game?

What if we held ourselves accountable before the world forced us to?

Transcript

I came up with an idea the other day that I don't know if somebody's done it already if they probably have and maybe I heard it and it was just in my subconscious somewhere but I thought about how people are paralyzed to act and paralyzed to do things or they're so attached to outcomes I'm guilty of it I still do it when we get attached to outcomes if they don't go the way we want it causes us to feel pain causes us to suffer so I thought about the idea of pre-emptive accountability so what is that to me pre-emptive accountability is the way that we move through life to realize that whatever outcome happens you have to own that outcome for example if you're doing something or you're going into a comfort difficult conversation or if you're putting something out into the world you have to take yourself for a moment aside and say did I do everything that I could with the power and the confidence and the abilities and every truth everything that I have in this moment did I do it yes did I do it from good moral values from a place of truth yes did I give it all the effort that I could possibly have given yes and I'm sure there's a few more but those three to me are incredibly important so now if you say that to yourself and you say that to your body the outcome doesn't matter because you're already preemptively accountable for the outcome because you have given everything that you can to this particular process now sure we can look in hindsight we can look back and say well Tyler I'm gonna be able to do this a lot better tomorrow like yeah absolutely and you probably will be able to do a lot better after you release it too but that's part of growing that's part of growth so if you're preemptively accountable that outcome is where you're at at that moment that's like going into a conversation with your partner and saying hey I'm so like I was emotional after and you were triggered I was emotional I'm sorry I'm gonna try to do better next time and don't shame yourself into the fact that you were emotional and it might have taken 24 or 48 a week for you to understand that you were emotional but you did the best you could at that time and you can say to your partner I'm so sorry that I was emotional I'm sorry that I lashed out I'm sorry I was triggered and I'm gonna try to do better next time but I did the best that I could and if your partner is truly somebody that understands you loves you unconditionally they're gonna say thank you that sucked and I know next time you're gonna be able to do it much better because you own that outcome and if you own the outcome you grow when you grow and also people say this all the time when you fail you grow but when you do the best that you can and fail it doesn't matter it's like training for the Olympics and you're a hundred meter runner and you've done everything in your power with your talent and your time and your diet and sleep all this stuff and you finish second might suck but it doesn't matter that you finish second because you did everything that you could and on that day you fell behind another person and what do you do next time do you train harder did you learn something absolutely and that again is where the growth is so predictive accountability is the way for you to own the outcome so that nobody else has that power over you they can't come to you and shame you and come to you and point fingers and say haha you sucked you'd be like okay well that's cool that you think that I suck but also I did the best that I could and I own that and you don't have any power over me so try some predictive accountability in your life where are you waiting to show up or waiting to show something or release something I mean I'm doing the best that I can and a year ago when I did this it wasn't as good as it is now but also I'm I'm doing the best that I can and I'm just trying to share what I believe and somebody might think that I'm a complete idiot and think that I don't know what I'm talking about believe me they told me but I don't care I'm doing the best that I can and I'm enjoying it and the people that do come and say wow that was really cool great and if they say hey you suck if they do it to my face I'm gonna say okay that's not cool that you feel like you should say that but you have an opinion and you're not bothered by it you're not sitting there festering over the fact that somebody's called you out believe me moving from the music industry to this has been a fascinating process and there are a lot of people that are saying things and have said things to me that would blow your mind I wish you should see my DMS but hey I'm still doing it I'm still in front of this camera because I know there's somebody out there that this can help and there's somebody out there that was just like me back in the day that needs to hear these words so I own the outcome I'm doing the best that I can and I'm observing life and I think that that's how we should all be just own the outcome through pre-emptive account ability it's hard to say till next time peace and love

Reviews

This was awesome! And I can't imagine anyone saying you suck! 😁 I'm sure they'd be wrong! 😊

Thank you so much as always. Very refreshing and uplifting.