Shadow Side Healing For Women

This is a talk about the shadow side and includes an energy healing to help you embrace whatever shadow aspect you have been denying about yourself that may be hindering you from stepping into your full potential. As you meet these deeper layers within and re-integrate them into your being, you will feel more whole and loved, which is the truth of who you are.

Transcript

This healing is all about healing your shadow or the shadow side and what some people like to call shadow work.

Whether you're new to this journey or you've been on the spiritual path for a while,

The shadow includes everything that you have learned,

Whether consciously or unconsciously to bury or repress within you because it didn't feel safe to show that part of yourself.

And so some examples I can use for this is that a lot of women have some shame around their sexuality because growing up,

You may have noticed that there was a certain type of woman portrayed in movies and on magazine covers.

And also many of us were raised with either parents,

Caregivers,

And even teachers who told us our skirts are not supposed to be too short,

That we have to dress a certain way.

And even as an adult,

It's not uncommon for companies to tell their female employees to not show their cleavage.

And so many women have taken that to mean that their sexuality is wrong and they're not safe to express their bodies.

And so this can come up when you start to notice that maybe you're judging another woman when she is showing skin,

When she's wearing clothes that you desire to wear as well,

You might notice that different emotions come up.

And so anytime you are passing judgment,

It's actually because there's something within you that is wanting to be seen and heard and healed.

And likewise,

If you see something,

Another person that you deeply admire,

That also means that quality is within you.

It's just waiting to be activated and woken up.

And so our shadow is not something that we need to judge,

But rather show a lot of love,

Compassion,

Acceptance for.

And the more that we can understand why something has been suppressed,

The more we gain power over it.

And then we can transmute that part of our shadow into love and acceptance and integrate it into our being.

And that's how we reclaim our wholeness.

So a lot of times when women come to me and they feel capped off in their lives,

Especially in business,

If they feel that they've plateaued and they don't know what's next,

Sometimes it can be because their purpose is evolving and they need to pivot.

Maybe what they were doing before,

It's time for a change now.

So we navigate those territories.

And yet for many women,

It's actually because there's deeper inner child healing to be done.

And inner child work is deeply related to the shadow because a lot of times what's been suppressed in people and women is things that have been repressed from childhood.

A lot of the messaging and the false limiting beliefs that they picked up usually were from caretakers and parents and teachers and friends and family where they may have been told something or modeled something.

And at that time,

Especially between the ages of from birth to eight years old,

It's known scientifically that your brain development is still happening.

And in that period,

You don't have the tool of discernment.

And so for many children,

They just absorb what they are seeing in their external reality without adding any context around it.

So if they saw their parents fighting over money,

They might have made some false associations such as money is a root of all evil,

Money causes problems.

And we know this is not true.

This is false.

And the only way to really change this story and to help these women prosper in their businesses is by shifting that story to a more empowering story and also sending a lot of inner child healing to understand that that was not true.

That their parents were just doing the best that they could with the resources that they had.

And unfortunately,

Those arguments that the children may have witnessed was enough to impact them and they have the powers to change the story now.

So the shadow is not meant to be judged and you'll find that a lot of times when you transmute any guilt,

Any shame,

Any resentment or anger,

Anything that's been suppressed in the shadow,

When you're willing to take a look at it,

Yes,

It can be challenging.

However,

When you move through and process and heal it,

You feel so powerful on the other side because you've literally claimed back a powerful part of yourself.

I guarantee you if there's something you're denying within yourself,

It is actually your gift.

A lot of women who come to me actually have a theme where they don't feel seen,

They don't feel heard,

And they feel tired and frustrated.

And a lot of them are hustling.

And so when we uncover that and unpack why they're doing that,

A lot of it is based on programming that they picked up on childhood.

Maybe some of them had,

For example,

A single mom who had to pick up the slack.

So they learned that in their lifetime,

They had to hustle.

A lot of times the things that we have repressed,

We don't see,

It's not obvious to us.

And yet when we can claim that part of us back,

We become so much more powerful and then we can see where we can pivot in our lives.

And so going back to a lot of women coming to me,

Not feeling seen,

Not feeling heard.

A lot of it is because they picked up on some childhood programming where they didn't feel safe to be seen.

Maybe they have some trauma where there was attention on them,

But not for the right reason.

So now they associate a recognition attention with an alternative meaning.

Or for a lot of these women,

They've experienced a type of emotional neglect growing up.

And so they picked up on the programming that they're not worthy of being seen.

Because if you're not met by your parents who are your primary caretakers usually during your childhood years,

Then how would you expect anyone else in the world to see you?

Even if you don't want to be seen in the spotlight,

You want to be seen by your life partner.

You want to be seen by potential life partner.

You want to be seen by the right opportunities and the right jobs and the right friends and the right connections and the right people.

And so this work goes deeper and there are no shortcuts.

There's no hiding.

When you're calling parts and aspects of you out of your shadow,

You're calling it into the light for deep healing.

And you'll find that if you have plateaued in a certain area of your life,

It could be because there's deeper shadow side healing to be done.

Because when you claim back parts of your shadow,

You can step into new levels of yourself.

In this healing,

Simply allow whatever comes up to come up for you and trust that your subconscious mind is bringing something up to be healed,

To be seen,

To be noticed.

And in this healing,

We're going to heal and clear it so that you can feel more whole.

The truth of who you are is you are whole exactly as you are.

And there's nothing about you that you need to deny.

You can look at the parts of yourself that you may not have loved as much in the past with a new lens,

Which is that all parts of you deserve to receive your love and that quote unquote weaknesses that women so often speak of.

Actually,

A lot of times those weaknesses,

Again with quotes,

They actually are strengths.

For instance,

For a long time,

I used to think being vulnerable was too much as in,

Am I showing too much of my heart?

Is this me being too sensitive?

And a lot of times that was conditioning that I grew up with.

I was told not to cry.

Don't be emotional.

Why are you so emotional?

Don't ever show anyone you're crying that you're upset.

You give your power away.

Those were the things that I was told.

And yet when I worked in the cancer institutions in New York City,

My patients loved the fact that I could show compassion on that level.

It made us more connected.

It created healthier relationships.

They were able to tell me more about their journey and so I could help treat them better during their cancer course,

Their treatment course.

And it was powerful to witness.

And it even allowed me to develop deeper relationships with some of the physicians I was working with.

Because if you don't have a good relationship with a physician you're working with,

Then it makes it harder for you to move through your day because you're not working as a team.

You kind of feel that you're solo.

And so this was one of the most helpful things that I learned.

And in general,

It is helping me continuously in my life because we all know that in order to create real connection with people,

You have to be vulnerable.

And so I switched my mindset,

My energy around it and realized vulnerability is a beautiful thing.

And it's actually what allows the women who come into my world to speak what's on their hearts and tell me some of the big deep desires as well as the big secrets that they've buried that they don't feel comfortable telling other people.

That's a gift.

And I don't take that for granted.

So in this healing,

If you're ready for this,

I invite you to just allow whatever is coming up to come up for your attention and let the healing clear and release whatever judgment,

Whatever shame,

Guilt,

Resentment,

Anger you're experiencing.

I'm going to start the healing now.

So take a deep breath in.

You may see that your inner child is coming up a certain age,

Could be teenager,

Could be a child,

Could even be in utero.

Notice what is coming up and simply give her the medicine that she needs.

Tell her that she is loved exactly as she is and give her what she needed at that time when she didn't feel safe.

If she wants to feel seen,

Let her know that she is seen in this moment.

I'm going to take you through a little journey.

It's a quick little exercise and you can use this anytime when you notice something coming up,

Whether it's a strong charge around a judgment or you simply feel that it's time to shift the energy.

I want you to imagine everything that you feel,

Whether it's shame,

Judgment,

Guilt around a certain situation that happened,

Whether in your childhood or in your adult life,

Whatever's coming up for you or has been coming up for you during this healing.

I want you to envision that you're removing all of that energy out from your body,

Out of your energy field and placing it in another bubble outside of you.

You might see an angry version of you.

You might see the childlike version of you,

Whatever it is.

Just envision that's all being removed out of your body and your energy field and going into this bubble and then envision that the bubble hits a rock and then goes into a body of water such as a downstream river.

So it hits the rock and then it's going into the water and it's dissolving.

It's dissolving out of your conscious,

Unconscious,

Your energy field and your body simply by the act of being shattered and going into the water to be purified.

And now think about that younger version of you or whoever you saw just a few moments ago.

And I want you to picture her as whole,

Happy and loved and let her know that she is whole,

Happy and loved.

Give her the medicine that she needs.

Envision her receiving whatever it is that she felt was unsafe to receive and then take her in your arms,

Give her a hug and let her know that you've got this now.

And then imagine that she is actually being placed in your heart,

Obviously a much smaller version and now she is being placed in the portal of your heart where she knows she is safe,

She knows that you have got her back and that you can use your adult-level maturity to make healthy decisions moving forward.

And know that just by having done that you have reclaimed more of who you are so that you can feel more whole.

You can continue to come back to this healing every time you feel you need to reintegrate a part of you that you've repressed,

Something that you desire to call into your life,

A part of you that you want to now unleash and express in a healthy manner.

Thank you for receiving this healing and have a beautiful day.

Namaste.