The Three Foundations Of Self-Love

This is Episode 4 of Series 2 of the You-Ni-Verse podcast. I discuss the Three Foundations of Self Love, which are: 1. Develop a Loving Inner Voice, 2. Only do things you love and 3. Choose your friends and soul family wisely. If you agree that the foundation of happy external relationships is a happy inner relationship with yourself, then it's always worth investing time in growing strong foundations for our inner self-relationship. I'd love to hear your thoughts and comments!

Transcript

Hello and a very warm welcome to the three foundations of self-love.

I am your host Akasha Love.

I am a soul alchemist,

A meditation teacher and a tarot reader.

So let's get straight into it,

Shall we?

The three foundations of self-love.

The first one is develop a loving and affirming inner voice.

So many of us have an inner voice which is more like an inner critic.

So it's a voice which is kind of sitting on our shoulder and judging us all the time.

Telling us where we're getting it wrong,

Telling us how we need to change or improve something about ourselves or our life.

So if this is your inner voice,

Then first step to building a solid foundation of self-love is working with this inner voice to change it from an inner critic to an inner cheerleader if you like.

So this is an inner work of transformation which will be different for every person and will take a different amount of time for every person depending on how harsh is your inner critic and how deeply entrenched is that negativity towards yourself.

So this is our first foundation.

Develop a loving,

Nurturing and life affirming inner voice which is like your inner cheerleader cheering you on in your life and really supporting you at every step in every way in everything you do whether you feel like you've just had a big success or whether you feel like you've failed in some way at something.

You want that inner voice to always be supporting you,

To always be loving you,

To always be on your side like a beautiful,

Strong and loving mother.

Let's see.

So that's our first foundation of self-love.

Our second foundation of self-love is only do what you love and I really believe that this is important in every aspect of our lives.

Our lives are short relatively to the time span of eternity and we are here to follow our heart's guidance and to do what really lights us up in all arenas.

So in our work,

In our leisure,

In our relationships,

In our hobbies,

When we go on holiday.

This is what we're here for.

We're here to do what we love and so particularly also in the work arena it's really important I think to do what you love and everybody loves something and everybody,

Most people have multiple loves and in this day and age where there are a plethora of new careers that have opened up thanks to the dominance of digital in our lives,

There's more and more opportunities to really make a living at doing what you love,

Whether that's in your own business or working for other people.

But I believe it is always possible to do something that you love and even if in your work perhaps you don't love every single aspect of it,

There will be a core part of your work that really draws you out,

That you really love,

That will help pull you through perhaps the more challenging aspects of your employment that maybe you don't love quite so much.

But I believe that all of us can find work that we love and as I said this also goes for everything else.

We stay guided by our hearts and we move towards whatever it is that we love in our work,

In our relationships,

In our leisure time,

In a place where we live,

Within our family and in our hobbies or interests outside of our professional life.

So this is our second foundation to self-love.

Our third foundation is in our relationships and our friendships.

So it's really important to be around people who are loving and affirming of you.

So in our family relationships,

In our family,

So family we were born into,

We can't actually choose those people.

They are there,

Our parents,

Our brothers and sisters,

Aunts,

Uncles,

Grandparents,

Those are people that we can't choose and we need to do our best to get on with all of them though we may not necessarily even like some of those people naturally.

We can't actually change our family so we do our best to love them and get on with them as best that we can.

But in terms of our friendships,

Obviously those are relationships that we choose.

So most definitely we need to choose people that are really supportive and nurturing and uplifting for us.

So people that are on our side,

Let's say,

And that doesn't mean to say that sometimes we might not get into some conflict or some fights or some disagreements or arguments with these people.

That's okay,

That's a normal part of life.

The question is even if we do get into any conflicts or any disagreements that those people are coming from a place of loving us and coming from a place of wanting to understand us,

Wanting to support us just as we are with them.

They're not coming from a place of competing with us or wanting to take us down a peg or two,

Wanting to drag us down because they might be jealous of us in some way.

So those are not the people that we want in our lives if we are really focusing on building a solid foundation of self-love.

We need the people that support and uplift us and are there for us and of course are also honest with us and true with us but are not hurtful,

Are not competitive,

Are never demeaning us in any way,

Are not dragging us down because they're jealous of us.

So the important thing to remember in relationships and friendships is that people are how they are and they're not how they are because of you,

They just are that way.

So people's reactions towards you show you how they are.

They are not necessarily at all showing you how you are.

People are how they are.

So if people are reacting negatively towards you,

People that you think you are,

That are your friends are actually demeaning or diminishing you in some way and questioning you when you are turning onto a new path in your life for example and rather than supporting you,

They're doubting you,

They're questioning you,

They're poking holes in the fabric of your dreams and in the path of your life,

Then that is telling you about them.

It's not telling you anything about you,

That's just the people that they are and then we make a choice to either stay in relationship with them or most likely not if we are really focusing on building a strong foundation of self-love.

We really don't want people who demean or diminish or doubt us in this way.

We need people around us who uplift us and support us and just as we of course will do for them.

So this is really,

Really important.

It's really important to have a really strong,

Loving group of friends around you to support you on your life journey.

We're not here alone,

We're here to help and support each other.

We're here to uplift each other,

We're here to help each other build our dreams together.

But how do we choose that soul family,

The family of our chosen friends?

We choose them based on the people who are giving us really strong,

Loving energy.

So those are our three foundations of self-love.

Just to recap,

Number one is develop a loving inner voice.

So an inner voice which is like your inner cheerleader.

And if you currently don't have an inner cheerleader,

If you currently have an inner critic which is critical and judgmental of you,

Just notice that and slowly over time work on transforming that critic into your cheerleader.

There's a whole lot of steps for that process and I may make a future video about that.

Number two,

Only do work that you love.

I firmly believe that there's a possibility for all of us to do work that we love.

And now it might be a bit of a process to work out,

To look at the different things that we love and work out which ones will be most effective at turning into a career for us.

So we may love driving a car,

For example.

We may love driving.

We may also love painting.

And we may also love skipping rope,

For example.

So they may be three big passions of ours.

Some of these passions may be easier to turn into a career than others.

So skipping rope,

That may be a challenge.

Although we could easily become a physical education teacher and that could be our main focus with our students.

Driving,

We could become an Uber driver or a truck driver or a taxi driver.

And painting,

That's probably going to be a bit of a longer road in terms of making money from that career.

These are my paintings behind.

So painting is one of my passions.

I haven't yet made money.

Although today I just got my very first commission for a painting.

So there you go.

So everything is possible.

It's all of our loves and passions are possible to turn into careers.

But the question is,

We need to just look at those and look at which one right now in our lives will be able to help us to earn a living.

And then maybe our other passions can be hobbies or interests on the side,

Or they may earn us a living in the longer term,

Like for example,

Painting for me.

So thank you for listening.

I hope this has been useful for you.

Have a beautiful day.

Namaste.

The soul in me honours the soul in you.

And I will see you in the next video.

Bye.

Bye.