Short Insight | Communicating Boundaries

Drawing healthy boundaries in relationships is essential for your peace of mind. But how can we communicate our boundaries? Through this short insight, Saqib will tell you a technique that is highly effective! If you like the practice, check out Saqib's course: "Love Nirvana".

Transcript

Hello and Namaste.

If you are wondering that how you can draw healthy boundaries in relationships,

Then I will tell you a very simple method through this short insight.

And this simple method includes two important components.

And those two components are confidence and compassion.

Now,

First of all,

It's important to be compassionate while drawing healthy boundaries.

So,

Let's say that there is someone who is violating your boundaries,

There is someone who is affecting you,

And you want to draw a healthy boundary with them,

Right?

So,

What do you do is,

The very first thing to do is to speak to them,

To communicate with them.

Now,

That's the most important way as it's very obvious that when we draw boundaries,

We communicate those boundaries.

But how do we communicate those boundaries?

That's the important question.

So,

The first is compassion.

You know,

We have to make sure that we are compassionate while drawing boundaries,

Especially if it is someone who is close to you.

By compassion,

I mean that whenever you speak to them,

The energy is not of hatred,

The energy is not of,

You know,

Anger.

But you create an environment in which they also feel comfortable.

Maybe you can,

You know,

Let's say if there is someone who is really close to you,

A family member,

A partner,

You can hold their hands,

You can give them a hug,

And you can tell them that you love them.

And that's the way you kind of create that energy in which they feel safe,

In which they feel that you are not there to attack them,

But you are there to have an important conversation.

So,

That's the first step,

Compassion.

But the next step is confidence,

Which means that we also have to be confident while drawing boundaries.

And there has to be a balance between compassion and confidence.

Because if I am compassionate,

But if I am not confident in delivering my message,

First of all,

I might not even be able to deliver my message,

Right?

Let's say I am compassionate,

And I want to say something,

You know,

To my partner,

I want to draw a healthy boundary,

But I am unable to say that,

Because maybe I feel some shame or guilt around saying it.

So,

That confidence is important.

You have to believe yourself in your boundary.

You have to believe yourself that you are doing the right thing by drawing this boundary.

So,

Have confidence in that.

And,

You know,

You have to believe that you are doing the right thing.

So,

When you believe that you are doing the right thing,

Then you are confident.

And you display that confidence.

You tell them confidently that,

You know,

This is something which is important to you.

And here is an important boundary that you are drawing.

And this is really meaningful for you.

And you would really like it,

You know,

If they respect your boundary.

You will really appreciate if they respect your boundary.

So,

It has to be said with confidence as well.

There has to be a fine balance between confidence and compassion.

We don't have to be,

You know,

We don't have to be too harsh.

And we don't have to be too soft.

We have to be somewhere in the middle.

And have that balance of confidence and compassion to draw and to communicate those healthy boundaries.

I hope you found value in this short insight.

Have a wonderful rest of the day.

Lots of love.

Reviews

Well done saqib. Keep up your good work sir. I appreciate your insights and love for all
Namaste 🙏

Yes thank you I did find this helpful and I’m going to write it down. Compassion and Confidence when setting boundaries.

Your talks resonate so deeply with the things I am grappling with 🙏

The balance of compassion and confidence is the challenge and having enough compassion for yourself that you hold on to your confidence and your boundary is often the hurdle. When we do this we get over the hurdle. And most situations work out as they should. Thanks for this great reminder.

there is so much fabulous content in this short talk. blessings 🙏🙏🙏

Saqib, thank you - I can relate to your insight from experience and it works.

This is my interpretation -

(Confidence + Compassion) / Balance = Communicating (Healthy) Boundaries

Your wise words are life-changing, Saqib - Pranam🤍🙏🏻🕊️

❤️🌻

Clear and concise talk on setting boundaries. Something that should taught in early childhood to make our lives easier. Love and light, Saqib. 🙏❤️

These simple, in the same time also great „guidelines“ for communication in general, but in particular in relationships are very helpful 🤗.
And to get it really inside they‘re short (enough) to repeat as often as we need. Thx Saqib so much for that 🤍☺️🙏

Very simple clear instruction for an often challenging task. Thank you, Saqib. Namaste!
Donna

Excellent, no-nonsense advice, Saqib. I always appreciate your insights. Thank you. ❤️🙏🏻