Why Relationships Go From Love To Hate

Sadhguru looks at one insidious thing that people do, which messes up their relationships. Yogi, mystic and visionary, Sadhguru is a spiritual master with a difference. An arresting blend of profundity and pragmatism, his life and work serves as a reminder that yoga is a contemporary science, vitally relevant to our times.

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The nastiest situation happened not among enemies,

But among the so-called loved ones.

Love means you're willing to nurture another life without forming opinions.

That should be a relationship of nurture,

Not opinionated.

These are not your loved ones,

These are your extra limbs.

You're not able to stand on two legs,

So you need four or eight or twelve,

I don't know how many.

These are extra limbs and when limbs are not well coordinated,

They tangle up,

You know.

There are four or five brains,

Four or five power centers in the home and for it to be well coordinated,

Certain things have to be done.

One way of doing it is with an enormous level of connectedness,

Not emotional.

Emotional connectedness just brings dependency.

Emotion is something to be enjoyed,

It is the juice of life.

You don't make your emotions work,

You should not make them work.

You can make your thought work,

You can make your body work.

You try to make your emotions work.

Whenever you try to make your emotions work for you,

Your situations turn nasty,

Isn't it?

Yes or no?

Initially,

I love your works,

After some time,

You're trying to make emotions work for you.

The harder you try to make it work,

The nastier your life gets,

Because emotion is not for work.

Emotion is just to sweeten your life.

Your thought and your body should work.

Emotions just there,

It's like a flower that you wear in your hair,

Nobody wears it.

Reviews

Wonderfully taught!

Been there, done it, bought the T-shirt, got rid of the T-shirt.
Much better now in coordinating the extra 'limbs'. Continuously practicing thought as in non judging awareness and practicing nurturing. Enjoying the consequences. 😊
Also I realize I can stand on my own two feet much more often than I thought I could. 😏
Thank you yet another awareness. 🙏🏻

I wish I had heard this forty years ago.

Helpful . I want the sweet emotions and I see how tangled up that makes me. I'll take this to heart and let go of my effort to feel a certain way.

Insightful as always. Namaste