I want to talk about a bit of a minefield and that's family patterns.
And I also want to say that this is an area where it really shows how important it is to,
You know,
Wake up and allow yourself to really see the writing on the wall or see what's really going on.
So you know,
I think we all intuitively know that,
You know,
Family patterns come down through the ethers and affect us all.
It's sort of the same way that the law is predicated on what's been chosen in the past.
It's sort of the same principle.
The same thing tends to repeat.
Unless we bring a new consciousness,
A new standpoint or a new departure point with which to perceive things.
So I just want to talk about the power of names.
That's one of the things is to pay attention to who we're naming our children after.
So you know,
For example,
My grandmother's brother was a crippled youngster and he died early.
And she named her son,
My uncle,
After this boy.
And the name was chosen before he was born.
Now my uncle was born with a shortage of oxygen.
So he's a blue baby and this is years ago,
1920ish.
So that caused more of a problem.
And he did not have a happy life.
And I always wondered about the imprinting from my grandmother's brother.
There's another example.
I have a friend and in her family,
Somebody who's an alcoholic and one of the children was named after this person.
And indeed he's become an alcoholic.
You know,
These patterns are just there in the air that we breathe.
We have a choice whether to pick up on them or live them out or do the extra work to find our own pattern.
But you know,
It's right there in Prince Harry marrying a divorcee,
American divorcee and sort of abdicating his role.
I mean,
That's a repeat.
And of course that's what the royal family was so scared of happening.
And then because it's scared of happening,
Then it tends to repeat.
So you don't want to be like,
Be scared of something happening.
But you don't want to just imprint your child maybe with the same name.
But you know,
Even I've seen families where they name children and girls after very successful women.
And it goes throughout the whole family if the same name's being used.
And you know,
There's a little bit of tyranny in that in the sense of,
Well,
Maybe the child would have been like more like kind of a thoughtful introvert who wanted to work in a garden shop.
You know,
You just,
You know,
I know that in Aboriginal cultures,
They often allow the child to be born and then wait to hear the name that the child's meant to be called,
The name that's going to more free their soul,
Which that sounds so appealing to me.
You know,
I mean,
One of the gifts my family gave me was my mom and dad named me after somebody,
A relative they never met and didn't know anything about.
It's just as comical because I am more the wild card in my family.
It makes sense.
It's exactly what I'm talking about.
The other thing I wanted to talk about was just about how,
You know,
We have these patterns and into,
You know,
Somebody will be standing there carrying it.
So you know,
In psychological world,
They would talk about,
You know,
One person in the family is the identified patient,
They're the problem.
But really,
They're just carrying that stuff for everybody in the family.
And if they change and start growing out of it,
Then other members of the family will start to experience difficulties.
Yeah,
I remember,
You know,
Once,
You know,
I was driving with my boys,
And one boy was really good in mathematics,
And one boy was not good.
But on this trip,
It reversed.
And so the boy who was good became quite incompetent and the other one was doing difficult multiplications in his head.
And I went,
Oh my God,
It's just,
It's not real.
It's just a plastic flexible thing.
Anyway,
Just another story along lines of family patterns.
You know,
My dad bless his heart,
I mean,
He was quite a noble man,
But he was very difficult and my mom,
But my mom stayed married to him.
So she stayed married to him until actually,
I got married.
And about a month after I got married,
She left my dad.
It was almost like there was somebody else who had just kind of there to hold up the family pattern.
And so she could have freedom,
Because you know,
The joke is before my ex and I got married,
My mom said that,
You know,
She noticed that he was a very difficult man.
Like my father and,
Or like he found my father anyway.
And maybe even more difficult,
Which is quite something.
Anyway,
She said,
I thought about telling you,
But I didn't.
It's sort of like,
I mean,
I don't know what would have happened.
I mean,
Maybe I would have brushed her off,
But you know,
Maybe if she'd said this to me,
I might've listened because I heard her complain for years about dad.
So I might've really listened before walking into this myself.
But she didn't,
You know,
But then as soon as I was married and sort of living out that pattern,
She went for freedom.
This is what we're like if we don't sort of slow down enough to notice these things and pay attention and maybe speak what's in our hearts.
Anyway,
You know,
May this make things better.
Many,
Many blessings.
And just keep going.
