Poor Parenting Leads To Pathological Sibling Rivalry

Ever wonder why some of us have such horrendous unhealthy relationships with our siblings? Have you ever considered whether or not you and your siblings were triangulated, gaslit, or conditioned into toxic family roles due to poor parenting? Lisa A. Roman Life Coach and bestselling author, who is an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse, break it all down in this episode on toxic family relationships.

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A good explanation, and a couple of ah-ha moments for me - even though I’ve spent years working through the dysfunction which I grew up with and am in a place of peace, there is always more to understand and learn. Thank you for this 😊

Thank you for this. In 18 minutes you lifted the veil. I was the scapegoat you spoke of and everything makes sense now. Thank you. Thank you. Namaste. ✨🙏

In my 60's now...I am finally learning to understand my upbringing and how impacted my entire life has been.

Thank you 🙏 Lisa, for validating me! I am 62 years old and one of 5 adult children of a narcissistic mother. She is 89 and has played us like chess pieces since the death of my father 46 years ago. Maybe it goes further back, but recovery is complexed. This talk comes to me at a moment when she’s hospitalized ( Covid restrictions on visitation, and who’s who on the list ) as we maneuver through the chessboard. I’ve been in therapy for 22+ years now and, well, thank you. I would like to share this with my siblings, but I fear that would only complicate things more. I fear the day that she’ll be gone, not for the mourning of her loss ,( as I’ve been mourning the mother I needed for many years) , but for what will become of the strained, disfunctional relationship between my siblings.
Is there such a thing as group grief/death mediation councilors?
I want it already, but don’t think it would be well received. A girl can dream….
Thank you 🙏 again, this has given me a place to express some of what I am feeling at this time.
I have a strong support team of therapists and I am having some positive progress in the EMDR therapy ( I am grateful for the foundation of mindfulness meditation practice that I have found and have been practicing before I began this chapter of the healing journey)
🙏✨💛💫🕊
I’ve been listening to this three times a week now.
Just tonight I got should on by one sister and moments later ( I was responding to her shoulding on me and calling me an ass!
I had just hit send when my brother called me and should all over me again. Recovering is hard enough , but when the other siblings are reacting by shoulding all over you, and don’t see or acknowledge the damage done to them. I’m the crazy one . I’m the one with the problem. They don’t acknowledge that they were victims also.

Very interesting! Thank you!