Tonglen Compassion Meditation

Usually, we turn away from suffering, this practice helps you to face it and turn it into compassion for yourself & others - we surely need this practice now. You will be asked to breathe in the suffering of others and breathe out your compassion to them. At the end, there is a purification practice so you can let go of the suffering you have breathed in and fill the void with compassion.

Transcript

This is a Tonglen guided meditation practice from Buddhism Guide.

In this meditation,

We'll be breathing in the suffering of others and breathing out our heartfelt compassion to them.

You are turning to face suffering and not running away from it.

For this practice to be effective,

It needs to be done regularly.

So sit comfortably with your back straight and your eyes slightly closed.

Now let's start the meditation.

I want you to breathe in as deeply as you can through your nose.

Hold the breath and then push all the air out through your mouth.

So let's begin.

Breathe in deeply.

Hold.

Now push all the air out.

Breathe in deeply.

Hold.

Push all the air out.

Breathe in deeply.

Hold.

Push all the air out.

Now sit quietly and bring your awareness to the breath entering and leaving your body.

Make sure you breathe normally and your breath is slow and relaxed.

While you are slowly breathing,

I will introduce this meditation practice to you.

Negative thinking causes us to make poor choices.

So by doing this meditation,

You will be letting go of negativity,

Opening your heart and developing critical thinking that would lead you to make wise choices.

The meditation also helps you deal effectively with difficult people and stressful situations.

You will be replacing negativity with compassion and wisdom,

Which will help heal yourself,

Each other and the world.

You start this meditation with focusing on yourself and then moving on to someone you love,

A neutral person,

Someone you dislike and finally the world.

Let's begin.

As you breathe in,

Let desire,

Anger,

Jealousy,

Fear,

Attachment,

Confusion or some other negative emotion come to the surface.

On your out breath,

Breathe out this negative thinking and fill the empty space with your heartfelt compassion.

Breathe in your negative thinking and then breathe it out again.

Fill the void that is left with your compassion.

Appreciate that you want to be happy,

But your negative thinking causes you to make poor choices that lead to suffering.

By letting go of negative thinking and developing compassion towards yourself,

You will be free to make wise choices that lead to happiness.

Negative thinking closes the heart,

Upsets the balance in your life and leads to illness and suffering,

Whereas compassion opens the heart,

Brings about balance and promotes health and happiness.

Now turn your attention to someone you love.

Recall a time when your loved one was suffering or maybe they're suffering now.

Breathe in their suffering and breathe out your heartfelt compassion to them.

Breathe in their suffering and breathe out your heartfelt compassion to them.

Appreciate that your loved one wants to be happy,

But is suffering instead.

Fully open your heart to your loved one.

Now think of a neutral person,

Someone about whom you know nothing.

It may be a neighbour,

Someone you see every day in the street,

A bus driver or a shop assistant.

Think about how this person is suffering through sickness or poor choices.

Breathe in their suffering and breathe out your compassion to this person.

Appreciate that this person wants to be happy,

But is suffering instead.

Open your heart to this neutral person.

Now think of a person you dislike or someone you think has hurt you.

Breathe in the suffering of this person and breathe out your warm compassion to them.

Appreciate that this person,

Like everyone else,

Just wants to be happy.

Because of negative thinking,

This person makes harmful choices that lead to suffering.

By having negative thoughts about this person,

You are increasing that suffering and making the situation worse.

Develop compassion for this person so you can think clearly about how to deal with them in a way that brings about good consequences.

Fully open your heart to this person.

Now breathe in the suffering of the world and breathe out compassion to the whole of the world.

Breathing all the sadness,

Poverty,

Sickness,

Intolerance,

Loneliness and all the other negativity in the world.

And breathe out all the compassion your heart can muster to help heal the world.

Everyone in the world wants to be happy,

But too often make unwise choices that lead to suffering instead.

Appreciate that by developing universal compassion,

You can help to relieve this suffering.

Open your heart to the world.

Now you are coming to the end of this meditation and it's time to do a purification practice.

I want you to visualize the suffering you breathed in as black smoke in your heart centre.

You need to let go of this black smoke so it doesn't increase your own suffering.

As you breathe out,

Imagine all the black smoke leaving your heart centre.

Then on the in-breath,

Breathe in the pure white smoke of compassion.

Let this white smoke fill your heart centre and your whole being with compassion towards yourself,

Everyone else and the world.

Continue to do the purification by breathing in white smoke of compassion and breathing out the black smoke of suffering.

In a moment you will hear the final three bells.

Gently follow the sound of the bells.

Then when you are ready,

Slowly open your eyes and introduce yourself back into the world.

Reviews

Thank you for the beautiful gift of this meditation 🌸

Just as ‘Experience Stillnes’, the Tonglen compassion meditation is one of my regular meditations that bring reflection, compassion and happiness. Forever grateful. 🤓🙏🏻

Thanks Lama Ji. This is undoubtedly one of the best meditation for creating a compassionate heart ❤️ and a better world. 🙏🙏

Thank you. I need this everyday. Specially this moment, I am scared and anxious about tomorrow and the next 4 years. There is anger, sadness and frustration and I can't help feeling this way.

A beautiful calm guide to learning this practice. Saving for everyday use, with gratitude

Just what I needed as my husband suffers from. Ad burns at the hospital. Thank you 🙏 🙏💜

Beautiful and gentle compassionate metta practice. May all beings rest in love.

Thank you for the clear and useful teaching. Visualizing negative emotions and compassion helps me to open my heart to Lovingkindness.

An excellent Tonglen meditation with purification process. Left me feeling calm and centred.

Thank you for this. It helps to first fill the space created by breathing out my own self-generated suffering with compassion. It made it safer to breathe in others' negativity. 🙏

Thank you for this meditation. I opened my heart to many. Within was the Ukrainian people that needs our compassion more than ever in these dark days.

Always beautiful. Towards the end, for the whole world, I am overcome with emotions. Sometimes tears. I guess the meditation is working.
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Simple instructions, no background distraction (music) all good. Cleansing exercise addressed my question about tonglen. Thank you.

Great practice. Thank you for the teaching of Toglen. Love and light 🙏🏻❤️✨

It's simple, easy to follow and straight to the point without to much chatting.

This is exactly what humankind and the world needs right now. Beautiful. Thank you so much🙏🙏🙏

I now feel peace; as I am going into a place with a difficult person. Thank you for your meditation of compassion. 🙏

Helpful practice. Thank you

The pace of instructions is just right for me. I would like to see a longer version of this meditation aimed at those who would like to deepen this practice. Thank you!

A really helpful and brief tonglen practice. Very useful for me work as a therapist and very very useful for me as a human being who constantly needs to deal with the negative perceptions I have of some others. Encouraged to open my heart wider.