Hello,
Beautiful souls,
And welcome.
This is Clea,
And this recording is directed to the people pleasers,
To those people who struggle to love themselves or who sacrifice their peace and their needs for others just to protect the peace or just to be liked.
Of course,
This goes way deeper than what I'm going to explain during this recording,
But there is one important thing that I want to talk about in this recording.
That is,
When you look at yourself in the mirror or during the day,
As you go through your day,
As you do what you need to do,
I want you to keep in mind this thing.
You are very good when it comes to taking care of others.
What if you start to consider yourself as another person?
For example,
You'd show up for your friend 100% in the most genuine and supportive way.
What if you considered yourself as your best friend?
What if you started to show up for yourself the same way that you'd show up for a friend?
And of course,
At the beginning,
This can be really tough,
But starting with the mentality and changing the mentality and then looking at how can I improve a little bit more this time and a little bit more the next time and a little bit more the time after that.
What if you started to talk to yourself the same way you'd talk to a friend?
A good exercise about this is writing down the opinions or the way you're talking to yourself about a specific matter,
About something that may be going on,
About something that you did that you could do better,
Or whatever it is that you're talking to yourself about,
And the chances are that you may be really mean or negative to yourself.
But if your friend,
If someone that you love would be in the same position,
How would you talk to that person?
How would you support that person?
How would you show up for that person?
The same thing about you.
Notice what you need in this situation,
In this time.
How can you show up for yourself?
If you were your best friend,
How would you show up for yourself?
And I love this so much as a mentality because personally,
This has changed my life,
And when I compare my relationship with myself during these years and a decade ago,
There is so much change,
And I'm so grateful for that.
And it started one step at a time,
But it all started with the mentality.
And I've seen this perspective and this strategy of self-love do miracles in the people that I've worked with.
It is so powerful,
But it starts with every day recalling,
Remembering to love yourself the same way you'd love a best friend,
To show up for yourself the same way you'd show up for your best friend,
To ask yourself,
How was your day?
What could be better?
How did you love yourself today?
How can you love yourself today?
How can you love yourself tomorrow?
What are the things that bring you joy?
How can you put one or two or some of those things into your day?
What do you need at this time?
How can you show up for yourself the same way you'd show up for someone that you love?
That is very important.
Another thing that is very important,
It is very likely that you have been talking negatively or being very aggressive or mean,
Very critical.
That's the right word.
You have been very critical to yourself.
It will start with small steps.
The goal is to have this mentality in the long run.
So we need consistency.
So we need to remember every day to start over,
To do better.
What could you improve?
How can you improve?
As we focus in the consistency,
As we focus in the long-term results,
We will notice them and we will notice day-by-day growth.
That is so important.
And of course,
There will be times that you may go back or you may walk some steps back.
That's okay.
That's part of the process.
We start moving forward again.
It is a journey.
So of course,
It will take steps backwards and steps forward.
But as long as we keep moving forward,
As long as we consciously choose to walk forward,
To take step forwards,
Of course that we will arrive to our destination.
Have patience with yourself.
Remember to start over.
Remember every day,
Every morning,
Every night when you fall asleep.
How can I love myself today?
How could I love myself better today?
And how can I love myself better tomorrow?
You deserve so much love and you will start to feel more love in your life when you start to give some of that love in your heart to yourself.
I love you so much and may you be well.
Sending you lots of love and positive energy.
