Hello,
My name is Jordan Olson.
I'm a licensed mental health therapist and perinatal mental health specialist.
And I work with a lot of folks who are struggling with.
.
.
Fertility.
Whether it be trying to conceive your first baby or struggling with secondary infertility.
There are a lot of nuances to how the journey goes and one is that there's a lot of information out there about how to optimize your fertility,
Whether it be your body,
Your diet,
Your exercise,
Your lifestyle.
But more and more there's information out there about how to optimize your mindset as well and how that impacts fertility.
And while there are definitely ways that we can change what we're doing to increase our chances of conceiving,
Sometimes.
More doing.
Creates this mindset of if we do more and try harder and control every variable,
That that will increase our chances of fertility.
And this mindset.
This rigid mindset.
Is not.
Always supportive of our best mental health and living our lives,
Continuing to live and enjoy our lives alongside.
Trying to conceive.
So what I'm going to teach you today is this.
Idea of seeing yourself as a lighthouse through your fertility journey.
And so when you find yourself struggling.
Feeling like you've done everything right.
Maybe struggling with the feeling that Your body has failed you.
Or wondering if maybe your body is not.
Able to conceive a child.
Struggling with identity,
Struggling with.
Not knowing what to do next.
Well,
There is a balance of.
Being active and doing.
To try to work towards your fragility goals.
Thinking of yourself as a lighthouse.
A strong,
Solid,
Grounded structure.
That is both.
Lying in wait.
Of ships coming to shore.
Of your baby coming to you.
But also a beacon.
Guiding the way.
Hemstaning Vigil 24-7 shining that light so any shipping that comes close to shore can see it and know where home is.
Same is true with.
The soul of your baby out there.
You are the grounded,
Stable,
Unmoving.
Force of the lighthouse.
Doing what you can to shine your light.
Stand strong.
Letting your baby know.
That you're there letting your baby know.
We're homeless.
And I think this.
Mindset.
Can really ring true whatever your religious or spiritual background or practice is.
As long as you have the belief that.
Your babies.
Presence,
Soul,
Spirit.
Is.
Out there somewhere.
Whether you choose to believe that that soul has not been born yet or soul is out in the world in the form of a baby or child already.
Sometimes seeing yourself as that sturdy,
Strong.
Presence.
And that the most we can do is continue to shine.
Our light letting baby know where home is.
Can be something that.
.
.
Helps bring you back down to earth,
Helps quiet some of those racing thoughts,
And helps prevent you from going too far down the mental path of thinking that you've done something wrong or you haven't done enough because It's just not true.
If you are in the world of infertility struggles.
You.
Are in an area of life that is uniquely difficult because it does not follow the rules of if you do everything correctly,
Then you get the outcome you want.
It's a whole new territory and a whole new struggle.
And small little practices,
Little mindset shifts,
Such as seeing yourself as the lighthouse.
Are short.
Tiny ways that you can practice staying grounded throughout your fertility journey.
I wish you peace,
I wish you ease.
And I wish you luck.
On your path to finding your baby.
Be well.
