Healing The Abandonment Wound And Dissolving The Associated Patterning And Beliefs

Join me on a journey into your subconscious mind where we'll heal the abandonment wound at the origin as well as dissolving associated beliefs and patterning formed in response to the abandonment wound. Together, we'll give your inner child the emotional nourishment needed to dissolve their pain and bring them back into wholeness. We'll be using a blend of traditional inner child healing with powerful quantum and galactic healing tools. You can expect powerful and immediate results!

Transcript

Hi,

I'm Jen.

Thank you so much for joining me.

In this particular healing journey we're going to be looking at the abandonment wound.

The abandonment wound is incredibly common.

In fact,

Actually a lot of us will be carrying this but we won't even really realize that we are,

Except that we'll have certain parts of our lives that really will not be going well.

So here's a couple of examples of what the abandonment wound looks like in our day-to-day life.

So somebody with an abandonment wound,

They're likely to attach to relationships really,

Really quickly.

They're likely to really fall for the person before they even really know them.

They'll have a fear of being alone or being single and when they are in a relationship they'll get really panicky about the idea of their partner leaving them.

They'll often attract emotionally or physically unavailable partners or the other extreme really,

Really needy or even possessive partners.

They'll feel quite insecure a lot of the time and they'll have a real fear of rejection.

They'll also be hypersensitive to criticism and they'll often carry a lot of trust or safety issues as well.

So as you can see these are just a few of the common sort of patterns that play out when we have an abandonment wound and when we've got these types of patterns they really are threaded through every part of our life and they'll undermine us at every stage and aspect of our life too.

So when we heal the abandonment wound and we heal it effectively you can expect these patterns to actually collapse as well.

So if this so far is resonating with you I'd love you to join me in a guided healing where I'll take you through actually connecting with the part of you that feels abandoned and will connect with that part of you.

We'll give them the healing and the understanding and the empowerment that they need and we'll bring them back into balance and from there we'll also identify what other beliefs you might have formed and also what other patterns you specifically are playing out in relation to this wound and then of course we'll dissolve them.

Okay so if you'd like to join me I will love to see you there.

Right so let us begin.

I'd just like you to first of all call back your energy from different times and different places.

So just close your eyes and actually ask that your energy return to you now.

You might see it moving across the sky and coming back in down through your crown chakra and your third eye down past your throat,

Your heart,

Your solar plexus.

So it moves down past your sacral,

Your base chakra,

All the way down your legs and back into your feet.

Often when we are carrying the abandonment wound we'll also often go into flight easily which means that our energy will leave our body when we're feeling unsafe.

So it makes us feel really unsafe and secure and ungrounded.

So that's a really great little exercise for you if you carry this wound.

Excellent okay so now that brought your energy back into your body I want you to take a couple of deep and relaxing breaths.

Nice natural relaxing breaths.

Good and I want you to notice above your head right up into the sky you'll notice a beautiful golden fire and I'll ask you to just draw this golden fire down,

Down towards the top of your crown chakra and into the space into the room that you're in right now and I want you to notice this beautiful golden fire.

It's the golden fire of the Christ grid.

I want you to notice this golden fire just spreading right across the ceiling,

Down the walls,

Across the windows and this beautiful golden fire of the Christ grid as it spreads across the floor completely encasing you in this beautiful powerful Christ conscious energy.

So this will protect the space that you're in while we do this process.

Good that's excellent.

Okay so now I'd like you to take a moment.

I'd like you to take a moment and I want you to recall a time where you have felt felt that real fear of being alone.

You felt that fear of being rejected or abandoned in some way.

I'll give you a moment to think of that now.

Good,

Excellent.

So now,

Now that you've got the scenario I want you to take a moment to dive into the scenario and I want you just to replay it in your mind and what I'm wanting you to do is to notice when you feel a trigger in your body.

Good okay so now I want you to notice whereabouts in your body are you feeling this emotional charge and it might be in more than one part that's totally fine but just notice where is it most intense.

Good okay so I want you to really connect with that part of your body now and I want you to notice what are the physical sensations in that part of your body.

It might be heaviness or tight or a withdrawing just notice how does it feel physically.

Good,

Excellent.

Now we're going to dive a wee bit deeper.

Let's dive in a little bit deeper and I want you to notice what are the emotions sitting in that part of your body.

Great,

Now I want you to dig a little bit deeper now what else is sitting there what other emotions are sitting underneath.

Good,

Excellent.

So now that you've connected with the emotions that are sitting there I want you to go a little bit deeper and I want you to go into that space a little bit further and I want you to notice the other version of you that's sitting in that part of your body.

Now they're probably going to be a child so it'll be a much younger version of you most likely but not definitely and there might be more than one of you that's totally fine totally normal but I want you to connect with that other version of you that sits inside that part of your body.

And if you can't connect with them straight away I want you to imagine that you can because they are there I can see them.

So just imagine that you can connect with them.

Good,

Excellent great.

So now you've connected with them I want you to notice how are they how old are they first approximately how old and just trust that whatever number comes to you is correct.

Good and I want you to before we go and see them I want you to just feel into what what emotions are they feeling right now how are they feeling because they're probably feeling things like I'd expect them to be feeling probably alone and abandoned they're probably feeling fearful they might be feeling confused just connect in and see how are they feeling right now.

Great you're doing really well now what I'm going to get you to do is I'm going to get you to actually go in to the scene where they are right now.

So if they're quite young then it would be entirely appropriate for you to go on and pick them up if they're much older and too big then it might be that you kneel down beside them or you sit next to them or opposite them but I want you the main key here is that I want you to connect with them in such a way that they know that they're supported and they're safe.

So I want you to go into them now and again if they're little just pick them up and I want you to look them in the eyes and I want you to say to them that I see you here and I want you to know that I am never going to abandon you again and I'm here to love you and keep you safe and to bring you home with me where you belong.

Good well done if you need more time just pause audio and take more time.

So I want you to say to them now that something along the lines of I know that you've been alone for a long time and I want you to share with me what it is that you've got to say because they will have stuff that they want to say to you so just invite them to tell you those things now.

Good now depending what it is that they tell you what we want to do now is we want to acknowledge what they've said and we want to give them the reassurances that they need like if they've said to you that they feel really alone and they feel really frightened then I want you to say to them something like I know that you feel really alone and you feel really frightened but I am here now and I'm never going to leave you alone again so that you don't need to be afraid anymore.

So I'll give you a moment to do that now good good and I want you to ask them if there's anything else that they'd like you to know right now good and depending on what they've got to say once again just acknowledge that back to them and give them their reassurances that they need like they might be saying something like I don't understand why mommy and daddy don't want to play with me they never make any time for me or you know if that's the case we would say to them something on the lines of I know you're wondering why your mom and dad don't spend time playing with you and you could actually say depending how comfortable you are with with this you could actually say to them something like not all mummies and daddies know how to be great mummies and daddies so they don't always know what it is that you need but I know what you need and I'm going to give that to you from now on good and I'd like to also tell them that what is actually happening now is not their fault it's not because they're not good enough or they're not behaving well or that that person doesn't want to be around them the reason this is happening is actually because of the other person is not actually about them good so now I'd really like you to ask them what beliefs have they formed about themselves good and once again I'm just like before depending on what they say to you I need you to replay that back to them and give them their reassurances that they need for example they might have a belief that that everybody abandons them so I'd want you to say to them that I know that you have a belief that everybody abandons you but I want you to know that this is not true and that I will never ever abandon you I will always be here for you and I will always love you 100% or they might have a belief that they're not good enough and that's why nobody plays with them so you would say to them something along the lines of I know you have a belief that you're not good enough but I want you to know that you're actually more than enough you always have been and you always will be or if they've got a belief that they're not worthy you would say to them I know you have a belief that you're not worthy of being loved but I want you to know that's not true that you are worthy of being loved and of giving love and I will always always love you no matter what you do or what you don't do so I'll leave that with you now just to find out what are their beliefs and then to give them the reassurances that they need and play it back to them you excellent and I want you to ask now with that belief or those beliefs what patterns have they developed so for example if they have got a fear that everybody abandons them they're probably going to do stuff like people pleasing or they're going to be a really really good boy or really really good girls so that they don't get abandoned so just find out what patterns of behavior have they formed in relation to the beliefs that they have good and once you've got those pennants once again just acknowledge those patterns back to them and let them know that they don't need to do that anymore and give them the reassurance that they need excellent good you're doing really well so let's do that one more time with the beliefs just check in and ask if there any other beliefs that they have formed about themselves they might have a belief that that if everybody abandons them that they then have to find relationships where the people are emotionally unavailable and that way they won't get hurt so you want to try and uncover those types of beliefs and patterns on them I'll give you a moment to do that now ear.

Good and once again just play them back to them and they give them the reassurance that they need that they don't need to do that anymore that you're not going to abandon them and you're always going to be there to love them.

Excellent,

Well done.

If you'd like to do another round of this just pause the audio and take the time that you need to do another round.

Come back to us when you're ready.

So I'd now like to give you the opportunity,

This is not going to be for everybody but if this feels like a resonance to you I would suggest perhaps taking the opportunity to speak with the person or people involved in this abandonment okay.

If it was it might have been mum or dad working all the time never having time for you or it might have actually been one of your parents actually literally abandoning you.

Whatever the situation is you can do this alongside the younger version of you and it's really important that you say exactly what it is that you need to say you know so you don't dilute it that's really important that the other version of you gets to actually speak their truth and to be heard okay.

So all you need to do is to invite the other energy of the other person into that scene and if they're a little bit scary or the the other version of you is a little bit nervous just shrink the probably the parent down so that much smaller and so that the younger version of you doesn't feel intimidated at all but just invite them in and let the other version of you say whatever it is that they need to say and just don't hold back and you are welcome to as well.

Excellent well done that's really great if you need more time just take it.

So what we'll do now is with your little one I want you to notice how are they feeling now they're probably feeling a little bit more calm and at peace I would say.

Good excellent so what we're going to do now is we're going to bring in some healing energy for them and I want you to notice them completely surrounded in violet light beautiful shimmering violet light so this violet light will transmute or alchemize any of that yucky stuff that was sitting there around the abandonment wound.

Good and I want you also to notice I'm going to give you now a clear quartz crystal which kind of looks like clear glass it can be any shape whatever shape comes to mind will be perfect for you and it's got a really vibrant beautiful shimmering rainbow coming out from it and in all of the colors are actually light codes and activations sacred geometry and healing that is absolutely perfect for you and it is direct from the fifth dimension so it's a very very high vibrational very very powerful.

So I want you to take this beautiful rainbow crystal and I want you to pop it into the part of the body where it was where you felt the emotional charge like it was in your heart put into your heart if it was in your solar plexus or your belly pop it in there okay so I want you to pop that in there now and I'm also going to put a golden drop of Christ conscious energy in that area as well and I want you to notice that golden drop just completely infusing that whole area good and we've now got the beautiful rainbow crystal in there as well and so you'll notice that beautiful rainbow starting to completely surround them from head to toe right out into the auric field completely surrounded and beautiful shimmering rainbow light that's excellent you've done really well you might notice the rainbow around you too if you've check in you'll probably see it good I'm just going to put a couple of drops of soft pink so you've got the beautiful unconditional love you'll notice that soft paint just cascading through your energy field and a wee bit of gold to the gold is Christ conscious energy and it really enhances the the vibration of the other colors so let's pop that in there now good you'll probably notice that this little one will be very sleepy if not have gone to sleep by now that's really normal that tells us that they're ready to let go of a lot of this a lot of this patterning and this wounding which is awesome so now I'd like you to take this other version of you and just shrink them down to the small enough to sit in your hand they're still completely surrounded and that beautiful rainbow lights with a soft pink and gold and I'd like you to pop them into your heart and I just want you to let them know one more time if there's another message you want to share with them go for it but just let them know one more time that from now on that you are never going to abandon them you won't you won't ever leave them alone again you will always always be there to love them and to support them and give them that guidance and that affection that they deserve and that they're now home they're now home with you where they belong and they can now rest that's amazing you've done a beautiful job well done so this healing guided healing can be done as often as you like you will find that it is very powerful so you will be dissolving and healing that wound and dissolving the patterning and the beliefs that go with it with each time that you do this particular healing excellent look thank you so much I hope you enjoyed that and I really look forward to seeing you again next time and as always this healing is offered to you with love and blessings you you you

Reviews

This was a great IFS style exercise..I did it at work..and journaled a lot of the visualization exercise...well done, thanks.

Absolutely perfect. Thank you for your work and wisdom, Angel.

Very powerful. I clearly heard, “I felt like such a burden and you never told me I wasn’t.” Sweet sweet girl you were never a burden. She was just too sick to see what you needed. 🫂❤️

I’m a daily meditator. Some days I meditate multiple times a day just to get through. This is one of the most effective healing sessions I’ve ever done. Thank you for this beautiful resource.

Another beautiful meditation Jen. Something about your voice takes me home. This one was very therapeutic. Big thanks arohanui ✨🙏🏼

Very beautifully meditation and healing practice. Had me look at an event that took place in my life that unknownly impacts me today. Loved it. Thank you.

This was an excellent introductory exploration into the moments and feelings of abandonment that have shaped me. It was a powerful visualization practice of self-soothing and recalling the energy I have spent throughout my life masking and overcompensating for these feelings. Thank you for sharing this guided practice, it is one I look forward to returning to and continuing to work on.

This meditation has helped me discover some patterns that I never saw before. Thank you 🙏🏻

Love this meditation and will continue to practice it. Thanks Jen 🙏

Wow, very powerful. Bookmarked so I can return if other patterns emerge in my awareness. Thank you so much for sharing your gifts! 🙏💜✌

In the beginning, tears were streaming down my face triggered from fear, pain , and loneliness. By the end, the tears were still streaming, but they were coming from a place of peace, joy, and love. Thank you!

Powerful meditation and useful information.
For me it was hard to do it though because I don’t remember the specific situations from my childhood when I felt abanded.
I know my mom once told me around age of 9-10 I begged her to please take me with her to her weekend away. Or that I was always hysterical when I got dropped off at the kindergarten and didn’t want to be left there. But I don’t remember it myself and find it hard to go back to that situation/feeling. Do you have any tips?

Always work for me to be done on abandonment wounds …. After all the work I’ve done the same stuff keeps coming up for me! This meditation was good for me in releasing more hurt and pain. Thank you. 💜

Absolutely transformative! Deep gratitude from all myselves 🙌🏼🥰🌟

Thank you so much for this guidance. I know I will have to do this on a regular basis because the younger version of me needs a lot of reassurance and comforting. I suddenly felt as though the younger me was finally being embraced and recognized. She was always a good kid and never deserved the negative treatment she received. 🙏

Thank you Jen 🧡 you doing such important work and so generous with your knowledge all blessing to you 🙏

Amazing. I will do this practice often. Thank you so very much 💕

did this session talking to my Mum … next one my Dad … thank you ❣️❣️❣️

This is what my soul has been needing, to finally release this wound. Thank you so much 🙏

Wow such a rich healing experience, touching so many shadow parts of me and letting all go. Thank you 🙏🏻💓