Heal The "Not Good Enough" Wound

The "Not Good Enough" wound is extremely common and undermines every aspect of our life and ability to attract and create the life we most want to live. This guided practice will facilitate healing and bring you peace and courage to move forward.

Transcript

Hi I'm Jen,

Thank you so much for joining me.

In this particular guiding heading journey we're going to be diving in and we're going to be taking a look at the not good enough wound.

Now the not good enough wound is extremely common it's probably the most common wound I see through my practice aside from an abandonment wound and they're often actually linked.

When we have the not good enough wounds it will affect every aspect of our life.

So some of the signals or signs that you might be carrying this wound include a low self-esteem,

You might engage in over giving,

You may people please,

You're likely to have codependent patterning,

You'll probably engage in fixing or caretaking other people,

You'll probably have poor boundary function,

It's likely that you will attract narcissistic or toxic relationships into your life and you'll stay in them for far too long.

You'll also probably seek validation outside of yourself too.

So as you could see these are a lot of patterns so when we dissolve and heal the not good enough wound we also collapse these patterns too.

So if you'd like to join me on this journey inward that would be amazing.

What you need to do is just find yourself a quiet space somewhere where you won't be interrupted for the next 20 or 30 minutes.

Excellent.

So what we'll do is we'll just first of all ask that this healing be for the highest good of all concerns.

Excellent.

Great.

Okay so what I'm gonna get you to do is I'm gonna get you to take a moment to recall a time where you felt not good enough.

Just think back it doesn't need to be in childhood in fact it's probably better if it's initially in adulthood,

Just a time where you felt that you weren't good enough.

Excellent.

So now that you've found that event or that scenario what I want you to do is I want you to dive into that scenario in your mind and I want you to almost replay it because what we're trying to do here is we're trying to just create a trigger in your body because wherever that emotional charge is sitting is where you have the trapped trauma.

So if you'd like to take a moment now and just dive into that scenario again just remember who else was involved you know where you were at the time what was being said how you felt and once you've got that emotional charge I want you to just notice whereabouts as it's sitting in your body.

Excellent.

So now you've got that emotional charge I want you to notice where it is in your body and you might have two places or it might be a whole body but there will be one area that it's more intense and quite often that's the first area you've identified but just I want you to notice which is the most intense area for the emotional charge.

Good.

Now I'll get you to notice what are the physical sensations and that part of your body.

Is it hot?

Is it spiky?

Is it tight or heavy?

Excellent.

So now I'm going to get you to dive a little bit deeper.

I'm going to get you to dive in now to that part of your body where you've got that emotional charge sitting and I want you to notice what emotions or feelings are sitting in that part of your body.

And I would expect to see things like guilt or shame perhaps or inadequacy or powerlessness or fear but your experiences will be unique to you and just identify what those feelings are now.

Excellent.

So now I'm going to get you to dive a little bit deeper.

So I want you to dive into that part of your body where you're feeling those physical sensations.

You've got those emotions and feelings sitting in that part of your body too and I want you to notice if there is a younger version of you sitting in there.

Now there may be several but you'll find that you're likely to have a child or even a very young child or baby version of you sitting in that part of your body and I'd like you to connect with them now and if you're having trouble at all I want you to imagine that you can connect with them and that will bridge that for you.

Excellent.

Now I'm going to get you to dive into that part of your body where you're feeling those feelings.

Excellent.

Now that you've got them there I want you to notice first of all about how old are they.

Now exact age isn't actually relevant but it just helps you to connect with them a little bit more deeply.

Excellent.

Now I'd also like you to notice how are they feeling right now are they feeling not good enough are they feeling confused or ashamed.

Just check in and see how are they feeling right now.

Excellent.

Great.

You're doing a really great job.

So now what I'm going to get you to do is I'm going to get you to actually go to that other version of yourself.

As I mentioned they're likely to be a child.

You may have a child that you're not really aware of but you're going to be able to connect with them and that's going to be a great way to connect with them.

So I'm going to go to that other version of yourself.

As I mentioned they're likely to be a child.

You may have several.

If you have several just choose either the one that's coming out most strongly for you or the youngest one.

My preference is usually to go with the youngest one because we really want to go back to the origin of this wound if we can.

But at the end of the day the theme is still the same right the way through life.

So if you're feeling more compelled to connect with an older one that's totally fine too.

So when you go in to them if they are a child it's probably entirely appropriate to pick them up and lock them on the eyes and let them know that I see you here.

I know you're hurting.

But I want you to know that I'm here now.

I'm here to love you and care for you.

And to make sure that you never feel alone again.

Now just recalling how this little one felt before.

I want you to let them know for example if they felt ashamed for example I want you to let them know I know that you feel ashamed.

But I want you to know that that shame isn't yours.

So whatever it is that they're feeling just acknowledge that feeling and then give them the reassurance that they need.

Good.

Okay.

I also want you to let them know that what has happened because some event has happened that has caused them to feel like this.

So I want you to let them know that what has happened is not their fault.

And that there is nothing that they could have done differently or could have been any different that would have changed this because this is not about them.

Often you'll find with the little ones it might have the wounding may have come about because mum or dad have been overly harsh or disconnected to them or too busy.

And of course the little one will assume that it's because they're not good enough.

So we need to let them know that it actually was never about them.

It was actually about mum or dad or whoever else was actually involved.

So I want you to give them an opportunity to speak up because they have not been given an opportunity to speak up or be heard.

So there's important stuff that they need to say.

I'd like you to invite them to share that with you now.

Good.

So depending what it is that they wanted to say to you,

Once again,

We need to acknowledge them by playing this back to them and giving them the reassurance that they need.

Excellent.

So I'd like you to now ask them what beliefs have they formed as a result of this?

And they might have beliefs such as that they're not good enough or there's something wrong with them or they're bad or they're not good.

They'll have beliefs along those lines.

So just see if you can pull those out.

Excellent.

Right.

So now you've got those beliefs.

I'd like you to play them back to them.

So for example,

If they have a belief that they're not good enough,

Then I want you to say to them something along the lines of I know that you have a belief that you're not good enough,

But I want you to know that this is untrue.

You are more than enough and you always,

Always have been.

Excellent.

So I'll get you to ask again if there are any other beliefs that they have there and once again,

Just play those back to them,

Giving them the reassurance that it's just it's not true.

Now with the good not good enough wound,

This is often a wound that's passed on to us generationally from our own parents.

So if this sits right with you,

You may wish to say to your little one that this wound was never theirs to carry.

It's been passed on to them and it is time for them to let it go.

Good.

So now I'm going to get you to look at what patterning has been created.

So if they had certain beliefs,

They'll have certain patterns that they're playing out because of the belief.

For example,

If they feel like there's something wrong with them,

They might have a pattern of behavior where they have to be really perfect all of the time,

Or a really good girl or good boy.

So we need to let them know that you know we know that you have a pattern of trying to always be perfect or always get things right.

But I want you to know that you don't need to do this anymore.

I am going to love you and be with you no matter what you do or don't do.

Excellent.

So I'll get you to see if there any other patterns sitting there that they're playing out like for example.

They might think because they're not good that they have to put up with really bad behavior from other people.

So we'll let them know that they don't need to do that anymore that it's okay for them to say no,

And that you will be supporting and loving them the whole way through.

And if this feels like a resonance to you,

You may wish to actually let them know because sometimes they might not trust so easily.

So just let them know that you are actually their future self.

You are them all grown up and that you're going to love them and accept them and really tremendously want them no matter what they do or what they don't do and that you're incredibly proud of them.

Excellent.

Well done.

So what we're going to do now is let's just check in and see how your little ones feeling they should be feeling a lot more at peace now let's just check in and see.

Excellent.

You've done a great job.

So the last aspect of this now is,

Why don't we bring in some beautiful healing energy for them.

So I want you to imagine them just for a moment just completely wrapped up and violet shimmery violet light.

So this ball of violet light is just going to completely alchemize and transmute a lot of this negative energy.

Good.

Now,

I'm going to place a golden drop directly in the area where you felt the emotional charge initially.

So I'm just going to pop this golden drop and now this golden drop is filled with sacred geometry,

It's got light codes,

Activations and healing specifically for you.

Okay,

So we're going to put that golden drop in there,

That golden drop of divinity.

Good.

And you may even notice the numbers and the symbols coming through.

I'm also going to place a beautiful rainbow crystal so it's like a clear crystal but it's got a rainbow radiating out from it and again this particular rainbows has been given to me from the fifth dimension,

And it's very very powerful.

So you can place that into the area where you felt the emotional angst.

It can be any shape that you are drawn to is totally fine.

And I just want you to notice now that beautiful rainbow starting to really radiate out.

So they're completely surrounded in that rainbow now and you actually might notice the rainbow around your body as well because you're actually them.

So let's just notice that beautiful rainbow right around them.

And you're probably getting very sleepy now too.

When we do this kind of work and we dissolve these patterns and beliefs.

The inner child that we're working with usually falls asleep or gets very very very relaxed and sleepy.

And this tells us that they're actually letting go of a lot of those patterns because they know that you're there now you're there to bring them home and to love them no matter what they do.

So that's a really good sign when that happens.

So let's just bring in some beautiful soft pinks I've got the unconditional love in there as well.

So they're all wrapped up and the rainbow is gold and also the soft soft pink for unconditional love.

And I'm going to get you to just shrink them down sort of the size of a tennis ball that's still wrapped up in this beautiful energy and pop them into your heart.

And when you pop them in to take a moment to let them know.

And of course you can add more to this message of course but let them know that they are more than enough and that you love them tremendously and you are so so proud of them and you are bringing them home with you with a blog.

Excellent.

Well done.

So just coming back to you now.

I just want you to notice just placing again the gold the golden drop of divinity and the area of your body that was feeling the angst before.

And placing the rainbow crystal and that part of your body too and just noticing the rainbow radiating all around you.

And we'll bring in the soft pink.

More of the gold.

Good.

You might notice the symbols and numbers and there I can see it and around your energy field is beautiful.

Very very powerful.

Excellent.

Great.

So I want you to notice now how you're feeling it sounds and feels like you did an amazing job.

Excellent.

Well done.

Hey look thank you so much for joining me and just know that this is a process that can be done as often as you're called to do.

But you will find after a few of these processes you will completely dissolve and heal the not good enough wounds.

So well done to you for the work that you're doing on your healing journey.

And as always this meditation and healing is offered to you with love and blessings.

I look forward to seeing you next time.

Reviews

Outstanding process. Thank-you so much for facilitating it. ❤️

This was such a wonderful find for me. You described me to a T and I felt the energy shift in my throat. Thank you so much for sharing and I look forward to doing this meditation many more times to come. 💜💛🫶🏻

Thank you for that beautiful walk through healing my inner child. I can't thank you enough 💚

Exactly what I needed to hear and experience 🙏🏼 the rainbow and sleepy healed inner child brought me so much peace and clarity, thank you 🤍

Fantastic!
If this was mandatory, it would heal the world and everyone in it. 🫶♥️

This was so amazingly effective! It brought up a memory that I haven't thought of in decades. What a release! Thank you! 🙏🏻🪷🙏🏻

As always, super helpful & healing. Thank you ✌🦋🙏

Love this meditation and always feel peaceful with loving energy towards myself afterwards

Better than a therapy session lol I cried a lot. I feel so terrible for my young self. And I’m realizing how much of my anxiety is caused by this belief because I expect people to look down on me if they know who I truly am. So I end up hiding and pushing people away who want to truly know me and love me, and the people I let stay leave me feeling hollow and have major issues themselves so they turn on me and abandon me when I reveal who I really am. I definitely have to do this again soon. Thank you so much 😊🙏

I struggled wìth the accent but once I fìgured out the words I loved doing this. It is helping!!

i really wish all the younger versions of myself understood, as they were, they never did anything wrong to be so abused, ignored, and discouraged.

Very powerful! I actually came away from this meditation feeling very emotional & sad….I guess that means I have more inner child work to do?! ✨💫

Wow

This was a beautiful process. Thank you. I may come back to do it again.

Thanks for that excellent meditation 🧘‍♀️ I will return to it!!

7 stars! Thank-you for guiding me to feel what I needed to feel.

Thank you for this meditation. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. It has helped me to heal one of the deepest wounds I've carried throughout my life. My deepest gratitude to you 🙏💖

This was incredibly insightful and I will listen to this again to really release the feelings of not feeling good enough . It impacts your life more than you realise .
Thank you 🙏.

Jen’s meditations are at the top of my list. I revisit them once a week and always find a new part of myself to work on and heal. These sessions help me explore my childhood wounds, and give me the power to heal them. I can feel the change it is making in balancing my emotions and therefor positively affecting my life. Thank you Jen! <3

Such a powerful meditation! Thank you so much! Definitely one I'll be coming back to! 💕🌻