Relationship Growth: Being You While Loving Someone

Do you sometimes feel like loving someone comes with the price of losing yourself? Of giving up some parts within yourself? Is it hard for you to continue nourishing yourself while growing a love relationship? This practice is for you to reclaim your authentic you within your love relationship.

In a playful and deeply effective visualisation, I'm inviting you to remember the aspects of you that you haven't nourished quite well within your relationship. You'll unmask the beliefs that keep you from being fully you and reclaim all the colours that make you come back into your life.

This audio was recorded in my eco-studio in the Kenyan nature. The birds and natural sounds you might hear belong here.

Transcript

Hello beautiful and welcome to this practice that's helping your authentic self be more present and alive in your love relationship.

When we love someone we sometimes follow a familiar pattern of trying to make everything right,

Making things work and most and foremost making them love us as much as we love them.

Do you feel sometimes like you're paying a price of losing yourself,

Of disconnecting from your authentic being while taking care of that love?

That's human and yet freeing ourselves from such patterns creates a more sustainable foundation of truth,

Freedom and unconditional love as we connect to others.

So in this practice I'm inviting you to look into the aspects within your relationship that still make you sell your authenticity at times and I'm guiding you into your way of reclaiming your vibe and truth within your unique way of loving.

So if you are ready just take any comfortable position,

Take that deep inhale and exhale out and let us start and just breathe yourself into this space,

Into this moment.

With every exhale you are sinking more into this body,

Becoming present with whatever is moving within,

Welcoming yourself as you are and every inhale is an invitation to receive,

To receive the qualities that support you,

To receive that space-making energy,

To receive the gift of life through your breath,

To receive love,

Trust and permission to surrender into this moment you've gifted yourself with today and I'm inviting you to just send a recognition to the soul that you are within this human body,

Just recognize yourself,

Recognize that voice within that keeps guiding you,

That keeps reminding you of who you are,

That keeps nourishing you and from there send a recognition to the human being that you are,

That human being that sometimes forgets to listen to that inner voice.

Find compassion for that human who's giving their best every day and yet sometimes you might find yourself disconnected from yourself,

Not knowing who you are,

So whatever is triggered as I'm inviting these energies,

These words,

Please find compassion for who you are as a human and as a soul and continue exhaling,

Let the ground open up for you and receive whatever you wish to let go of in this moment,

Let the earth remind you that you are carried and that you are loved unconditionally just the way you are,

No need to fix anything right now and within yourself perceive that gift that you've been given as a human being,

That capability to love,

Just connect to that competence of yours,

You are capable of creating love,

Of loving someone,

Of loving yourself,

Of creating love and flowing it through you,

Giving it for free,

It's such a gift,

So honour yourself for that sacred competence to create,

To nourish and to protect love as the being that you are,

Feel yourself and breathe from that source of your love wherever you find it within your body,

Maybe it's in your heart space,

Maybe it's somewhere else around you,

In your belly,

Just breathe that love and know that you don't have to produce that love,

It's there and you just choose to give it,

To give it and to receive it,

Beautiful,

There you are,

Exactly how you're supposed to be today,

Nothing to push,

Nothing to fix,

Nothing to force right now and I'm inviting you to visualise a flower,

To visualise a flower just maybe a couple of meters in front of you so that you can really be that observer,

That spectator and visualise a flower in nature or in an environment that you choose intuitively and that flower is you,

So let that flower grow in front of your inner eye,

You as a flower just enjoy yourself for a moment and try to exhale any sort of judgmental thoughts coming to you,

Find compassion for whatever you see,

However the flower appears right now,

Know that it is out of compare and it uniquely beautiful just the way it is and I'm now inviting you to see what is the essential colour of your flower,

The essential colour and there might be so many colours,

You might be so colourful but just ask for the essence of that flower that makes that flower you,

Unique and watch it just,

You know,

Showing itself to you,

Maybe it's within the head of the flower or you're now seeing it somehow as an internal channel of that flower or it's around that flower,

Just let that flower show you,

Hey this is my essential colour,

My essential frequency that makes me me and continue breathing and continue noticing how your body reacts,

How your system reacts as you're watching that movie with quite of a healthy distance,

Yeah don't fall into that picture,

Always look for that distance and feel,

Know,

See what's there beautiful this is you,

This is your essence and what's your flower allowing herself to really you know,

Flow that essence really expanded,

Really expanded in every way that she or he would like to expand really,

Let the flower be assured that nobody's watching,

That it's just the flower and maybe some nature,

The earth but no one that could make her hide her essence or could make her play small,

Just give that assurance that nobody's watching and watch her enjoying that essence,

Watch her vibrating it,

How is she expanding it,

How is she maybe dancing,

Moving through that essence of hers and continue letting go you can tell your body as well,

Hey no one's watching just surrender to this essence and the invitation that it holds for you and I'm now inviting you to bring in the energy of the person you love and you can bring it in as another flower within that same picture or you just think of the person,

Just do it your way,

Intuitively I'm sure already you have now invited that person's energy,

Flower and just take a moment to acknowledge that energy take note of any reaction within your system and then shift your focus back to your flower and really see what's happening there,

How is your flower reacting,

What's happening to the essence,

What's happening to the way she just moved,

Expressed herself as you just continue acknowledging the other energy that's there,

The other flower or just that knowing about that energy of somebody you love so what do you see,

What's a pattern you notice when it comes to you flowing,

Vibrating your essence and just find compassion with whatever you see,

It's just interesting,

There's nothing to judge right now and remember the earth got you,

The earth is underneath you and you can always invite your body to relax,

To invite calm and to surrender to the ground,

You don't have to you know hold your breath,

You don't have to hold on to anything within your physical being and whenever you are ready and you can take all the time you need here,

You can always pause the audio and when you're ready,

I'm inviting you to see your flower has a wardrobe,

Yes your flower does have a wardrobe,

Just see it,

Let the flower show you a wardrobe and it's a wardrobe filled with the forgotten dresses,

The forgotten dresses that are of you but you forgot to wear for some time so open that wardrobe and you might see the dresses,

You might just feel them,

You might know what they are made of,

Their fabrics,

Their vibes,

Their truth and see what dress is coming to the forefront for you,

A dress that you really love,

It's of you but you forgot to wear for some time as you nourish that relationship intuitively pick that dress and remember how this dress made you feel if you would wear it right now,

How would it make you feel,

Which part of you would you remember to be what truth within would be awakened and which way of feeling yourself,

Expressing yourself would be revived and I'm inviting you to really feel to really feel that truth,

To feel the essence of that dress how does it make your body feel,

How does it make your emotions flow,

How much confidence or trust does it give you,

Does it speak of self-love really breathe deeply and remember the essence of that dress beautiful good job and now that you have seen which dress you kept in your wardrobe of forgotten dresses and now that you've seen what's happening to the essence of yours,

That essential color of yours when bringing in the energy of your loved one I'm inviting you to ask yourself this question why you love them so much,

Which part within yourself have you forgotten to love lately why you love them so much,

Which part within yourself have you forgotten to love,

Maybe neglected for a while maybe consciously hidden maybe even a part that you fought or you are still fighting within yourself your body will tell you the truth,

Your intuitive self will speak to you the flower might show you that part within her body maybe within her stem or the head or the roots,

You might just know the dress might tell you about that part of you that you forgot to embody lately you forgot to love and nourish that aspect of you okay and whatever you feel it's all right,

You might feel the pain underneath,

You might feel the joy about rediscovering that part of you and whatever you're feeling know that it's all right and as you connect to that part of you that you somehow forgot to love lately what's the belief underneath,

What's the belief underneath that pattern that you somehow neglected one part of you in order to love someone else what's the belief about that aspect of you that made you just somehow not recognize it so much not daring to show up with it is it something like or this part of me is not lovable nobody can ever understand that part of me that part of me is too much,

Too feminine,

Too masculine too wild,

Too naive,

Whatever you find find that belief and maybe it might sound more like a fear if I show the whole of me they might never love me the way I am I might never be seen,

I might never be understood,

I might end up lonely what's the fear,

The belief that you can find take all the time here to feel what's there to know what's there to remember and which price do you pay for believing that belief,

For giving into that fear for not wearing that dress,

For not loving that part of you that you are what is the price you pay the price you pay for your relationship with yourself and the price you pay for the relationship with the person you love what's the consequence there's always a price we pay when we can't be entirely ourselves when we don't show up in our true colors and yes you might have your very good reasons for that you might try to protect someone or yourself and yet there's a price you pay so I'm inviting you to feel that price to feel the emotions that come with that,

That are triggered and stay connected with your focus on your flower she's showing you the truth you need to see right now we are not here to be someone that someone else needs us to be you are here to be who you are to inspire through who you are and to be an offer to others to also be who they are as they connect to your authentic self today is not about fixing everything you are exactly on time today is about making a choice so as you focus on how you're feeling and as you focus on that flower of yours I'm going to invite some words,

Some energies and with every breath that you choose those words watch your flower transform,

Watch your flower taking back her dresses watch her regaining confidence in vibrating in her very own essence in her very own truth and colors just stay connected from heart to heart of that flower of yours I am enough and I find joy in showing up as I am I have nothing to hide and I know that I'm lovable for who I am for who I was and for who I'm becoming the love I give flows from a place of self-love it's pure unconditional and enough okay just breathe these words breathe whatever is resonating and choose choose a transformation for your flower right now watch her choosing intentionally watch her choosing her transformation reclaiming her space in her very own pace in her very own way every step is really precious no matter how small how big just continue breathing and choosing I am enough and I find joy in showing up as I am I have nothing to hide and I know that I'm lovable for who I am for who I was and who I'm becoming the love I give flows from a place of self-love it's pure unconditional and it's enough and deep exhale out I am enough and I find joy in showing up as I am I have nothing to hide and I know that I'm lovable for who I am for who I was and who I'm becoming the love I give flows from a place of self-love it's pure it's unconditional and it's enough I'm enough and I find joy in showing up as I am I have nothing to hide and I know that I'm lovable for who I am who I was and for who I'm becoming the love I give flows from a place of self-love it's pure it's unconditional and it's enough beautiful continue letting go melting into the ground whatever you don't need whatever doesn't serve you whatever is not loving with yourself and invite that new feeling that new choice of being you of showing up who you are of not hiding any part of you of choosing self-love so that you can love from a place that's already filled that's already aware of the worthiness within take all the time you need here with your flower to talk to remember to agree to touch each other where it's needed and to remember each other's wholeness,

Worthiness,

Enoughness whenever you're ready I'm inviting you to let go of the pictures and to breathe yourself back into your physical reality still vibrating that feeling within vibrating your essential color within your body vibrating the essence of the dresses you once forgot to wear remembering how it feels to be you in this moment and in your own time and pace I'm inviting you to breathe yourself back into your body back from this trance to feel your body to move your body and to find gratitude for who you are in this moment for the growth you've invited into your system today and for the love you've remembered today I thank you so much for having joined me in this practice thank you for showing up for remembering your true colors and for thus being an inspiration for your loved ones to choose themselves as well thank you so much again I wish you the most lovable most beautiful rest of this day and I can't wait to see you next time thank you