The reason why your anxiety hasn't gone away so far is much more simple than you think.
Meaning,
You're fighting it.
And that exact fight is what's keeping it alive.
And let me show you what I mean.
Think about what actually you're doing when you feel anxious.
You're tensing against it.
Your mind is trying to get rid of it.
It's trying to tell you to calm down.
And it's doing all what it knows to get rid of it.
And more than that,
Your physical body gets tense.
Really,
You're in a fighting mode.
Death response feels like control.
It feels natural to you.
Because that's how you learn to deal with it,
When in fact,
You're fighting it.
In fact,
You're resisting it.
In fact,
You're anchoring it more inside you.
Life is a flow.
Everything flows.
Anything that stays and being pushed away finds its way through.
It doesn't go away.
Think about water.
Think about energy.
Think about waves.
Think about life itself.
It must flow.
Anxiety is a mind-body response.
When suddenly your mind presents a thought that is not comfortable to you,
Immediately your body responds in tension.
Immediately your mind,
Responding in more tension,
Sending more tension into the body,
And like this you start to spiral and loop into full-blown anxiety.
And what's happening is that that energy that's being presented by the anxiety,
By resisting it,
Starts to compress.
And a compressed energy never disappear on its own and it will find its way to express maybe not now immediately But it stays in your system.
So the more you fighting it the more it stays the more it condense into a very bothering Uncomfortable state of being and that's how the loop is being created.
Nobody told you to do it differently That's the way you learn how to deal with life when there's a problem We're dealing with it by pushing through pushing against but here in anxiety.
It has to be different here.
There must be and letting go as softening.
Because as you're pushing against it,
It just resists and pushes against you.
And like this,
It's reaffirming itself,
Telling you there's a real problem because there is a problem and you don't feel comfortable.
So nothing wrong with you,
My friend,
Because resisting the anxiety is the way how you learn to deal with it.
Resisting the anxiety is not a flaw.
It became your habit.
It's how you learn to deal with that.
But now we need to teach your mind much effective,
Different ways to deal with it that will help you to shine.
That will help you to overcome it without fighting.
So how can we not resist anxiety?
How can you deal with it in a completely different way?
That's exactly where softening takes place.
What we learn through life,
That when we have pain,
We must get rid of it,
We must push it away.
Nobody taught you that when you have a pain,
You have to be soft with it,
Because energy moves,
Pain moves,
When we give it space.
Normally,
When we have an emotional pain,
We try to think it over,
Or we try to blame somebody,
Or blame ourselves,
It's Not what you're thinking but what that thought actually created within you.
Direct it to the tension in your stomach.
Just be with it.
Don't try to push it.
Don't try to resolve it.
Understand that when you're aware of discomfort,
That discomfort starts to dissolve.
Awareness is what allows life to continue to flow.
Just by being aware and saying,
I'm anxious right now,
I'm going inwards,
50% of the job is done.
And then you're going inwards.
Then you're being with the tension and the tension will start to resolve.
Next time you feel anxious,
Try it out.
It'll work 100%.
If you have any question,
Please get in touch.
I'd love to hear from you.
