Hello beauty,
Welcome back for day six,
Our second to last day on our little journey together to overcoming self-sabotage.
Today we are going to look at how to not buy into our own circumstances and use them as excuses to not pursue our dreams.
So what are some examples of this?
Well let's say I really want to go for this job but I just don't meet all the experience requirements or I really want to be in an awesome relationship like yesterday but everyone that I would want to date is either already taken or just isn't interested in me.
I want to invest in myself or my business with ABC but I only have XYZ amount of money in the bank and that's just not enough or I really want to write a book but that takes time and my days are already packed to the brim.
We all have our go-to excuses for not going for what we want,
Whatever it is.
Not enough time,
Not enough money,
Not enough education,
Not enough skill,
Not enough strength,
I've got loans to pay off,
I live here and it's all the way over there,
Another logistics,
Etc.
Here's the deal with circumstances though,
They can be changed and or creatively worked around and they have to be if you ever want to realize a vision of a future that truly inspires you.
Otherwise you're gonna live with a sense of lack and not enough and if only for most of your moments on this earth.
Let that sink in for a moment.
That is a choice.
It is a choice to buy into your circumstances and as a result never go for the things that you really want and never really come alive.
So how do we stop choosing to buy into our own circumstances?
What does that look like?
I got three ways for you.
Number one,
Shift your language to shift your orientation from past and present circumstances to future possibility.
Typically humans use language to describe rather than to declare but there is so much power in declaring a world into existence based in possibility versus operating from a mode of well here's how things are and will continue to be if you say so.
Seriously,
If you say so you will act so and so it will be so you will stay stuck in you know how things are now forever.
But if your intention for example is to write a book that is an expression of your purpose in the world and you declare that that will be you know that you will have that written by the end of the year or whatever despite whatever circumstances seem to be in the way you've just generated massive power to realize that goal.
Voila.
Of course you'll still have to take action towards it right but you've kind of overcome that biggest hurdle of not even starting due to circumstances.
Also on the topic of language cut out words like only and you know phrases like not enough when relating to your circumstances.
Makes a big difference and that actually leads me to number two.
Release your scarcity story.
Most of our stories around our circumstances are rooted in scarcity which is the orientation to life of there never being enough like you you can never be full and living from that scarcity mindset is a surefire way to be miserable forever and to prevent your own success.
As humans we are story making machines.
Of course with a dedicated spiritual practice that includes a lot of meditation and a lot of inquiry it is possible to eventually go beyond stories or at least mostly and live you know experience reality as it truly is but in the meantime it's very helpful to at least shift over to more empowering stories and those stories that are actually more aligned with reality.
Like I already have exactly what I need and the universe provides me with exactly what I need exactly when I need it and I want to be super clear that this is not about trying to manipulate the universe into giving you exactly what you want when you want it in the way that you want it.
For example I declare that you know like I am a millionaire starting tomorrow and then being pissed when that doesn't happen.
Rather what I'm talking about with this empowering you know belief that you already have what you need and that the universe provides you what you need when you need it that's about receiving recognizing and embracing all the resources you already have.
That's the point and when I talk about resources this includes relationships and love and the creativity you already have within you as well as your own ability to make magic happen.
So number two is release your scarcity story.
And finally number three change your circumstances.
So yes you can absolutely change the way that you relate to your circumstances and that's incredibly impactful but you can also change them directly or work with them because remember you're not a victim you are not stuck you really want a certain job but you don't have you know you don't hit all the experience requirements for it okay most people will stop there but you don't have to you are a woman of possibilities so you know you could either go get that experience or you can enroll the hiring manager and why you're the best person for the job even without it so there's action you can take there's still something you can do another example is you don't have enough money for something that you really want okay that might be true and you don't have to stop there how can you create the money there are so many ways to make extra money and so many of them are legal which is great so brainstorm have a friend to help you brainstorm again the idea is that we're never stuck and the world is full of possibilities all you have to do is recognize them and start creating them for yourself so that my dear is how you can stop sabotaging yourself through buying into your own circumstances and that brings us to wrapping up for the day come back tomorrow for our very last day of this mini course together tomorrow we're gonna talk about how to break out of inertia which is critical if you want to overcome self-sabotage and it can be incredibly hard to do so come back for that I'll also share a few options for working with me as a coach and answer some FAQs about that so don't miss out see you then
