Hi everyone,
It's Holly from askhollyholl.
Com.
I want to talk to you about what is going on in the world today.
It's very confusing and it's conflicting and it has a way of creating such a dynamic in which it makes it difficult for us to be able to decipher the difference between what our needs are and defense,
Defense mechanism.
When we get trapped into a place of fear,
Then there's this tendency to start making decisions based on the fear,
Not based on where you should be going for your own life,
For your own being,
For your own soul.
But how can you differentiate between what fear is and what's right for your soul?
There's only one way,
Know thyself.
Who are you?
Who are you when you're lost and confused,
When you're disabled,
When you're discontent,
When you're sad,
When you're depressed,
Who are you when you're excited,
When you're happy,
When you're ready to have that get up and go,
When you've got courage and you're courageous and you're fighting war,
Your spirit comes out.
Who are you when you want to separate yourself from others because the energy is so intense and high and possibly you absorb the energy and the emotions and the feelings of others and it's difficult for you to decide,
Are they mine or are they yours?
And therefore you end up on a rollercoaster ride of emotions.
Who are you?
Who are you to other people?
How do you serve others?
What do you do to be able to compliment another person or other people in general?
How are you when you feel that you're being attacked,
When you're on the defense and again,
You're scared and filled with fear.
For the most part,
We try to strive to be completely compassionate with non-attachment to our own desires to stop our own suffering.
Much of the problems that we have is because we're trying to stop our suffering.
We eat,
We binge,
We drink,
We play,
We distract ourselves so that we can stop the feeling or at least ignore the feeling temporarily of our sufferings.
And we all suffer.
Even I do.
I have my ups and downs.
I have my days where I really don't want to feel like this.
Why am I in this human body?
What's going on in this world?
What part do I play?
When I really go down that rabbit hole,
I give myself a proverbial slap up the side of the head and go,
Holly,
You're here to serve others.
You're here to compliment and help and bring others to the place where they are meant to be.
That's all you're here to do is to serve and heal and help others the best way that you can.
In a sense,
We're all here to serve others,
But many of us have gone through such traumatic lifetimes that we first have to put the oxygen mask on ourselves and serve ourselves.
We may also be connected or encapsulated with the wrong type of karmic family that no longer serves us.
And so in this lifetime,
We may be separating ourselves from that karmic family.
In this lifetime,
They can look like friends,
Coworkers,
Mother-in-law,
Father-in-law,
Sister,
Ex-friend,
Ex-best friend,
Ex-boyfriend,
Ex-partner,
Even children.
Many of us know that we are in that category of separating ourselves from a soul family because we are extending our soul or ascending our soul into a new reality.
All of us are in purgatory between the old reality and the new.
Purgatory sounds horrible,
Doesn't it?
But it isn't.
It's really just in between.
Imagine that you've got a living room and a dining room,
And there's an archway,
Maybe even a doorway between that living room and dining room.
And there is maybe about this much of a wall.
You can stand right in that wall,
Right in that section.
You are neither in the living room nor are you in the dining room.
You are in between,
Neither here nor there.
Actually,
It's not a bad place to be.
It's often where we feel numb,
Confused,
Isolated,
Alone.
We're not excited about the future,
And we don't care about the past anymore.
We're done with it.
It's exhausting.
We need to rest when we're in that state.
But if you really embrace it,
It's a great place to be because you're in the moment.
You're not desiring or having anxiety about the future,
And you're not wishing the past would have been different,
And you're not depressed about it.
You are neither near here nor there.
So what do we do when we're in the midst?
This is what I love to help my clients with.
There's energy fields.
There's energy around us,
And that energy has a pattern.
It does have a direction.
We can choose what energy we want to ride on,
What energy road we want to take.
We can choose what path we want to move forward on,
And we can choose how fast or how slow we want to do that.
And neither of them are good,
Bad,
Right,
Or wrong.
Not moving eventually can be detrimental.
That's where we get stuck.
Sometimes we're moving,
And we don't even realize we're moving.
So that's where I like to help my clients as well.
In the midst of this,
I basically have four major pieces of advice that I can give you that I follow.
Not perfect at it,
But I follow that.
And it's basically the four agreements in a nutshell.
Practice unconditional love.
And it is the most difficult to practice unconditional love with your enemy,
With someone who's hurt you or harmed you or done you wrong,
Or you just simply don't agree with.
When we practice unconditional love,
It doesn't mean you have to love them or adore them or worship the ground they walk on.
You might not even want anything to do with them,
But you set them on their way with no remorse,
No anger,
No frustration,
And no desire to change them or no desire for them to agree with you or to be on your path.
You just watch them go by.
If you're driving down a highway and you got a destination,
There's a lot of people on the same highway as you are going in the same direction.
They might even be going to the same destination or close to that destination,
But there's a lot of people you're going to see them go off onto another exchange,
Onto another road.
You'll even see people oncoming traffic coming from a different direction and also going off onto another exchange or another road.
Is that right,
Wrong,
Good or bad?
Are you trying to stop them?
Stop going that way.
Come,
Come where I'm going.
Go with me.
What do you mean you're going off on that road?
No,
No,
No,
No.
Stay on the road.
Stay on the same path I'm on.
No,
We don't do that.
This is extremely metaphorical.
You know why we don't do that?
Because we're not emotionally attached to it and we have no desire.
Why would we have a desire for them to be on a certain road?
Why do we want them to go in the same place?
Why?
Because they didn't buy tickets to that concert.
I did,
But somehow in the highway of life,
We feel a need to tell all the people in going and off,
Off in all the different directions that they should be on the same direction,
Buying the same tickets and going to the same concert that we're going to.
Well,
That's a little ridiculous,
Isn't it?
But we do that.
So that's a part of unconditional loving is allow them to go off on all these different directions.
And if you desire them to be on your path to go to the same direction as you are by the same ticket to the same concert that you,
That you're going to at the same time on the same day,
Then question yourself,
Do I want that?
Why does that make them wrong?
Why does it make you wrong or right?
So that's the second one.
Always ask questions.
Always,
Always,
Always,
Always,
Always ask questions.
Be the philosopher.
Why did I do that?
Why did they do that?
Why do I want to know why?
I mean,
The questions are endless and,
And do your research around that question.
If your spidey sense goes,
Something's not right about this,
You don't have to make it an emotional response and say you're wrong because blah,
Blah,
Blah.
That's that's your intuition saying,
Let's do some research on it.
Don't direct your desire to prove them wrong.
Use that as a barometer or navigational tool to do some research.
You know what?
Sally posted this on social media and I really disagree with that.
Something,
Something about it isn't right.
I'm going to do the research on it or I'm going to sit there and ponder or meditate on why I feel uncomfortable with this.
So number three is be impeccable with your work.
If you're going to say something to someone,
Write,
Text,
Post,
Comment,
Some for to somebody,
Would you say it to their face?
And if you would say it to their face,
Would it be helpful or would it be harmful?
Would it help them in any way?
Well,
Make them feel better.
Would it bring them to a direction of safety or security?
Will it serve them?
Basically,
That's it.
And then number four,
Number four is a tough one because even I have difficulties with that as well,
But surrender,
Surrender to the suffering,
Surrender to the happiness,
Surrender to the day,
Surrender to yesterday,
Surrender to tomorrow.
Know that you don't really know the answers and you're not sure exactly how you're going to feel or act or react or how somebody else may act,
React,
Or feel in any given situation because today is not tomorrow and you are not the same person today as you will be tomorrow,
Nor are you the same person today as you were yesterday.
So living in the moment,
This is happening to me right now.
Let's watch the challenges and how I react to those challenges.
Not always easy.
Namaste.
